Thursday, April 30, 2009

Theme Night

Looking for something fun to do. Make a them night date. Pick a ethnic category and then based the whole night around that. Say for instance you pick Mexican. You could do dinner at a Mexican restaurant, find a place that plays Mexican music to go dance at and to top it off find a place that serves flan for dessert. Other ideas could be Italian dinner with spaghetti and meatball, go see a gangster movie or rent the sopranos, and top it off by speaking in an a Italian accent all night. As I always say do a little research on your subject and make it fun and exciting for the two of you. Get your partners input also they might think of something you wouldn't have. You could even use specific places in the United States such as a Texas them with western flair, or Hawaiian theme with tiki torches and pineapples.

You could make it like a party and do a murder mystery theme, and the caper is you go see a thrilling movie. A casino theme might be another idea and the big finale would be a trip to Vegas. You are only limited to your imagination.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

The family that loves together. (Click in this Title to got to the Free Hugs Campaign Site)

In our quest to have the greatest relationship in the world we sometimes forget that part of our love involves our families. We tend to shy away from some of the things that have helped set our love in stone. Do you know anyone that has trouble getting close to their partner or someone who has self esteem problems? Well, most likely that has stemmed from events in their childhood. Whether it was from an overbearing parent, an alcoholic parent, emotional abuse or physical abuse it can create a monster that may secretly rear its ugly head. A lot of times relationship problems are bred from these memories of youth, and it can take a lot of energy to get over them. With the help of a caring partner it is possible, but this is not my point.

As we set our relationships in motion we are not just facilitating a better state for ourselves, we are affecting the future relationships of our children. If we cannot get over our dysfunctions, our children may be destined to repeat our inadequacies. To help prevent that it is time for us to get our relationships in order and get our family on the loving train. You have to start by showing your children it is okay to be in love and not just for a day, but for a lifetime. You have to explain to them how to put the other person first and how to share. Make sure they know that feelings are important and that caring isn't something to be ashamed off. Let them see you kiss and hug, hold hands as you walk with them and most important show them how to be a rock when someone is having a hard time. I realize that every child won't respond the same to these actions, but you are giving them a great head start on having their own relationships.

Don't stop there. Maybe it's not too late for your parents? Do the same things around them as we have just mentioned above. Maybe you could rekindle something in them that they haven't had in a long time. Show them that your relationship is strong and you’re making it stronger every day. If your parents have a great relationship, then maybe you should be taking notes as you watch them. Family love is a gene, and it can be passed down from generation to generation, but unlike DNA this is one genetic gift you can change if you don't have the right combination. It may take some therapy or even sacrifice on your part, but it will be worth it.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Go Bowling

Go Bowling Here is a great activity that you both can do. Even people that are not that athletic can roll a ball down the lane. Do a search for a local bowling center in your area. Find the closest one, and get the phone number. Call or visit the website to find out when the open bowling hours are. Then you can plan a date around an evening of bowling. If you are an active bowler, take a break and don't take your fancy-shmancy equipment. Get rental shoes at the center, use a house ball off the rack and if you’re really a lot better than your partner, use your opposite hand (but don’t make a big deal about that – especially if you still bowl better than your date). The point is to make it fun and not a competition. Take your time. You are not under any time limits here. Flip a coin to see who goes first. If one is a lot better than the other, discuss a handicap such as giving the other person bonus pins or the first person has to throw the ball in the gutter on the first ball every time. Like I said earlier, make an evening of it and do pizza and beer before or after the bowling. The point is to enjoy the evening without getting too involved with the activities. Try to remember the very first time you went bowling, and look at the evening in that regard. If bowling is not your thing, use a substitute.

Some activities that might work include miniature golf, go cart racing or even bingo. Get away from the competition and just enjoy participating with your partner in an activity that is fun. If you have to wait, don't worry most recreational facilities have other forms of enjoyment to participate in during your wait. You may discover arcade games or batting cages. Let your hair down and have a ball.

