Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Maybe wine isn't your thing but you can go on a beer tasting.

Wine is a wonderful thing to share between the two of you but if you taste are a little more hometown you might trade in your wine tasting for beer tasting. There are a vast number of small brew pubs across the country that offer their own special blend of ale. Almost any larger city will have at least one brew pub where you can eat and sample their beers. They are quaint and fun to seek out. When ever just me and my partner go somewhere we try to check out at least on of these specialty breweries. The first one we ever experienced was the Smokey Mountain Brewery in Gatlinburg, TN. I have become a big fan of trying different beers around the country and I am anxious to one day try out beers from overseas. In parting make sure to drink responsibly and don't drive if you had to many of these wonderful beers.

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Explore on Vacation.

When you are on vacation it is easy to try to find places that remind you of home. Maybe it is restaurants that you are familiar with or stores that you shop at home. My romantic suggestion however is to explore other avenues. Find little hole in the wall places to eat, local stores and local attractions that might be more for the people that live in the area. This is a great way to have fun as a couple and get to know the area better. We have found little parks, romantic places to watch the sunset, and great home cooked meals by doing this. However the best thing about it is getting to know someone that cares what you think. The teenager at McDonalds doesn't care about your trip or where you are from but the owner of a little dinner might even sit down with you to discuss it. These are the lasting memories you will have on vacation not the ones that remind you of home.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Dividing the Drive time.

When you are getting ready to take a long trip one thing I feel you need to do is divide the drive time up. Plan on certain places where you will stop and exchange drivers. This will give you both a little rest and relaxation so you will be fresh when you get to your destination. I also would suggest being good company when you are not the one driving. Unless you are driving through the night, keep you partner company as they drive. Good conversation is one of the best ways to make a long trip seem shorter. You might even find the time flying by as the miles pass as you talk them away. If you do need to rest then make sure you partner has the directions he/she needs and get them something to listen to on the radio before you doze off. These simple little things will make the task of driving to your fun destination as fun as it can be.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Romance doesn't have a specific time.

When we think of romance we usually think about it being in the evening. Going out to dinner, movies, moon lit walks figure into the romance equation the most. However romance should be a all day occurrence. It should start the moment you get up. The way you greet your partner in the morning should be one that says I am glad to see you. Playful touches throughout the day are excellent ways to build romance. Kissing I feel is an overlook area that can be romantic all day. Plan romantic adventures starting in the morning. Get up and go biking together or have breakfast on the porch. These little things can make your life hit the romance jackpot. Never forget romance doesn't just happen, you get out of it what you put into it. So, don't just wait around and hope romance finds you give your partner a reason to be romantic, back.

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Great questions make a great night.

If you need something fun to do on a boring day then you can always just fire questions back and forth. Just ask "What's your favorite movie?" or "Who influenced your life the most?" Take turns bouncing questions off of each other and you might just find that time will fly. The last time we did this is was 2 hours before we realized what fun we were having. There are plenty of game out there that can help you on this quest but if you are short on funds you can make up your own. Using a game help in the fact that you both get questions you were not expecting. Next time you have nothing to do, pour yourself a glass of wine and enjoy answering each others questions.

Friday, June 25, 2010

Need a little romance then get some chicken soup.

Need a little boost in the romance department, then pick up a copy of Chicken Soup for the Soul - Happily Ever After. 101 stories about true romance. Take turns reading the short and wonderful stories about love. It will soon have you looking into your partners eyes with passion you first had for them.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Take a break together.

During you time together do you ever feel like it is rush rush rush? Do you feel like the two of you are together but distant because of the hurried schedules that you keep? Well I suggest taking a break. Just like a break at work make it a specific time and amount of time. Make it at noon and for a half hour. Then during that time become absorbed with each other. Focus on being a couple kiss, hug and be happy in the moment. It might take a little practice but it is well worth the effort. After all you don't have a problem when they call break at work do you. Stoping what you are doing and getting a little snack or drink. Well it shouldn't be that hard to do for your relationship either.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

The obvious drop.

We have all seen the old time movies where the woman would drop her handkerchief so the gentleman would pick it up. Thus allowing them to strike up a conversation. This is a pretty cheesy way to meet someone and I don't know if it ever really worked but we can use this tactic to our advantage. Write a small note about how you feel about your partner, then wad it up tight and put it in your pocket. Then when you partner is around let is slip out, act like you didn't see or feel it slip out and walk away from it. You partner will be curious and venture over to pick the note up. We are all a little nosey so I am sure you partner will open up the paper to see what it on it. Imagine his/her surprise when they read the wonderful things about them on the paper you have intentionally planted.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Does wearing something sexy to bed mean anything?

