let em sleep in!

Somedays you are just not ready to wake up. Your partner might feel the same way sometimes. Sundays are the best day to do this and as a kind jester slip out of bed quietly and let your partner get some extra snooze time in. Believe me they will appreciate it more than you laying there tossing and turning. Your partner will require stillness that you can give if you are in the bed awake. You could even start the coffee or breakfast for them to wake up to. Being a great partner calls for you sometimes to give your partner the space they need. Being able to stretch out in bed is a great start to creating that space.

The drums have it.

Next time it is time to get a little frisky try to find a drum beat that is a little tribal. Pick out something from Hawaii or Africa and let your imagination run wild while you enjoy the rhythmic beat of the drums and let your love making get in tune with the beats. You might just find it a spiritual practice in itself.

Quote for the day

"Love can take you places you have never been, without ever leaving your home."

- Zob

The Nipple is the Clitoris of the breast.

Here is some timely tips for playing with breasts. Most everyone wants to dive in and attack the nipple. This can cause the recipient to pull away as the sensation might be to much. You have to treat the nipple like you do the clitoris and work your way up to it. Start by massaging around the larger part of the breast slowly. The underneath of the breast is a great place to start, because this area usually doesn't get much attention. Kiss all these areas and make it a point to leave the nipple out of the equation for a while. The nipple will begin to become erect as it gets closer to wanting your attention. Play with the other areas of the breast as a way of teasing the nipple. Anticipation is the key here make the recipient want you to play with their nipples by making them erect without touching them. Then when you finally get to the point of proceeding to the nipple you both will be ready and excited as the hard nipples touches your lips.

Romance can happen at the most unromantic times.

Never count out romance it can spring up at any time or place. I have some of the most unusual times to be the most romantic in my life. For instance climbing up diamond head crater in Hawaii was a long and physically demanding hike but when we got to the top the view was amazing and sharing it with my partner was the best. Other time come when you have to deal with difficult situations, like bankruptcy or death in the family. The fact that the other partner is strong for both of you is one hell of a romantic statement. If you just watch a little you will see romance all around you. Simple things like your partner asks if you would like something to drink or just stops to help you sort the laundry. We always want the fireworks and big show in our romance but sometimes we miss the opening acts. Those opening acts are sometimes pretty good.

Scratch like a cat.

When we think of romantic things we can do for our partner via touch the first thing that pops into mind is a massage. You might think of light touching or caressing the skin to bring goose bumps. While these are perfectly fine, sometimes you need to whip out your claws and give them a good scratching. I am not talking about breaking the skin but running your nails over their back can feel exhilarating to him/her. Scratching will stimulate the skin in a different way and get rid of any itches that your partner might have. Besides the back there are many other areas that can benefit from a good scratch. Scratching your partners rear end or scalp are two that come to mind but any where that you partner has skin that is not to sensitive is a great place to scratch. For a tantalizing time rotate scratching with light caressing, by changing up the sensation you partner will get a rush like waves lapping the beach.

Touch is right up there with food, water and shelter.

Touch is very under rated in life. While we need food, water, and shelter to actually life and not die. Touch is as important to your relationship. If you are not touching you are missing and necessary area of your love. Words are easy to say but you can't fake a loving touch. That gentle and soft touch that says I am here for you or comforts you at night is a desire that everyone longs for. Make it a point today to touch each other more often you might find it very pleasurable. When we touch we share our energy with our partner and the charge we get out of it can propel us through our day with a passion that only a loving touch can bring. Reach out and give your love through touch.

Say something nice!

Today is the day to show your partner just how nice you can be. In turn this will also make you look romantic in her eyes. Basically all I want you to do is say something nice to everyone you meet today. It can be something simple like, "Have a wonderful day" or "Have you been losing weight" Something to brighten everyone you come in contact with day. Make this your point today and don't forget you partner. The amazing thing will be how you feel at the end of the day.

The slightest touch can mean so much.

Touch is one of the things that most people desire. We want to feel that warmth of another human being putting their hands on us. The touch of a child is also very therapeutic with in their innocents. Even the slightest touches can mean so much to your partner. Think about how comforting the simplest of touches can be. When you touch feet in bed at night says I am here for you. The touches that just happen without warning like when you just brush each other as you pass. The soft caress on your arm as you are sitting together. The tingles that are sent up and down your body with the excitement of these touches is a joy that everyone should feel. Brushing away your partners hair as you look in their eyes or even just the touch of when you have to get something in front of them, says so much in a relationship. You hands are a wonderful tool for showing and expressing your love, so touch and enjoy.

