Make Promises

A promise is a romantic wish that you agree to grant at a later time. It can be as simple as a promise to kiss you partner in the rain or as in depth as a promise to get more education to improve your career. The most important part about making promises is keeping them. Sometimes things come up that would defer your promise but always always make sure to keep that promise even if at a later date. Promise to do things for you partner and you will build excitement. Give them a special date or even a special time and you can give your partner a specific reward to be excited about. Make date night like this were you promise to go the the theater on this date, pick the specific show and time and then keep your promise. Intimacy promises are like putting gas on fire as the excitement builds to a frenzy. You can flirt and tease you partner as they anxiously wait for the promise to occur. Promises are so romantic so make them and follow through and keep them, they are great energy for your relationship.

Romantic Recycling

We all need to recycle, the planet needs it and it only benefits us. Here is a romantic way to make recycling a major part of your relationship. Put a fine system on things that could be recycled that your partner throws away. Make a chart with a gradual punishment scale for each time they throw something away that could be recycled. Say the first time you catch them they have to give you a foot massage that evening. On the second violation they have to go out and pick up all the trash along the road of your house. You can also put thing into the punishments that might be a little to your advantage. You could say the third instance they have to perform a sexual favor on you of your not their choice. Soon you both will be like the recycling police watching the trash can like a hawk because not only will you be saving the earth but you might also be getting a reward yourself.

Make special scents around the house.

We all know how wonderful smell can be. They can take us back to our childhood or remind us of wonderful times that we have had. Scents can take us to specific times like Christmas or vacations past. Why not put the amazing power into your romance. Go to the store and find the aisle with the scented plug devices in it and start browsing. Look for scents that might remind your lover of past experiences. Like if you have been to Hawaii or just desire to go then pick up some coconut or pineapple scents. Want to make it feel a little more like Christmas time then maybe some pine scent or sugar cookie scent will take you there. Surprise you partner and put the device in when they won't be home for a while. Upon return watch their face as the pick up the scent. You might be able to take away a little of their daily stress by taking them away with these triggers.

Don't be afraid of sex toys!

Romance happens all around us and yet we still want to ignore some pretty obvious part of romance. While intimacy isn't all romance it is a part of it and I am amazed at the number of people that have never tried any sex toys to enhance the experience. At least people are talking about them more often and the sex toy industry is booming so things are getting better. It is also easier to get these items one of my favorite is Eden Fantasy's and you can use my advertisement at the side to purchase some great items from them. Experiment a little an find just the right one you need, get something for beginners or more advanced if you are! Quite being shy about it. It is natural and wonderful so enjoy and have fun.

Book Suggestion : TANTRIC SEX FOR BUSY COUPLES

We all want to get closer and be more connected with each other. However in this day and age our lives seem to be spinning out of control. Tantric Sex for Busy Couples by Diana Daffner, M.A., offers a solution to the lack of time it seem we all have. Giving you quick way to deepen your passion while learning to understand each other and your feelings better. This is not a full fledged devotion to Tantric practices but it does give you some great help in getting closer and also for letting you know if you are interested in diving in deeper to Tantric Sex. I would suggest this book to any couple that might not be connecting as well as they should, heck I would suggest this to any couple it is fun and gets the two of you closer. Nothing wrong with that!

Moonlight Drive

Have you ever just gotten out late at night and took a drive together? No reason, no purpose, just the wind blowing and the darkness only penetrated by the moonlight. If you haven't you need to schedule one in today. If you have a convertible or a car with a sunroof you can add to your drive by opening it up and enjoying the moonlight on your entire drive. Take your time and find road that are less traveled and have lots of places to stop and enjoy the quiet calm of this moonlight night. Find a wonderful spot up on a hill overlooking your town or city and watch the hustle and bustle from your secluded spot. Enjoy each others company and get into some deep conversation before you head back. If you lucking and the conversation is good then you might just be seeing the sunrise from your wonderful spot, also.

Do you touch each other while you sleep?

