Romance is for Sissies.

This past year I have been promoting romance as a means to improve your relationship. Well I now feel differently, romance is for sissies. Anyone that would be involved with trying to be super nice to their partner should be locked up. Why would you do great things for your partner and expect nothing in return? This sounds like something that some lunatic made up. I am hear to tell you today that if you don't know that it is April Fools day, you do now!!!! Romance is my life and love so take it to heart and happy April Fools day.

The simple way to be romantic!

The easiest way to be romantic is to use your eyes to look deep into someone's eyes. You might think that doesn't work but try it sometime. Right before you kiss your love look into their eyes as if you are looking at something deep inside them. Then after the kiss do the same thing. Now did you feel any connection there if not then you are not doing it right. Searching someone's passion starts with the look in their eye. Not only will this have an effect on you but your partner will notice and feel the power also. Using your deep look you will gain a better understanding of how your partner loves you as you pear into their soul.

We hit our one year anniversary.

Just letting you know that Romantic Antics Blog is now one year old. Hitting mile stones is a great reason to celebrate. Just as in your relationships make sure to make a big deal about your achievements. Starting out working of this blog I was worried about having enough content to make it a month but look at us hitting one year. The content just keeps coming and and coming just as in our daily lives we take what life throws at us and we go on. I would love to make a living helping people create the best relationships possible. I would also love to hear from you are viewers and tap into your thoughts and subjects you would like to hear about. Drop us a line at romanticantics@gmail.com and let us know what is on your mind.

Great Quotes.

"The deepest principle in human nature

is the craving to be appreciated"

William James

This quote rings so true we all enjoy doing for our partner but is all lost if it is not appreciated. Sure we are suppose to do these things out of kindness and not expecting a return. True love is a give and take commitment by two people. You do not go into a relationship with the expectation that you will be the only one showing love nor do you go in expecting not to put any effort into the relationship. Appreciation is the payment for all you do for your partner. Appreciation cannot be measured like money but it is the most valuable return on your investment of love.

Love thy self!

When we think of romance we think of doing kind things for the person we love. Sending them flowers, giving them massages, hand in hand walks and passionate love making fill our heads when we think about romance. I want to tell you that by loving yourself you are setting up the romance in your life to become way more better. When we are comfortable with who and what we are we give of a confidence that is like a drug to others. They catch on to the feeling and want and desire to have it for themselves. I am not talking about conceit I am talking about honest to goodness feeling good about yourself. Conceit is trying to show everyone how great you are while loving yourself is an content within yourself. These people that love themselves are never alone and have tons of energy to give to creating romance in their lives. It might sound a little crazy but to get the most out of your romance make sure to love yourself first. If you find trouble doing this make a list of all your characteristics that you think others find appealing to you and read them often to confirm the reasons why you lover yourself. You are a special person and someone somewhere will see that in you also.

Flowers with a twist.

For those of you that love to send flowers, women applaud you. However their biggest gripe about this is that flowers don't last and they are not like memories, you don't think about them later on in life. A good alternative is the new fruit bouquet that incorporates tasty fruit into flower shapes. Then they are put on sticks so they can be arranged like your everyday flower arrangement. This is a great idea if you are sending the item to your partner at work or a party that way all the items will not go to waste. Everyone will also know where the person got such a tasty treat giving you even more brownie points.

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Save thing for sentimental gifts later.

One thing you should get in the habit of doing is saving things that might be really sentimental later on in your relationship. These little reminders of the past work well as presents during the future. Some of the things I have saved and given as a gift are, the movie tickets from our first date, a flyer from the cruise we got married on and our first email conversations that I printed out before even our first date. At the time these didn't seem like important little tit bits but when you present them to your partner on your 5th year wedding anniversary they seem a little more important. Pictures can also be helpful so take lots of pictures when you do anything together. Other things I can think of that would make great gifts are: pregnancy tests from a child (great for a graduation present for your partner), the recorded version of a song that you first dance to, or some momentous of your first trip together. Heck you could even take a picture of the two of you each time you have an anniversary and then each year give it as a present as you add another picture to it. Memories are so precious to us and the simplest thing can remind us of the great times we have had.

Olive Oil - the wonder oil.