We a woman wears something sexy to bed does it mean anything? Here is my take on it, if she does it all the time then, no. Wearing sexy things to bed when they always do just means they want to feel beautiful when they are sleeping. Maybe they want you to notice them all the time but not in a sexual way. It might also just make them feel good. Now if they usually wear sweats and a t-shirt to bed and all of the sudden they are wearing lingerie that make them look like a supper model then maybe just maybe they are wanting more then sleep. If they parade around in front of you in it then the possibility becomes higher. Sexy lingerie doesn't automatically mean that intimacy is looming but it is a pretty good hint. Talk to your partner about it and get their feelings. Maybe they just feel different or want to wear something cooler, don't jump to conclusions. Ease into being sexy and judge their reaction if it is open then you can dive into the beautiful vision in front of you. If your advances are not met with such wonderful joy then back off and let it go. Play a little hard to get on your own and see what happens. Maybe just maybe laying in bed your partner might just have a change of heart and come out to coax you back to bed.

Monday, June 21, 2010

Do a Buddy Challenge with your partner!

Buddy Challenges are a fast growing part of our culture, that promote fun and excitement rather then sitting around being bored. What better way to tell you partner that you care about them then to ask them to get in on one of these with you and your other friends. One thing that usually happens in a relationship is that we start separating our friends from out partner. We have time for our friends and then we have time for our partner. When what we need to do is find a common time for both. Just make sure to find alone time for you and your partner but include them in with all your other dealings and they will not only create some bonds with your friends but get closer to you in the process.

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Sunday, June 20, 2010

Bring some home when going on a trip

We have a special little trick we use when we go on a trip. We never can seem to get a comfortable bed like our one at home when we get a hotel room. The pillows are always thin and have no substance to them. There is no chance of getting a good night sleep in a strange bed with pillows that you could slid in a pizza box. What we do is bring a little home with us. No we can't bring our bed but we can bring our pillows. The pillows help make us feel like we are in our own bed even if the bed isn't ours. They smell like our house, we get the same neck support and they are easy to pack. Yes pillows are easy to pack all you have to do is have a vacuum and you can fit your pillow into your suitcase. Get a bag or one of those new air removing devices and you will have your pillow flat as a pancake to pack. Then just open the bag and let the air in and your pillow springs back to life. In this manner you can make the sleeping part of your trip a little more romantic and a lot less uncomfortable.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Get some new sunglasses.

Sunglasses can change your whole personality. Picking up several pairs for cheap can help you display the mood you are in. You can become a superstar with big hide your face glasses. Dark slim glasses can make you look mysterious. Super Trooper glasses can make you look dorky and fun while round lens glasses can make you look artsy. It is amazing how just by changing sunglasses you can look totally different. Different can be great in a relationship you can use it for a little out of the bedroom role play. Don' be afraid to get a style of sunglasses that you normally wouldn't get. Until you walk a mile in someone else's sunglasses you don't know how they feel.

Friday, June 18, 2010

Put a little romance in your tea!

Ice Tea is the greatest of all summer drinks but how can you make it a little more romantic or sexy. Why not add a little extra to your tea. Find some interesting juices to add to your ice tea. Maybe some kiwi juice or pineapple juice could make your tea a little more exotic. Adding a little more excitement to each class of tea that you drink. Imagine your partners reactions to drinking a glass of tea with some passion fruit juice squeezed into the mix. Find the hottest day and load your flavored tea up with ice and present it to your partner as a gift. Get some of those little umbrellas and make it seem like you are on vacation, at least until the finish the glass of tea.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Summers here find some water.

It is almost summer and I hope that you are enjoying it so far. On thing that can make your summer time a little more romantic is to add some water to it. Thing about it all the best places on earth, in my opinion are surrounded by water. Hawaii, Tahiti, Jamaica, Key West, the list goes on and on. So for starters take a vacation to one of these hot spots. However if you a little short on cash for an amazing trip like that. Then you can add water to your relationship in others ways. Get a pool or some squirt guns any way you can get the cool refreshing feeling of water in your relationship. Not only will it cool you off but the wet look is sexy. Thing about your partner soaked to the bone, hair wet hanging in their face. Now you are starting to see how much romance a little water can add to your romantic summer. Plus drinking plenty of water is good for you. Anyway can add some water to your summer time fun and romance.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Touch is right up there with food, water and shelter.