I an curious about how much people touch while they are asleep. I am a huge fan of touching and the comfort of it while I sleep. However, my partner isn't so we battle back and forth on the subject. She tries to touch and times I try not to but I think that maybe it is each individuals make up. We all know that touch is important in our daily lives studies have shown the touch is a very positive thing to us. But is it when we are sleeping? I would love to see a study done on this topic and see what the conclusions are. Chime in yourself and let me know how you feel about touching during sleep. Is it a comfort or a annoyance to you? Does it help you sleep or does it keep waking you up? Lastly, how do you touch during sleep stages, are your arms around on another, head on chest, or do you feet touch? I am curious and would love for you to send me your feelings on this subject to thecouplesspot@gmail.com Now go get some sleep.

Jack Canfield - Motivation that is not in your face!

Jack Canfield is in my opinion the best motivator on the planet. His work in The Secret interested me enough to check out several of his books. What I enjoy about Jack is his laid back style, he is not in your face telling you what to do. His works are ideas and suggestions that motivate you to put the effort into your future. Many of the other motivators make me feel like they are my Drill Sargent in boot camp. Jack, however maps things out and has specific plan for you to follow on your leisure or for when you want to reach your goals. On the romance side Jack is obviously dedicated to his wife and family and that makes a big deal to me. Jack teaches you how to have the desire to improve without forgetting about the little things that make the energy so great. Sit down together and listen to Jack Canfield speak or watch the movie The Secret together and pay close attention to his parts in the movie. As a couple you will feel the energy that he is giving off and it will want to make your excel as a couple as well.

Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

Steamy Shower Notes

Here is a great little romantic way to surprise someone. Sneak into the bathroom while they are taking a nice hot shower and leave them a steamy message on the mirror. Tell them you love them, or they are cute. You might even make it a little sexy and write "Ditch the towel and come back to bed with me" Whatever you want to write that gets your feelings across is great. Think of it as texting your partner old school style.

Watch something funny today.

Laughter has always been marketed as the best medicine. Why not use this medicine in our relationship. Get something funny to watch tonight be it a movie or a television show, just make sure it is something that will get the two of you laughing hard. Laughing is a great stress reliever and a wonderful activity for you body. Sharing your laughter with each other is beneficial in that it strengthens the bond between the two of you. When we are laughing together we are having fun together, plus laughing is just plain sexy. Find something funny to watch tonight or go to a comedy club spend the night holding hands and laughing uncontrollably. It does the body and the relationship good.

Might I suggest some real slapstick type of comedy, think about the naked gun movies.

love like there is a tomorrow.

We always here that you should love like there is no tomorrow. However when you are early in a relationship that might be the case. In a new relationship you should love like you have a future together. Not so much as you start to scare the other person. For example don't talk about getting married on your first date! Do talk about the next date though to see how the other person feels. Say things like, "Well if we go out again I would like to take you (insert place here)" if you are greeted with a "That would be nice" then you chances are good for the second date. Especially in the early stages of a relationship make reference to the near future quite a bit. Talk about things you would like to do during the summer or on vacation, and include the person you are seeing in on those plans. The worst they can say is I can't do that or I won't have vacation time then. By using this technique this person will see that you can be a long term partner plus it also allows them to see that you are in this for a commitment so if they are not looking for this it is an easier time to get out. Yes as our relationships grow we want to live like there is no tomorrow but until we know we want to spend the rest of our life with that person take it a little slower.

Exploring bodies

Intimacy is one of the best parts about being in love with someone. Sometimes however we quickly advance to the sexual part of intimacy without taking out time to explore our senses and bodies. Next time the two of you have the time or are getting ready to enjoy an evening of love making, I want you to spend some time enjoying each others body. Leave the lights on or put some candle light in the room and take turns even just looking at each others body. One of you lay down completely naked and let the other one go over your body. Checking out each delicate inch of our skin. Don't just focus on the genitals really look over their body making notes on things like birth marks or freckles. Kiss and touch your way around their body find out if maybe you are missing the any erogenous zones. Let them know constantly how beautiful they are and how much you enjoy their body. Set a time limit and then when the time is up switch and let them explore you body. No spots are off limits in this exploration, trust in your partner and let them have free range over you body. You might just find it an activity you can enjoy over and over.

