Birthday Sex Greeting - (Click her to go to The Smitten Kitten Shop)

Birthdays are a great time to get your partner and yourself into something new. Go out on a limb and get them something a little extra this birthday. Besides what ever you are planning to get them. Pick up something that will help spice up your relationship. Weather it be a book on improving your sex life, a sex toy or a relationship improving book. When you wrap up your present be sure to put a note inside that says "As good as we are, we can always get better". Now make sure you are alone when presenting this present, it's not the type of thing to give during the family get together.

An Idea I really like it to buy them a gift certificate to a store that sells sex toys and other merchandise. The only stipulation is that whatever they purchase has to be sent addressed to you. This alloys the person to pick out things alone that they might feel a little embarrassed to do right in front of you. It will also excite you wondering what they will pick out! Double Bonus!

Attached to the tittle is a link to the Smitten Kitten Website a great place to purchase any sexual items.

Award your partner. (Click Here for Awards)

Does your partner deserve an award? I think if you look at your relationship, you will find something that your partner does great. When you find it reward her is a special loving cup. In the title line of this post is a link to a trophy place that has awards for as little as $5. Once you have found just the right award then have it engraved to show your partner your appreciation. Some suggestions might be "Awarded to the person who makes me laugh", "Presented to the person who puts up with my collection of beer cans" or "1st Place winner of all my love". Make it personal and make it a big deal when you present it to her. I don't think you need to call the media, but maybe a little applauds from you would be nice.

Start a Conversation!

We hear it all the time conversation is a key to any relationship. Well next time you are just hanging out with your partner start a conversation. This sounds really simple but the secret is to find a topic that is discussable not just "What cha doing". Go online, I suggest USA today online, you can get there by clicking on the title above. Pick something that interests you or you think might interest your partner. Then just bring it up in casual converstaion. You can do this at the dinner table or even in bed before you go to sleep. Good conversation is like good foreplay it enhances the mood and improves the total of the relationship. Just remember that opinions are different for everyone so understand that and make it a point to try to find out why your partner feels the way they do about a subject.

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A Thesaurus is not a prehistoric beast. It could be your best friend.

Gentlemen, here is an activity for you to try, which will surely get you rave reviews. It is a very simple task. All you need is a thesaurus. Make a list of the words you most often use to describe your partner. For example, every time she is getting ready to go out you might say "Honey, you look beautiful." I want you to take the word "beautiful" and look it up in your thesaurus. Find all the synonyms for beautiful. The next time your partner looks beautiful slip in some different words, which you have recently acquired from the thesaurus. Here are a few of my favorite words to replace beautiful: stunning, ravishing, picturesque, exquisite, and attractive.

Use this exercise on other words, which you use regularly. Not only will it increase your vocabulary, but it will make you look much more intelligent and interesting in your partner’s eyes and ears. Ladies, you can use this tactic, too. Just make sure your fellow knows what the words mean. You don’t want him to think you are calling him something bad. If you enjoy doing this, branch out and use it in your everyday life. Just pick a word and vow not to say it for a week. Replace it with another word that means the same thing.

The "I Love You Meal"

Gentlemen/ladies let me tell you something I have learned - cooking is fun! Cooking for your spouse or loved one is even better because it shows him/her you care. We live in such a wonderful age with the Internet that it is never hard to find a recipe. Now, your mission begins with you making a list of what type of foods your partner likes. Does she/he like chicken or a specific cuisine such as mexican. Make a list and then hit the Internet. There are several recipe sites that you can find, and some of them you can even put in the ingredients your partner likes. The site will bring back a dish using those ingredients. One of my favorite sites is http://bigoven.com. I even have the big oven application on my iPod touch. One point I want to make here is not to pick the same old thing you have everyday. Make something a little out of the ordinary. If you do this, it makes it a little adventurous as neither one of you will really know what it is going to taste like. I love it when my wife makes us a different meal. It may sound silly, but the excitement of taking that first bite and seeing everyones reactions is exhilirating to me. If you can, get your ingredients ahead of time. That way you are are ready to cook instead of searching through the cabinets or making a quick trip to the store. Don't take comments too seriously if your partner doesn't like it. No biggie - now you know you guys don't like - don't make it again. I know that sometimes I have made something even I don't like, every once in a while you just have to say "Wow, this sucks, lets order a pizza. Oh look the dog won't even eat it!" Yet, nothing ventured nothing gained. Lastly, if your partner makes you a meal good or bad, a burp is not the correct way to apperciate it. A simple thank you with a kiss will do.