We so often focus on the mind and body when we want to increase passion in our life. Sometimes we forget that what we put into our bodies also has a effect on the outcome. Olive Oil is one of the items that we can put into our body that will benefit our passion. Olive Oil helps our blood flow better which leads to better erections and genital stimulation in both male and female partners. Consuming Olive Oil also helps your overall health, which in turn helps your passion thrive. Think about it, if you feel better, you are going to want to do things you might not other wise. When picking an Olive Oil search for the virgin or extra virgin varieties as they have more of the items in them that are good for you. This might seem a little weird but you can also use Olive Oil as a lubricant. Many people swear by this practice and claim that the natural ingredients are much better then the ones that are made in the lab. You can also use the Olive Oil as a massage oil and it is great for your skin and hair. Just make sure to either cover your sheets or use ones that you don't care if they get stained. Now the next time you are in the store tell your partner you want to pick up something that will help improve your romance. Then watch their reactions as you head to the cooking oils section.

Make the most of your time apart to make your time together enjoyable.

When you are in love and apart thing don't seem to go right. However, you should use this time to enjoy the things you normally did before you were in a relationship. No I don't mean go out looking for dates. I mean hang with your buddies or perform an activity or hobby that you have fun doing. By doing this you take your mind off your partner and it gives you space to breath and be an individual. This way when the two of you meet up again the electricity will create those sparks that you both love between the two of you. Relationships are tricky and finding just the right amount of time to be together is a trial and error process. Give yourself room to grow and flourish and your partner will desire you more. Just make sure you don't over due it, not having time for your relationship is just as bad as never being apart. A happy relationship has a great balance of the two. With that balance you also get to very happy people in a relationship.

Do something new!

Today is a great day to try something new for the two of you. It can be anything as long as it is something you normally don't do. You could go to a museum, or an art gallery as a way of broadening you artistic appreciation. Find a place near your town that neither of you have ever been to and go check out what it offers. This activity helps build adventure in your life and by putting adventure in your life you will make a stronger connection between the two of you. Other things you can look for might be things at your local college, they seem to always have something going on that is most likely out of your normal range. Pick up the paper and look at the entertainment section and find different events that might be going on around you. Things like ethnic festivals, specific trade shows, or even collectible or antique shows. The most important part is that you experience whatever you do together.

Being sexual without having sex.

I have heard it way to many times from couples. One partner is never in the mood as much as the other. With this problem we have to look a little deeper into our sexual being. You have to broaden your horizon on what constitutes sex. The partner that is desiring sex, shouldn't be left out in the cold just because the other partner doesn't have any desire on this day. The two of you need to work out some arrangements to meet both partners needs without either one of them feeling neglected or forced into anything. There are several forms of sex that one can perform on another without the actual sex happening between the two. Oral sex, hand jobs, and several other ways to get the person that desires the sex off is a great alternative. Masturbation is another get way to share without both of you having to participate fully. Let the partner who is urning for sex masturbate while the other partner watches and touches them. Make comments how how sexy it is and encourage them to talk also. The partner that is not in the mood might just change their mind as the event of masturbation is occurring. The in this point is to respect the other persons right to their feelings. Just because you are not in the mood doesn't mean that they have to not be in the mood also. With a little give and take you will soon find a happy place that makes both of you feel like your relationship is sexy and strong.

Nothing like being creative to get your romantic juices flowing.

Do you have an artistic side? If so does it make you feel passionate when you create a work or piece of art. Whether it is writing, painting, sculpting, woodwork, or even cooking being creative is essential to being passionate. The feeling and love you put into that work of art, only builds up in your relationship. Creating a lasting relationship is like being artistic, you have to use your imagination and all the tools at your disposal to create your masterpiece relationship. Next time you are working hard on your hobby or creative side try to channel some of that energy into your relationship. You might just find that your creative process is an aphrodisiac for your relationship.

Today is a great day to have sex!

We so often put things off and sex is one of the most put off things in a relationship. Why? It can make you feel good and can help you sleep better when done on a regular basis. There are also chemicals released during sex that helps your body feel better. The old adage of "Not tonight I have a headache" is so sill being that it is proven the sex and help improve headaches. There are so many studies on the benefits of sex that I don't understand the reason people avoid it. Today is the day to start improving not only your relationship but your health also.

Waiting up

Do you have a night when your partner gets home late? If so this is a great time to surprise them by staying up to spend a little time with them. Most people that have to either work or stay out late cannot just come home and jump into bed to fall asleep. A nice gesture would be to surprise them by being up to spend some time with them. Have a great conversation, play a game, watch some late night television or you could even be waiting with some sexy intentions in mind to show them how much you care about them. You don't have to do this every night but once in a while will get your partner rushing home to see if there might be a chance you will still be up to enjoy their company.

Video the two of you.

There is no time like the present to get started making a little video of the two of you for memories sake. Think about it how much you change in a year or 10 years or 20. Take a little video of the two of you each and every year on your anniversary and compile this video footage into a montage. Think about how wonderful it will be on your 50th wedding anniversary to see all the clips in order. Do something similar in each video weather you kiss, talk about things or do something silly. This will make a great memory for the two of you but for all the people who's lives you touch. As time goes by you will be glad you did this, it is a wonderful way to remember how we were.

