Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Intimate Adventures - I honor you

Welcome to your Intimate Adventures! You have in your hands the opportunity to transform your relationship. You can improve your love life no matter what stage it is in. Relationships that need a boost can be lifted up, and fantastic relationships can move to the next level. This is not work or therapy. Instead, Intimate Adventures offers you joyful and fun filled experiences to achieve sacred sex and sacred intimacy with your partner. 

Whether or not you consider yourself religious or spiritual, you and your partner will learn how to bring spirituality into the everyday life of your relationship as well as your sexual relationship – after all we are actually spiritual beings having human experiences. Pleasure is one of the beautiful experiences in life. Many taboos have been placed around sex and sexuality. Intimate Adventures helps you release those taboos, create a safe space, and open your heart with your partner. The exercises, rituals, experiences and adventures you will discover will help you and your partner continually grow and expand as individuals and as a couple. 

It is time to discover your blended spirit!

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Tantric Massage a great gift for each other

I guess the majority of us have heard about Tantric sex and massage. Had anyone asked me what it was exactly I would have giggled shyly and muttered something about gentle touching, feathers, massage and no orgasm. How wrong I was.
Tantric massage is basically just a massage. However it was created from the belief that if you are sexually happy and relaxed then your health will benefit. The Hindus describe Tantra as achieving personal growth through pleasurable existence. The massage itself does tend to cause orgasms, but these are described as a bonus rather than the aim.
Although Tantric massage does not involve actual penetrative sex, it does involve full on touching of the organs. For this reason you will not find it offered down your local health centre. You are far more likely to find it on offer in the many massage parlours in London and other major cities.
If you want to have a go with her or him indoors here is a pretty basic guide to Tantric massage.
Firstly, from this point on, your manhood is referred to as Lingam (wand of light - don't be thinking light sabre it's not that big!) and the lady's bits are called Yoni (sacred space or sacred temple). Let's face it those words sound much nicer than the alternatives.
If you are visiting somewhere for your massage you need to decide in advance whether you will be getting naked or not. Proper Tantric masseuse prefer you to be naked, they believe this helps the healing process all over your body. If you are shy you can choose to keep some clothes on, I am guessing you will want to cover your Lingam or your Yoni. If you are at home with the missus or the husband, get your kit off and turn the heating up.
Choose some gentle music (whale music is optional). Now banish all thoughts of kneading your lover all over until she or he begs for mercy. It's not that kind of massage. Make your lover lie on his or her back, legs apart and a cushion under the hips to raise up the Yoni/Lingam area and a cushion under the head so they can look at their genitals. Explain that although there will not be any penetrative sex this evening you will take them to previously unknown heights of sexual satisfaction. It may help to convince them if you do not print off this article and place it next to them on the bed. Choose your lubricant wisely; chocolate body sauce has no place here.
The massage itself involves every part of the body, although I guess the Yoni/Lingam area will receive more than its fair share of attention. The massaging of the body is to help prepare the receiver for the attention you will be paying their genitals.
Yoni Massage
Pour a small amount of oil on to the mound of the Yoni, just enough so it drips down the outer lips. Massage each outer lip slowly between thumb and forefinger, sliding up and down the entire length of the lip. Only ask your lover if the pressure is too much or not enough. Try to look into their eyes during the massage and ensure she can see what you are doing. Do the same for the inner lips of the Yoni. Take your time and watch your lover relax.
The jewel in the crown is the clitoris. Four times more sensitive that your Lingam so take it easy here. Begin by gently stroking it in a clockwise and anti-clockwise direction and squeeze it gently between your thumb and index finger. The missus will be well and truly fired up by now but try not to allow an orgasm just yet, let the sensations build. If it becomes too much, just back off a bit and encourage her to breathe deeply. Now insert the middle finger of your right hand (I can't remember why it has to be the right one but I shouldn't think it would cause too much trouble if you need to use your left instead.) and gently feel around inside continuing to massage gently.
With your palm facing upwards and your middle finger buried in the Yoni, bend your finger back towards the palm and you should feel a spongy area just under the pubic bone. This is known as the G-spot ("that's where it is!" I hear you yell). Gently massage here, in circles, back and forth, side to side. Your lover may feel the need to pee but hopefully she should feel pleasure building slowly. At this point you may wish to insert the finger between your middle finger and your little finger. Whilst a few of your digits are employed inside, you may as well use your thumb to continue circling the clitoris. Another option is to leave your middle finger inside, continue stimulating the clitoris with your thumb and insert your little finger up her anus. I would suggest you perhaps test the waters first as anal penetration when you are not expecting it would definitely ruin the mood. Whilst all this is going on, your left hand may feel a little underused. Use it instead to continue stroking and massaging other parts of her body (her body parts not yours!). Your lover will more than likely experience a very intense orgasm and afterward will feel completely relaxed. She will generally drift off to sleep and leave you in a state of arousal with no prospect of a Lingam massage for you tonight!
Lingam Massage
Traditionally the giver, some men may find it difficult to lay back and think of England whilst his lover goes to work on his wand of light. However, I do suggest you give it a go bearing in mind the fantastic massage you gave her Yoni last night.
Get your man to lay back on the bed with a pillow under his head to enable him to see what you are doing. Put a pillow under his hips and spread his legs with his knees bent. His Lingam must be completely exposed. Begin as before by gently massaging all over his body, avoiding this area for a while. This allows him to become completely relaxed and prepared for the touching of the Lingam. Pour a small amount of oil over his shaft and testicles and begin gently massaging his testicles. Next massage the area on the pubic bone above the Lingam. Massage the area between his testicles and his anus (perineum). Moving on to the Lingam, gently grasp the base with your right hand and move up the shaft and then remove your hand, repeat with the left hand. Do this for some time, then change to grasping the Lingam at the top, slide down the shaft and remove your hand, replace with the left and repeat this process. The head of the Lingam is very sensitive and deserves special attention. Massage it in a circular motion. Don't worry if the Lingam goes soft, it will shortly perk up again. Likewise if your partner seems to be on the brink of orgasm, back off and encourage deep breathing.
Keep bringing him close to orgasm and then back off. This is not a method of torture, it helps them to control their ejaculation and therefore achieve longer and more pleasurable orgasms. Whilst continuing to massage his Lingam, you can search for his sacred spot. This is located between his testicles and his anus. It is a small indentation about the size of a pea. If you massage here and gently increase the pressure he may well feel uncomfortable at first. Applying pressure here will help him gain control of his orgasms in future. If he is nearing ejaculation you can apply pressure here and this will increase the intensity of his orgasm.
The end of the massage is signalled by either ejaculation or snoring. If he is snoring you still have some practising to do. If he has ejaculated, you have some clearing up to do.
I am still very much a beginner however I was pleased to discover that Tantric massage is not a mysterious sexual cult and is certainly not difficult to do. Anyone with an hour to spare and a bottle of strawberry flavoured body oil can do it.
Lisa Mills owns two commercially driven websites, one selling baby hampers and the other promoting children educational toys

