Friday, July 29, 2011

Vacation Time

As you read this my family and I will be just winding down our vacation.  So I wanted to take the time to tell you that vacations are a important part of your life.  Every once in a while you need to break out of your routine and get someplace new.  Experience the world around us and live a little differently.  During your vacation you need to make sure to have time for the two of you for some romance.  If you have children this can be difficult.  Unless you are able to take two vacations one with the family and one with just the two of you, most likely your children will be with you.  So you have to look for time to get that special time for the both of you.  It might just be sitting on the balcony of your hotel holding hands, or a beach walk what you do isn't important it is that you do it.  Both of you make it a point to spend some time alone together and enjoy the vacation in that way also.  I would suggest late night talks or just touching each other to get the most of your time together while on vacation with the family.  

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Inward Oasis bringing couples closer each and every day.

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Saturday, July 23, 2011

Erogenous Zones what are they?

There are very obvious ones and many mystery ones. I am going to try and identify both and give you some hints on how to use them. The female body is exactly like a work of art and then you mix mans curiosity in there then you have lots of factors into what drives men and women crazy with desire.
A mans body is pretty simple when it comes to erogenous zones. Man does have some hidden zones but for the most part any one can turn on a man and they know the exact places a man desires to be touched. Women are very different in this aspect. They have many more erogenous zones. Once a skilled lover finds these he can make the woman reach for the stars begging for more.
It's easy to read articles like this and think you can find everything that turns a woman on. The misconception there is that every woman is different there fore they respond differently to different variations. It's not always easy to find these zones on a woman.
1. The Feet
If you asked most people they would say that most erogenous zones on a woman would be found in the upper body. However one of the most erogenous zones on a woman is her feet. Women love to have their feet caressed and kissed. If you do this she will love you forever. Behind the knees is also a spot that can send your lover over the edge.
2. The Head
The head believe it or not has very many erogenous zones. The lips would come in first for being a very sensitive spot. Of course we all know what kissing the neck does. Ladies always like to hear you whisper beautiful things in her ears as you are nibbling on them.
3. The Buttocks
One of the hottest spots on a lady is her buttocks. Almost all women love to be touched on her buttocks while some even enjoy a little tap. And of course this is a good mix because there isn't a guy out there who doesn't like to caress a nice soft, round, firm butt.
4. The Breasts
I would be amiss if I didn't mention breasts. Probably the most favorite spot for fondling men. We do however have to be careful. Once again all women are not alike and believe it or not there are women who are not turned on by breast action. Women can also be turned off if you are too anxious to get at their breasts.
5. The Clitoris
Of course the most erogenous spot on any women's body is the clitoris. It is probably the biggest hot spot for erotic sensations. It is here that you can let your fingers and lips play as much as you like as long as your partner has no objections. It is important for a man to get to know this spot because it is usually the base to all good sexual relationships.
One thing we need to remember is that the erogenous zones are only one part to a good sexual relationship. They are simply used to increase a woman's pleasure and passion. One thing that is usually bigger than this is everything that leads up to the erogenous zones. If your not a gentleman and go through the courting process properly then you wont even get to experience a women's erogenous zones.
Dale Mazurek
Dale has been married for twenty years and considers himself some what of an expert in relationship topics such as this one. You can check out his very popular relationship blog at Two more of his popular blogs can be found at and

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Sex Matters by OSHO

Sex matters to us all. The Osho approach to sex begins with an understanding of how important love is in our lives, while at the same time acknowledges that the journey into love cannot exclude our innate biological energies. With this perspective, it becomes clear that the tendency for religions, and for society in general, to associate sex with sin and morality has been a great misfortune.

Sex Matters begins by deconstructing the layers of sexual repression that the condemnation of sex has inflicted on human. Throughout Sex Matters - in response to questions about everything from jealousy to premature ejaculation, the role of intimacy and the differences between men and women - Osho proposes a vision that embraces sex as a fundamental gift from nature. We learn how orgasm offers a glimpse of timelessness, thoughtlessness, and pure awareness -- biology's way of pointing toward the consciousness that helps us to understand ourselves.

