Is romance the last thing on your to do list.

When you plan out your day where does time for romance fall? If you are like most other people you put it at the end of the day. Think about this how many of you get everything done you want to everyday? I know that I get less done each day then I plan on at the start of the day. You know how it goes, thing take longer then you think or situations arise the pushes meetings or events back. The list of obstacles goes on and on and then never stop. Thusly most people that put romance at the end of their day, find themselves with little or not energy left for romance, love and sex. I have heard in many financial planning that you should pay yourself first when dealing with your money. Why not put our romance first or give it attention first. How you ask might we do this, not many of us can stop in the middle of the day to be romantic or sexual with our partner. We have jobs, kids, and a load of other items that would make this a little hard for the average couple. We have to set a time, after the kids are in bed, and before we get tired to let our love flow. This might seem a little crazy because most of us want to enjoy each other then fall asleep. Well with this way of approaching romance, then you have time for other things after you get romance into your relationship. Try it, and see how it works for you. Bump your romance time up in front of other things and see what happens you might just find that putting your romance first makes everything else a little better.

Now let me pull a rabbit out of my hat..

Here is an idea to help the two of you decide what to do. One day get together and put all the things you like to do down on slips of paper. Make one pile for places to eat, one for things to do, and one for intimacy levels. The first pile of place to eat should be a complete list of places you have eaten in the past year. The second pile should be a complete list of thing you love to do weather together or not. The third pile is the intimacy level and it should include four different cards. The first should say low level intimacy, the second warm level intimacy, the third hot level intimacy and the fourth should say steamy intimacy.

Next find, or go purchase and item such as a hat to mix the papers up in. Now the next time either one of you says "What do you want to do" head over to your hats and draw one paper from each hat. First one will tell you where to go eat that night, the second will obviously tell you what you will be doing, and the third will tell you the intimacy level you will be having this night.

In the intimacy department I would like to clarify my feelings on the levels. You can set your own but hers is my take. Low level would be taking a walk holding hands, maybe a night out slow dancing, usually low levels of intimacy would take place in public. Warm level intimacy to me would be snuggling down on the couch, kissing, building a fire and enjoying some wine in front of it. Now with the hot level we would begin to incorporate sex into our equation. Hot level to me would include slowly making love to each other, romantic naked massages, and passionate kisses. Once we hit the steamy level their are no holds bard, to me this includes, role play, maybe a little bondage, oral sex, and of coarse trying some different positions. Again you can set your own levels. Just make sure they hit all levels of intimacy.

Now here is the kicker once you pick a paper out it cannot go back into the mix until the hat is empty. No exceptions, you have to experience all the levels to truly appreciate all of them.