Showing posts with label roamantic. Show all posts
Showing posts with label roamantic. Show all posts

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Zoo it up!


One of the most romantic places to take a date early in your relationship is the zoo. This may seem a little silly but think about it. You get to walk around all the time, with no agenda you don't have to be a the lion cage at seven o'clock for your reservation. You have lots of things that can visually stimulate a conversation, with the animals, obviously. You can also talk about the crowd and the children as well as other things around the zoo. As you walk you have many chances to get away from the crowd and get some one on one time. Just find an exhibit that not many people find interesting and you can sit there and talk about what ever you feel like. Being at the zoo also gives you and your date a feeling of freedom. You are not enclosed like the animals and you are free to roam about the entire facility. You can even find a bench just to sit and enjoy the day. The next time you are wondering where to take a date early in the relationship don't look past the zoo, it might just be the place where the two of you will hit it off.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Romantic Walks - (Click here to find out more)


I do believe one of the most romantic things that costs absolutely nothing is just taking a walk together. The place doesn't matter, unless it is in an unsafe location or during an unsafe time. I mean don’t go for a walk in the middle of a hurricane or a very shady neighborhood. A walk gives the two of you privacy even when you are out in the open. For starters, only the people that are walking at the very same pace can hear what you are saying – for the most part. You can set your own pace; if you want to casually stroll it doesn't matter, in fact, I recommend it. Have you ever heard the expression, “Stop and smell the roses,”? Well, do that to on your walk. Walks can include magical moments. It is a great time to ask someone to marry you or maybe just to present them with an anniversary present. Walks can happen anywhere. They might be downtown in a big city, a park, your old neighborhood, or one of my favorites - the beach. Never under any circumstance put a time limit on your walk. This is a time for the two of you to reconnect. If you are constantly looking at your watch and saying, “We better get back,” the moment is lost. When I think back about some great walks my wife and I have had I bring back some very fond memories. Like asking her to marry me while walking on a beach in Cancun. We stopped near a great big rock in the middle of the beach. It felt like we were miles away from anyone else. Yet, there were a few other people on the beach. Another memorable walk we had was walking/hiking up a mountain in Gatlinburg. It was so much fun. It was a warm spring day, we soon realized we should have worn heavier coats the higher up the mountain we got.


Now that we have looked at all the romantic and sentimental views of the walk, I will also let you in on a little secret. Shhhhhhhhh. A walk is great exercise. I kid you not. It is good for your heart and lungs. Not only are you enjoying each other’s company, but you are making your life a little longer by improving your health. Walks ROCK. So never be too busy no matter where you are to put one foot in front of the other. Venture out into nature or the city. You will see so much more than you will driving in your car, and you might have a few times to stop and kiss!

Monday, April 20, 2009

Arguments, yes they are OKAY!


Differences in a relationship are normal and healthy! They are not road blocks. They are what makes him, himself and her, herself. Look at all the couples you know, even the ones you think are exactly the same, and I bet if you look hard enough you will see differences. For example, a couple might love to go to art museums together, but they might not enjoy the exact same type of art, and that is okay. These differences allow us to communicate, debate, and even argue. If we were both the same our conversations would be boring. We would both just say things like "Ya, I like that too." There would never be any questions. So these differences keep us sane in my opinion.
I love to debate things. Listening to others opinions and then giving your opinions is a wonderful tool for getting to know someone even if you have been married to that person for 50 years. You can always learn something new about a person. My personal opinion is that the best relationships happen because the two people involved understand they are going to have different opinions, and they don't love each other any less because of them. Arguments are going to happen from time to time in a relationship, but the one thing I feel is important is before the argument ends both parties say I understand you have a different opinion, but I still love you. Always try to see the other person’s point of view, even if you think it is wrong. Sometimes in my experiences it seems like we go through stages where we can't agree on anything and it seems like we just take the opposite side just to aggravate our partner. But, if you look closely you see that isn't necessarily the case. When you take two individuals and make them a couple people assume that they must be a perfect match. The perfect match comes from the understanding of each other not from liking the same things.
When you truly love someone you understand what is important to them, and if that is what makes them happy, you just roll with it. Now take a look at your relationship. Spot the differences in the two of you. Write them down. Put her likes and his likes down on the paper. Look at the other person’s likes, and circle the ones you have interest in. Put an “X” by the ones you have no interest in at all. Both of you study the list, take a step back and then debate things. For example, he wants to go to the baseball game and you have put an x by that. Well that would be a great thing for him to do with his buddies. Okay now, look on your list for his Xs, and find one that you could do with your friends. Bingo! You do that one while he is at the game with his buds. Here is the important part - find one on either list that is circled. Obviously this is one that you both enjoy. Either the next day or even that evening make sure the two of you have time to share that experience.
Lastly, don't be afraid to argue. It is not the end of your relationship. It is just a heated debate. If you have to fear losing someone because you disagree, then maybe you should rethink your relationship anyway. Even when you are in an argument you should never go to bed mad at each other. Snuggle up and remember why you love this person. You may resume the argument in the morning, but while you are in bed forget about it.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Award your partner. (Click Here for Awards)