Finally, we are presented with a clear choice: a repressed sexuality that leads to pornography, perversion, and a stunted humanity or a playful, respectful, and relaxed innocence that supports us in becoming fulfilled and whole, as nature intended.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Free things to do for lovers.

One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with each other. In this day of the information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting them around to their extracurricular activities, getting dinner, cleaning up and going through the bedtime routine, what time is left?
Unless you orchestrate the time for your relationship, other less important things will crowd in and take what precious little time you do have. Pick a night that will be "date night" with your partner and make a game out of being as creative as you can be. Try to see how many things you can do without spending money.
To get you started, I've come up with some suggestions to help you for the next year. What follows are 52 ideas for how to spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your particular relationship and circumstances.
1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations.
2. Play cards---perhaps strip poker.
3. Watch a movie together.
4. Go outside and have a snowball fight.
5. Get some finger paints and create your own body art with each other as your canvass.
6. Go sleigh riding.
7. Go ice skating.
8. Work out or exercise together.
9. Stage your own improvisation show.
10. Sing to each other.
11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together.
12. Play a board game---perhaps chess, Scrabble or Twister.
13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read for hours.
14. Work on a remodeling project together.
15. Plan and complete a yard work project together.
16. Do the spring cleaning together---room by room. When done, reward yourself by making love in the room you've cleaned.
17. Put on old clothes and mud wrestle after some drenching rain.
18. Give each other a massage.
19. Play catch---football, baseball, softball or Frisbee.
20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car of your dreams.
21. Shoot basketball together.
22. Dance together.
23. Take a shower together and wash each other---everywhere.
24. Take a free adult education class together.
25. Go to a mall and have a contest to see which one of you can get the most free samples.
26. Go rollerblading or bike riding.
27. Build a campfire and roast marshmallows.
28. Go swimming or skinny dipping.
29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure.
30. Go somewhere crowded to people watch.
31. Go to a free outdoor event, perhaps a concert.
32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars.
33. Go on a picnic.
34. Watch a fireworks display.
35. Be creative and engage in sexual role plays. Be anyone you'd like to be for the night who is also exciting for your partner.
36. Sit by the water somewhere.
37. Do a prolonged strip tease for each other.
38. Have a water balloon fight.
39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other.
40. Go for a drive together.
41. Go window shopping.
42. Incorporate food into your love making---chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries---anything you and your partner enjoy.
43. Call or write to someone you haven't had contact with in a while.
44. Cook something together.
45. Spend an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things you have done, plans you have for the future, important people in your lives or current events.
46. Take a bubble bath together.
47. Go to a free movie or museum.
48. Take a drive and find the potential in old houses and their properties.
49. Create an imaginary story together---either orally or in written form.
50. Take turns being each other's genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner's every wish and fantasy.
51. Play in the fallen leaves.
52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed.
Now you have 52 suggestions for things to do with your partner for every week of the year divided by season. Certainly you don't have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own or to repeat your favorites as often as you'd like.
The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you can both enjoy. If you have vastly different interests then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each agree to happily participate in the activity chosen by the one whose turn it is that week.
As long as you make a habit of making your relationship a priority and allocating time each week for rejuvenation of the feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you stand a good chance of staying together for the long haul.
Please don't let insidious boredom enter into your relationship through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean---the job, the kids, our friend in crisis, etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time you've set aside for each other.
Other than natural disasters, threat of death or major crises, do not allow your time together to be invaded by any outside forces. Make sure to create opportunities for you to do things together without outside influence. With more than 50% of today's marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. What's stopping you? Start today.
Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power by living from the inside out, focusing their time and energy on only those things they can control. She also helps people improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. She offers free chats, assessments, a blog and an eZine, as well as workshops, teleclasses, e-courses, counseling and coaching. Visit her website at or contact her at (708) 957-6047.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

