Treat yourself sexy!

When you feel sexy yourself your whole attitude changes. People want to be around you and things just seem to go better. Think about it when you are down in the dumps or stressed about things, do others flock to you? Most likely you answered no to that question. The reason being is that you give off a bad vibe and everyone picks up on that. When you are confident and feel sexy you give off the opposite vibe, that is when people want to get to know you or want to be with you. This is true in relationships also, your partner is more likely to want to be around you when you feel comfortable and confident. It just goes hand in hand then that when you feel sexy your partner will view you as sexy and desire you more often. It is the law of attraction, put out what you want and it will find you. It is important for you well being to happy and by being confident and secure in your wants you will find all the happiness you desire.

love yourself first!

An interesting concept that has taken me a while to understand is now an important fact in my life. To love you have to love yourself first. For years I have always thought that my love for my partner is the most important thing. However you cannot give your love away if it is not in you to begin with. I am not say that you need to do things differently in the way you treat your partner but you need to treat yourself differently. Make you that you are getting the things to make your happy and then your happiness will spread to your partner. They will start picking up on your happiness and if they truly love you then, they will feel more love towards you and you can share you love easily with them. It is a circle and once you understand it your love will really start to pick up speed.

Don't forget to have quite time.

We spend so much time talking and learning about each other that sometimes we forget that just being present with each other is a blessing in itself. Enjoying that quiet time with each other just laying next to your love or lightly touching each other is a wonderful way to relax and enjoy each other without having to worry about bring up something interesting or new. You can just be together and soak up each others energy without saying a word. Sometimes this is just what the doctor ordered on those days that seem a little harder that others. Try it sometime don't speak just relax and enjoy and feel your partners presence.

Sometimes a little self starting helps the cause.

Sometimes you might not be quite in the mood to make a little love with you partner. You can see it in their eyes and you want to, yet your not quite in the mood. When this happens take a minute and give yourself some time. Head into the bathroom or a private area where you can start to stimulate yourself. Ladies loosen up that clitoris and men stroke yourself until you are starting to get hard. Your partner doesn't have to know you have done this but they will be the one reaping the rewards of it. Sometimes you just have to prime the engine a little bit and get yourself to that place so that you are ready.

Use your tongue more often.

The tongue is one of your greatest allis in the sexual revolution. Most people avoid the use of the tongue and use it only for kissing. Those poor poor people. Our tongue is one of our greatest muscles and should be treated like it an exercised. A strong tongue is a plus for performing oral sex and it quickly improves when you exercise it. There are several ways to exercise it. Just moving it in and out of your mouth or wiggling it helps improve you control of it. Having oral sex more often also is a work out for you tongue. Don't think that you tongue however is just for you partners pleasure. Your tongue is so sensitive to taste and feel that you can get enjoyment out of it also. Taste your partner get to know them in that manner, lick different areas of their body and taste the difference. Along the same lines feel the difference in the skin on different areas with your tongue you will soon find that this is erotic for both of you.

Any time is a good time for a kiss on the cheek.

Sometimes we want to express our love for our partner when they are busy or doing something important. Maybe they are working on a project or just watching their favorite television show. This is a perfect time to just walk up and kiss them on the cheek without disturbing what they are doing. Don't wait for a return kiss, just kiss and move on. You will be surprised how that kiss will come back to you later. Don't believe me try it and see.

Wonderful nights of cool air.

It is getting towards that time where we live that the nights are cooling off. The temperature drops form the hot times during the day to become quite nippy in the dark hours. This is a prime time to open up the windows and enjoy the clear crispy night air. Provided you don't live in the middle of a huge city or near a lot of noise. This is a time to listen to the quite sounds of the night. Crickets chirping, the wind blowing and the owls calling are all part of the night symphony that awaits you. Not to mention the perfect snuggling weather and the smells of the night air. Combined with the fact your partner is near you and you are experiencing this together it allows for a bond to be formed. A bond that goes beyond love and beyond friendship to actually combining the two into a relationship.

Sometimes it is just best to stay out of the way.

As your relationship grows you will start to sense times when you need to leave your partner alone. It might be a certain time of the month or a certain day of the week. It could also be sporadic in nature but you can just tell by the way they are acting. On these days it is better just to stay away from the subject of making them feel better. For example if Mondays are a bad day because it is back to work time, then give them the space. Don't try to make them feel better only to get them upset with you let them roll around in their anger. Don't give them the chance to direct the anger towards you on these days that you know they are going to be upset. If you partner is female, then track her menstrual cycle to see the days that might be a good day for you to hang with the guys. You don't always have to cheer up your partner. This has taken me many years to understand but sometimes you just have to let them fume for them to get over it.