Monday, April 27, 2009

Romance Game

Here is a simple game of romance. Take turns telling each other what you feel is romantic. Be it places to go, or just things to do together. Start out slow maybe saying "I think the most romantic place in the world is...." Then the next person says their feelings on the subject. Elaborate on each output and tell why you thing it would be romantic. This is a great way to get to know your partner better. You would think you would only have to play this game once. Well I am here to tell you, that you should make a point to play it at least a couple of times a year. People change and as we get older so do our needs and wants. So at 18 I might think making love on the beach would be the best thing ever. Now that I am old I think about the sand and where it would end up. Nothing is set in stone, make notes but use a pencil as the changes happen.

Sunday, April 26, 2009

Send her some Panties - (click here for a Panty of the Month Club)

If you relationship has reached an intimate level, here is a suggestion that might put more of the intimate into your relationship. I want you to get some sexy panties and send them via the mail to your partner. I know what you are thinking, "She will think I'm a stalker." Again this is not for a new relationship but one that is established. Hopefully if you are in an established relationship you have seen her in her panties. Make sure you get the size right and use a standard mailing envelope as it won't tip her off before she opens the surprise. Wait until she says something about the package, don't tip her off before she has a change to open this present. Don't be so excited that you ask her a hundred times "Did you get anything special in the mail?" If all works right, she should be showing you what she received in the mail and that will for sure put a smile on your face. You can include a small note if you like saying something cute like "I thought you would look good in these." or "These didn't fit me so I thought you might like them." Be witty and funny with your note and don't put any demands on the letter like "I want to see you in these tonight" Let her tell you all about her special package.

Now if your short on time or a little nervous purchasing women's underwear. Then you can use a mail order company and get the same results. There are many companies that will send your honey a pair of panties a month, and several of them you can personalize a note to be put inside the package. These sites usually present you panties in a very special way, but you pay for that. So if your budget is smaller do it yourself. I have put a link to a pantie of the month site in the title of this post. You can also go to Victoria's Secret to find some of the best panties made, believe me your special lady will love them and so will you.

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Do something in the sunshine you'e never done before?

It's been a long winter and with summer just around the corner, take advantage of those first few warm days. Find something that you normally do inside and take it outside. By getting outside to perform you task you usually do inside it will make your feel a whole lot different about doing this task. For instance take your laundry outside to fold, read a book outside on a blanket, or the two of you could take a game outside and play on a picnic table. Always address the day before you head out. If it is windy you might not want to take your paper work outside to perform, unless you want to chase it all over your neighbors yard. Give your sweetie a neck rub outside in the warm sun. This is a simple item to perform just find something you do inside and find a way to do it outside. Wireless Internet access can even let you complete work outside, how about that. Hooray for technology.

Friday, April 24, 2009

The Art of Massage

Massages One great truth in a relationship is that everyone enjoys a good massage. Whether it is used as a pain reliever or foreplay, I don't believe I know a soul that doesn't enjoy a massage. There are many therapeutic reasons for a massage. I know that a good massage can relieve the daily pressures of the day. Relieving this stress is a great benefit in a relationship because if you eliminate that tension you are bound to have a better time together. A massage can, also, loosen up the muscles and relieve the aches and pains associated with exercise, arthritis, or the pain that comes with just getting older.

The relaxing of your muscles can be beneficial in your relationship in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you perform activities that you might not have been able to do if you had pain in a certain area. Activities such as going on walks, playing sports or bedroom activities are just a few things that could be aided by an occasional massage. Now a great asset of massage for the couple is the fact it can be considered foreplay. There are several books and methods of sensual massage, which are designed to lead from massage to intimacy with a smooth transition. The massage works for both partners in this manner. One partner gets to feel the benefits of the massage while the other gets to enjoy touching and caressing his/her partner. Add in the use of oils and devices and the massage becomes a ritual or passion. Scented oils, candles, and mood music can enhance the experience to the point of an erotic adventure. There are even specific types of massage for the genitals and other areas that could be arousal spots. These genital massages work very well and are definitely a sexual experience between the partners.