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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Laugher, better than sex???

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Saturday, August 20, 2011

A Sensual Touch

"A sensual touch gets the point across, in a hurry"
-Rob Alex-

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

You'll look sweet upon the seat of a bicycle built for two

When you first start dating, you always wonder what you should do for your dates or how to be romantic. There are so many romantic things to do that can lead to a perfect relationship. You can plan your dates for fun or romance and still make an impression on your partner.
Bike Rides
If the weather is nice, take a long bike ride at sunset along the beach. You can enjoy a few stops at a café for a cappuccino or a light snack. Better yet, rent a tandem bike for two and enjoy a ride together.
Singing Telegram
Send him or her a singing telegram. Everyone is surprised and filled with joy when they receive such a thoughtful gift. Make sure to choose a romantic song to make your point. Maybe you could include a small gift or flowers with it as well.
Teddy Bears
Buy her or him a teddy bear that talks. Many are found at craft stores or card shops. Some have cute sayings and some say how you might feel. These are the cutest things to give to someone you care deeply about and want to share some time together.
Rose Petals
If your relationship is far enough along, you can leave a trail of rose petals leading to a romantic dinner or maybe even the bedroom where candles will be the only light. A nice romantic song on the CD player will make this even more special. If you have rose petals in the bed, you might consider the Bon Jovi song, "Lay You Down in a Bed of Roses."
There are so many romantic things to do to make your relationship perfect. Being romantic is always a true way to a woman's heart. Every little thing can be romantic if you do it the right way.
Go get the best romantic tips and advice for relationships at: http://www.YourGuideToRomance.com/

