Enjoy a Happy Sex Life

Stay Healthy and Enjoy a Happy Sex Life

By Karen Fickler

Women's fitness and healthy living can offer many benefits for your physical and mental health. But did you know that a healthy lifestyle may be the key to promoting a happy sex life? The better you feel physically the more likely it is that you will be healthy enough for sex. Building your muscles, especially your pelvic floor muscles actually helps to improve the functions of your sexual organs.

Nutrition is nature's medicine. Begin with a healthy diet of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, proteins and healthy fats. Overeating, especially foods that are high in saturated fats, leads to high blood cholesterol and obesity, both major causes of cardiovascular disease and diabetes. This can mean your body is not healthy enough for sex.

Sex is good for you. When women's estrogen levels drop at menopause, the vaginal walls lose some of their elasticity. It's possible to slow this process or even reverse it through sexual activity. Sex is your vagina's women's fitness program.

Exercise promotes healthy sex: Regular aerobic activity, Pilates, Yoga and strength training exercises all promote women's fitness and may help to improve your sex life. Exercise helps the cardio system and aids in flexibility and stamina to help you enjoy better sex for a longer time.

If your sex life is still lacking, you might try these helpful hints:

Get out of the bedroom. Maybe you've never had sex on the kitchen floor or in a secluded spot in the woods; now might be the time to try it. Or try exploring erotic books and films. Even just the feeling of naughtiness you get from checking out an X-rated movie at the local video store might make you feel frisky.

Sensuality counts. Create an environment for lovemaking that appeals to all five of your senses. Light scented candles, cover your bed with silk or satin for a sensual touch. Play music that you both enjoy, buy flowers and place in a lovely vase. Make your bedroom a special place to make love.

Be playful. Take a bubble bath together or even a shower. Being wet and naked together is a great lead-in to sex. Wash each other's backs. Tickle. Laugh. Enjoy.

Let your imagination soar. Be creative by varying your activity. For example, if you're used to making love on Saturday morning, choose Sunday morning instead. Have sex in the middle of the week. Be open to different positions and new activities. Try sex toys and purchase sexy lingerie.

Be romantic. Surprise each other with flowers when it isn't a special occasion. Plan a day when all you do is lie in bed, talk, and be intimate. Leave sweet messages on each other's cell phones. Tell your lover how special he is and how much you love him.

Karen Ficarelli is the founder and CEO of Fitness4Her.com, a diet, exercise program and women's fitness blog, developed especially for women. A mother of three, Karen knows how hard it is to fit everything into a busy schedule. A fitness author, personal trainer, Pilate's instructor, sports nutritionist, fitness model, wife and mom, Karen is passionate about helping other women reach their fitness goals.

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Sometimes you just have to do nothing at all!

Everyone has those days when you just don't feel great or you might be a little depressed. These are the days you don't want to do your normal routine. You don't want to work out, you don't want to mess with cleaning the kitchen you just want to wallow in your sorrows. Most people might think this is not a healthy activity. I feel like a little bit of this is good for you it keeps you grounded. Now if this is happening everyday you might need to seek some help. One day of this is not going to drive you over the edge. Take the time and do nothing at all, watch some bad television and just hang out together. Don't analyze what is going on just take time to reflect. Think of the good things in your life as you are dealing with the bad, the theory behind this is that once you start thinking of the good things the bad won't seem that bad. I remember a particular tough time in my life where I found myself in a lawyers office. I was depressed and sad about the things going on and I remember my lawyer telling me, "Everything is going to be all right" Then he went on to say "I lost my daughter last week in a car accident, now that is something to mourn for" That statement hit me like a ton of bricks and it really got me understanding how to put things in perspective. Don't make a habit of it but embrace the times you don't feel great and happy and then reflect on them and see that they are really most likely not as bad as they are making you feel.

Encourage Education.

One sure way to show someone how much you care about them is to encourage their education. Find out what they have interest in and encourage them to learn more about it. It doesn't have to be a full fledged college class. Maybe a course on photography or a dance class what ever their interest you can find a course or class somewhere to suit their desires. Now you can't just be supportive when they start their learning process you have to stay interested in what they are learning. Let them tell you what they are learning and if you have interest in the subject you might learn some new things too. Listen intently and try to understand their passion in this subject and be their biggest supporter. Now if you have a desire to learn about something do it also and share with them. Learning will never dampen your relationship and you both will be better off having the most knowledge you can. Pure love will flow from your heart when you mind is happy so educate and stimulate.

Romance is not just a job it's an adventure.

Being romantic is part of being in a relationship. Think about it you didn't even have to try and you were being romantic at the start of your relationship. Why, then, do we have to change that feeling once we have been in a relationship for a bit of time. Why do we stop opening doors, jumping into our partners arms, spend time kissing are all things that at the beginning of our relationship we didn't even thing about, we just did them. Why then do they fall by the wayside once our relationship is established. Think about how happy you were at the start of this relationship and think about your state of happiness now. I am sure you will say that your were happier when you first started dating your partner. This is because we put focus and energy into this new relationship and we get back what we put out. Does that sound right to you! it does to me. With the passing of time we forget to put that energy into our relationship and thus we expect nothing out of it. To improve your relationship you need to start by looking at yourself and getting your focus back on your relationship.

Practice that New Years Eve Kiss

Want to get the New Years Eve kiss just right? Well the only way to perfection is through practice. To get enough practice in you need to ask for a practice kiss several times during the day today. That what you will primed and ready as the clock strikes midnight tonight. Happy New Year everyone out there that is romantic.

Negative People

You know that person that is always a bummer. They never have anything good to say. They are always in a bad mood. Well you need to distance yourself from that person. Being around such negativity only make you feel bad. Emotions are contagious, think about it if your around someone that is bubbly you can't help but smiling and feeling good. The same works for those grumpy people. They will bring you down even if you are in a good mood. I have learned to turn off listening to these people that make you feel bad. When they spit out grumpy things from their mouths, I just say "I am so sorry you feel that way" I do not let it effect my mood because life is way to short to be grumpy. So how does this relate to romance? Be in a good mood when around your partner, remember it is contagious. Make it your mission to effect them with your happiness.

Make your meal a Happy Meal.

Remember way back when and the excitement you had as a kid when you would get a happy meal. You didn't even touch your food until you got the prize out of the box. Why not do that every once in a while for your partner? Next time you go to a fast food place to pick up the food slip a little something in the bottom of the bag for your sweety. It doesn't have to be something large or expensive. Maybe a Magazine they like or their favorite candy bar. Something to show them you are thinking about them. If you do have the means maybe some tickets to a show or sporting event would be nice. You could even do a coupon for a evening out instead of fast food the next time. Be creative you can even get little stuffed animals to place in the bottom of the back just to make someone feel warm and fuzzy. A word of caution however, realize that the food from these places sometimes is greasy. Don't put tickets in the bottom of the bag without protection on them so the grease doesn't ruin them. A little zip lock bag will do nicely and keep your prize safe and sound.