The sexual nature of food is something that goes unnoticed by most of us. Throughout history, sex and food have a long association. A prepared meal with love and romance in mind can be capable of creating magic.
Is there a better way to set the scene for romance than to prepare a night to remember with your date or lover by indulging in rich yummy food, good wine and a table for two in a romantic setting?
The most beneficial way to create a perfect ambience and to introduce food to stimulate the mood is to ensure the table is prepared with romance and love in mind. The best chefs are often quoted by commenting on how great food is when created with love.
If you are dating someone to make a special impression, charm them with sultry foods and flavours they will relish. Use variations by arranging different textures and tastes. Finger foods are a sexy inclusion which can be swapped and fed to each other.
Indulging in sexy food in an out door environment such as a picnic at a secluded location can enhance your sensual experience. After you're done with lunch, the scene is set to pursue other sexy activities - take a blanket.
Whether you are on a date in a classy restaurant, or are taking advantage of the creature comforts of home, take a look at some of these sexy ideas on how to combine food with gourmet love.
The dietary requirements for a long fulfilling life of great sex should incorporate varieties of fresh, nutritious vegetable and fruit including low fat proteins. Apart from the obvious health benefits of a balanced diet, meals rich in fruit and vegetables increase our energy levels and maintain our organs to peak levels.
* Fruits
Fruit is full of antioxidants and fiber and is soaked with aphrodisiac attributes. Fruit is refreshing, nutritious and is acknowledged in erotic literature in many countries. There are some 350 varieties of fruit across the world. Indulge in fruit often with a fresh admiration of its sexy attributes.
* Vegetables
Eggplant, carrots, cucumbers, asparagus and other male shaped vegetables have for many centuries been esteemed for their aphrodisiac outcomes. Whilst it's difficult to imagine such foods as sexy these ancient pleasures animate our bodies with injections of vitamins and minerals.
Hand feed your date a luscious piece of mango, some juicy grapes and sip champagne whilst taking a warm bubble bath. Also try finger foods like olives and raw carrot sticks with dip.
Throw all of this great food in with a massage and hot oils and you will leave an impression to last a lifetime.
Matt Fuller supplies article services for his singles online dating site. The website also offers a selection of other popular free dating sites in the U.S. simply register type in your postcode to find your match.

Monday, July 11, 2011

The benefits of Touch.

Do you like hugs, massages and hand-holding? Well, experts say that there are benefits in touching that can boost our health and fitness.
Getting a hug triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone sometimes referred to as "love" or "bonding" hormone, in the body which lowers levels of hormone cortisol and reduces stress which boosts immune function. Oxytocin also makes people feel more secure and trusting to each other. According to the health research done at the University of North Carolina, women who receive more touching via hugs from their partners have higher level of oxytocin in their system and their blood pressure and heart rate also appear to be lower.
In addition to hugs, touching like holding hands with your beloved also has great effects to the health and fitness. University of Virginia assistant professor, James Coan, PhD, discovered that hand-holding is good in calming people by administering functional MRIs to 16 married women while telling them that they might feel a mild shock. The warning triggered brain activity showing stress and anxiety. But when the women held hands with one of the experimenters, the stress response decreased and totally quieted down when they were holding hands with their husbands. When stress is lower, immune functions get more effective.
But pets and good massages can also give touching health and fitness benefits for our body. According to research, people's blood pressure drops when they pet dogs, more so, if it is a dog they know and love. Dog petting and snuggling with furry pets have also been found out to improve immune function and ease pain.
And who will say no to a good touching, massage, now and again? A massage can sooth tense muscles, slow down racing heart rate, relieve high blood pressure and decrease levels of cortisol which is good for over health and fitness. Due to the relaxed state, the body has the opportunity to effectively regenerate and recharge. When cortisol levels are lessened, the body's immune function becomes more effective.
So do not hesitate to give a hug or two to those you care about because it shows that you care in more ways than one.
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Friday, July 8, 2011

Glass sexy toys can be a work of art.