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Sunday, August 14, 2011

Look to the Positive

For every thing that goes sideways in our lives, there are twice as many things that go right. However, all too often we focus on the few mishaps rather than the positives. This negative focus sours our day lowers our immune system and makes us feel powerless. I notice this tendency in myself sometimes and have created a game I like to play when I catch myself spiraling downward. I call this game "Three Good Things."
I recently had a chance to play it, when I was traveling to Vancouver for a lunch presentation. Awaking to an early five a.m. alarm clock, my partner John gave me a ride to the bus stop. We kissed goodbye and I hopped on along with all of the other early morning travelers. Just a few blocks into our journey, the driver announced that the windshield wipers were broken and that we must get off the bus and he would try to get another bus for us from the depot. Chances were slim that we would still make it to the ferry terminal in time. Here we were standing in the rain, waiting for another bus that may or may not arrive in time for us to catch the ferry. People started complaining about the bus service, one person called her husband to pick her up and take her back home, the bus driver kept saying, "we are not going to make it to the ferry in time". In the midst of this doom and gloom, I began playing my first round of "Three Good Things." I challenged myself to come up with three things that were good about this situation and came up with the following:
1. Even if I miss the early ferry, I will still be able to arrive on time for my lunch talk.
2. I have a good book with me and two extra hours to read it in case we don't make the early sailing.
3. This bus driver takes safety seriously and is doing everything he can to get another bus as quickly as possible. I feel safe.
Meanwhile the doom and gloom talk continued around me until the new bus arrived and we all got on. The driver seemed to have his foot glued to the gas pedal and we somehow arrived at the ferry terminal 5 minutes before departure. Even though the ticket sales usually stop 10 minutes prior to departure, the BC Ferry staff let us on to the ferry. We were on our way to Vancouver - another good thing.
Before I created the "Three Good Things" game, I could have easily spiraled downwards with everybody else and gotten upset. However, I chose to have fun with my game and that helped me keep things in perspective.
Give it a try the next time you catch yourself thinking "oh no!" Take the challenge to come up with three good things. Sometimes it may be difficult to come up with positive aspects, however just engaging in the game and looking for the good things will help shift your perspective. Enjoy!
Julia James, CPCC, PCC, M.Sc. is a multi-lingual certified life coach, award-winning author and international speaker. She helps busy professionals around the world achieve balance in their lives through individual coaching and workshops. Author of the book, The Mini-Retreat Solution and the audio CD series, Guided Mini-Retreats for Busy People, she provides tools to manage stress effectively and to relax and re-energize quickly. Julia has been featured on Joy TV, CBC News, as well as in The Globe & Mail, Glow Magazine, BC Business Magazine and The Vancouver Observer. For more information visit: www.juliajames.ca