Now you might think that you just start rubbing your partner and everything will fall into place. Well, it doesn't work that way. I suggest you head on down to your local book store, search Amazon, or Google the Internet to find the specific technique that appeals to your partner and you. I think you will be surprised at the number of different techniques and forms of massage that are out there. Don't be timid. Try something different. The benefits will outweigh the fear in the end. Once you decide on the proper technique go about making the setting perfect and picking a time when you won't be interrupted by the kids or parents. Your massage session will be able to turn into a beautiful love making session.

Click on the title link will take you to a website listing all different types of massages techniques.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Romantic Walks - (Click here to find out more)

I do believe one of the most romantic things that costs absolutely nothing is just taking a walk together. The place doesn't matter, unless it is in an unsafe location or during an unsafe time. I mean don’t go for a walk in the middle of a hurricane or a very shady neighborhood. A walk gives the two of you privacy even when you are out in the open. For starters, only the people that are walking at the very same pace can hear what you are saying – for the most part. You can set your own pace; if you want to casually stroll it doesn't matter, in fact, I recommend it. Have you ever heard the expression, “Stop and smell the roses,”? Well, do that to on your walk. Walks can include magical moments. It is a great time to ask someone to marry you or maybe just to present them with an anniversary present. Walks can happen anywhere. They might be downtown in a big city, a park, your old neighborhood, or one of my favorites - the beach. Never under any circumstance put a time limit on your walk. This is a time for the two of you to reconnect. If you are constantly looking at your watch and saying, “We better get back,” the moment is lost. When I think back about some great walks my wife and I have had I bring back some very fond memories. Like asking her to marry me while walking on a beach in Cancun. We stopped near a great big rock in the middle of the beach. It felt like we were miles away from anyone else. Yet, there were a few other people on the beach. Another memorable walk we had was walking/hiking up a mountain in Gatlinburg. It was so much fun. It was a warm spring day, we soon realized we should have worn heavier coats the higher up the mountain we got.

Now that we have looked at all the romantic and sentimental views of the walk, I will also let you in on a little secret. Shhhhhhhhh. A walk is great exercise. I kid you not. It is good for your heart and lungs. Not only are you enjoying each other’s company, but you are making your life a little longer by improving your health. Walks ROCK. So never be too busy no matter where you are to put one foot in front of the other. Venture out into nature or the city. You will see so much more than you will driving in your car, and you might have a few times to stop and kiss!

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Birthday Sex Greeting - (Click her to go to The Smitten Kitten Shop)

Birthdays are a great time to get your partner and yourself into something new. Go out on a limb and get them something a little extra this birthday. Besides what ever you are planning to get them. Pick up something that will help spice up your relationship. Weather it be a book on improving your sex life, a sex toy or a relationship improving book. When you wrap up your present be sure to put a note inside that says "As good as we are, we can always get better". Now make sure you are alone when presenting this present, it's not the type of thing to give during the family get together.

An Idea I really like it to buy them a gift certificate to a store that sells sex toys and other merchandise. The only stipulation is that whatever they purchase has to be sent addressed to you. This alloys the person to pick out things alone that they might feel a little embarrassed to do right in front of you. It will also excite you wondering what they will pick out! Double Bonus!

Attached to the tittle is a link to the Smitten Kitten Website a great place to purchase any sexual items.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Shower Talks

Here's a little test in self control. Next time your partner is taking a shower, and you have the time, just slip into the bathroom, sit on the stool and talk with them. It is a big test of your self control because you know he/she is naked on the other side of the shower curtain, and you know you want to peak in on them (at least I know I want to see my wife.). Strike up a conversation about something other than your relationship; it could be about your kids, work, church, or anything other than them being naked. This exercise raises trust as your partner is naked and in a vulnerable state. You are trying to mind your Ps and Qs, and not just ripping open the shower curtain and attacking. To me this feels like when you used to talk on phone as a teenager. You were wondering what the other person was wearing or what he/she was doing at this point of day. Talk to your partner for a while, but make sure that once he/she is ready to get out of the shower and dry off you are out of the area. Give him/her some privacy. If you were in the middle of an in-depth conversation, make sure to pick it back up when he/she is finished. You can also do this activity while your partner takes a bath, shaves or grooms himself/herself in some fashion. Conversation is good for the relationship. If you can focus on the conversation when your partner is completely naked, then you have a sound foundation in your relationship. Special note: Don't try this while you are trying to be intimate. Think of intimate things to talk about during that time. Talking about your mother during sex is a real buzz kill. Focus on the task at hand in this situation. :-)

Now, head for the shower and some good conversation.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Arguments, yes they are OKAY!