The slightest touch can mean so much.

Touch is one of the things that most people desire. We want to feel that warmth of another human being putting their hands on us. The touch of a child is also very therapeutic with in their innocents. Even the slightest touches can mean so much to your partner. Think about how comforting the simplest of touches can be. When you touch feet in bed at night says I am here for you. The touches that just happen without warning like when you just brush each other as you pass. The soft caress on your arm as you are sitting together. The tingles that are sent up and down your body with the excitement of these touches is a joy that everyone should feel. Brushing away your partners hair as you look in their eyes or even just the touch of when you have to get something in front of them, says so much in a relationship. You hands are a wonderful tool for showing and expressing your love, so touch and enjoy.

Do your outdoor exercises together.

Chances are that one or the other of you in your relationship does some form of outdoor exercise. Weather it is jogging, cycling, or just walking I hope at least that you are doing so to stay in shape. This activity to me is on of the most romantic ways to get your exercise in if you include your partner in the activity. Jogging and Cycling are a little tougher then Walking, because of the difference in fitness levels. The partner in better shape doesn't want to leave the other partner behind. That would negate the idea of exercising together. Plus, in cycling and jogging it is a littler harder to talk to each other. On the other hand you can push each other and it gives you someone to relax with after the exercise is over. Walks are great and a little less stressful on the body if you are just starting out. The also allow plenty of time to talk without being out of breath. Next time you get a chance invite your partner along on your outdoor workout or today would be a great day for the two of you to start getting fit. Starting together would be a great romantic gesture on both of your parts. It says I care about you and I want to you to be around for a long time.

Pictures Pictures Pictures.

One think I cannot express enough is that you need to document your relationship from the start. Maybe this might not be the relationship that is your last but what if it is? Wouldn't it be nice to have pictures from your early days together to share when you get older. Ones that would jog your memory and let you relive those wonderful days all over again. Cameras are great today you can make and save all your prints right at home. No worries about wasting film or having to take the film to the drug store to get them processed. You really have no excuse to not be taking pictures at every event you attend. If you have children you have to take pictures so that when they are grown and gone you can still remember them when they needed you most. Make an investment in your future and buy a good camera and start documenting everything that you can in your relationship and life.

Balanced Life

A Balanced life is one that is filled with all the things you want and need. You can't ignore any part of your life if you want your romance to skyrocket. For example you cannot put all your energy into being romantic, that you forget about other things. Things like taking care of your health, or focusing on your profession. It is hard to be romantic when you are so out of shape you or that you don't have any money to be romantic. In turn you also have to have balance in your relationship, it can't all be romance you have to do the basic things to like the chores around the house or helping your partner with things they have to do. Once you understand that romance fits into that balanced lifestyle, then it just gets better and better. Always make sure you remember to be romantic but never forget to live the other parts of your life.

Live a romance novel

Does your partner read romance novels? If they do her is a fun thing to do that might just get you a little action. Secretly borrow their book and read ahead of where they are going to be reading. Making notes of anything exciting or sexy that happens in the book. Make sure you make specific notes about the pages that your excitement was on. Then watch carefully to see when your partner has passed that part in the book. After they have read past the part you have made notes about then say something that would reflect towards that sexy or exciting part. Watch your partners eyes light up as you say things like "You know I wonder what it would be like to make love in a pile of hay" or "How sexy would it be if I kissed you so hard you could feel it in my loins" I am sure you will get a big smile when your partner realizes that you are referring to their book. Another thing you could do is find the steamy parts and circle them and put a note to the side saying "We should try this"

Like the old song "You can always get what you wanted, but you get what you need"

In a romantic relationship you have to be able to give and take. Sometimes it doesn't work out in your favor. That is when you have to step back and look at what you really need in a relationship. Pick and choose the things that are important to you and communicate that with your partner. Once they understand the way your desires and wants work you might find it a little easier to give up those things that don't mean that much to you. Say for instance, shopping with the girls, or poker night with the guys, which are all great activities but when you get into a relationship you might not be able to do them as much as you like. Like the Rolling Stones sang "You can't always get what you want, but you get what you need" So take stock in the things you need and understand the things you want will be there when they can be.

