How often do you say "I Love You"

"I Love You" the three little words that say so much. The question lies in do you use it to little or too much? I hear both sides on this question and it seem like if one partner says they use it to much the other says that they use it to little. We have a sort of "I Love You" war going on here and both sides are not wrong or right. The trick is to find a balance a middle ground that can make both sides happy. Give a little, take a little is they way we find the exact formula. We need to use the I love you sparingly, it is not just for every reason in the world, if you partner takes out the trash or does their normal chores you don't have to shower them with kisses and I love you's . On the other side of the ball don't respond to a candle lit dinner that includes your favorite dishes with "Thanks, that was good" is not an appropriate response for what that partner has done for you. Think about the times you need to say "I Love You" and don't use it out. It is a special statement that carries so much weight but used wrongly it just seems diluted.

Learning to share you time.

One of the hardest things to get use to in your relationships is sharing your time. When we are young and don't have many commitments we get use to using our time in the exact way we want. Once, we get into a relationship and the longer we are in the relationship we have to start sharing more and more of our time. Being a couple requires that you do spend some of your time together. Actually you should want to spend time with each other or the relationship will have some problems. The trick is trying to balance your time and their time together. When you are together you have to take turns doing things you want to and it is great if you are doing something you both enjoy. However it is inevitable that you will be together sometime where you have to wait while your partner completes a task they need to take care of. A good example of this is when you go to an event with your partner at one of their friends. Maybe a cook out or party where you don't know anyone and you have to sit around while your partner talks and chats with their friends. You want to leave, but to be caring you want to stay as long as your partner wants. To get over this type of scenario you might discuss how long you should stay before getting to the party. If you are the person that is comfortable at the event then you need to make an effort to get your partner involved in the event. Once the both of you understand the the time you share is your time together I don't think this will be as big of a problem. Just make sure to divide the time you spend together up into equal slots for both partners. As your relationship grows you might add factors in such as children that will demand more of both of your time, but if you learn to budget your time now you will be better prepared for these other things that take up your time. I believe that one of the things that drives a relationship apart faster then a lot of things it being unable to learn how to share your time.

How do our viewers relax after a hard day.

The results are in on our survey on how your relax after a hard day. We have a three way tie for the top spot. The answers have sex with partner, snuggle with partner, and read a book, split the top spots. I am glad that two of the answers involve physical contact because I feel that after a hard day the touch of your partner can make you troubles disappear if only for a short time. Next time you partner has a rough day tell them you feel for them and then put your hands on them, caress them, sooth them, it could make their bad day better.

The Guide to Getting it On!

Want to get some great reading material that will help improve your love life also. Then you need to look no farther then “The Guide To Getting It On” by Paul Joannides. This is a large book and covers everything that you can think about sex. The book covers everything from disabilities to attitudes towards different lifestyles. This book is amazing in the fact that you can actually understand the dialogue. Most books on sex I have read are so medical that you end up shaking your head wondering what they are saying. Not The Guide to Getting it on, it slaps you right in the face and doesn’t stop there it answers the questions you want answered. Paul Joannides does a wonderful job of mixing in humor to the book; this lets you relax a little as you read it. I first found out about the book through the Sex is Fun podcast and I still enjoy reading it today. I also think it is a great book to give your children as they hit puberty; I just gave a copy to my son the other day. The book takes no sides and just presents the information in an educational and entertaining way. It gives you insight into all types of life styles and covers important topics such as masturbation and safe sex. I can go on and on about this book I feel it should be in every household on the planet. Paul Joannides does a wonderful job of updating the book from time to time so just because you have a copy doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pick up another at some point and time. You can learn more at the publishers site http://goofyfootpress.com I believe this is one of those books that will be around forever. I know I will reread it several times and I am thinking about starting to give it to people as a wedding gift.

You can purchase this great book on my Amazon Side bar or purchase any other book their so we get a little kick back.

Results of our Poll

The results of our pole on what you find sexy is in.

60% of our viewers responded that undergarments such as boxers, lingerie, and bra and panties were the sexiest things people could wear.

20% thought that just your normal day clothing was the sexiest

5% thought that role play clothing was hot.

5% thought that just being naked was the hottest!

This goes to show us that people that view Romantic Antics for Men (and Women, too), like a little mystery in their sex life. They don't want sexy outfits thrust into their faces. These stats also show that they like to have their partner dressed up in a little package for them like a present. Unwrapping those presents are oh so nice.

Another Great way to save some money to do something fun.

