Anger Management.

Have you ever had one of those days when your partner comes home madder than a hornet. They burst through the door with their nostrils flaring like a raging bull. Their anger is so strong that it seems like they are yelling at you. The last thing you want to do in this situation is try to rationalize what has happened. What you need to do is let them release the steam. Yelling and screaming might be part of this process for them. Sit quietly and listen and offer positive support, don't question their anger or try to make light of it. For their benefit it is good to join the fight and start getting angry about the situations yourself. Boost them up and let them know you are standing behind them. This is great because once they setting down they will be most appreciative of what you have done for them. When your partner is this mad you have to let them let it out or they might blow up later of something super small. Think of them as a pressure cooker letting the steam out keeps the pot from exploding.

Do a chore as a thank you.

Did you partner do something wonderful for you? Maybe they got you a special little present, or took the kids so you could nap. When these type of unselfish acts happen you can show how much your appreciate them by helping you partner out. One good way is to complete a chore that they usually do. If he/she is the one that does the dishes then secretly do all the dishes, freeing them up for something they might like to do. This is a wonderful way to say thank you for a special service you partner has presented you with. Always remember what goes around comes around. When you partner does something nice for you, complete the circle and return the favor.

Shoes, shoes shoes

Shoes? How the heck is that romantic? Well shoes themselves are not romantic but combined with your imagination they can be. Shoes are great places to hide little love notes. They are great for hiding love notes because you wear them everyday so it isn't possible to not find them. You can also match the note to the shoes. Sexy shoes get sexy notes, hiking shoes get notes about being rugged and tough, sport shoes can express how great your partner looks, no matter what type of shoe it is you can adjust the note to express the shoe. You can also use shoes to be romantic in other ways. Setting out your partners dancing shoes in plain site can tell them you are ready for a romantic night of dancing. You can use all your shoes to spell out words or even lead your partner to a surprise you have waiting for them. So you see, shoes can be romantic you just have to be creative.

Can driving home from vacation be romantic?

We have covered a couple of times how romantic drives can be, however this one is a little different. The drive home from vacation is usually filled with sleeping and worn out company. You desire is to get home and not to be living out of your car anymore for a while. How can we make this romantic? Well by talking about the adventures you just had. Start recounting all the things you did and the ones that you remember the most. Ask each family member what was their favorite part of vacation and what was their worst. Getting the conversation flowing will help pass the time on your boring drive home. Not to mention have you partner laughing and poking fun at the things you did while on vacation. Get your digital camera out and have the passengers check out the photos of your trip and talk about what they are seeing. Just make sure the driver keeps his/her eyes on the road.

Ladies give in a do some guy things!

Ladies want to do something romantic for you partner? Try doing some quote guy things with him. I know in this day and age that sounds a little out of place. There are however things that men seem to prefer on average than women. On of the biggest ones is sports. Try to enjoy a game with him be it at home or if you can secure tickets to a game even better. Make it a date but use it more as a friendship building activity. Cheer, laugh and have a good time weather you are at home or at the game try to get into it. Ask him questions to try to understand the game if you don't but not to many questions as you don't want to turn in into a class. What if you guy doesn't like sports? Well then watch and see what activities he enjoys with his friends and ask him sometime to let you enjoy it with him. Maybe he like photography, if so go with him and let him show you how to take wonderful pictures. No matter what things he likes to do try it out it doesn't mean you have to do it all the time with him but make the effort to understand it. When we think about romance we most often think of kissing and dating. Finding common interests is a very romantic and can build a relationship or make it stronger in a hurray.

Make the most of your time apart to make your time together enjoyable.

When you are in love and apart thing don't seem to go right. However, you should use this time to enjoy the things you normally did before you were in a relationship. No I don't mean go out looking for dates. I mean hang with your buddies or perform an activity or hobby that you have fun doing. By doing this you take your mind off your partner and it gives you space to breath and be an individual. This way when the two of you meet up again the electricity will create those sparks that you both love between the two of you. Relationships are tricky and finding just the right amount of time to be together is a trial and error process. Give yourself room to grow and flourish and your partner will desire you more. Just make sure you don't over due it, not having time for your relationship is just as bad as never being apart. A happy relationship has a great balance of the two. With that balance you also get to very happy people in a relationship.