Differences in a relationship are normal and healthy! They are not road blocks. They are what makes him, himself and her, herself. Look at all the couples you know, even the ones you think are exactly the same, and I bet if you look hard enough you will see differences. For example, a couple might love to go to art museums together, but they might not enjoy the exact same type of art, and that is okay. These differences allow us to communicate, debate, and even argue. If we were both the same our conversations would be boring. We would both just say things like "Ya, I like that too." There would never be any questions. So these differences keep us sane in my opinion.
I love to debate things. Listening to others opinions and then giving your opinions is a wonderful tool for getting to know someone even if you have been married to that person for 50 years. You can always learn something new about a person. My personal opinion is that the best relationships happen because the two people involved understand they are going to have different opinions, and they don't love each other any less because of them. Arguments are going to happen from time to time in a relationship, but the one thing I feel is important is before the argument ends both parties say I understand you have a different opinion, but I still love you. Always try to see the other person’s point of view, even if you think it is wrong. Sometimes in my experiences it seems like we go through stages where we can't agree on anything and it seems like we just take the opposite side just to aggravate our partner. But, if you look closely you see that isn't necessarily the case. When you take two individuals and make them a couple people assume that they must be a perfect match. The perfect match comes from the understanding of each other not from liking the same things.
When you truly love someone you understand what is important to them, and if that is what makes them happy, you just roll with it. Now take a look at your relationship. Spot the differences in the two of you. Write them down. Put her likes and his likes down on the paper. Look at the other person’s likes, and circle the ones you have interest in. Put an “X” by the ones you have no interest in at all. Both of you study the list, take a step back and then debate things. For example, he wants to go to the baseball game and you have put an x by that. Well that would be a great thing for him to do with his buddies. Okay now, look on your list for his Xs, and find one that you could do with your friends. Bingo! You do that one while he is at the game with his buds. Here is the important part - find one on either list that is circled. Obviously this is one that you both enjoy. Either the next day or even that evening make sure the two of you have time to share that experience.
Lastly, don't be afraid to argue. It is not the end of your relationship. It is just a heated debate. If you have to fear losing someone because you disagree, then maybe you should rethink your relationship anyway. Even when you are in an argument you should never go to bed mad at each other. Snuggle up and remember why you love this person. You may resume the argument in the morning, but while you are in bed forget about it.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Award your partner. (Click Here for Awards)

Does your partner deserve an award? I think if you look at your relationship, you will find something that your partner does great. When you find it reward her is a special loving cup. In the title line of this post is a link to a trophy place that has awards for as little as $5. Once you have found just the right award then have it engraved to show your partner your appreciation. Some suggestions might be "Awarded to the person who makes me laugh", "Presented to the person who puts up with my collection of beer cans" or "1st Place winner of all my love". Make it personal and make it a big deal when you present it to her. I don't think you need to call the media, but maybe a little applauds from you would be nice.

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Lather her with riches. (Click here to find luxury soaps)

During one of your shopping sprees take some time to find a really high quality soap. Not your normal soaps you pick up at the local discount store. Find the ones that might be a lot higher in price but are suppose to be excellent for you skin. I have added a link at the top of the page that might help you out. Present her with the high end soap before her next bath or shower. Tell her that you want only the best to be placed on her body. After she showers make sure to take some time to caress her skin and tell her how great it feels. Nothing makes a woman feel more special then pampering her a little bit. Experiment a little and find out what she like and dislikes for future purchases.