Touch is very under rated in life. While we need food, water, and shelter to actually life and not die. Touch is as important to your relationship. If you are not touching you are missing and necessary area of your love. Words are easy to say but you can't fake a loving touch. That gentle and soft touch that says I am here for you or comforts you at night is a desire that everyone longs for. Make it a point today to touch each other more often you might find it very pleasurable. When we touch we share our energy with our partner and the charge we get out of it can propel us through our day with a passion that only a loving touch can bring. Reach out and give your love through touch.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Make sure to share beautiful visions together.

Last night we had a big thunder storm here. The amazing part about it was the wonderful rainbow that appeared right before the down poor started. The sky was a hazy grey and the clouds were stirring but the most vibrant rainbow I have ever seen arched it's way perfectly through the clouds. I waited patiently for my partner to finish putting our child to bed as I hoped this image would not go away before she would get a chance to see it. Luckily for both of us she made it out in time, we both were amazed at the wonderful colors that broke through the grey storm clouds. At one point we could see the double rainbow that is so rare to see. I bet we stood outside for a 20 minutes marveling at the wonder nature had presented us. We touched and held hands as we became part of this magical vision. The funny part was we were so amazed by it that several of the people driving by in their cars stopped to witness this amazing sight also. So, romantically speaking anytime you see a truly amazing sight try to share it with your partner. The things we witness together mean so much to us as a couple.

Monday, June 14, 2010

Did you say thanks?

One of the things in a relationship that is forgot most often is the simple thank you. We grow use to our partner doing the things they do that we forget that they are doing them for us. Things like taking care of the children so we can get things done or changing the sheets on the bed. Once we start feeling like they should do these things because the always do, that is when we need to take a step back. Look at what your partner does, how they go the extra mile for us and if we aren't thanking them for it, are we truly being fair to them. Love is the special thing and when you love someone you don't do if for praise or appreciation, however without us seeing what they do for us it might just go away. I hear so many women say that sex becomes a chore in their relationship, but what about the chores does your mate complete tasks day in and day out? Do you think they enjoy doing the dishes or taking out the garbage for fun. They are doing it for your relationship, they are putting in their part to make your relationship flow as good as possible. Think about that next time you get upset because something wasn't done and try to remember when the last time you thanked your partner for doing whatever it is they do. I bet you don't do it nearly as much as you should.

Sunday, June 13, 2010




by Diana Daffner

The Lover asked: How would you like me to touch you?

The Lover answered:

I would like you to touch me as if you were going away tomorrow, far far away, and you wanted to remember the feel of my body, the texture of my skin, the hills and valleys that make up the landscape of who I am.

I would like you to touch me as if you were blind, knowing that you love me, but unable to see me. Touch my face, my breasts, my belly, my toes... learn what I "look" like, imagine me in your mind as your hands explore my shape.

I would like you to touch me as if your hands were healing hands, radiating love energy with every stroke. Feel the energy penetrating through skin, through flesh, entering into the cells of my body.

I would like you to touch me as if you gained your nourishment through your hands. Feed on me, drink deeply, and draw from your touch the love that I hold for you.

I would like you to touch me as if you were feeding me through your hands, as if by your touch I am nourished and sustained. Every inch of me cries out for your touch, yearns to be fed.

I would like you to touch me as if your hand were a feather, lightly caressing the edge of my being.

I would like you to touch me as if your hands were paintbrushes, and as you caress me, you are coloring me in brilliant, sparkling, dazzling hues.

I would like you to touch me as if you were erasing the outer me, allowing me to reveal my inner self to you.

I would like you to touch me as if you had carved a sculpture, and were now feeling its finish, smoothing out any rough areas, enjoying the finished product.

I would like you to touch me as if your hands were fire, burning away the dross and leaving only the pure gold of my soul.

I would like you to touch me as if your hands were sponges, soaking up the essence of my being.

I would like you to caress me as if I were made of dry clay, and by dampening my skin you enliven my spirit.

I would like you to touch me as if my skin were soft velvet.

I would like you to touch me as if you were a musician, and your touch brought forth different sounds from different parts of me.