Time for some water fun.

As we are starting to see some hot weather as we enter summer their is one way for sure to cool off. Any thing to do with water can be romantic and fun. Going to the beach, relaxing at the pool, breaking out the slip and slide, or even squirt gun fights can all be a way of being romantic while cooling off. Water is sexy, and if you don't believe me just think about this, how hot does your partner look when they just get out of the shower? Plus, normally when you are around water you wear less clothing, hence you get to see more of your loves skin. Swimming is a wonderful way to exercise with out the pounding on your body and the getting wet then drying off is a wonderful sensation for you skin. There are so many things to do around or in the water that you can't help but think is it because we are made up of so much water that we feel comfortable around and in the water. Squirt gun fights can be a wonderful means of foreplay the might end up with you soaked and naked! I think you can figure out what to do after that. Got out on the next hot day and plan on getting soaked, and romantic.

Skin on Skin

One of the most romantic feelings is when you touch your partner skin to skin. For me the rear end is on of the best skin places to touch. It is soft and sexy and is one of those areas that you don't just see all the time. This makes the butt a wonderful area to feel and view. Now here is a question for you. How often do the two of you touch rear ends not with your hands but butt to butt. Think about it why not see how it feels you both most likely desire to touch the others butt. So why not see how it feels. Skin on skin no underwear, use it as foreplay or just as a fun activity to try. Who knows where it will lead and what will happen but if nothing else you can never say you haven't done it before. THE (rear)END

Change your kissing position.

Well all know that changing sexual positions can improve your sex life. Have you thought that even changing angles and positions for kissing each other could do the same? Everyone I know kisses straight forward lip to lip and they don't think anything else about it. However if you change your angle or position from which you kiss it makes it much more different. The feel the approach gives kissing a much more exciting feel. Think about it kissing your partner on the neck or them leaning back into you to kiss your lips as you stand behind them. Enjoy how different their lips feel against yours in these different positions. Holding the person becomes a different experience also now you hands are not hanging out on their back you can explore the front of their body and see where your hands might lead you. In the Karma Sutra you see the drawings of people doing backbends and all sort of other positions to kiss and more. Try it out what can it hurt, just make sure you stretch before you try a pulled muscle really takes the wind out of your sail.

Meditate together!

Want a romantic way to spend time together that will help you overall health and prosperity? Look into mediation, their are several different practices of this form of improvement. You have to just pick the one that works the best for you. There are practices that focus on breathing, some that focus on touch and even some that focus on removing your spirit from your earthly body. I cannot pick the one that will work the best for you. What I am here to tell you is that doing this activity together can build your relationship. Spend 5 to 15 minutes a day together in silence, listen to each other breath get your hearts in rhythm and enjoy the actual process of being together. No touching, no kissing, just letting your love float around the two of you will do wonders for your relationship. Start you journey today even if you don't know anything about meditation, just spend quiet non-verbal time together. Then start researching on how to make this practice better by using different techniques.

Love thy self!

When we think of romance we think of doing kind things for the person we love. Sending them flowers, giving them massages, hand in hand walks and passionate love making fill our heads when we think about romance. I want to tell you that by loving yourself you are setting up the romance in your life to become way more better. When we are comfortable with who and what we are we give of a confidence that is like a drug to others. They catch on to the feeling and want and desire to have it for themselves. I am not talking about conceit I am talking about honest to goodness feeling good about yourself. Conceit is trying to show everyone how great you are while loving yourself is an content within yourself. These people that love themselves are never alone and have tons of energy to give to creating romance in their lives. It might sound a little crazy but to get the most out of your romance make sure to love yourself first. If you find trouble doing this make a list of all your characteristics that you think others find appealing to you and read them often to confirm the reasons why you lover yourself. You are a special person and someone somewhere will see that in you also.

Romance is not just a job it's an adventure.

Being romantic is part of being in a relationship. Think about it you didn't even have to try and you were being romantic at the start of your relationship. Why, then, do we have to change that feeling once we have been in a relationship for a bit of time. Why do we stop opening doors, jumping into our partners arms, spend time kissing are all things that at the beginning of our relationship we didn't even thing about, we just did them. Why then do they fall by the wayside once our relationship is established. Think about how happy you were at the start of this relationship and think about your state of happiness now. I am sure you will say that your were happier when you first started dating your partner. This is because we put focus and energy into this new relationship and we get back what we put out. Does that sound right to you! it does to me. With the passing of time we forget to put that energy into our relationship and thus we expect nothing out of it. To improve your relationship you need to start by looking at yourself and getting your focus back on your relationship.

