Silly Bed Sheets

Never rule out silly bed sheets as being romantic. You know the ones with the cartoon characters on them. When you are in a committed relationship you can break them out and invite your partner over to your side of the bed for snuggling. I however wouldn't suggest them for a while the first time you sleep together you partner might not think Deputy Dog is the most romantic or even cute. You might come off a little strange at that time, but when you get to know each other and you find out your partner loved Scooby Doo as a child then break out the Mystery Machine sheets and have a shaggy good time.

Attending an event that will make your partner happy.

We all have things that we like to do and if you are in tune with your partner you pretty much know what they like to do. With only this knowledge you can score big point with them. Find out when a show, play, speaker, or event is going on that they would love to go to. Then simply get some tickets for that event. Don't cop out and only get one ticket get two and join them as they experience something they enjoy. You might just get a little more understanding as to why the like what they like. Sure we want to go to the events and shows we would enjoy, but don't close yourself off to the things your partner enjoys. If you happen to find something that you both can have a passion for then that is a wonderful thing. However, just being with them and watching their face as the witness something they enjoy, should be enough of a reason to go. Recently we picked up ticket to go see John Edwards and if you are not familiar with him, he can communicate with people that have passed away. My partner adores him, and last christmas I picked her up some tickets. Going to the show I didn't know what to expect but once there and seeing all the people that have faith in his talent, it made me think pretty hard. I enjoyed his show and besides his readings, he is a wonderful entertainer and personality. I would definately go to another one of his events. He didn't communicate with anyone passed for me or my wife. However, watching her listen intently as he read others was good enough form me. Plus the conversation on the way home was worth the price of the tickets. It got really deep and we talked from our souls. It just goes to show you that opening up to your partners likes is a great way to improve your relationship.

Read more about John Edwards - International Psychic Medium by clicking here.

Figure out Likes and Dislikes

One thing that is very important to a relationship, is getting to know each other. Start today, if you haven't already, a mental list of your partners likes and dislikes. When you got to a restaurant pay attention to what type of entree they order. Is it chicken, beef, pork, or vegetarian. Knowing their preference scores big points in the romance department. This doesn't just apply to food. Get to know their likes and dislikes in everything. Which team is their favorite, what type of alcohol do they like, what brand of clothes do they prefer, the list goes on and on. Now the only thing you need to understand is these preferences can change over time. For example, you partner might enjoy beef at one point in their life, then switch to being a vegetarian during another point. If you serve them beef after they become a vegetarian you might get a raised eyebrow.

One word of caution, if you have something you really enjoy don't assume that they will enjoy it as much as you.  You cannot make someone have the same passion for what you enjoy.  For example I enjoy going to baseball games and while my wife enjoys it also she doesn't have the same passion for it I do.  She will tolerate it but doesn't have to be there.  She could find many other things she would enjoy doing herself.  Once you figure out some of you partners likes and dislikes you now are faced with the challenge of making sure you both get to enjoy things you like.  As long as you share these feelings you will have no problems.  Just like anything in a relationship it is give and take.  I like to say it is sharing, that sounds a lot better.

Special Thanks to MarkPritchard for the photo from creative commons flickr

Arguments, yes they are OKAY!

Differences in a relationship are normal and healthy! They are not road blocks. They are what makes him, himself and her, herself. Look at all the couples you know, even the ones you think are exactly the same, and I bet if you look hard enough you will see differences. For example, a couple might love to go to art museums together, but they might not enjoy the exact same type of art, and that is okay. These differences allow us to communicate, debate, and even argue. If we were both the same our conversations would be boring. We would both just say things like "Ya, I like that too." There would never be any questions. So these differences keep us sane in my opinion.

I love to debate things. Listening to others opinions and then giving your opinions is a wonderful tool for getting to know someone even if you have been married to that person for 50 years. You can always learn something new about a person. My personal opinion is that the best relationships happen because the two people involved understand they are going to have different opinions, and they don't love each other any less because of them. Arguments are going to happen from time to time in a relationship, but the one thing I feel is important is before the argument ends both parties say I understand you have a different opinion, but I still love you. Always try to see the other person’s point of view, even if you think it is wrong. Sometimes in my experiences it seems like we go through stages where we can't agree on anything and it seems like we just take the opposite side just to aggravate our partner. But, if you look closely you see that isn't necessarily the case. When you take two individuals and make them a couple people assume that they must be a perfect match. The perfect match comes from the understanding of each other not from liking the same things.

When you truly love someone you understand what is important to them, and if that is what makes them happy, you just roll with it. Now take a look at your relationship. Spot the differences in the two of you. Write them down. Put her likes and his likes down on the paper. Look at the other person’s likes, and circle the ones you have interest in. Put an “X” by the ones you have no interest in at all. Both of you study the list, take a step back and then debate things. For example, he wants to go to the baseball game and you have put an x by that. Well that would be a great thing for him to do with his buddies. Okay now, look on your list for his Xs, and find one that you could do with your friends. Bingo! You do that one while he is at the game with his buds. Here is the important part - find one on either list that is circled. Obviously this is one that you both enjoy. Either the next day or even that evening make sure the two of you have time to share that experience.

Lastly, don't be afraid to argue. It is not the end of your relationship. It is just a heated debate. If you have to fear losing someone because you disagree, then maybe you should rethink your relationship anyway. Even when you are in an argument you should never go to bed mad at each other. Snuggle up and remember why you love this person. You may resume the argument in the morning, but while you are in bed forget about it.