Does your partner deserve an award? I think if you look at your relationship, you will find something that your partner does great. When you find it reward her is a special loving cup. In the title line of this post is a link to a trophy place that has awards for as little as $5. Once you have found just the right award then have it engraved to show your partner your appreciation. Some suggestions might be "Awarded to the person who makes me laugh", "Presented to the person who puts up with my collection of beer cans" or "1st Place winner of all my love". Make it personal and make it a big deal when you present it to her. I don't think you need to call the media, but maybe a little applauds from you would be nice.

Friday, April 17, 2009

A drink or two! (Thats it) - Click here to learn how to make almost any drink


I know all the problems that alcohol can have on a relationship and by know means do I encourage excessive drinking. However, sitting down with your sweetie and picking out a drink to try can be fun and exhilarating. I personally might have a drink 2 or 3 times a month but I think it is fun to try different drinks. In my title line I have put a link to Alex's Cocktail Recipes it is an extensive list of drinks. Once you have found a drink to try make it together or if your into a little role playing pretend one of your is the bartender and the other is trying to pick up the bartender. Have fun with it and after the drink is made sit down together to try it. You might end up spitting it our but at least you tried it together. As always get creative, buy special glasses, look for the little umbrellas to put in the drink, or when you are picking out your drink just pick a color or word and find a drink that matches.
Words of Warning - DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE EVER! and if you find yourself desiring the drink more than the company of your partner, get help.
It is okay to drink and have sex, but drinking during sex can get a little messy!!

Thursday, April 16, 2009

That's not my chore...

One of the things that makes a women feel special is taking some of her work load off her back. So next time you know your partner is having a particularly bad day do some of her chores at home. At our house my wife and I have specific duties that we perform to keep up the house. For instance I do the dishes and she does the laundry. With our busy work schedules sometimes she might get behind a little during the week on the laundry. She usually tries then to catch it up on the weekend. Well my theory behind this is if I can save her a couple of hours of doing laundry "WE" will have more time to spend together. I also hope it shows her how special she is to me.

No one like to do chores, but they have to get done sometime. If you can eliminate some of the time spend doing these chores your relationship time increases and that my friend is never a bad thing.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Just Desserts (Click her to find out how to make your sweeties favorite dessert)

Everyone loves some kind of dessert. I am sure you probably have an idea of what one is your partners. Next time you get a chance either make it or purchase it as a surprise. You can even leave it for you partner with a note, when you are going to be away. Let the note say something to the effect of "Think of me every time you take a bite". Don't overdue it however we don't want to encourage overeating in any manner. If your partner is trying to diet use their favorite sweet as a reward. You could say okay I got you this delicious treat, but we have to ride 5 miles on our bikes before we can enjoy it. This scores double points as you are worried about your partners health and you want them to have their favorite treat.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Wishful Thinking... Tell her your fantasies.