I would like you to touch me as if I were a rare jewel, precious and valuable.

I would like you to touch me as if I were your Lover.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Ladies take the pants off.

Ladies this post if directed towards you. There is one bed time look that drives us guys crazy and is comfortable as hell for you. No it is not being naked. It is when you wear a normal sized t-shirt and just your panties. That look is so sexy yet it is the most basic thing you can wear. We love to get that little glimpse of how sexy you are without seeing to much. When you bend over and we see a little bit of your buttocks. We have to bite out lip to keep us from just taking you right then and there. You can perfect this look a little more by using panties that creep up a little to expose more of your bottom. Ladies this is the way you can drive us wild without having to wear something that is a little uncomfortable to you. Thing about this next time you guy wants to spend hours in front of the television. A little comfy look might just have his eyes wondering towards you!!!

Friday, June 11, 2010

Get out of your comfort zone.

We all have our normal routine that we go through day in and day out. We do the same things enjoy the same hobbies over and over. Why, because they are comfortable to us, we know we like them and it is easy to pick something to do when we know we like it. Well in the business of romance we need to think a little differently, because different is romantic. Get out of the comfort zone and pick something a little different to try on a date, just for fun or when you need a boost spicing up your life. We recently discovered geocaching and at first we felt really silly looking around place for little hidden boxes, but know we love it. Our next adventure is going to be laughter yoga, and I want to try going on a volunteer vacation. These thing are not our normal thing but who knows just like our geocaching they might become our normal thing as we get into it. To me romance it experiencing things with the person you love, and the more you experience the more memories you make but the more romance you have.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Surprise Haircut!

Today I am going to get my haircut. This might not seem romantic but I am going to do something different and my partner will not see me until it is done and over with. It is a little exciting for me to do something drastically different. I know that when my partner comes home with a different hairstyle I find myself wanting to get to know her all over again. On the outside she looks like a different person, and I wonder what sparked the change. I think it adds spice to you relationship and mixes things up a bit. Nothing wrong with that, how many people have you known that still have the same hairstyle from when they were in high school! For us guys it's a little different their are not that many hairstyles out there. One thing my wife doesn't have to worry about is me having the same hairstyle from high school. Why? because I had a mullet.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

It's okay to be selfish every once in a while.

Being selfish is not the quality that everyone wants to have associated with their name. However, every once in a while it is okay be be the selfish one. Now we are not talking about all give and no take but we are saying that it is okay to speak your desires. Tell you partner what you want be it a certain supper or an activity in bed that you want to perform with them. Be confident and express you desires. By doing this you will seem a little selfish but you will also get your point across and maybe you might get what you want. Be careful with you selfishness it can be a very bad thing if used way to often so use this power very sparingly.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Random acts of Couples Kindness

Most of you have probably heard of Random Acts of Kindness (RAK). Why not put some RAK into our relationships. You can do the normal simple things like bringing home flowers or kissing at special times. However, I want you to think a little outside the box and see what happens. Here is one I like to do. You know how good it makes you feel when you find money in your pockets you didn't know was there. Well use that for you RAK find our what your partner is going to wear that day and while they are in the shower or eating breakfast slip a five or ten in the pocket of those clothes. Watch their reaction as they find it, you have just started their day in a good way. Another great thing to do is take their car and get it washed or fill it up with gas, without them knowing. Whatever you do don't let them know and plead the 5th when they question you about it.

Monday, June 7, 2010

Coin Collection

Want to do something that doesn't seem romantic but when you partner finds out about it will make them swell up? Start a romantic coin collection. Save coins from the change of special events you go to. Things like movies you attend or romantic dinners you have together. After you pay for what ever it is save the smallest coin from that change and hold on to it. When you get home tape it to a index card and write down on the card what event it was from. Start this as soon as possible in your relationship but don't let you partner see until well into the relationship. After you have been together for a while pulling out a card with the change on it from your first date would be pretty impressive. You can also write your feelings on the card about the event or even put down little trivia things like what she was wearing, what songs you heard, or milestones in your relationship, such as first touch, first kiss, etc. Not only will this seem romantic but it will make it easy to remember all those wonderful times you had together. Just keep it going all through your relationship and you will have the best coin collection ever.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Create a Blog of your relationship!

