It's okay to be selfish every once in a while.

Being selfish is not the quality that everyone wants to have associated with their name. However, every once in a while it is okay be be the selfish one. Now we are not talking about all give and no take but we are saying that it is okay to speak your desires. Tell you partner what you want be it a certain supper or an activity in bed that you want to perform with them. Be confident and express you desires. By doing this you will seem a little selfish but you will also get your point across and maybe you might get what you want. Be careful with you selfishness it can be a very bad thing if used way to often so use this power very sparingly.

Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

Give and Take!

Everyone knows that romance is a give and take situation. The problems come in when the balance begins to get lopsided. One partner is doing more giving and the other is doing more taking. We all want to enjoy the romantic efforts of our partner it feels great. However, there are wonderful feelings in doing things for them as well. Think about how you feel when your partner does something romantic for you? Shouldn't they get the same feeling returned to them? If this is not your train of thought then you need to start retraining yourself. Unmatched romance soon becomes a chore to the person being romantic. They will start to loose interest and start thinking things like "Why, should I do this it won't be appreciated?" Think about how your react to your partner do you expect them to be the one that buys flowers all the time, or sets up wonderful evenings for the two of you. If your not pulling your weight in your relationship then it is your partner that is suffering not you. Now if you love your partner and want them to be happy there is no time like the present to take action. Return all their romantic notions with ones of your own. Make it a challenge to yourself to return every serve they make and soon you might just find the wonderful joy you will have in yourself and how thankful you are that your partner loves you.