Share your feelings

Here is a little hint for you no matter where you are in your relationship. Share your feelings, it's that simple. If something bothers you then let your partner know about it. Don't just tell them about feelings about your relationship, use this outlet to express your feelings about all factors in your life. Work, children, education, no matter what the area let your feelings be known, even if you agree with the topic let it out. This is a great practice to get into as it opens up the lines of communication. Once you are in flow of this you won't even hesitate to share your feelings as they happen, and if you don't let your feelings fester then you might see an improvement in not only your relationship but your life in general.

Valentines Day fun!

Okay today I am going to tell you a fun little game to play with your partner on Valentine's Day. We call this one search for my heart. What you do is get some construction paper and cut it out into hearts. Next you need to plan out several area's of your house where you can hide clues. Places like the refrigerator, dryer, or underwear drawer for examples. Next you put clues on the hearts you cut out of the construction paper. You can make them as hard or easy as you like one example might be if you are going to hide one in the dryer you might write on the heart, "If I wanted you to tumble my underwear it might be in here" Lead the person all around your house with these clues then with a red washable marker draw a little heart on your body that is the x that marks the spot. If you want to be intimate you might put the heart near you genitals or if you can just put the heart on your chest. To start the hunt out give your partner a card with the first clue inside. You could also purchase several little presents and put one at each clue to add a little more excitement to the game. You could plan your evening out this way, get a coupon for your favorite restaurant, followed by a ticket to a romantic movie, then a bottle of wine, ending with a pair of sexy underwear. I think they will get the idea!!!

Pump that Body.

Have you ever noticed how full your muscles feel after a good work out. After a serious bout of lifting my muscles are tight and firm. You can use this tactic to your advantage in your relationship. If you know you are going to have times when your partner is going to be touching you, then thinking ahead you can give them something to make them say wow. Get some dumbells and keep them handy and about a half hour before you snuggle down to watch a movie or do any kind of physical contact give yourself a quick work out for your arms. Do several reps at a light weight to get your muscles tired and full. For added effect flex a little whenever your partner touches you and you might just get touched more. This is an old practice that I learned reading about my favorite bands and how they would do some quick lifting before a photo shoot to make them look better, well it works so why not use it. Start pumping that body and get yourself rock hard for your partner.

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Find relaxing activities to do together

With our lives so hectic and crazy sometimes we need to slow it down a bit and doing that with a partner is a great way to unwind. Find some activities that take stress out of your life. A lazy day spend fishing or laying on a blanket in the park are great ways just to be together and relax. The possibilities are endless things like reading, biking, walks and laying on the beach are great ways to spend time together without stress. To many times we just are rushing past each other on our way to work or other functions that we sometimes don't get to spend the quality time with each other. Finding these activities might not just help us unwind but it might just help us improve our relationships.

Be Nice to everyone!

One thing I find extremely attractive in a person is the way they treat others. Are you the type of person that helps others out in time of need or offers your assistance when someone you care about is in trouble. These type of qualities are factors that could possibly attract the person of your dreams to you. Haven't you seen in the movies where someone does something nice and it seems like they are rewarded with the person of their dreams. This can happen to you. Just start being nice to everyone even if they are nasty to you. Turn the other check if you have to and just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and explain your side of the situation. Not only will this make you attractive to others, it will make you attractive to yourself. You will feel good and not carry baggage around with you in your daily life. Think of how many times you have let someone upset you, only to carry it around with you all day. Thinking about how you should have told them off or what you should have done to them. If you can let it roll of your back think of better use of your time you would have. Start today it is not to late, be nice.

Get your partner a little hot under the collar.

Want to turn you partner on a little and do something good for your health at the same time? Well next time you are just sitting around doing nothing, get up and work out a little in front of your partner. Grab some weights or slip in an aerobic tape and start working out. You can bet your partner will take notice. It doesn't matter how out of shape you are at least you will be showing them that you are going to start getting into better shape. Now that you have started this you have to keep doing it, make it a routine at certain times of the week. Say Sunday while you are watching football, or right before you go to bed during your cool down time. Nothing is more exciting then watching your partner flex their muscles or bounce around the house sticking your butt in the air. Even if your partner is doing something else I am sure they will glance over the top of their book from time to time to take a peak at you getting even more sexy. Try it today and let us know how it works out!!!