We keep scrapbooks, and pictures and it all ends up being a cluster in our spare room. We don't devote the time and effort to what it really needs because it is just not easy. Why not create a relationship blog for the two of you to enjoy. You don't have to publish it for the general world to find and it is easy to write and post pictures on with the use of Think about it all you do is come home after a wonderful day and post your feelings about each other and the fun you are having together. Download some pictures from you camera and whamo you have all you stuff documented for your to go back and look at anytime you want. The service is free and it will take a lot less time then cutting and pasting all those little pieces of paper and pictures. Below is the link to get yourself started.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Ladies give in a do some guy things!

Ladies want to do something romantic for you partner? Try doing some quote guy things with him. I know in this day and age that sounds a little out of place. There are however things that men seem to prefer on average than women. On of the biggest ones is sports. Try to enjoy a game with him be it at home or if you can secure tickets to a game even better. Make it a date but use it more as a friendship building activity. Cheer, laugh and have a good time weather you are at home or at the game try to get into it. Ask him questions to try to understand the game if you don't but not to many questions as you don't want to turn in into a class. What if you guy doesn't like sports? Well then watch and see what activities he enjoys with his friends and ask him sometime to let you enjoy it with him. Maybe he like photography, if so go with him and let him show you how to take wonderful pictures. No matter what things he likes to do try it out it doesn't mean you have to do it all the time with him but make the effort to understand it. When we think about romance we most often think of kissing and dating. Finding common interests is a very romantic and can build a relationship or make it stronger in a hurray.

Friday, June 4, 2010

Have a drink ready!

Have you ever had a time where you partner is having a bad day at work? Maybe they called you at lunch or texted you during the day to tell you how terrible of day they are having. We all have these days where nothing seems to go right and every time you turn around it seems to get worse. This is where being a kind and loving partner comes in. You can turn their day around as soon as the walk through the door. Have their favorite drink ready for them and give them a big kiss as the walk through the door. Encourage them to sit down and talk to you about their day, let them get it off their chest so that they can put it behind them. Maybe, just maybe you will make their night a little better and they can forget about the terrible day they have had. Within each and everyone of us there is the power to lift our lovers up. Be it with compassion and praise, or listening and understanding, we can turn the tides for them. Make them feel special the rest of the night, make sure to touch them often as touch is a soothing reminder of the love you have for them. If the time is right have induce a little sexual release from them and let them enjoy your wonderful love for them. We cannot change the past but we can make the present a different place.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Dress it up a little!

Romance can take all shapes and forms but usually we want it to be as comfortable as it can be. However the more comfortable we get the less likely we are to get out of that comfort. One of the things that takes a big hit is dressing up to go out to dinner or on a date with each other. We get in a habit in a relationship of feeling so comfortable that it takes over the way we dress. Soon we find ourselves looking for places to eat where we can wear or comfortable clothes and be ourselves. Think back to when you wanted to impress each other. Did you wear your loose fitting clothes or eat at the local fast food establishment? No you went someplace nice and you wore clothes to impress each other. Why don't we do that now? At least once a month you should shed those normal clothes and venture out together looking good together. Find a place that is on the higher end of your budget and doesn't have any cartoon characters or clowns. Then spend the night conversing and enjoy the sights of each other. Find something to do after dinner without dressing down. Go for a stroll or go out for a drink and keep the dressed up feel going all night.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Say something nice!

Today is the day to show your partner just how nice you can be. In turn this will also make you look romantic in her eyes. Basically all I want you to do is say something nice to everyone you meet today. It can be something simple like, "Have a wonderful day" or "Have you been losing weight" Something to brighten everyone you come in contact with day. Make this your point today and don't forget you partner. The amazing thing will be how you feel at the end of the day.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Shock them with a little nakedness.

Being naked with you partner is a great and fun time for the most part. Have you ever used being naked for it's shock value. We all expect to see our partner naked at certain times like right before a shower or when getting into bed. How many times have you walked past your partner naked in the middle of the day. Think of the shock in the mind as they are sitting watching television and you stroll through the living room naked to get a magazine or something. What would they think if they turned the corner and saw you doing the dishes naked? I have heard of women doing this during football season to get their mates attention away from the game. You can do the same thing with your email or cell phone sent them a naked picture. One word of caution here however don't put your head in the picture just incase someone else gets into their phone or email. Doing any of these activities will tell you partner that you are majorly flirting with them and that if they respond right they might get a little more that just seeing you naked.