Moonlight Drive

Have you ever just gotten out late at night and took a drive together? No reason, no purpose, just the wind blowing and the darkness only penetrated by the moonlight. If you haven't you need to schedule one in today. If you have a convertible or a car with a sunroof you can add to your drive by opening it up and enjoying the moonlight on your entire drive. Take your time and find road that are less traveled and have lots of places to stop and enjoy the quiet calm of this moonlight night. Find a wonderful spot up on a hill overlooking your town or city and watch the hustle and bustle from your secluded spot. Enjoy each others company and get into some deep conversation before you head back. If you lucking and the conversation is good then you might just be seeing the sunrise from your wonderful spot, also.

Education is Sexy

Here I am in my late early 40's wondering why I didn't get more education when I was younger. As I sit here considering going back to take some classes on computer programming, I am realizing that education is sexy. Learning new things is never a bad thing to do, even if you don't feel like doing the classroom thing. Think about it how wonderful it could be learning new things with the person you love. Maybe a cooking class or photography anything that would strike your fancy and hold both of your interests, would also give you more things to converse about. How many times have the two of you been talking and wondered about something that neither one of you could answer. In this day and age all you have to do is venture over to your computer and with a little help from google you have your answer. Presto you have just learned something new even if it is trivial you still found something out together. In my opinion you should never stop trying to learn something new, when you do that is when you get old.

Make dinner, conversation time.

When we go out to eat or even eat a home for that matter, we are setting up a great time to discuss and learn about each other. Even if you have been married or dating for years there is always something you can learn from great conversation. Find topics that you can discuss that will have both of your offering your opinions. Don't be only a listener, engage in the conversation and get your ideas heard. Find out about things going on in your partners life they you might not hear about other wise. Things like work, or happenings in their life that you are not apart of. Make it a game and ask questions of each other, take turns and make the other person answer each of your questions. A good night of conversation is actually foreplay and with your minds stimulated your bodies are soon to follow.

Update you pictures.

You know some people out there are very good at taking pictures all the time. Most all of us have a newer digital camera, that lets us delete any unwanted photo right away. We have no excuse for not getting new pictures all the time. When is the last time you took a picture of your sweet heart just to put in your billfold or to replace the one on your desk? Look around your house are the pictures hanging on the wall out dated? If you have a hair style you are embarrassed about then you need to take some new pictures to put up. It is so easy now a days you can print them out yourself by picking up some photo quality paper or you can upload them to a company like Kodak and have nice quality prints sent right to your door. Set up a theme for you pictures maybe take some on vacation every time to put up each year. We take pictures of our family eating and put them up around the very top of our kitchen. You could do any number of themes depending on your family and what room you are putting them up in. Don't let anyone be camera shy and make sure you get equal numbers of pictures of everyone. It isn't very fair if you can go into someones house and tell by the pictures who always is behind the camera. Don't just put up perfect pictures either. Use some of the silly and wacky ones you take it adds a lot more character and conversation to your house. Now if you don't have one go out and pick up a new digital camera and start taking pictures of everything you can think of.

Featured in the picture is the Nikon D40 SLR Camera, which I feel is a great camera.

Shower Talks

Here's a little test in self control. Next time your partner is taking a shower, and you have the time, just slip into the bathroom, sit on the stool and talk with them. It is a big test of your self control because you know he/she is naked on the other side of the shower curtain, and you know you want to peak in on them (at least I know I want to see my wife.). Strike up a conversation about something other than your relationship; it could be about your kids, work, church, or anything other than them being naked. This exercise raises trust as your partner is naked and in a vulnerable state. You are trying to mind your Ps and Qs, and not just ripping open the shower curtain and attacking. To me this feels like when you used to talk on phone as a teenager. You were wondering what the other person was wearing or what he/she was doing at this point of day. Talk to your partner for a while, but make sure that once he/she is ready to get out of the shower and dry off you are out of the area. Give him/her some privacy. If you were in the middle of an in-depth conversation, make sure to pick it back up when he/she is finished. You can also do this activity while your partner takes a bath, shaves or grooms himself/herself in some fashion. Conversation is good for the relationship. If you can focus on the conversation when your partner is completely naked, then you have a sound foundation in your relationship. Special note: Don't try this while you are trying to be intimate. Think of intimate things to talk about during that time. Talking about your mother during sex is a real buzz kill. Focus on the task at hand in this situation. :-)

Now, head for the shower and some good conversation.

Start a Conversation!

We hear it all the time conversation is a key to any relationship. Well next time you are just hanging out with your partner start a conversation. This sounds really simple but the secret is to find a topic that is discussable not just "What cha doing". Go online, I suggest USA today online, you can get there by clicking on the title above. Pick something that interests you or you think might interest your partner. Then just bring it up in casual converstaion. You can do this at the dinner table or even in bed before you go to sleep. Good conversation is like good foreplay it enhances the mood and improves the total of the relationship. Just remember that opinions are different for everyone so understand that and make it a point to try to find out why your partner feels the way they do about a subject.

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