Glass sex toys are one of the best types of sex aid that are available in the adult marketplace today. You may think that glass would be a dangerous type of material to use in an adult toy but you would be wrong. Glass sex toys are perfectly safe to use because they are commonly made from medical grade borosilicate glass (which is a hard glass) that is non-toxic and will withstand an extreme range of different temperatures as well as physical pressures without causing damage to it.
What Makes Glass Sex Toys Different to Others?
Glass sex toys are different to other types of adult toy available as they are hand crafted and designed to withstand a lifetime of wear and tear whereas other adult toys may only last a short period of time depending upon how frequently they are employed. Similarly to other sex toys, glass sex toys can be used for both anal and vaginal pleasures. However, unlike other adult toys, ones that are made from toughened glass can not only be used as they appear but can also be warmed up using a microwave or hot running water or alternatively, cooled down using cold running water or by being placed in the freezer. This dexterity allows a whole different variety of sensations to be experienced by the user or users therefore potentially creating more pleasure than a regular type of dildo that does not have the facility to do this. Additionally, glass dildos are also non-porous so are entirely waterproof, which not only means that they can be cooled down or warmed up using running water but also allows for them to be used in the shower, bath or even a Jacuzzi!
Are Glass Sex Toys Expensive?
To give an accurate answer to this question, it all depends upon what you are looking for in an adult toy. For beginners, a small inexpensive dildo or vibrator may often be the ideal starting point as the user may or may not find that they like the experience of using adult toys. However, if the user or users enjoy using sex toys and want to continue for the foreseeable future, glass sex toys are definitely worth the investment. For a quality glass dildo prices begin at around the £30 mark and can go up to anything as high as around £100. However, you must take into consideration that not only are glass sex toys practically a work of art with their beautiful glass patterns but they are also intended to last a lifetime and can produce more than one type of sexual sensation. They are hypoallergenic and feel so smooth, even the ones with surface ridges and protrusions, that user's often comment on how sexy they make them feel whilst using them. Glass dildos are even strong even to be washed in the dishwasher and come out unscathed!
Glass Dildos Branch Out
Adult toys made out of glass do not just come in the form of dildos as most commonly thought. Recently glass sex toys have branched out and now come in the guise of vibrators. There are now glass adult toys available that have a vibrator fixed into the length of the glass and those that have an outer glass casing into which a slim-line vibrator can be inserted. As this vibrator is removable, it can also be used for pleasures minus the glass casing. Furthermore, there is now even a vibrating glass rabbit available that is especially curved for g-spot stimulation which comes with a cleverly located removable bullet vibe with an incredible 10 different varieties of pulsation. Now that's what you call diversity!
Glass sex toys, either with or without vibration, could be well worth the investment if you like the experience that sex toys give you.
Amy Shepherd works in marketing for Venus Sales Ltd, a UK based online retailer operating a number of retail sites including Sinful Sensations.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Bring some sensual awareness into your life.