Time for some water fun.

As we are starting to see some hot weather as we enter summer their is one way for sure to cool off. Any thing to do with water can be romantic and fun. Going to the beach, relaxing at the pool, breaking out the slip and slide, or even squirt gun fights can all be a way of being romantic while cooling off. Water is sexy, and if you don't believe me just think about this, how hot does your partner look when they just get out of the shower? Plus, normally when you are around water you wear less clothing, hence you get to see more of your loves skin. Swimming is a wonderful way to exercise with out the pounding on your body and the getting wet then drying off is a wonderful sensation for you skin. There are so many things to do around or in the water that you can't help but think is it because we are made up of so much water that we feel comfortable around and in the water. Squirt gun fights can be a wonderful means of foreplay the might end up with you soaked and naked! I think you can figure out what to do after that. Got out on the next hot day and plan on getting soaked, and romantic.

Can Video Games be Romantic?

I am sure that sitting around playing video games isn't your idea of a great evening with your lover. However it can be very enjoyable if you are both on the same skill level. If the competition doesn't cause fights and you get to spar with each other then the games can release some tension that is built up in one or the other of you. I am curious do they have games for lovers, I mean we have board games that promote intimacy and passion, why not a video game. I would love to hear about any out there so if you make or have any let me know I would love to review or see how they work. This gets me thinking about the Nintendo Wii and the many applications that you would have with the motion controllers! :-) I remember hearing about a game that was hooked up to a vibrator many years ago but I am now curious as to if we have any for the Wii. Checking the internet all I find is videos for a game about rhythmic spanking with only audio and no video. Come on video game makers don't you see the amazing market for a product that will not only let us play video games but let us have sex with it as well. Great I have just inspired someone to make our lives even lazier. It still would be fun though.

Mondays are tough enough.

Monday morning for most people mean back to work blahs. Not many people are thinking about romance on Monday mornings when the alarm goes off. Well it is time for you to help out your partner shake those Monday morning blahs. Make sure they get their week off to a good start by strategically placing items to boost their feelings around. Maybe a little love note on the bathroom mirror. You could pack a special lunch for them writing I love you on a something inside. No matter what you do the point will be for them to take a little love along with them on the wonderful day we call Monday. You could even send them a text message at lunch letting them know that Monday is half over. Anything you can think of to get a little smile from them would work. Make Monday night an early date night or movie night something to spice it up a little so that you are looking forward to it rather than dreading it. Being romantic isn't always about both of you sometimes it is just about brightening someones Monday.

Celebrate Mothers Day

Somewhere, sometime a wonderful woman brought you into this world. Today is the day to celebrate her. Giving her thanks for all she has put up with from you. Think about your teenage years and the grief that you caused, that right there should be enough for you to put her on a pedestal. Now I know some of you out their might not have a good relationship with your mother or maybe she isn't even in the picture. If this is the case then think back to who was your mother figure. Maybe your dad took on all those responsibilities if this is the case. If so then make sure to honor them during this day. You don't have to buy your father a mothers day card but a nice thank you card might to the trick.

Skin on Skin

One of the most romantic feelings is when you touch your partner skin to skin. For me the rear end is on of the best skin places to touch. It is soft and sexy and is one of those areas that you don't just see all the time. This makes the butt a wonderful area to feel and view. Now here is a question for you. How often do the two of you touch rear ends not with your hands but butt to butt. Think about it why not see how it feels you both most likely desire to touch the others butt. So why not see how it feels. Skin on skin no underwear, use it as foreplay or just as a fun activity to try. Who knows where it will lead and what will happen but if nothing else you can never say you haven't done it before. THE (rear)END

Friday night flings

Friday starts the weekend for most people yet it is not the big night to go out. Saturday dominates the party night while friday comes in a distant second. You can use this to your advantage. Friday night is a great night to go out if you are wanting to talk and find out more about your love. Find places that don't have bands on fridays or that don't get hoppin until Saturday and spend the evening over a few drinks and some good conversation. Another option here is to get out early before the party crowd hits and have your conversation and drinks and then do something a little more personal like taking a walk, going to a movie, or maybe back to one of your places!!