Some words of warning make sure not to pick up something she might be allergic to, that will really kill the thought. Don't be afraid to ask a sales person to help sometimes as a man we don't particular think the same when we pick out soaps as our partner does. A woman's input will help you out.

Friday, April 17, 2009

A drink or two! (Thats it) - Click here to learn how to make almost any drink

I know all the problems that alcohol can have on a relationship and by know means do I encourage excessive drinking. However, sitting down with your sweetie and picking out a drink to try can be fun and exhilarating. I personally might have a drink 2 or 3 times a month but I think it is fun to try different drinks. In my title line I have put a link to Alex's Cocktail Recipes it is an extensive list of drinks. Once you have found a drink to try make it together or if your into a little role playing pretend one of your is the bartender and the other is trying to pick up the bartender. Have fun with it and after the drink is made sit down together to try it. You might end up spitting it our but at least you tried it together. As always get creative, buy special glasses, look for the little umbrellas to put in the drink, or when you are picking out your drink just pick a color or word and find a drink that matches.
Words of Warning - DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE EVER! and if you find yourself desiring the drink more than the company of your partner, get help.
It is okay to drink and have sex, but drinking during sex can get a little messy!!

Thursday, April 16, 2009

That's not my chore...

One of the things that makes a women feel special is taking some of her work load off her back. So next time you know your partner is having a particularly bad day do some of her chores at home. At our house my wife and I have specific duties that we perform to keep up the house. For instance I do the dishes and she does the laundry. With our busy work schedules sometimes she might get behind a little during the week on the laundry. She usually tries then to catch it up on the weekend. Well my theory behind this is if I can save her a couple of hours of doing laundry "WE" will have more time to spend together. I also hope it shows her how special she is to me.

No one like to do chores, but they have to get done sometime. If you can eliminate some of the time spend doing these chores your relationship time increases and that my friend is never a bad thing.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Just Desserts (Click her to find out how to make your sweeties favorite dessert)

Everyone loves some kind of dessert. I am sure you probably have an idea of what one is your partners. Next time you get a chance either make it or purchase it as a surprise. You can even leave it for you partner with a note, when you are going to be away. Let the note say something to the effect of "Think of me every time you take a bite". Don't overdue it however we don't want to encourage overeating in any manner. If your partner is trying to diet use their favorite sweet as a reward. You could say okay I got you this delicious treat, but we have to ride 5 miles on our bikes before we can enjoy it. This scores double points as you are worried about your partners health and you want them to have their favorite treat.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Wishful Thinking... Tell her your fantasies.

Something all relationships need is a peak into each others fantasies. It helps you get closer and you might even find something that clicks with both of you. Men you have to take the reigns here, spill it to her tell her one of your fantasies and see how she reacts. If you think your partner doesn't have fantasies you need more help then I can give you. So start out small tell her something you might like to try and see how she reacts. If she is disgusted then you might have to wait a little while to try again. Most likely if your partner cares about you she will at least listen and if your really lucky she might even try it on you. Don't be offended if she doesn't feel comfortable with your fantasy sometimes they just don't click. Maybe if she feels comfortable hearing your fantasies, she might even open up enough to tell you some of hers. Be very careful here don't judge her just as you don't want her to judge you. Listen and see if maybe it might be something you could a least try, who knows you might enjoy it even more then her. I know that one time I tried something with my partner and low and behold after we finished she was like "I have so wanted you to do that forever" and this was about 6 years into our relationship. Take your chances men, she is with you for a reason so you should trust that she will be receptive to your fantasies. That doesn't mean she is going to dress up like Princess Lea for you, but maybe she will at least play with your light saber!!!!

Monday, April 13, 2009

Shaving...down there?

Most men learn to shave at the onset of puberty, at least their face. It takes many of them years to shave their scrotum or around their penis. Now you will find some ladies that enjoy the rough but most enjoy playing the coarse on a smooth well groomed surface. Most ladies surveyed said that they will give more attention to the genitals of a man if he is groomed nice around the area. Clicking on the title of this post will take you to a wikihow site that tells you how to shave in the genital area. So if it is your first time, you might not cut yourself too bad.

