Find less expensive things to do for when your cash is short.

Going out is great. However it is very expensive. You need to have things set back that don't cost much or are free for those times when you funds are a little short. Things like wonderful art parks or museums are great places to have a date that don't cost anything. The important thing to remember is the value comes in just being with that special person. I would much rather take a wonderful walk where we can converse then go to a crowded club where all we can here is the loud music. No matter what your economic status you should always keep your eyes open for these inexpensive things to do. That way when a criss arrises or it's rent week you don't have to avoid your lovers interests and can surprise him/her with a wonderful day that doesn't break your bank.

Frosty days

Here in the midwest the mornings are starting to become colder and colder as autumn is if full swing. It is amazing that sometimes you might wake up with frost on the ground and then have a wonderful warm day in the afternoon. I like to call this weather, shorts and sweatshirt weather. Whatever you call it these days are wonderful for spending a little extra time in bed snuggling and touching. It is amazing how warm it stays under your covers with two bodies heating it up. As I mentioned earlier take a little extra time and enjoy this warmth and give your partner a little extra touching. Autumn days are great for making love and snuggling down to watch good movies. Then get up and enjoy the warmer part of the day. Get your sweatshirt and shorts out and enjoy this up and down bouncing of the weather for soon it will just be cold all the time. At least here in the midwest.

Move if you get a chance.

One thing that can be a wonderful romantic journey is for you and your partner to move! Pick up and move to a completely different city. Take new jobs, find a new place to live and for a while it will just be the two of you relying on each other. This is how wonderful relationship get made. It might not be 100% accurate but you are going to build a tighter bond with that special someone as you experience a new environment together. That sense of adventure will fill you both as you will be nervous and excited at the same time. The struggles of learning a new place can be swept away by falling into each others arms at the end of the day.

Pictures of the both of you.

The one thing I think all couples should do is get their picture taken together. I don't mean to go out and get a setting down with a professional photographer. I am talking about pictures of the two of you doing the thing in life that are fun to you. Vacations, cookouts, or just when you are being silly hand your camera over to someone and ask them to take your picture. These are the pictures you want to hang up around your house. These pictures so love and affection for each other and give you that feel good feeling you need as you glance at them. Plus viewing them makes you want to go out and have more fun together. Document your relationship and start taking pictures today.

Let the smells of outside in.

Fresh mowed grass, the gentle wind, the people next door cooking out are all great smells that come from the outside. Instead of the musty smells that can accumulate during the days of the windows being shut. Take advantage of the cool mornings and let the wonderful smells of the outside inside. You might just find that opening the windows is liberating to you and your nose and senses. Try it today and see how much you mood increases.

Tension Build up

Tension is a great cause of relationship problems and the tension might not be from something you have done. Believe it or not the tension might be from work, children, or a number of other sources. However it allows you a great way to show compassion and care for you lover. When you notice this tension building up it is your time to act. Have you partner sit in front of you and massage their neck and shoulders. This area is a major holder of tension and can cause headaches as well as other problems. You might not be able to relieve all the tension but the effort and the concern you show for you partner will go a long way. Never miss a chance to enjoy touching your partner even if it is an attempt to make them feel better. This type of touch is not only great for them but it is beneficial for you also.

Do the hokey pokey????

Last night we did a wonderful thing with our 3 year old. We jumped up in the middle of the living room and did the hokey pokey. It was sweet and innocent and the highlight of both our day. It is amazing the fun our little man had seeing mommy and daddy actually doing the hokey pokey. It went much deeper that that however. Not only did we have fun with our son but we also showed him what a parent should be doing. His little brain is going to save that information up and one day he will jump up and do the hokey pokey with his kids. I thank my lucky stars for the woman in my life because she is on the same page with me and wants to show our kids what being a parent is all about. If you look at the statistics most parents that have problems had parents that had problems also. So our kids learn from us, so if you are not the best parent look deep in your soul then ask for help. Attend classes, read books, and break that cycles of how your parents treated you. Because there is nothing more wonderful then watching you partner play and enjoy your children.

The sleep massage.