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Thursday, August 11, 2011

Time to Pop The Question - Read This First

Is it the right time to ask your special someone The Question? Whether standing on two feet or on bended knees, making your marriage proposal can be a very scary and exciting event. And you'd want to get it right, too. About 60% of engaged people say their proposal could have been better. If the hopeless romantic in you wants the perfect pitch, here are some creative ways to pop the question:
Tongue tied? Let a jigsaw puzzle say what you want. This is one of the many creative ways to pop the question. Have a special jigsaw puzzle designed with your proposal printed and then have it cut. Ask your loved one to help you put it together and when it's nearing completion, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or some fake errand and fetch the ring. Make sure he or she has completed the puzzle before you re-enter the room and pop the question.
Go on a treasure hunt is one of the creative ways to pop the question. Remember the reality TV show National Treasure? Why don't you create a treasure hunting expedition of your own? Consider all the places that have special meaning to you both - the bar where you met, the place where you had your first date, the park bench where you first kissed, the favorite spot in the park where you liked to picnic, etc.
Plant a clue on each spot and then give her a treasure map. You can use romantic poems or quotes to begin each clue or use lines that rhyme for the clues. Once you've reached the last stop (the place where you're going to pop the question), bring out the ring.
It's a kind of magic. Hire a magician to help you think of creative ways to pop the question. Arrange the time and place where it will be and go out on a usual date with your loved one. Make sure to explain everything the magician has to know - what he needs to do, when and where exactly. When you pass by, tell your girlfriend or boyfriend that you want to watch the magic performance.
The magician then takes your beloved to participate in a magic trick. The magician can then 'magically' produce flowers and a note. When your girl or man reads the note, it's your cue to pop the question.
Go fishing. If you both like fishing, this is one of the creative ways to pop the question. Prepare your fishing lines and tie the engagement ring securely at the end of one line and give that to your girlfriend. Wait a few minutes and then tell her to reel it in. Once she sees the ring, untie it, present it to her and ask her to marry you.
Ask them through a cartoon or computer-generated animation. If you or someone you know has talent in animation, this is one of the creative ways to pop the question using your talent. Prepare a short video of your proposal. Write a storyline that will tell the story of how you met and include significant events in your life. Use a popular fairy tale if you don't have other ideas, but make sure the characters in the movie can clearly depict you both. At the end of the video (3 to 5 minutes will do), have your short film character pop the question.
Whatever creative ways to pop the question you decide to use, remember that a lot of things rely on planning and timing. Focus the entire proposal event on your story and include things, places and events that are unique to your relationship. Be creative, have fun and if everything goes right, there's a huge chance you'll get a 'yes'.
Marriage proposals don't have to cost a fortune. In fact, the best ones usually don't. If you are thinking of getting engaged, you probably want to do it right. You want it to be amazingly special. Something she or he will want to share with everyone. Do you really want to know how to create a marriage proposal that will blow her (or him) away? Find out more about creative ways to pop the question visit Romantics Guide To Popping The Question at All About Relationships
Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including Marriage Proposals: Creative Ways to Pop the Question. You are allowed to publish this article in its entirety provided that author’s name, bio and website links must remain intact and included with every reproduction.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Seriously, Laughter Yoga is Good For You

Is laughter really the best medicine? Of course not. Watching your nightly dose of Conan O'Brian will not cure you of anything. But the cliche certainly has some merit. Medical experts have always praised the general benefits of laughter.
The Mayo Clinic website, for one, sings the praises of laughter. Among other things, they tell us that laughter:
  • increases your oxygen level, stimulating organs like your lungs and your heart.
  • increases the release of endorphins from the brain
  • Stimulates better blood circulation, relieving tension
  • Fosters relaxation
  • Can increase a person's overall sense of well-being
That's not a bad starter list. If they are right, then laughter is something that we should seek out--even practice! And that is the idea behind a brand new trend in the exercise world, especially among seniors. It is called "Laughter Yoga."
So what is Laughter Yoga? I confess that I didn't think it was real when I heard about it. It sounds like the most awkward combination of activities imaginable. But in laughter yoga, there is really very little yoga in the traditional sense. No funny poses. No tight spandex. And definitely no serenity.
What are you left with? Laughing. Lots of laughing.
Here is how it works. An instructor comes in and has the group circle up. She begins to lead them in imaginary scenarios like opening up a credit card bill. The bill is so high, she starts to laugh. it starts out as a chuckle. But it builds. And before long, she is doubled over in hysteria.
The participants are supposed to join in and open their credit card bills as well. It's awkward at first, but they are encouraged to go ahead and force it. So they do. It's painful to watch, but everyone is doing it. Everyone feels ridiculous. But somehow, after thirty seconds, they are all laughing for real.
Does it sound embarrassing? If this news report is any indication, it absolutely is!. But if laughter really is good for you, why not makelaughter happen? If it helps you unwind and feel good about life, it might be worth the humiliation.
Not surprisingly, laughter yoga has not gone mainstream. Right now, it might be most popular in assisted living homes. Seniors who might not be healthy enough to go for a jog are still more than capable of having a big belly laugh. And who knows? In a few years, it might be among the most popular elderly activities at the seniors center.
Jay Landry blogs about family issues and elderly activities. He has vowed never to participate in Laughter Yoga.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Sacred Sexual Coaching

