Making it easier to be apart.

There are times in our relationships when we have to be apart for extended periods of time. These are not easy on our relationships. It is important to express you love before you leave for this time apart. Think of it as making up in advance for lost time. You have to look at it as trying to fit part of your relationship that you are going to miss into the time frame before you leave. For example if you normally have a date night every Friday night then you need to try to slip in two date nights the week before you leave. Same goes for sex you need to put a little extra effort into your intimacy before you leave. This makes the leaving easier on the partner staying home because it shows that you are going to miss the time together, also. Then the same thing goes for when you get back, which always seems a little easier. Your relationship shouldn't have to suffer because you have to be gone. Doing it right can build your relationship stronger. Being apart allows you to have some alone time and it also can build desire as you anticipate the return home. Use the time apart as a building exercise instead of a absence.

Did you say thanks?

One of the things in a relationship that is forgot most often is the simple thank you. We grow use to our partner doing the things they do that we forget that they are doing them for us. Things like taking care of the children so we can get things done or changing the sheets on the bed. Once we start feeling like they should do these things because the always do, that is when we need to take a step back. Look at what your partner does, how they go the extra mile for us and if we aren't thanking them for it, are we truly being fair to them. Love is the special thing and when you love someone you don't do if for praise or appreciation, however without us seeing what they do for us it might just go away. I hear so many women say that sex becomes a chore in their relationship, but what about the chores does your mate complete tasks day in and day out? Do you think they enjoy doing the dishes or taking out the garbage for fun. They are doing it for your relationship, they are putting in their part to make your relationship flow as good as possible. Think about that next time you get upset because something wasn't done and try to remember when the last time you thanked your partner for doing whatever it is they do. I bet you don't do it nearly as much as you should.

Great Quotes.

"The deepest principle in human nature

is the craving to be appreciated"

William James

This quote rings so true we all enjoy doing for our partner but is all lost if it is not appreciated. Sure we are suppose to do these things out of kindness and not expecting a return. True love is a give and take commitment by two people. You do not go into a relationship with the expectation that you will be the only one showing love nor do you go in expecting not to put any effort into the relationship. Appreciation is the payment for all you do for your partner. Appreciation cannot be measured like money but it is the most valuable return on your investment of love.