Invite the family over.

Want to make a splash with your partner then invite their family over. Plan a big get together with food and excitement. If you think his/her family would participate then get some games to play together. If games won't do it then you might think about planning the get together to watch the big football game or the latest movie out you can rent. Have lots of fingers foods to munch on and plenty of pop and tea. If you are going to serve alcohol then make sure you are ready to make sure the drinkers are not driving and to let anyone know when they have had to much. Alcohol can loosen up the party but it can also cause problems. I would suggest leaving the alcohol out until you find our more about the family. Set a time for the party to be over so that everyone knows when it is time to go. Don't leave it open or you might be having a crazy brother that won't leave. This family invite over will score you big points with your partner and help you to get to know his/her family better.

Play the Newlywed Game

Do you remember the old game show the Newlywed Game? If not the premise of the show was to see how much each couple new about each other. They were awarded point for each right answer and then the couple with the most points won, usually a trip somewhere. Now I am sure you cannot offer yourself a trip but it is fun to see how much you know about each other. Sit down sometime and write out questions to ask your partner. Have you partner do the same then exchange the papers and write down your answers to each question. Then together go over each question and see if your partner can pick which answer to gave. Make the question multiple choice to see if your thoughts are lining up. Have some good laughs and learn about your partner who knows maybe one day these will actually help you win a trip.

Sample Question Might be :

Which superhero does your partner remind you of, A-Superman, B-Batman, or C-Super Chicken

Actually there are several versions of the newlywed game you can click on our amazon sidebar and pick up a copy if you don't want to write out your own questions.

Great questions make a great night.

If you need something fun to do on a boring day then you can always just fire questions back and forth. Just ask "What's your favorite movie?" or "Who influenced your life the most?" Take turns bouncing questions off of each other and you might just find that time will fly. The last time we did this is was 2 hours before we realized what fun we were having. There are plenty of game out there that can help you on this quest but if you are short on funds you can make up your own. Using a game help in the fact that you both get questions you were not expecting. Next time you have nothing to do, pour yourself a glass of wine and enjoy answering each others questions.

Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

love like there is a tomorrow.

We always here that you should love like there is no tomorrow. However when you are early in a relationship that might be the case. In a new relationship you should love like you have a future together. Not so much as you start to scare the other person. For example don't talk about getting married on your first date! Do talk about the next date though to see how the other person feels. Say things like, "Well if we go out again I would like to take you (insert place here)" if you are greeted with a "That would be nice" then you chances are good for the second date. Especially in the early stages of a relationship make reference to the near future quite a bit. Talk about things you would like to do during the summer or on vacation, and include the person you are seeing in on those plans. The worst they can say is I can't do that or I won't have vacation time then. By using this technique this person will see that you can be a long term partner plus it also allows them to see that you are in this for a commitment so if they are not looking for this it is an easier time to get out. Yes as our relationships grow we want to live like there is no tomorrow but until we know we want to spend the rest of our life with that person take it a little slower.

The slightest touch can mean so much.

Touch is one of the things that most people desire. We want to feel that warmth of another human being putting their hands on us. The touch of a child is also very therapeutic with in their innocents. Even the slightest touches can mean so much to your partner. Think about how comforting the simplest of touches can be. When you touch feet in bed at night says I am here for you. The touches that just happen without warning like when you just brush each other as you pass. The soft caress on your arm as you are sitting together. The tingles that are sent up and down your body with the excitement of these touches is a joy that everyone should feel. Brushing away your partners hair as you look in their eyes or even just the touch of when you have to get something in front of them, says so much in a relationship. You hands are a wonderful tool for showing and expressing your love, so touch and enjoy.

Speak to each other in code.

Do you ever just want to tell you mate what your thinking and not worry about other people hearing. Maybe you want your man to take you and throw you on the bed and make passionate love to you. Maybe you just want to tell you partner you love them but don't want to hear about it from the other guys and girls at the table. Well, all you have to do is change some words around so that only the two of you know what they mean. Replace sex or love making with baseball then whenever you are around a lot of people you can say to your partner, "Would you like to go to a baseball game" or "I wish I was up to the plate right now" No one will thing about it twice but the two of you will know exactly what it means. Say you want to tell your partner you love them in a crowded setting. You can replace the phrase "I Love You" with "Don't forget to pick up the milk" or "Don't forget to make that phone call" It almost makes it seem like you are spies trying to send coded messages to each other. No matter how it feels you get the point across to each other and no one else.

The penis the joystick of love

The penis is obviously the key to a man's ultimate sexual pleasure. However playing with his joystick can launch you enter several different levels of love. When you free the man from his desires for sex you give him the ability to focus on other things. Things that might just make your relationship much better then ever. Ladies if you want your relationship to flourish start with quenching his desires and see how much other time you have for the things you want in your relationship. It is common knowledge that a man spends most of his time thinking about sex not on purpose but it is his make up, so what is he going to think about once sex is no longer a question? So if you want more quality time with you male mate this is the way to get it. Next time you wish your male partner would care more about chores, dinner, or playing games with you start by satisfing his ultimate desires, by putting this first you will free up a lot of time for the things you would like to focus on. Ladies the joystick is in your hands do you want to reach a new level or be satisfied playing the same one over and over again?

Education is Sexy

Here I am in my late early 40's wondering why I didn't get more education when I was younger. As I sit here considering going back to take some classes on computer programming, I am realizing that education is sexy. Learning new things is never a bad thing to do, even if you don't feel like doing the classroom thing. Think about it how wonderful it could be learning new things with the person you love. Maybe a cooking class or photography anything that would strike your fancy and hold both of your interests, would also give you more things to converse about. How many times have the two of you been talking and wondered about something that neither one of you could answer. In this day and age all you have to do is venture over to your computer and with a little help from google you have your answer. Presto you have just learned something new even if it is trivial you still found something out together. In my opinion you should never stop trying to learn something new, when you do that is when you get old.