Want your partner to get the best night sleep possible? Then step up to the plate and give them the sleep massage. Basically what you are going to do is massage them to sleep. Start out by working the hard areas such as the shoulders and back. Work them hard and dig deep into those aches and pains. Once you partner starts to relax and their eyes close then start massaging with a little less pressure. Continue working the entire body. Feet, legs, arms will benefit from this churning of the muscles as you glide across them. When you start getting sighs of enjoyment from your partner reduce the pressure even more and going over all the parts you just did. Continue this pattern until you are just barely touching your partner. Let your finger tips glide across their body slowly but with very little touch. Soon they will be sleeping like a baby and you can take the satisfaction of giving them the gift of a good nights sleep.

Love is what you make of it.

Love is a many splendid thing and it means so many different things to so many people. I think the one thing we miss is that love is everything. It isn't just romantic love, or passionate love it is all around us everyday. So put love into everything you do and you will get so much more out of life.

Check out those Victoria Secret Catalogs.

If you have ever ordered anything from Victoria's Secret you now most likely get a catalog in the mail regularly. Both women and men enjoy looking through the glossy pages of sexy and well crafted clothing. Here is something you can do to make your female partner know you are thinking about them instead of just drooling over the models. Take a marker and circle the items you find sexy. Then out to the side write things like, "You would look great in this!" or "I couldn't keep my hands off you if you were wearing this" Who knows maybe you will get a surprise later or your partner will order the sexy item to share with you later. You can do the same thing with the men's catalogs you get or even catalogs from you favorite sex toy store. I bet you never thought a catalog could bring your relationship closer! Time to start flipping through the pages.

Romance can happen at the most unromantic times.

Never count out romance it can spring up at any time or place. I have some of the most unusual times to be the most romantic in my life. For instance climbing up diamond head crater in Hawaii was a long and physically demanding hike but when we got to the top the view was amazing and sharing it with my partner was the best. Other time come when you have to deal with difficult situations, like bankruptcy or death in the family. The fact that the other partner is strong for both of you is one hell of a romantic statement. If you just watch a little you will see romance all around you. Simple things like your partner asks if you would like something to drink or just stops to help you sort the laundry. We always want the fireworks and big show in our romance but sometimes we miss the opening acts. Those opening acts are sometimes pretty good.

Displaced Kiss

Today's Romantic tip is to kiss a place on your partners body that you don't usually kiss. See what kind of reaction you get from your lover, did you hit an erogenous zone or maybe just the fact you did something a little out of the norm might be a turn on. Kiss the palm of your partners hand, or his/her elbow or maybe even his/her knee. If you have the good fortune of being naked with them, then it opens up a whole bunch of areas to be kissed. The feet and toes are often a feel good spot for kisses as well as the joint areas such as the back of the knee or the area where you arm bends. During sex we focus on the genitals but what about the area above that where our pubic hair grows how about planting some kisses there? Make it a point to eventually kiss your partner on every inch of his/her body. You might just find a few hot spots that you were unaware of.

Shoes, shoes shoes

Shoes? How the heck is that romantic? Well shoes themselves are not romantic but combined with your imagination they can be. Shoes are great places to hide little love notes. They are great for hiding love notes because you wear them everyday so it isn't possible to not find them. You can also match the note to the shoes. Sexy shoes get sexy notes, hiking shoes get notes about being rugged and tough, sport shoes can express how great your partner looks, no matter what type of shoe it is you can adjust the note to express the shoe. You can also use shoes to be romantic in other ways. Setting out your partners dancing shoes in plain site can tell them you are ready for a romantic night of dancing. You can use all your shoes to spell out words or even lead your partner to a surprise you have waiting for them. So you see, shoes can be romantic you just have to be creative.

Make a flirty promise.

Today I want you to make a flirty promise to your lover. Either promise them some great sexual experience or a romantic get together. Then you have to follow through on your flirt. You can pull them aside and tell them, text them, or just leave a note for them to find. State in your note what you are going to do, when you are going to do it and how much they are going to enjoy it. Now if you have obstacles in the way such as children you can get around that by putting the time as soon as the children are asleep. Make it a point to keep your promise but if something comes up you need to quickly put a rain date on your plans. Say you are sorry and quickly state the rain date and them them that you will even make it more exciting on that date. This little build of excitement actually helps your partner in more ways than you think. Not only will they benefit from the health aspect of sex but they will also benefit from the great mood it will put them in. Remember, sex is a very important part of your relationship and it should take priority at times. Not only because it is great for you but because it is great for your relationship, also.