Don't date above your means

Just some basic words of advice. Don't date above your means. We all want to impress our dates especially on the first few dates. We want them to think we are comfortable with our lifestyle. Sometimes it is easy to overdue it and go out to a super fancy restaurant or take a trip somewhere. These things are fun but if they don't fit in your budget, you will be paying for them for a long time. Be honest with your date and pick restaurants that are in your price range or find fun things to do that don't cost a lot. Believe me your date needs to know your status from the beginning. Don't make him/her believe that you have money to burn if you don't. That will only lead to tension later down the line. If you date really likes you and enjoys being with you then the amount of money you make won't make a difference. Never ever spend more on a date then you can afford, it only leads to troubles. Be creative and find things to do that are fun and cheap if you need to, I am sure your date will appreciate the effort that you put into your evening together.

Help Someone Out!

One thing that will show your partner what a great person you are is to help someone else out. Next time you see someone loading up their groceries lend a helping hand. Make sure to ask if it's okay first, you don't want to be a creepy person. Then help load up their groceries. You could also stop and help someone out with car problems or with a flat tire. It can be as simple as helping a child put their chain back on their bike or helping out a friend with a cook out. Just look for anything that would help someone out. Don't expect anything in return, the simple feeling you get should be enough. I use to drive around in my father's truck that had a snow plow on the front and help scoop out peoples drive ways. They always offered me money but I never accepted any the feeling was enough. Once your partner sees that you are truly doing this to simply help other out they will see you in a different light.

Tonights distractions go out the window!

Tonight is a night that you need to put all focus on your relationship. Express this feeling to your partner. Make an agreement that tonight whatever you are going to do will have no distractions. Forget the cell phones, no television, no sports, no computer and no interruptions. This is a night that is quietly set aside for the two of you. Have you ever been to dinner when you partners phone rings and they talk for a few minutes, if you like me you feel a little shorted on your time together. I don't care if you are newly dating or have been married for several years. You still owe your partner respect while you are focusing on your relationship. You can leave numbers to the places you will be attending in case of emergency's, but other then that your undivided attention should be focused on each other. Don't sit at the restaurant and watch sports on the television either, I have a bad habit of doing this one. Football season is the worst for me, but I try to sit myself facing away from any television so I am not tempted.

Another point to make on this distractions point is don't go to place that doesn't allow you the noise level to chat. Forget the new club with it's loud music, or the professional basketball game or any place you cannot talk to each other easily. Quite places such as parks, museums, or beaches are great for walking and talking. Don't forget to hold hands also. Remember this is to be a date and all distractions need to be thrown out the window. Well don't literally throw them out the window, cell phones are expensive.

Now let me pull a rabbit out of my hat..

Here is an idea to help the two of you decide what to do. One day get together and put all the things you like to do down on slips of paper. Make one pile for places to eat, one for things to do, and one for intimacy levels. The first pile of place to eat should be a complete list of places you have eaten in the past year. The second pile should be a complete list of thing you love to do weather together or not. The third pile is the intimacy level and it should include four different cards. The first should say low level intimacy, the second warm level intimacy, the third hot level intimacy and the fourth should say steamy intimacy.

Next find, or go purchase and item such as a hat to mix the papers up in. Now the next time either one of you says "What do you want to do" head over to your hats and draw one paper from each hat. First one will tell you where to go eat that night, the second will obviously tell you what you will be doing, and the third will tell you the intimacy level you will be having this night.

In the intimacy department I would like to clarify my feelings on the levels. You can set your own but hers is my take. Low level would be taking a walk holding hands, maybe a night out slow dancing, usually low levels of intimacy would take place in public. Warm level intimacy to me would be snuggling down on the couch, kissing, building a fire and enjoying some wine in front of it. Now with the hot level we would begin to incorporate sex into our equation. Hot level to me would include slowly making love to each other, romantic naked massages, and passionate kisses. Once we hit the steamy level their are no holds bard, to me this includes, role play, maybe a little bondage, oral sex, and of coarse trying some different positions. Again you can set your own levels. Just make sure they hit all levels of intimacy.

Now here is the kicker once you pick a paper out it cannot go back into the mix until the hat is empty. No exceptions, you have to experience all the levels to truly appreciate all of them.