Showing posts with label listen. Show all posts
Showing posts with label listen. Show all posts

Friday, July 30, 2010

Anger Management.


Have you ever had one of those days when your partner comes home madder than a hornet. They burst through the door with their nostrils flaring like a raging bull. Their anger is so strong that it seems like they are yelling at you. The last thing you want to do in this situation is try to rationalize what has happened. What you need to do is let them release the steam. Yelling and screaming might be part of this process for them. Sit quietly and listen and offer positive support, don't question their anger or try to make light of it. For their benefit it is good to join the fight and start getting angry about the situations yourself. Boost them up and let them know you are standing behind them. This is great because once they setting down they will be most appreciative of what you have done for them. When your partner is this mad you have to let them let it out or they might blow up later of something super small. Think of them as a pressure cooker letting the steam out keeps the pot from exploding.

Friday, June 4, 2010

Have a drink ready!


Have you ever had a time where you partner is having a bad day at work? Maybe they called you at lunch or texted you during the day to tell you how terrible of day they are having. We all have these days where nothing seems to go right and every time you turn around it seems to get worse. This is where being a kind and loving partner comes in. You can turn their day around as soon as the walk through the door. Have their favorite drink ready for them and give them a big kiss as the walk through the door. Encourage them to sit down and talk to you about their day, let them get it off their chest so that they can put it behind them. Maybe, just maybe you will make their night a little better and they can forget about the terrible day they have had. Within each and everyone of us there is the power to lift our lovers up. Be it with compassion and praise, or listening and understanding, we can turn the tides for them. Make them feel special the rest of the night, make sure to touch them often as touch is a soothing reminder of the love you have for them. If the time is right have induce a little sexual release from them and let them enjoy your wonderful love for them. We cannot change the past but we can make the present a different place.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Encourage Education.


One sure way to show someone how much you care about them is to encourage their education. Find out what they have interest in and encourage them to learn more about it. It doesn't have to be a full fledged college class. Maybe a course on photography or a dance class what ever their interest you can find a course or class somewhere to suit their desires. Now you can't just be supportive when they start their learning process you have to stay interested in what they are learning. Let them tell you what they are learning and if you have interest in the subject you might learn some new things too. Listen intently and try to understand their passion in this subject and be their biggest supporter. Now if you have a desire to learn about something do it also and share with them. Learning will never dampen your relationship and you both will be better off having the most knowledge you can. Pure love will flow from your heart when you mind is happy so educate and stimulate.

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Rap Session


How often do you just sit down to talk about things between the two of you? Do you make time for this type of activity? A rap session isn't about beat boxing or reciting the latest SnoopDog song it is about both of you getting a chance to just talk about things effecting you. It might be the news or your work, or even the latest movie that you have just seen. The point is the rap session is where you just let your feelings out and both of you get a chance to listen and speak to your partner. Pick a time when you will be alone, after the children are in bed and you have time to yourselves. Get a glass of wine, turn the television off, and just speak what is one your mind. Take turns so it isn't just a one sided speech. When it is your turn to listen then you do just that and really listen to what your partner is saying. Let your emotions come out laugh, cry, or celebrate but make sure you are honest not only to your partner but to yourself also. These rap sessions are great ways to build your relationship and make it stronger then it has ever been.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Speak to each other in code.


Do you ever just want to tell you mate what your thinking and not worry about other people hearing. Maybe you want your man to take you and throw you on the bed and make passionate love to you. Maybe you just want to tell you partner you love them but don't want to hear about it from the other guys and girls at the table. Well, all you have to do is change some words around so that only the two of you know what they mean. Replace sex or love making with baseball then whenever you are around a lot of people you can say to your partner, "Would you like to go to a baseball game" or "I wish I was up to the plate right now" No one will thing about it twice but the two of you will know exactly what it means. Say you want to tell your partner you love them in a crowded setting. You can replace the phrase "I Love You" with "Don't forget to pick up the milk" or "Don't forget to make that phone call" It almost makes it seem like you are spies trying to send coded messages to each other. No matter how it feels you get the point across to each other and no one else.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Make dinner, conversation time.


When we go out to eat or even eat a home for that matter, we are setting up a great time to discuss and learn about each other. Even if you have been married or dating for years there is always something you can learn from great conversation. Find topics that you can discuss that will have both of your offering your opinions. Don't be only a listener, engage in the conversation and get your ideas heard. Find out about things going on in your partners life they you might not hear about other wise. Things like work, or happenings in their life that you are not apart of. Make it a game and ask questions of each other, take turns and make the other person answer each of your questions. A good night of conversation is actually foreplay and with your minds stimulated your bodies are soon to follow.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Need input for a dating book


Currently I am working on a book that covers the ins and outs of dating. I would love to hear from my viewers as to what things or places would be great ideas to do on a first date. I am anxious to hear about all your ideas as you feed my interests. I can think of all the things I feel are great ideas but I want to branch out and make sure I hit all areas of the spectrum. On the other hand I would love to hear places that you think would be the worst places for a date. Tell me the most idiotic places that a date has taken you to or the worst restaurants. I will be listening carefully for your replies.

Monday, September 28, 2009

Debate.


Some of the greatest and most passionate conversations I have ever had during my relationships is when the two of us have debated an issue. I love trying to get my point acrossed to the my partner and I enjoy listening to their side. Debates are fun because they are a controlled argument. You may not agree with the other persons view but you don't get upset with them. Some great topics to discuss are the economy, health, spirituality, and sex. They allow you to express yourself and talk in a manner of calmness. Here is what I like to do crack open a bottle of wine and just sit on the deck or porch and talk til the wee hours of the morning. I love it because I get to experience someone else's point of view and sometime that special lady in my life has swayed me to her side. It is a form of education if you will and all you have to do is look on the Internet for something to debate about. Give it a try tonight I believe it can bring you closer together as a couple and gives your partner a little more insight into you.