Sex is what brought us here. Without sex, you and I won't be here.
There is nothing cheap or dirty about sex. It is the attitude towards sex that makes it degrading, sinful ,and dirty .Sex can be beautiful and precious. It fulfills the function of procreation, it could also be a means to commit
the most heinous crime.
It is important not only to be aware of our sexuality.We need to acknowledge its importance as a factor for a balanced life. It is the fire that keeps the flames of romance aglow, the strong fiber that knits a relationship together against all odds. It is refreshing, it is healing. Respect for sex add meaning to our human existence and relationships.
We treat with reverence those things we hold dear to our hearts. Activities that we enjoy leave us with that sense of accomplishment, of satisfaction, and make us feel good.
Music is considered the language of the soul. Who does not enjoy music? It is one of the great pleasures mankind has discovered. There are as many tunes,songs and music as there are
performers ,composers and song writers.
Sex is an integral part of human existence.The expression of sex has many faces, strikes many chords, creates a variety of tempo, of harmony or dis-harmony.
Who does not admire beautiful and awesome surroundings; seek and welcome serenity and tranquility, away from the frenzy of the world. Expression and wholesome atmosphere create and inspire the moment for the ultimate experience of Sacred Sex.
We do not subscribe to the same type of music, but generally, there must be something in the music that stirs the soul; a melody that promotes a certain mood, a tune that softens or excites the psyche. Listening to music is soothing, it is
inspiring, it quietens a cluttered mind.
No human activity but sex can elevate the soul, the human spirit to ecstasy, out of the physical realm into a world only the two physical bodies can experience.It is not the "quickie", not the one in the backseat, or any isolated dim spot that
is available at the moment.
Anyone who has been to a concert, a recital, or attended a symphony, knows these events need planning. Sex is like attending one of these events. To fully enjoy it, set aside the time , the resources needed , plan the when and the how will naturally follow. It is not an event we attend to everyday. It is a special
occasion we look forward to with anticipation. Of course,spontaneity adds pizzazz.
Why not a sacred time for sacred sex? For anyone who is interested to learn more about the "How to", the resources are limitless- read up on Tantric Sex or get a copy of the Kama Sutra.
But, no matter how much information you read on sex, if the attitude to elevate it to something sacred is not there, it would be difficult to experience the bliss, the ecstasy and the sense of fulfillment only sacred sex can offer.
Expression is a very personal matter, so is the experience.
There is music, and there is music. Some people enjoy the singer who belts out the words, in constant gyration or movement. They see the singer, do they hear the song? There are others who are quite content with the blues, or country tempo, some go for ballads, but, there is always room for the appreciation of the music of the great masters.Do not mistake it for the elevator music.Many great music have "popular hits" versions that appeal to most. Take Beethoven's Fifth, Chopin's Nocturne in B Flat ( To Love Again), Mozart's Eich Nacht Music ( Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star).
Sacred sex is like attending a symphony- the orchestra and all its sections play their part, the percussion, the wind instruments, the strings.
What does these have to do with sex? When elevated to the highest form that it can be, every single part of the human body can be tuned up like the sections of the orchestra, to produce that haunting, enjoyable , uplifting and satisfying music.
Listen to some good music, it's not all one beat, one, chord, one tone. Observe the adagio, enjoy the cantabile, the sweetness of the dolce, then get exhilarated as the orchestra progresses to forte, fortissimo, con anima, then...it starts to slow down, go into ritardando, some endings maybe soft or bombastic, but always passionate. Notice that after each performance of the symphony,there are seconds of quiet, when you hear not a sound, until the maestro takes his bow.
Lovers need time together , without interruptions to get to know each other.It's a special night, without the children, and no telephone. It is time together,to immerse in each other's love, where they experience the ecstasy of being ONE.
Two souls are able to reach out into the depths of each other's being during moments of intimacy. It is difficult to interpret most work of art, and feel the passion of the artist, understand what was on his mind while creating his work.
Music is different. The performer has the freedom to express the inner stirrings within the soul, with passion that radiates through the performance, filters to the spectators, and enjoy the transformation to a different world and savor the peace within the soul .
In sacred sex, it helps to understand the human anatomy, to fine tune all these parts, yes, from head to toe, to stir the most passionate, ecstatic and blissful act.
When two souls are able to reach this state of oneness, savor it, and respect it.
That is sacred sex.
About the writer:
Bonnie Moss writes about spirituality, tools available to all to walk the path. Visit her website, a metaphysical site that offers information on tarot, crystals, aura, journalling and related topics. Her various articles are published on high-end e-zines. She offers guidance and coaching through tarot.

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Monday, August 1, 2011

Our Anniversary Approaches

As my partner and I approach our 9th anniversary, I would love to hear ideas on how to celebrate it.  I want to get your input on how you would celebrate with your lover.  Don't be shy and leave a comment below or you can email me at rob@inwardoasis.com.  I am excited to hear the ways you celebrate and we might even share some of them with the other readers.  So get to typing and let us know.