Something all relationships need is a peak into each others fantasies. It helps you get closer and you might even find something that clicks with both of you. Men you have to take the reigns here, spill it to her tell her one of your fantasies and see how she reacts. If you think your partner doesn't have fantasies you need more help then I can give you. So start out small tell her something you might like to try and see how she reacts. If she is disgusted then you might have to wait a little while to try again. Most likely if your partner cares about you she will at least listen and if your really lucky she might even try it on you. Don't be offended if she doesn't feel comfortable with your fantasy sometimes they just don't click. Maybe if she feels comfortable hearing your fantasies, she might even open up enough to tell you some of hers. Be very careful here don't judge her just as you don't want her to judge you. Listen and see if maybe it might be something you could a least try, who knows you might enjoy it even more then her. I know that one time I tried something with my partner and low and behold after we finished she was like "I have so wanted you to do that forever" and this was about 6 years into our relationship. Take your chances men, she is with you for a reason so you should trust that she will be receptive to your fantasies. That doesn't mean she is going to dress up like Princess Lea for you, but maybe she will at least play with your light saber!!!!

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Get choosy over Movies

Okay, so it's your turn to choose the movie for your date! So what it gonna be - the shoot ‘em up movie or the slap stick comedy? Before your Neanderthal mentality kicks in, and you pick the most macho movie you can find, think of where this can lead. Look at your relationship. Are you at the beginning of it or have you been married for 20 years? What are your plans after the movie? Are you going to dinner, out to a club, or are you hoping to venture back to your place for a more intimate setting? Take all of that into consideration. Get a newspaper or get on your computer and find out which movies are playing near you. Scan over the times of each movie and eliminate all the ones where the time just doesn't work out for your date.

Now comes the pondering part of the movie selection process. How do you want this movie to affect your date? I can see you now with that glazed look in your eyes thinking, "I just want to see a movie.” Okay, I will make it a little simpler for you. Let’s say you are going to dinner after the movie; you don't want to see a gory movie as it might ruin your appetite. The stupidly funny movie might lead to way too much laughter during the main course. In my opinion, the best movie to see before going to dinner is one that will strike up great conversation - a thriller or a movie with twists and turns in the plot. Let’s say you are headed out to the club for dancing and drinks. My choice of movie would be a great comedy. You know - the ones with stupid lines and the comedy is right in your face. This has double the impact as one it gets you ready for fun while dancing at the club. And a bonus is if you’re not a good dancer, you might be able to imitate the movie on the dance floor and get some chuckles from your date. You can also quote silly lines form the movies to each other. If you are drinking alcohol they get funnier and funnier. Now let’s say you want to head back home for some alone time after the movie. You have several choices - the first being the horror film. Your partner might jump into your arms and want to be held. However if you’re a little jumpy this might back fire on you. A romantic comedy might do you well as it will take the edge off the date and still promote kissing and other stuff. An adventure movie might do you well as it gets your blood pumping, and might lead to some role playing at the homestead.

So don't just choose the movie you want to see the most when going on a movie date. Take some time and think about the outcome - no not of the movie but, of the later activities. One more thing before I leave you, sometimes the best movie to see is one that no one else wants to see. “Why?” you might ask. Well, you just might have the whole theater to yourselves!!

Click on the title line to go to Fandango and pick your movie for tonight.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

What an Eggciting Day

Gentlemen here is your chance to be the actual Easter Bunny for your Honey. Go out and get some of those cheap plastic eggs from your local discount store. They might cost you a dollar at the most. Next rack your brain and think about the most thoughtfull gifts to put inside her eggs. Little love notes, sexy panties, jewlery, the candy they love, tickets to a show, are some ideas. Just make sure to make it personal. After filling all your eggs, now you must hide them all over your room. When your sweety gets back you have to tell her that easter bunny just left and she has to find all the eggs. After find the eggs and opening them she will appreciate her big old easter bunny.

Click on the above title for a little Easter Egg from me.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Start a Conversation!

