Did you say thanks?

One of the things in a relationship that is forgot most often is the simple thank you. We grow use to our partner doing the things they do that we forget that they are doing them for us. Things like taking care of the children so we can get things done or changing the sheets on the bed. Once we start feeling like they should do these things because the always do, that is when we need to take a step back. Look at what your partner does, how they go the extra mile for us and if we aren't thanking them for it, are we truly being fair to them. Love is the special thing and when you love someone you don't do if for praise or appreciation, however without us seeing what they do for us it might just go away. I hear so many women say that sex becomes a chore in their relationship, but what about the chores does your mate complete tasks day in and day out? Do you think they enjoy doing the dishes or taking out the garbage for fun. They are doing it for your relationship, they are putting in their part to make your relationship flow as good as possible. Think about that next time you get upset because something wasn't done and try to remember when the last time you thanked your partner for doing whatever it is they do. I bet you don't do it nearly as much as you should.

Great Quotes.

"The deepest principle in human nature

is the craving to be appreciated"

William James

This quote rings so true we all enjoy doing for our partner but is all lost if it is not appreciated. Sure we are suppose to do these things out of kindness and not expecting a return. True love is a give and take commitment by two people. You do not go into a relationship with the expectation that you will be the only one showing love nor do you go in expecting not to put any effort into the relationship. Appreciation is the payment for all you do for your partner. Appreciation cannot be measured like money but it is the most valuable return on your investment of love.

Do something new!

Today is a great day to try something new for the two of you. It can be anything as long as it is something you normally don't do. You could go to a museum, or an art gallery as a way of broadening you artistic appreciation. Find a place near your town that neither of you have ever been to and go check out what it offers. This activity helps build adventure in your life and by putting adventure in your life you will make a stronger connection between the two of you. Other things you can look for might be things at your local college, they seem to always have something going on that is most likely out of your normal range. Pick up the paper and look at the entertainment section and find different events that might be going on around you. Things like ethnic festivals, specific trade shows, or even collectible or antique shows. The most important part is that you experience whatever you do together.

When is the last time you really checked to see how much your partner does for you!

As in most relationships, we tend to expect the normal routine from our partner. If they do the laundry we expect that they will do it all the time, if they make dinner we are at the table with silverware in hand ready to eat. The only time we acknowledge our partner in this regard is when they don't help out in the normal way. Then our reaction is usually one of anger accompanied by yelling or unkind words. Are you one of those people that expect your partner to do things, how often do you thank them for the things they do to help out your relationship or family. I am sure that most of us can do a better job in the appreciation category. There are many ways to thank your mate for the things they do and they can be very simple. Things like do you wait on them to sit down before you start eating dinner, or saying, "Wow, the house looks great you must have spend hours cleaning it", or you can even just kiss them and say that is for the clean socks honey. Mix it up a little and go over the top from time to time to show them that you really do appreciate it. Do things like while eating a wonderful dinner they made slip them a note that says "This dinner is so good, I think I will make hot passionate love to you later tonight as a tip" or maybe after doing gardening or yard work you can get them in a shower and wash their hair for them. Showing appreciation is a lot form of art in relationships today and it is up to us to help bring it back to the forefront. Next time your partner takes care of the kids so you can nap, offer to give them a massage later in return, or if they have to miss work to take care of your sick child tell them to call up some friends and have a lunch date this weekend. Relationships are about helping each other out, not helping ourselves. Love is a powerful tool if used correctly, and appreciation in part of that power.

Award your partner. (Click Here for Awards)

Does your partner deserve an award? I think if you look at your relationship, you will find something that your partner does great. When you find it reward her is a special loving cup. In the title line of this post is a link to a trophy place that has awards for as little as $5. Once you have found just the right award then have it engraved to show your partner your appreciation. Some suggestions might be "Awarded to the person who makes me laugh", "Presented to the person who puts up with my collection of beer cans" or "1st Place winner of all my love". Make it personal and make it a big deal when you present it to her. I don't think you need to call the media, but maybe a little applauds from you would be nice.