Being sexual without having sex.

I have heard it way to many times from couples. One partner is never in the mood as much as the other. With this problem we have to look a little deeper into our sexual being. You have to broaden your horizon on what constitutes sex. The partner that is desiring sex, shouldn't be left out in the cold just because the other partner doesn't have any desire on this day. The two of you need to work out some arrangements to meet both partners needs without either one of them feeling neglected or forced into anything. There are several forms of sex that one can perform on another without the actual sex happening between the two. Oral sex, hand jobs, and several other ways to get the person that desires the sex off is a great alternative. Masturbation is another get way to share without both of you having to participate fully. Let the partner who is urning for sex masturbate while the other partner watches and touches them. Make comments how how sexy it is and encourage them to talk also. The partner that is not in the mood might just change their mind as the event of masturbation is occurring. The in this point is to respect the other persons right to their feelings. Just because you are not in the mood doesn't mean that they have to not be in the mood also. With a little give and take you will soon find a happy place that makes both of you feel like your relationship is sexy and strong.

Feeling needed!

A wonderful feeling that accompanies romance is the feeling of being needed or helpful. Have you even felt this emotion? It can bring your soul up from the depths of dispare and make you feel like an important part of life. Now how can we work this feeling into romance? Thing about it can you make your partner feel needed, are there things in your life that it would be helpful if your partner participated in them. We all have a power struggle that makes us want to take care of everything yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to help you do your taxes, or help you figure out the best exercises to be doing. The point of these things is to make them feel like not only you want them but that you need them in your life. There is not a single soul out there that doesn't like to know that they are needed. What better person in your life to express that to you than you partner. Sure both of you could live without the other person that is not the point and we don't want you to give up your Independence. We just want you to show your partner that they are important to you and not just an accessory in your life.

Feeling comfortable

Feeling comfortable in a relationship is one of the most under rated feelings that people miss out on. We go into relationship trying to be the perfect person and making the person we are trying to attract think that we don't have any flaws. In doing this we set ourself up to not be as comfortable in the beginning as we would like to be. We live under these false pretenses believing that we can keep it up the through out the relationship. Finally as some point you have to break down and show that you are not this perfect person that you have been trying to convince your partner you are. When you feel comfortable in your relationship this isn't hard, you have open communication and it is easy to express your feelings and admit your problems. On the other hand if you are uncomfortable with the communication admitting these issues is a bit more hard. My suggestion to anyone getting into a relationship is to be as close to yourself as you can and make sure the person you are trying to attract likes the real you. You don't what them to find out down the road of issues that might make your relationship tense. Relax as you go out on those first few dates and show your new flame how you really are, not only will they appreciate it but you can rest assured that you won't have to live behind a mask.

Slip your partner some lucky money!

We all have times when we just need something good to happen to make us feel a little better. Have you ever found money in a pocket,when you put on a coat or pair of jeans you haven't worn in a while. Well I want you to create that feeling for your partner. It doesn't have to be a lot of money maybe even five bucks but if you can find a way to slip it into their pocket before they put their clothes on you might just start their day off on the right foot. I know the first thing I say when I find money in a pocket I didn't expect is, "Wow this must be going to be a lucky day" Now my whole attitude for the day has been changes with this simple act of finding unexpected money. Imagine how you could pick up your partners spirits if they are not excited about the day ahead. The only thing you can't do is tell them you placed it there, that would do just the opposite and most likely get a negative reaction. There are many other ways to accomplish this goal, such as putting a little cash in a book they are reading, slip it into their wallet, lay in on the floor board of their car, or simply lay it in their path. This simply action will make you feel good inside and it is a secret you can keep with yourself. This also is handy if your partner needs money for something right away, just tell them to wish for it and see what happens, just don't you get caught with your hand in the pocket.

Time to practice your touching.

This is the time of year of extra clothing and not much skin showing. Which also means that you don't touch each other as much, at least on the skin as you do during the warmer months of the year. With this said you have to take full advantage of touching when you get a chance. Whenever you snuggle up together under a blanket make sure to find your partners skin and caress it (make sure you hands are warm, first) Make it a point to give each other massages and use lotion to chase away dry skin that is ever present during this time of year. Make sure to touch areas of their skin that is exposed even it is not a normal place you touch, places like the face or ankles give a deeper meaning to touch.

Touch is an important part of our relationships. It keeps us close to our partner it gives us that feeling of confidence and empowerment in the fact that someone cares about us.