Play the Newlywed Game

Do you remember the old game show the Newlywed Game? If not the premise of the show was to see how much each couple new about each other. They were awarded point for each right answer and then the couple with the most points won, usually a trip somewhere. Now I am sure you cannot offer yourself a trip but it is fun to see how much you know about each other. Sit down sometime and write out questions to ask your partner. Have you partner do the same then exchange the papers and write down your answers to each question. Then together go over each question and see if your partner can pick which answer to gave. Make the question multiple choice to see if your thoughts are lining up. Have some good laughs and learn about your partner who knows maybe one day these will actually help you win a trip.

Sample Question Might be :

Which superhero does your partner remind you of, A-Superman, B-Batman, or C-Super Chicken

Actually there are several versions of the newlywed game you can click on our amazon sidebar and pick up a copy if you don't want to write out your own questions.

Go out and pick up trash.

We all want a cleaner earth but how many of us venture out of our house to help out. Being green is very romantic and believe me your partner will feel the same way. Suggest that the two of you go out for a hour a week on a walk with the intention of picking up all the trash you see on the way. Make it a challenge to see if you can fill a bag or two bags. Keep track of how much trash you pickup each and every time and make a chart to show how much help you are giving the earth. You could even set a goal of a romantic evening out once you get 50 bags of trash. Nothing is more romantic than saving our home planet so start today and hold hands as you are searching for that trash.

Get pictures of the two of you!

One thing I notice when I go to other peoples houses is how few pictures they have of them as a couples. If they have kids you see many pictures of the kids on the wall and several of one partner with the children but if you do see a couples photo it is usually a professional one. Were are the pictures of the couple enjoying vacation together or just hugging on the couch. I suggest you start focusing on ways to get pictures together weather you ask strangers to take your pictures or teach your children to use the camera. With digital cameras now a days you can let the kids practice and then erase all the ones that are of your feet or just the top of your heads. Once you get the pictures you want then start posting them around your house as a reminder of how fun and important your relationship is.

Shopping together can be fun.

Most couples hate going shopping together. Can you see the images of one partner holding the bags while the other one tries on a hundred different outfits. Maybe its the other way around and one partner wants to go to the power tool store and spends hours looking a drills. The good thing about shopping is it can give the two of you some time out together. You usually have to have lunch out which is a good thing for the two of you to share. My suggestion for the other stuff that drives us nuts is to set time limits before you enter a store set a time limit. Mark you watches and the other person just has to bear it for that section of time. Then when the time is up you go to the other person store with the same time restraints. This way both of you get the same feelings and the same amount of time looking at what you want. Another option is to split up and then make it a game to find each other. Send clues via text messages to each other as to where you are, this can be a fun way to enjoy your shopping a little more. Lastly find some things that interest you both. Maybe a store that carries items for you home or on that carries intimate apparel that way you end on common ground. With a little work and imagination shopping can be fun for both parties.

Pick up a magazine for the opposite sex.

Want to do something that will gain you some insight into your partner? Pick up a magazine about the opposite sex or borrow one of your partners. Read all the articles with an open mind and see how the opposite sex ticks. Make sure it is one that caters to the opposite sex. Readers Digest is bisexual in my opinion but Cosmo or Men's Fitness are definitely geared towards a specific sex. See how the articles fit with the way you feel and try to look at it from the opposite sexes point of view. Maybe then you might start to understand why your woman needs a little more cuddle time or why you man wants to see you in something sexy. I wish there were more magazines for couples that addressed issue from a couples point of view. I know of one but you cannot get a subcription the last time I checked in the United States, the magazine is based out of Canada. You can check out the magazine online it is called 2 For Couples, so if anyone wants to smuggle me a copy across the border let me know.

Read some erotica together.

Nothing can get you in the mood for a little love more then reading about it. Pick up a sexy tale about people in love and read it to each other in bed. Take turns and pass the book back and forth reading a page each. If one or both of you are uncomfortable reading erotica out loud then you can get the same book and read it to yourself as your partner does the same. You could also pick up an audio version of an erotica book and listen to it together. Erotica is a kick starter for you libido. I have found some pretty out their erotica that deals with fetishes and swinging but I personally enjoy couples erotic. Couples erotica is hot and steamy sex that stays within their relationship. No outside forces, threesomes or orgies are within the pages of couples erotica. You can check out some of the erotica I have written by going to my website at the bottom of this post. I enjoy writing about the passion between two people and happen endings in more ways then one. Pick up a good read tonight and find out how much it ads to you love life.

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