We hear it all the time conversation is a key to any relationship. Well next time you are just hanging out with your partner start a conversation. This sounds really simple but the secret is to find a topic that is discussable not just "What cha doing". Go online, I suggest USA today online, you can get there by clicking on the title above. Pick something that interests you or you think might interest your partner. Then just bring it up in casual converstaion. You can do this at the dinner table or even in bed before you go to sleep. Good conversation is like good foreplay it enhances the mood and improves the total of the relationship. Just remember that opinions are different for everyone so understand that and make it a point to try to find out why your partner feels the way they do about a subject.

For more information on Conversations in Marriage Click here

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Underwear is Fun to wear.

All right guys, time to go shopping and get some new undies. Yes you need to do this alone, so that way you can suprise your partner when you just happpen to be parading around in your new hot underwear. Believe me there is nothing sexy about a pair of underwear you have had for over a year! Now get out their and pick out some new underwear that will draw attention to you. (Click the title line to go to the Men's Underwear Store)

Monday, April 6, 2009

Short and Sweet

This morning before getting out of bed reach over a gently touch your partners back. Lightly caress their skin for a few minutes, the give them a gently kiss on the back of their neck. Follow this up by whispering I love you. Then get up and start your day. My bet is that you have made someone else day start out great!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

A Thesaurus is not a prehistoric beast. It could be your best friend.

Gentlemen, here is an activity for you to try, which will surely get you rave reviews. It is a very simple task. All you need is a thesaurus. Make a list of the words you most often use to describe your partner. For example, every time she is getting ready to go out you might say "Honey, you look beautiful." I want you to take the word "beautiful" and look it up in your thesaurus. Find all the synonyms for beautiful. The next time your partner looks beautiful slip in some different words, which you have recently acquired from the thesaurus. Here are a few of my favorite words to replace beautiful: stunning, ravishing, picturesque, exquisite, and attractive.

Use this exercise on other words, which you use regularly. Not only will it increase your vocabulary, but it will make you look much more intelligent and interesting in your partner’s eyes and ears. Ladies, you can use this tactic, too. Just make sure your fellow knows what the words mean. You don’t want him to think you are calling him something bad. If you enjoy doing this, branch out and use it in your everyday life. Just pick a word and vow not to say it for a week. Replace it with another word that means the same thing.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Romantic Needs

Romantic Needs

Gentlemen and Ladies let me start by saying that there is no map to creating a more romantic relationship in your life. Now that I have burst your bubble let me tell you why. Romance is an ever changing facit of your life. Just as in every other part of your life if you keep doing the same thing over and over it gets boring. So, don't think that you can read this blog one time and presto you are the most romantic person in the world. For example, if your partner loves to get flowers you can send her some and be Romeo, but if you send her flowers everyday, it just becomes creepy. She will probably begin to resent the flowers or maybe run in terror everytime she sees any. Help me out ladies and tell me about that fine line between the man of your dreams and the stalker.
So men there is no easy road map to this romance thing. You're gonna have to work at it the rest of the life of your relationship. Now stop sobbing. Dry those tears from your eyes and let's think. Remember when you were first dating and how all you wanted to do was please that specail lady in your life. Well do you still feel that way? Same for you ladies - has the romance left your relationship or are we just a little be lazy now that we are comfortable. Ahhhhh here lies the secret. You have to work at your relationship and putting romance into it. You have to remember why you fell head over heels for this person. Now roll up your sleeves, and let's get to work.
Think back to the things you did when you first started dating. Remember those days trying to find something fun and exciting to do everytime you got together. Well why did you stop doing that? Why when we get comfortable with someone do we forget how much fun we had wtih them? Now continue thinking about something you did that you both enjoyed and start trying to find a way to relive that. Maybe it was a magical night on the beach watching the sunset, or driving in the country and taking pictures, or something as simple as walking around your old campus holding hands. Never underestimate the power of the date rerun. Again, keep it within reason. The same date rerun done everyweek makes it a chore, and men we all know how much we hate those.
Remember Romance isn't a given. It's like a garden that must be pampered and watered and hold up hold up let me rephrase that so my fellow men can understand. Fellas, romance is like pizza you can put lots of different things on it but it's still a pizza and it still tastes good. So, until the next time, keep the romance alive. Oh by the way, does anyone have the number to the pizza place? For some reason I seem to be a little hungry now.