Time your foreplay!

Society today is so rushed. It seems like we rush from one thing to another. If you have kids then you add at least twice as much running into your schedule and usually more. Unfortunately we are also rushing in the bedroom. Our sex is hurried so that we can get to sleep and get up to start this cycle all over again.

Well it is time to break this cycle. I want the two of you to slow it down a little in your bedroom. Let's not rush the most passionate area in our relationship. This may sound a little silly but I want you to get one of those kitchen timers that dings when time is up. Now before you are ready for intimacy I want you to set it for at least 30 minutes. This is the amount of time I want you to spend on foreplay before intercourse takes place. No penetration can happen until the ding sounds on the timer. Spend time touching, kissing and licking each other up into a frenzy believe me this might seem a little strange at first but once the ding sounds and the actual intercourse starts you will be thanking me. The extra time spend stimulating each other will make your sex better then ever.

Now you might need to brush up a little on your foreplay. You don't want to spend 30 minutes just playing with nipples. Branch out and find the many erogenous zones on your partners body. Stroke different areas of the body and let your partner touch you in places you normal avoid. Experiment with the anus is has wonderful sensations for both men and women. Combine areas to create different sensations. Lick one area while you stimulate another area with your hands. I hope that this 30 minutes of foreplay will soon become a staple in your love making.

Feeling needed!

A wonderful feeling that accompanies romance is the feeling of being needed or helpful. Have you even felt this emotion? It can bring your soul up from the depths of dispare and make you feel like an important part of life. Now how can we work this feeling into romance? Thing about it can you make your partner feel needed, are there things in your life that it would be helpful if your partner participated in them. We all have a power struggle that makes us want to take care of everything yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to help you do your taxes, or help you figure out the best exercises to be doing. The point of these things is to make them feel like not only you want them but that you need them in your life. There is not a single soul out there that doesn't like to know that they are needed. What better person in your life to express that to you than you partner. Sure both of you could live without the other person that is not the point and we don't want you to give up your Independence. We just want you to show your partner that they are important to you and not just an accessory in your life.

Last Chance.

Today is your last chance to get that perfect Valentine's day gift. The way the economy is now I totally understand if you don't have enough money to go out and purchase an expensive present. So if that is the case then you have to use your mind. Believe me, your partner will understand your financial woes and a heart felt gift is just as meaning full as anything when you are in financial straights. Some ideas might be fixing a candle light dinner, breakfast in bed, coupons for chores around the house, homemade card filled with your feelings, Renting a romantic movie and a bottle of cheap wine, a promise to do something later once your finances are in better shape, or even just a simple night of passion doing all the things your partner likes. It may sound silly but I thing these ideas show a lot more love then just going out a buying the most expensive thing you can find. Have a great Valentine's Day everyone and let me know any fun and exciting things you do to show your love for your partner. Drop me a line at romantincantics@gmail.com and fill me in.

A heart shaped breakfast of Valentine's Day.

What better way to kick off your Valentine's Day then to create some heart shaped foods for you partner. Pancakes, toast, waffles, and many others items can be shaped into hearts to make your Valentine's Day breakfast a winner. At this time of year you can find heart shaped cutters anywhere and at the same time you can find Valentine themed plates and cups, also. These items can help set the mood even better for a breakfast in bed bonanza. If you partner will only eat cereal for breakfast you can pick up a heart shaped bowl for their morning milk and cereal fix. Since Valentine's Day is on a Sunday this year most of you will have a little extra time to get your breakfast ready. Enjoy your Valentine's Day and your love this year, it's a wonderful thing to celebrate.

Supe Bowl - Super Romantic Dish

Two things that go hand in hand are the Super Bowl and some great food. Everyone that prepares food for a Super Bowl party has a special dish that they like to make. Today is the day to show off your skills to your sweetheart. Don't just pick an easy dish to make, like nachos or hot dogs. Pick something out of the ordinary, today for instance I am making my special Stromboli with pie crusts and filled with sausage, sauce and cheese. This will most certainly impress your partner and show them that you have many talents besides being a great partner. One thing you want to make sure of is that you plan out your meal so that you won't be cooking during the game. You want the food to be ready for the two of you to enjoy during the game without missing a minute of the game. Today is also the day that the most junk is ate, so break that tradition and find healthy alternatives to snack and eat on. Remember the Super Bowl is like Christmas it only comes around once a year. Make the most of it and make it a event to remember.