Showing posts with label wants. Show all posts
Showing posts with label wants. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Visions of a future.


Do the two of you want something really special to share? Maybe a special vacation, a night out on the town or a new car. Whatever it is the two of you desire together you need to put it in your vision. You need to see and feel as if you already have it. Put pictures up of you special desire. Put them in places that you will both see them like in the bathroom or above your bed. My constantly seeing the vision of your item of desire you will keep it fresh in your memory so that you can reach that goal. Send each other emails with you desire within the correspondence. Stay on target and don't pick things you are going to want to chance in a week or so. Plan that trip out to the letter so that when you finally reach your goal you be ready to enjoy it. Together you positive energy can create anything you want. Share together these visions and not only will you be striving for what you want together but you will be building a stronger bond between the two of you.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

It's okay to be selfish every once in a while.


Being selfish is not the quality that everyone wants to have associated with their name. However, every once in a while it is okay be be the selfish one. Now we are not talking about all give and no take but we are saying that it is okay to speak your desires. Tell you partner what you want be it a certain supper or an activity in bed that you want to perform with them. Be confident and express you desires. By doing this you will seem a little selfish but you will also get your point across and maybe you might get what you want. Be careful with you selfishness it can be a very bad thing if used way to often so use this power very sparingly.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Like the old song "You can always get what you wanted, but you get what you need"


In a romantic relationship you have to be able to give and take. Sometimes it doesn't work out in your favor. That is when you have to step back and look at what you really need in a relationship. Pick and choose the things that are important to you and communicate that with your partner. Once they understand the way your desires and wants work you might find it a little easier to give up those things that don't mean that much to you. Say for instance, shopping with the girls, or poker night with the guys, which are all great activities but when you get into a relationship you might not be able to do them as much as you like. Like the Rolling Stones sang "You can't always get what you want, but you get what you need" So take stock in the things you need and understand the things you want will be there when they can be.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

How important is your relationship?


Do you spend time evaluating your relationship, deciding what areas need more work and if you are meeting the needs of your partner. Just like anything else in our life we sometimes lose focus on things that are important to us. You see it in the work place as you get bored with your job, and you see it in activities that you lose excitement for over time. Don't let this happen to your relationship. Sit down and think or write out what areas of your relationship need work. You can do this alone or with your partner, so that you get both sides of the relationship. When both of your work on this you actually get to see what areas your partner feels needs work, and that might be a totally different area then you thought about. When you do this it is important not to down grade your partners concerns, if they say that the two of you don't have enough dates then don't respond with "Yes we do" or "That's silly we just had a date last week" You have to realize that your partner wouldn't speak of it unless it was an issue to them. If you are not willing to work on the concerns your partner has about your relationship then you will find your relationship turning sour at some point. No matter what their issue is your need to put some effort into that area and vice versa he/she needs to put some focus into yours. With a little practice you will quickly learn to address areas of concern before they get to large to make a quick fix on them.