Invite the family over.

Want to make a splash with your partner then invite their family over. Plan a big get together with food and excitement. If you think his/her family would participate then get some games to play together. If games won't do it then you might think about planning the get together to watch the big football game or the latest movie out you can rent. Have lots of fingers foods to munch on and plenty of pop and tea. If you are going to serve alcohol then make sure you are ready to make sure the drinkers are not driving and to let anyone know when they have had to much. Alcohol can loosen up the party but it can also cause problems. I would suggest leaving the alcohol out until you find our more about the family. Set a time for the party to be over so that everyone knows when it is time to go. Don't leave it open or you might be having a crazy brother that won't leave. This family invite over will score you big points with your partner and help you to get to know his/her family better.

Replace something that is not healthy.

Today is a great day to replace something that is not healthy with something that is. For example instead of buying that sugary kids cereal try replacing it with a healthy alternative. You could take a morning stroll instead of sitting watching sports highlights. You could even get up 10 minutes earlier to do some sit up or push ups. Once your partner starts seeing you take steps to improving your lifestyle or health then they will follow suit. Together you can accomplish more with support and encouragement. Use the buddy (partner) system to accomplish things like exercise, shopping, and cooking. You will soon find that not only your health is improving but you relationship will starting to improve, also.

Do a chore as a thank you.

Did you partner do something wonderful for you? Maybe they got you a special little present, or took the kids so you could nap. When these type of unselfish acts happen you can show how much your appreciate them by helping you partner out. One good way is to complete a chore that they usually do. If he/she is the one that does the dishes then secretly do all the dishes, freeing them up for something they might like to do. This is a wonderful way to say thank you for a special service you partner has presented you with. Always remember what goes around comes around. When you partner does something nice for you, complete the circle and return the favor.

Scratch like a cat.

When we think of romantic things we can do for our partner via touch the first thing that pops into mind is a massage. You might think of light touching or caressing the skin to bring goose bumps. While these are perfectly fine, sometimes you need to whip out your claws and give them a good scratching. I am not talking about breaking the skin but running your nails over their back can feel exhilarating to him/her. Scratching will stimulate the skin in a different way and get rid of any itches that your partner might have. Besides the back there are many other areas that can benefit from a good scratch. Scratching your partners rear end or scalp are two that come to mind but any where that you partner has skin that is not to sensitive is a great place to scratch. For a tantalizing time rotate scratching with light caressing, by changing up the sensation you partner will get a rush like waves lapping the beach.

Sometimes you just need to listen, and not speak

Have you ever had a really bad day and just needed to vent. You don't want to be consoled or babied and the last thing you want is to be cuddled. You just want to scream and let it all out. When you partner feels this way you need to pick up on it as soon as you can and then become what I consider the tackling dummy. Let them let it all out, don't judge, don't offer opinions just stand or sit there and listen. Listen with your heart and pay attention, only offer any words if they ask you for them. Nod your head, reach out and touch them but don't tell them they are wrong or that you would have handled it differently because that is not what they need right now. They need to get that negative energy out of their body and venting is the way to do that. It might take all night to get it out but when it is your turn they will be there for you.

What to do with an extra day off.

Most people are getting today off as a make up day for the holiday falling on Sunday. If you are one of these people, how are you going to spend your day off. This is where you need to think about romance. Romance is great on these days as you are not expecting to do anything but relax. Avoid the trap of getting things caught up around the house and get out and enjoy a day that should seem like extra time for you. Go on a walk, a ballgame, or take a trip to the lake all of these ideas can be romantic in their own right. Point being when you get extra time to spend with your partner take advantage of it. Don't sit home watching television or catching up on laundry. Explore your romantic side and do something you normally don't have time for.

Do a Buddy Challenge with your partner!

Buddy Challenges are a fast growing part of our culture, that promote fun and excitement rather then sitting around being bored. What better way to tell you partner that you care about them then to ask them to get in on one of these with you and your other friends. One thing that usually happens in a relationship is that we start separating our friends from out partner. We have time for our friends and then we have time for our partner. When what we need to do is find a common time for both. Just make sure to find alone time for you and your partner but include them in with all your other dealings and they will not only create some bonds with your friends but get closer to you in the process.

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Have a drink ready!