Feeling comfortable

Feeling comfortable in a relationship is one of the most under rated feelings that people miss out on. We go into relationship trying to be the perfect person and making the person we are trying to attract think that we don't have any flaws. In doing this we set ourself up to not be as comfortable in the beginning as we would like to be. We live under these false pretenses believing that we can keep it up the through out the relationship. Finally as some point you have to break down and show that you are not this perfect person that you have been trying to convince your partner you are. When you feel comfortable in your relationship this isn't hard, you have open communication and it is easy to express your feelings and admit your problems. On the other hand if you are uncomfortable with the communication admitting these issues is a bit more hard. My suggestion to anyone getting into a relationship is to be as close to yourself as you can and make sure the person you are trying to attract likes the real you. You don't what them to find out down the road of issues that might make your relationship tense. Relax as you go out on those first few dates and show your new flame how you really are, not only will they appreciate it but you can rest assured that you won't have to live behind a mask.

Slip your partner some lucky money!

We all have times when we just need something good to happen to make us feel a little better. Have you ever found money in a pocket,when you put on a coat or pair of jeans you haven't worn in a while. Well I want you to create that feeling for your partner. It doesn't have to be a lot of money maybe even five bucks but if you can find a way to slip it into their pocket before they put their clothes on you might just start their day off on the right foot. I know the first thing I say when I find money in a pocket I didn't expect is, "Wow this must be going to be a lucky day" Now my whole attitude for the day has been changes with this simple act of finding unexpected money. Imagine how you could pick up your partners spirits if they are not excited about the day ahead. The only thing you can't do is tell them you placed it there, that would do just the opposite and most likely get a negative reaction. There are many other ways to accomplish this goal, such as putting a little cash in a book they are reading, slip it into their wallet, lay in on the floor board of their car, or simply lay it in their path. This simply action will make you feel good inside and it is a secret you can keep with yourself. This also is handy if your partner needs money for something right away, just tell them to wish for it and see what happens, just don't you get caught with your hand in the pocket.

Use pet names on Christmas Tags

Want a great way to slow down the unwrapping of Christmas presents on Christmas day? Well don't use real names on the gift tags. You can use pet names or secret codes to make your love sort out who the present is for. Make up silly names that have some impact on your life things like, if your partner loves to ski then you could put Snow Bunny as the name of who the present is for. Not only does this slow down the day it also makes you be creative and think of things your partner likes. In turn this might help you pick out other gifts for you partner. Make sure you don't hint to the present inside, don't use the Snow Bunny name on a new pair of skis. Other things you can do is number the presents and have your partner have to figure out a math problem to see which presents are theirs. You can also put the name of a Christmas Carol in the place of the name and then sing that song when it is time for them to open up their present. If you have children in your life you can work them into this also by suggesting presents they should unwrap. You could say, "Open one with blue paper" or "Open one with a picture of Santa on it" to let them join in the fun. The point to all of this diversion is to make Christmas last a little longer and if you are anything like me you know that Christmas is one of the most romantic days of the year.

Pick out your own gift.

Does you partner have a gift that they want more than anything this Christmas? Do they have something that you can't pick out for them or they need to try on before you purchase it for them? That is okay you can do this for them and still make it a surprise. Once you have the item you need to think of an interesting way to wrap it, be it in a huge box or in a odd shaped package. Once you have it wrapped make a game of it with your partner and see how many presents they have to unwrap before they find it. You could even wrap up some dummy presents as I call them, thing like clothes that are theirs or something so silly no one would possibly want it like some giant sunglasses or an alarm clock that squirts water. If you partner has an idea of what they are getting from you for Christmas then it is your job to still make the unwrapping of presents fun and exciting. With that in mind you can start making your strategy on how you are going to fool your partner with your wrap job now.

Be Yourself

So many times in the beginning of a relationship we try to be someone we are not. Maybe you try to act like your favorite actor or actress, which doesn't work in my case because Adam Sandler is not high on many women's list. Our you try to act like other people that you think have it down. However as much as it seem silly the best person to be is yourself. Lay all your little quirks out on the table from the beginning. If you like Star Wars let them know during your conversation. If your person you are with sees the real you from the beginning you will have a lot better chance of the relationship working for the long haul. Plus you will know that the person is about you and not about the person your acting like. You don't want to be six months into a relationship and find out your partner thinks your Star Wars fixation is childish and you should abandon it at once. Things like that are better known from the start. As you begin a new relationship take heart and be yourself, you might just thank yourself later for doing it. Plus you will find someone that likes you for you, and that is worth all the lightsabers in the world.

How deep is your Love?

Do you really know the person you love? I am sure you have a pretty good idea of who your partner is now, but do you know what they were like before you knew them. I am not talking about a week before you knew them. I am looking at the time when they were a child or a young adult. This is going to take some doing on your part. You will have to find some people that knew them when they were this other person, that you didn't know. You can find out things like what their favorite toy was or how they acted in high school. Where they in any clubs or activities they participated in that might be something the two of you could do together. Maybe they were on the cycling team and you could start riding bikes together. Things like that could make a big impact on your relationship. I could also give you some ideas for gifts or things to do to cheer up your partner in bad times. Knowing a little background can never hurt your relationship. Once you partner knows you took the time to find a little more out about them they will think a little higher of you. A really good place to find out things is during family gathering, where uncles and aunts as well as cousins will definitely be willing to let you know the history of your partner.