Shaving around your penis allows your partner more access to the penis and scrotum. This makes it easier for them to play around down there. Shaving also gives your penis the illusion of being longer. Contrary to what Zohan says I don't think the cushion of a large bush thrills the ladies. Some studies have concluded that saving of the pubic hair reduces sweating, and that can be a big plus for some guys.

Gentlemen treat your ladies right and get rid of the caveman mentality.

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Get choosy over Movies

Okay, so it's your turn to choose the movie for your date! So what it gonna be - the shoot ‘em up movie or the slap stick comedy? Before your Neanderthal mentality kicks in, and you pick the most macho movie you can find, think of where this can lead. Look at your relationship. Are you at the beginning of it or have you been married for 20 years? What are your plans after the movie? Are you going to dinner, out to a club, or are you hoping to venture back to your place for a more intimate setting? Take all of that into consideration. Get a newspaper or get on your computer and find out which movies are playing near you. Scan over the times of each movie and eliminate all the ones where the time just doesn't work out for your date.

Now comes the pondering part of the movie selection process. How do you want this movie to affect your date? I can see you now with that glazed look in your eyes thinking, "I just want to see a movie.” Okay, I will make it a little simpler for you. Let’s say you are going to dinner after the movie; you don't want to see a gory movie as it might ruin your appetite. The stupidly funny movie might lead to way too much laughter during the main course. In my opinion, the best movie to see before going to dinner is one that will strike up great conversation - a thriller or a movie with twists and turns in the plot. Let’s say you are headed out to the club for dancing and drinks. My choice of movie would be a great comedy. You know - the ones with stupid lines and the comedy is right in your face. This has double the impact as one it gets you ready for fun while dancing at the club. And a bonus is if you’re not a good dancer, you might be able to imitate the movie on the dance floor and get some chuckles from your date. You can also quote silly lines form the movies to each other. If you are drinking alcohol they get funnier and funnier. Now let’s say you want to head back home for some alone time after the movie. You have several choices - the first being the horror film. Your partner might jump into your arms and want to be held. However if you’re a little jumpy this might back fire on you. A romantic comedy might do you well as it will take the edge off the date and still promote kissing and other stuff. An adventure movie might do you well as it gets your blood pumping, and might lead to some role playing at the homestead.

So don't just choose the movie you want to see the most when going on a movie date. Take some time and think about the outcome - no not of the movie but, of the later activities. One more thing before I leave you, sometimes the best movie to see is one that no one else wants to see. “Why?” you might ask. Well, you just might have the whole theater to yourselves!!

Click on the title line to go to Fandango and pick your movie for tonight.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

What an Eggciting Day

Gentlemen here is your chance to be the actual Easter Bunny for your Honey. Go out and get some of those cheap plastic eggs from your local discount store. They might cost you a dollar at the most. Next rack your brain and think about the most thoughtfull gifts to put inside her eggs. Little love notes, sexy panties, jewlery, the candy they love, tickets to a show, are some ideas. Just make sure to make it personal. After filling all your eggs, now you must hide them all over your room. When your sweety gets back you have to tell her that easter bunny just left and she has to find all the eggs. After find the eggs and opening them she will appreciate her big old easter bunny.

Click on the above title for a little Easter Egg from me.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Start a Conversation!

We hear it all the time conversation is a key to any relationship. Well next time you are just hanging out with your partner start a conversation. This sounds really simple but the secret is to find a topic that is discussable not just "What cha doing". Go online, I suggest USA today online, you can get there by clicking on the title above. Pick something that interests you or you think might interest your partner. Then just bring it up in casual converstaion. You can do this at the dinner table or even in bed before you go to sleep. Good conversation is like good foreplay it enhances the mood and improves the total of the relationship. Just remember that opinions are different for everyone so understand that and make it a point to try to find out why your partner feels the way they do about a subject.

For more information on Conversations in Marriage Click here

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Flower Day!