Have you ever had a time where you partner is having a bad day at work? Maybe they called you at lunch or texted you during the day to tell you how terrible of day they are having. We all have these days where nothing seems to go right and every time you turn around it seems to get worse. This is where being a kind and loving partner comes in. You can turn their day around as soon as the walk through the door. Have their favorite drink ready for them and give them a big kiss as the walk through the door. Encourage them to sit down and talk to you about their day, let them get it off their chest so that they can put it behind them. Maybe, just maybe you will make their night a little better and they can forget about the terrible day they have had. Within each and everyone of us there is the power to lift our lovers up. Be it with compassion and praise, or listening and understanding, we can turn the tides for them. Make them feel special the rest of the night, make sure to touch them often as touch is a soothing reminder of the love you have for them. If the time is right have induce a little sexual release from them and let them enjoy your wonderful love for them. We cannot change the past but we can make the present a different place.

Shock them with a little nakedness.

Being naked with you partner is a great and fun time for the most part. Have you ever used being naked for it's shock value. We all expect to see our partner naked at certain times like right before a shower or when getting into bed. How many times have you walked past your partner naked in the middle of the day. Think of the shock in the mind as they are sitting watching television and you stroll through the living room naked to get a magazine or something. What would they think if they turned the corner and saw you doing the dishes naked? I have heard of women doing this during football season to get their mates attention away from the game. You can do the same thing with your email or cell phone sent them a naked picture. One word of caution here however don't put your head in the picture just incase someone else gets into their phone or email. Doing any of these activities will tell you partner that you are majorly flirting with them and that if they respond right they might get a little more that just seeing you naked.

Make special scents around the house.

We all know how wonderful smell can be. They can take us back to our childhood or remind us of wonderful times that we have had. Scents can take us to specific times like Christmas or vacations past. Why not put the amazing power into your romance. Go to the store and find the aisle with the scented plug devices in it and start browsing. Look for scents that might remind your lover of past experiences. Like if you have been to Hawaii or just desire to go then pick up some coconut or pineapple scents. Want to make it feel a little more like Christmas time then maybe some pine scent or sugar cookie scent will take you there. Surprise you partner and put the device in when they won't be home for a while. Upon return watch their face as the pick up the scent. You might be able to take away a little of their daily stress by taking them away with these triggers.

Do your outdoor exercises together.

Chances are that one or the other of you in your relationship does some form of outdoor exercise. Weather it is jogging, cycling, or just walking I hope at least that you are doing so to stay in shape. This activity to me is on of the most romantic ways to get your exercise in if you include your partner in the activity. Jogging and Cycling are a little tougher then Walking, because of the difference in fitness levels. The partner in better shape doesn't want to leave the other partner behind. That would negate the idea of exercising together. Plus, in cycling and jogging it is a littler harder to talk to each other. On the other hand you can push each other and it gives you someone to relax with after the exercise is over. Walks are great and a little less stressful on the body if you are just starting out. The also allow plenty of time to talk without being out of breath. Next time you get a chance invite your partner along on your outdoor workout or today would be a great day for the two of you to start getting fit. Starting together would be a great romantic gesture on both of your parts. It says I care about you and I want to you to be around for a long time.

Attending an event that will make your partner happy.

We all have things that we like to do and if you are in tune with your partner you pretty much know what they like to do. With only this knowledge you can score big point with them. Find out when a show, play, speaker, or event is going on that they would love to go to. Then simply get some tickets for that event. Don't cop out and only get one ticket get two and join them as they experience something they enjoy. You might just get a little more understanding as to why the like what they like. Sure we want to go to the events and shows we would enjoy, but don't close yourself off to the things your partner enjoys. If you happen to find something that you both can have a passion for then that is a wonderful thing. However, just being with them and watching their face as the witness something they enjoy, should be enough of a reason to go. Recently we picked up ticket to go see John Edwards and if you are not familiar with him, he can communicate with people that have passed away. My partner adores him, and last christmas I picked her up some tickets. Going to the show I didn't know what to expect but once there and seeing all the people that have faith in his talent, it made me think pretty hard. I enjoyed his show and besides his readings, he is a wonderful entertainer and personality. I would definately go to another one of his events. He didn't communicate with anyone passed for me or my wife. However, watching her listen intently as he read others was good enough form me. Plus the conversation on the way home was worth the price of the tickets. It got really deep and we talked from our souls. It just goes to show you that opening up to your partners likes is a great way to improve your relationship.

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