Make Weddings a Date.

Weddings are wonderful events that just ooze with love. Take advantage of all the weddings you go to by making them more of a date. Everyone loves to see the bride as she/he emerges for the first time. There is a feeling of love by everyone at that moment in time. However the reception is the part of the wedding you can use as your date. Most often there is food and drink available as well as music and dancing. Mingling with friends and or family will can be a wonderful time. Plus at a wedding you just have to feel the love and it most likely will transfer into your feelings also. So if that euphoric feeling might hit you both hard and you remember your first date, first kiss, or your wedding day. That is a set up for a wonderful evening for the two of you. So accept each wedding invitation as a chance for the two of you to relive your firsts and make your relationship stronger.

Attend a wedding.

One of the best things you can do to renew your love for each other is attend a wedding. We always try to make excuses not to go sit through the long ceremony, however it can be refreshing and meaningful for the two of you. Seeing two other people in love will remind you how much you love each other. Plus it's a great way to have a night out without a huge expense. You get to dress up with each other and made do some dancing. The big point however is to realize how important love is. We sometimes forget in our daily life how we felt when we were the one pledging our love to each other or how special we felt with each other in the early days of our relationship. A wedding is sometimes just what the doctor ordered for an ill relationship. Plus they have cake.

Did you say thanks?

One of the things in a relationship that is forgot most often is the simple thank you. We grow use to our partner doing the things they do that we forget that they are doing them for us. Things like taking care of the children so we can get things done or changing the sheets on the bed. Once we start feeling like they should do these things because the always do, that is when we need to take a step back. Look at what your partner does, how they go the extra mile for us and if we aren't thanking them for it, are we truly being fair to them. Love is the special thing and when you love someone you don't do if for praise or appreciation, however without us seeing what they do for us it might just go away. I hear so many women say that sex becomes a chore in their relationship, but what about the chores does your mate complete tasks day in and day out? Do you think they enjoy doing the dishes or taking out the garbage for fun. They are doing it for your relationship, they are putting in their part to make your relationship flow as good as possible. Think about that next time you get upset because something wasn't done and try to remember when the last time you thanked your partner for doing whatever it is they do. I bet you don't do it nearly as much as you should.

Get your lists ready.

A good thing to do for each other at this time of year is to make a christmas list for each other. I am not talking about a list of specific things that you want but a list of several things you would like to do in your future. Things you would like to do around the holidays or traditions you would like to start. Maybe you would love to take a trip on day on Christmas to the Mexico or maybe you would love to start collecting special holiday ornaments. Jot down all the little things you think would make the holidays special, maybe watching a specific movie each year around the holidays or making a certain kind of cookie only at this time of year. Make sure you can carry any traditions into the future for when you have children or your partner becomes your spouse. This is a way to kinda play house if your not already married or in a serious relationship. It might feel funny but you might be amazed somewhere down the road when you partner remembers something you said on that day and presents you with tickets to your dream destination or brings home a special ornament for you Christmas tree you have only dreamt about. Dreaming is a large part of your relationship as long as you do it together.

Journal great events in your relationship

Journaling is a great way to remember and sort things out. Why not do this in our relationship also? You can call it a diary but for the men we will call it a journal. Jot down short notes to make you remember things as the happen in your relationship. This such as the first kiss, or experiencing something for the first time are great suggestions. You partner will be amazed when down the road you can remember things about the early part of your relationship. With each entry make sure to include the date and anything that would stand out to you. You can also include things like what both of you were wearing or if your partner looked especially nice on this evening. Write down things that make you love your partner even more, like if they help an old woman cross the street, or just playing with the kids. Then when you partner asks you "Why do you love me" you have plenty of ammo to fire at them. Unfortunately some times we forget little things that mean so much, but with journaling these memories are just a page turn away.

Let the pictures tell the story

I say I am going to do this every time we go on a trip, and by golly next time I am.

Next time you take a trip somewhere together make sure to take your camera and take pictures of everything you do. With today's digital cameras it is even easier to do then ever. Then get an album and place the pictures in order based on how you did them. If you don't do it soon after you get home you will find yourself scratching your head and wondering which event goes where. Place silly captions under each photo and label the front of the album with a specific title, such as "Trip to Italy" Then when you pull the album out in about five years you will have no problem reliving that trip or event.

This may sound silly but as we age we don't always remember things exactly as they happened. So this method will help you and your partner remember all those special times you enjoyed together. With today's advances in technology you can even perform this while you are still on vacation. You can email the photo to your house with labels already attached. If you take a laptop you can even work on the photo album while you are relaxing by the pool. So don't be like me there is no reason or excuse for not getting these memories recorded on your next trip or event.

(Special thanks to For Inspiration Only from flickr for the photo CC)

Recreating Dates

Do you have a special date that you still remember - one that stands out from most of the rest of your dates? Well, I think it is time to recreate that date. Sit down and write all the things you can remember about that special date. It might be the date your partner asked you to marry him/her or your first date. It doesn't matter. Try to remember the little things such as what songs did you hear, who did you see, were there any other people with you. Obviously, the big ones will be where did you go or at what restaurant did you eat. Sit down with all your information and start to put the events in order to the best of your recollection. You might have some challenges. It may be that the place you went for dinner is now out of business or the bar you went to is now a Starbucks. If some of these changes make it impossible to recreate the exact date, then use a substitute. If the dinner was at a pizza joint that is no longer around, just substitute another pizza place. You might want to scope out some places to find the one that most reminds you of the one from the past. Once you have all of your pieces together and places picked out it's time to ask your special someone out. Ask him/her if he/she remembers the date where you two did this and that. If he/she doesn't, don’t worry. Just tell him/her it is a date you remember, and hopefully, it will jog his/her memory once it begins. On the night of your date actually pick him/her up. You get ready first and then go drive around or something until the correct time to pick him/her up. It sounds kind of corny, but do you remember the butterflies in your stomach standing on the porch knocking on the door. Once he/she answers the door you are now back in time and on that date all over again. Enjoy it for the second time. I know some couples that have been doing this for a long time.

One that I know goes to the same restaurant, where he purposed to her, on their anniversary every year. I also know a couple that met at a concert, and whenever that band is anywhere in the area they make sure to go see them (It's great that they let some of the bands out of the old folks home long enough to put on a show or two). I have also heard of people going to sporting events to recreate dates, parks, doing the same vacations, the list goes on and on. I actually have some friends that go to the same hotel every year and even get the same room, they book it a year in advance before they check out.

This might all sound silly to some of you, but remembering your past good feelings never hurts a relationship, and this is a great way to rekindle anything you might have lost since that special date.