Make today flower day! It doesn't take a lot of effort or time. Just drop by your local department store or grocery store that has a floral department. Pick up a single flower and the next time you see your sweety, present her with the bloom. Don't drop a lot of money a simple carnation is usually pretty inexpensive. A word of caution, don't do this to often then it becomes expected and loses it's flair. A good rule of thumb is abount once every two months. Flowers for special occasions are excluded and should be of a much more substantial amount.

Click on the Flower Day title to learn about types of flowers.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Underwear is Fun to wear.

All right guys, time to go shopping and get some new undies. Yes you need to do this alone, so that way you can suprise your partner when you just happpen to be parading around in your new hot underwear. Believe me there is nothing sexy about a pair of underwear you have had for over a year! Now get out their and pick out some new underwear that will draw attention to you. (Click the title line to go to the Men's Underwear Store)

Monday, April 6, 2009

Short and Sweet

This morning before getting out of bed reach over a gently touch your partners back. Lightly caress their skin for a few minutes, the give them a gently kiss on the back of their neck. Follow this up by whispering I love you. Then get up and start your day. My bet is that you have made someone else day start out great!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

A Thesaurus is not a prehistoric beast. It could be your best friend.

Gentlemen, here is an activity for you to try, which will surely get you rave reviews. It is a very simple task. All you need is a thesaurus. Make a list of the words you most often use to describe your partner. For example, every time she is getting ready to go out you might say "Honey, you look beautiful." I want you to take the word "beautiful" and look it up in your thesaurus. Find all the synonyms for beautiful. The next time your partner looks beautiful slip in some different words, which you have recently acquired from the thesaurus. Here are a few of my favorite words to replace beautiful: stunning, ravishing, picturesque, exquisite, and attractive.

Use this exercise on other words, which you use regularly. Not only will it increase your vocabulary, but it will make you look much more intelligent and interesting in your partner’s eyes and ears. Ladies, you can use this tactic, too. Just make sure your fellow knows what the words mean. You don’t want him to think you are calling him something bad. If you enjoy doing this, branch out and use it in your everyday life. Just pick a word and vow not to say it for a week. Replace it with another word that means the same thing.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Teach an old dog a new trick!

Sometimes we settle into the same old routine day in and day out. Well, it is time to teach that old dog a new trick. Routines are fine but every once in a while you need to branch out and learn or try something new. Our relationship with our partner is no different. Status quo is okay but throwing in some excitement from time to time adds a little flavor to the relationship. Now, this can be something radical or it can be something that just changes the way you look at things. Tailor this activity to meet your personal preferences and hers.

Your first step is go to a bookstore either online or an actual store and browse for a while. Check out the aisles of things you might have interest in or that your significant other has interest in. Look for books that are simple and straight forward on the topic, I like to start with the dummies series, you know like "Computers for Dummies." These books are simple in getting you started on the topic. The Dummies series actually helped me start blogging. If you don't find anything in those aisles, check out the self-help aisle. There is a broad range of topics, and this area of the store is usually quite busy. After searching and finding the perfect topic, simply buy the book and begin reading. Make sure you lover knows you’re reading it. Leave it lying around or read it in front of her. It is bound to strike up conversations. See if she is interested in learning about the topic also. If so, you can learn about it together. After all, that may help ensure you will put your new knowledge to work. I have learned so much from reading self-help books, and even though I don't necessarily use all the information from each book I take what appeals to me and put it into my life.

Now I know you might feel a little apprehensive about doing this. I enjoy actually going to the bookstore and looking at all the different topics, but if that makes you uncomfortable use an online store like Amazon. Amazon's site is very user friendly and they have every topic you can think of. If you’re still having some trouble getting into this activity, I have listed below some topics that have been of interest to me. Feel free to use them if you need to. Now teach that dog some new tricks, and add them to your relationship. Get out of your rut.

Here are some topics I find interesting that might spice up your relationship: exercise, yoga, food preparation, travel, tantric practices, photography, wine tasting, tandem biking, hiking, sexual practices or positions, massage, karma sutra, astronomy, dancing, trivia, the paranormal, classic movies, or anything you can share with someone else would be perfect.

With Romance you never reach the pinnacle you just have to keep climbing.