Are you still looking for ways to stash a little cash away? Well here is a suggestion on eating that could save you some cash. Split your meals. With the economy in the shape it is in. I am seeing several restaurants offering meals at greatly reduced prices to get people in the door. This is a great way for you to save some money. First of all find a larger meal and split it between the two of you. Most meals at restaurants are large enough that you can split and still feel pretty full. Make sure not to all into things like drinks and appetizers at these restaurants. Yes they are good but they will make the bill go up quickly. Get water to drink at places it is free then if you want a soda later get one out of the vending machine or at home, they are much cheaper.

Another idea is to find a buffet that offers carry out. They will usually charge you for one person then give you a box to fill up. If you know things your partner likes you can easily get two meals in the box for the price of one. I have a friend that will fill his box at the Chinese restaurant and then make three meals out of it for $5.75. Now that is a bargain. If you just use your brain a little you can save quite a bit of money. Many years ago McDonald's offered $25 cent hamburgers and then the cheeseburgers were .69 cents. Well we found out that adding cheese to a sandwich only cost .20 cents at that time. So we would order hamburgers and add cheese to make the cheeseburger .45 cents! Make sure to check out other great ways to save money in this manner. Keep track of what you save and put it away for a trip or something special for the two of you.

To much Cologne is not the answer.

Men here is a little tip that might help you out with you partner. Cologne is a nice touch but too much cologne is a disaster. I am sure you have smelt the guy who must put on a bottle before he goes out. Do you think women want to really be anywhere near him? Cologne can enhance your natural essence if you don't over do it. You should put on just a touch and it should go on your skin not your clothes. Put it in areas you hope your partner will find later such as your chest or neck. Let them sniff it out, if they can smell you from more then 3 feet away you have over done it.

Another thing to remember in the cologne debate is that cologne is not a substitute for showering. Don't come from the gym and just splash on some cologne before taking you partner out for dinner. Cologne does not get rid of body odor it just mixes with it. So if you do this you are just smelling like a perfumed skunk. Always practice good hygiene you partner deserves this.

Cheap cologne is okay but don't make the mistake of using more because it doesn't cost much. Every once in a while spring for some more expensive cologne to wear on special occasions, your partner will enjoy the switch up. Lastly make sure you cologne agrees with your partner, they might not like the smell or they could be allergic to it. If that is the case get rid of it now, don't save to wear when you are not around them. It is a great gesture to pitch it if you partner can handle it.

Now let me pull a rabbit out of my hat..

Here is an idea to help the two of you decide what to do. One day get together and put all the things you like to do down on slips of paper. Make one pile for places to eat, one for things to do, and one for intimacy levels. The first pile of place to eat should be a complete list of places you have eaten in the past year. The second pile should be a complete list of thing you love to do weather together or not. The third pile is the intimacy level and it should include four different cards. The first should say low level intimacy, the second warm level intimacy, the third hot level intimacy and the fourth should say steamy intimacy.

Next find, or go purchase and item such as a hat to mix the papers up in. Now the next time either one of you says "What do you want to do" head over to your hats and draw one paper from each hat. First one will tell you where to go eat that night, the second will obviously tell you what you will be doing, and the third will tell you the intimacy level you will be having this night.

In the intimacy department I would like to clarify my feelings on the levels. You can set your own but hers is my take. Low level would be taking a walk holding hands, maybe a night out slow dancing, usually low levels of intimacy would take place in public. Warm level intimacy to me would be snuggling down on the couch, kissing, building a fire and enjoying some wine in front of it. Now with the hot level we would begin to incorporate sex into our equation. Hot level to me would include slowly making love to each other, romantic naked massages, and passionate kisses. Once we hit the steamy level their are no holds bard, to me this includes, role play, maybe a little bondage, oral sex, and of coarse trying some different positions. Again you can set your own levels. Just make sure they hit all levels of intimacy.

Now here is the kicker once you pick a paper out it cannot go back into the mix until the hat is empty. No exceptions, you have to experience all the levels to truly appreciate all of them.

Romance Game

Here is a simple game of romance. Take turns telling each other what you feel is romantic. Be it places to go, or just things to do together. Start out slow maybe saying "I think the most romantic place in the world is...." Then the next person says their feelings on the subject. Elaborate on each output and tell why you thing it would be romantic. This is a great way to get to know your partner better. You would think you would only have to play this game once. Well I am here to tell you, that you should make a point to play it at least a couple of times a year. People change and as we get older so do our needs and wants. So at 18 I might think making love on the beach would be the best thing ever. Now that I am old I think about the sand and where it would end up. Nothing is set in stone, make notes but use a pencil as the changes happen.

Underwear is Fun to wear.

All right guys, time to go shopping and get some new undies. Yes you need to do this alone, so that way you can suprise your partner when you just happpen to be parading around in your new hot underwear. Believe me there is nothing sexy about a pair of underwear you have had for over a year! Now get out their and pick out some new underwear that will draw attention to you. (Click the title line to go to the Men's Underwear Store)