Don't forget Mothers Day

Let me tell you this. A lot of women judge how you will treat them in a relationship by how you treat your mother. They feel like this was the main female figure in your life and how you treat her is how you treat women in general. Of coarse this is not always the case but showing if it is showing affection for your mother on Mothers Day works double. Not only to you make your mother feel special but you make your partner feel like she has made the right choice. A simple bouquet of flowers will do the trick, just make sure to pick up two of them. If you partner is also the mother of your children make sure to make a huge deal about it on mothers day make sure to make her feel as special as she is.

Support in difficult times is Romantic

Have you ever had something happen in the middle of the night maybe a trip to the hospital or a sick child. Now in this situation does your spouse just roll over and go to sleep or do they drag their butt out of bed to help or see what is going on. The support you receive during these times is a wonderful indication of how much your partner cares about you and your feelings. Do they wait up to see what is going on if you have to leave in the middle of the night. We don't ever want both of us to be tired in the morning but there is a level of romantic love that you feel when you walk in from a tough situation to a loving hug. Maybe we want to be the strong one and not need anyone during these times of stress. Deep inside you need that support and a partner that understands that is a loving wonderful thing. Remember this, it is not weak to need a hand to hold you up, and you will always have your turn to be that helping hand.

Listen to the sound of the falling rain.

One of my most favorite things to do is sit somewhere with my love outside when it is raining. A porch or a deck that is covered are wonderful. I feel so relaxed and wonderful with the sound of the rain falling. It is one of the best times to have a heart to heart talk or just some great conversation. Rain and or water is the beginning of life and it really sets the tone for great talks. Not only talking for me but being intimate when it is raining outside is a real turn on. Take some time during the next rain shower and see what I mean.

Women time for you to be romantic.

Women when you think of romance what do you envision. Candle light dinner, walks on the beach, making love under in a dim lit room, might pop into your head. Do you think these are the things your partner is thinking about when you talk about romance. Sure he/she might like to do these things to be romantic for you but what do you feel like they would like you to do that they would see as romantic? Maybe taking them to the big game, hot steamy lingerie worn for their pleasure, or even time spent on the couch snuggling during the race with both of you yelling at your favorite driver. You have to remember your vision of romance and his are going to be different, so when you are trying to be romantic for him, cater the evening towards his tastes. Like wise you would love to be catered to when he is trying to romance you. We have to look at it through the eyes of our partner to see their vision of romance. Be bold and ask them what they feel would be romantic then store the knowledge for later down the road. Remember you are trying to make them feel wonderful not you! Your turn will come.

Make a plan for sex.

Anticipation is a great tool when you put it into your intimacy. Here is what I want you to do. Tell your partner that in, lets say three days you are going to make the most passionate love to them. Now for the next three days you have to tease them into a frenzy. Don't give in and make love early take the full three days to excite your partner. Now you have set the image of some great sex coming their way so you have to make good on your promise. Plan out the best sexual adventure you can think of and then spring it on them on the day you have set forth. Most likely if you have teased them enough they will be like jello in your hands. Fun ways to tease them might be kissing then sexually then saying that was great but wait until our special day, or having a count down, letting them know it is only 2 more days until they are going to get it. Whatever the way you want to tease is okay and it will help build your anticipation, too. This way you both will be primed and ready for the amazing sex you will have.

Sometimes being romantic is as simple as helping out.

You know we think of romance as acts we preform for our partner or the one we are dating. One thing that many people say that they find romantic is when the person they care about helps others out. No matter if it is volunteering at the homeless shelter or helping a young child tie their shoes. The affect of your kindness seems very romantic for the person watching these actions. Plus it is a wonderful just to do, so you are working your magic it two ways by aiding someone. No matter what others say helping out is romantic and it makes you look more attractive to everyones eyes.