What is Sensual Awareness?
Sensual awareness is attention to the senses and stimuli obtained from the senses. The terms sensual awareness and sensuality do not distinguish between negative stimuli (pain) or positive stimuli (pleasure). Sensual awareness and sensuality certainly have nothing to do with self-gratification, immorality, or overindulgence. Our senses provide the information by which we base all of our intuitive thoughts, creativity, and desires, as well as our clear problem solving ability. They help us to determine what is right and what is wrong for us far better than any holy book, psychologist, or pop culture. By becoming fully present in our sensual perceptions we become more sensitive to our passions, our inner compass, our personal truth, or what we call our core values. Core values are true and authentic and are not influenced by the values and judgments of others.
Being Disconnected
Imagine a scenario where you are in a job that is unfulfilling and has been for several years. However, on paper that job is prestigious and friends and family envy your position. You know that something has to change but you don't know whether you should go back to school, start your own business, or change careers altogether. The years keep on passing but you fell stuck in the situation and just continue to have no idea what to do. Or imagine that you are running ragged, between your work, your commute, carting children to and fro, PTA meetings, scarfing down fast food in the car 3 or more times per week, and never being able to start that new hobby or get some needed exercise, then lying awake squandering precious sleep time at night fretting about the next hectic day. You know something has to change because this is unhealthy, you are exhausted, and it is beginning to show, but you continue to make no changes because you are torn between where to cut your activities for some relief and being a superhero. Your mind is racing a mile a minute and you just cannot make a decision on how to make life better. These are two simplified examples of how life can be when we are disconnected from our core values.
How Sensual Awareness Reconnects us to our Core Values
In our hectic culture, many of us are not immediately capable of sitting and meditating with a clear mind for long periods of time. In this instance, sensuality just serves as a different form of meditation that may be more a more accessible means to reconnect with what is authentic inside of us, allowing us to observe our condition from a neutral, relaxed perspective. Often we are either too busy in our daily lives to fully recognize our core values or are too accustomed to letting outside influences, i.e. religion, commercial, societal values, opinions of family and friends, etc. guide our desires to easily make decisions that correctly align or actions with them.
Although sensuality does not actually refer to stimuli that are positive or negative, the more engaging and pleasurable the experience, the more easily we can stay in that place of presence and allow our core values and passions to surface clearly. The key to sensual meditation is actively observing through our senses enough to keep us present but yet not so much as to overwhelm or distract us, and that is relaxing enough to quiet mental chatter. We must become aware of our sensations but without thinking about them. We are giving all sensations, both the pleasurable and the unpleasant or stressful ones, a place to simply BE. Without fighting or ignoring or manipulation, we can just observe them and release them, where they will cease to cloud our thoughts and judgments. Essentially here we are giving attention to our body-mind connection. Sensuality is the bridge between the body and the mind, because all thoughts originate with the senses. Get them working together in harmony and see what miracles can happen!
Getting Started with Sensual Meditation
Although sensual awareness as a meditation may be a more easily accessible form of meditation than other forms, it still takes practice. Here is a very simplified practice to get started:
  • Find a quiet spot and sit comfortably. If necessary, make the environment more inviting with candles, incense, dimmed lighting, or fresh flowers.
  • No need to close your eyes but it helps to relax the eyelids halfway. Begin with slow deep breathing, expanding the ribcage and filling the entire abdomen with nourishing oxygen and releasing the used air and clutter with each exhalation.
  • Try not to think about anything, and as the thoughts arise, just release them and relax. Don't try too hard. Just go with the flow.
  • Notice what you hear.
  • Notice what you see.
  • Notice how you feel.
  • Notice what you smell.
  • Notice what you taste.
  • Be aware of your sensations and notice a sense of calm connectedness.
  • Continue to experiment with your sensual meditations in various locations and activities over a month's time.
There is much more to sensual awareness, so you would be cheated if you stop here. Regular practice is needed to experience the full intensity of benefits such as increased ability to think clearly and creatively in all aspects of your life; the discovery of solutions to problems you may have been struggling with; generating more laughter and fun in your life; experiencing increased self-confidence; and becoming more relaxed with yourself and less stressed. Learning about the concepts of balancing male and female energies within; understanding the chakras, and using and playing with universal energy are also necessary to benefit from a rich sensual engagement with the world.
Lisa Branscomb, J.D. is the founder of LifeBliss Solutions, Life Coaching from a Tantric Perspective. She is dedicated to teaching how to incorporate simple tantric practices and sensuality into everyday life. For more information see: LifeBliss Solutions

Saturday, July 2, 2011

July 4th are your fireworks ready?

The July 4th Holiday is almost upon us and do your have your romantic fireworks in order?  Fireworks can be supper romantic if you have a great place to watch them.  Stay way from crowds is you want his 4th to be a romantic one.  Don't plop down in the middle of thousands of others to watch the fireworks with your love.  Find a place where the two of you can have some privacy so that you can kiss and see real fireworks.  That will be something you both remember for a long time.  Spend the day enjoying your freedom by walking around together holding hands and enjoying the sites your city has to offer.  Then spend the night watching your world get lit up, and oh by the way you might see your own fireworks in the process.

Friday, July 1, 2011

What to Talk About With Your Partner?

100 Conversation Starters from the Spiritual to the Sexual

Sometimes we just don't know what else to say to our partners.  We get stuck in talking about what to have for dinner, what the kids are doing, what we did at work, and so forth.  We lose the deep conversations we most likely had when we first got together.  On the other hand, sometimes we don't know what to say to get into deep conversations from the beginning of a relationship.  

This eBook will offer a wide range of conversation starters and amazing photos too!