INXS - Need You Tonight / The Sexiest Song Ever

This might just be the sexiest song ever created.  Checkout the video and use it in your own get some nookie playlist.  

Treat yourself sexy!

When you feel sexy yourself your whole attitude changes. People want to be around you and things just seem to go better. Think about it when you are down in the dumps or stressed about things, do others flock to you? Most likely you answered no to that question. The reason being is that you give off a bad vibe and everyone picks up on that. When you are confident and feel sexy you give off the opposite vibe, that is when people want to get to know you or want to be with you. This is true in relationships also, your partner is more likely to want to be around you when you feel comfortable and confident. It just goes hand in hand then that when you feel sexy your partner will view you as sexy and desire you more often. It is the law of attraction, put out what you want and it will find you. It is important for you well being to happy and by being confident and secure in your wants you will find all the happiness you desire.

Laugh at each other.

One of my favorite things to do in a relationship is to laugh. To me that is a sign that you are having a good time. See how much humor you relationship has in it by counting the number of times you have laughed with your partner in the past week. 5 plus times and your relationship has a good amount of humor in it, 4-2 times and you could work on the laugher in your relationship a bit. Now if it is one or less then you have some work to do. When we think about having a good time we visualize people laughing, same can be said for your relationship. If you need a boost getting this started you need to go no further then you computer. There are many funny things to watch here. For starters you can go to youtube and watch endless streams of other people being stupid and recording it for your enjoyment. You can download a funny movie from itunes or if you enjoy a little sicker humor you can watch the new MTV show "Silent Library" to get your chuckles. Laughter is essential to not only our lives but our relationship also. So loosen that tie and get some tissue to wipe the tears from you eyes as you get set to laugh.

How many times is to many times to say I love you?

A debate about how many times is the perfect amount of times to say I love you during a day. Some people would say that 1 time is enough a day, while others need those words more as it gives them support and encouragement. I do believe that there is not certain answer to this equation. Everyone is different, however the trick to this is finding the balance between the two individuals. In this matter you need to find a place where it doesn't annoy one partner but is enough for the other partner. The only way to do this is through a little trail and error. Which ever person you are in the relationship you need to either add or subtract the number of times you tell your partner you love them. Continue to do this each day until your partner no longer rolls their eyes at this or in the other case stops pumping your for more. Once you find that medium then stick with it and you can put this debate to bed.

When is the last time you really checked to see how much your partner does for you!

As in most relationships, we tend to expect the normal routine from our partner. If they do the laundry we expect that they will do it all the time, if they make dinner we are at the table with silverware in hand ready to eat. The only time we acknowledge our partner in this regard is when they don't help out in the normal way. Then our reaction is usually one of anger accompanied by yelling or unkind words. Are you one of those people that expect your partner to do things, how often do you thank them for the things they do to help out your relationship or family. I am sure that most of us can do a better job in the appreciation category. There are many ways to thank your mate for the things they do and they can be very simple. Things like do you wait on them to sit down before you start eating dinner, or saying, "Wow, the house looks great you must have spend hours cleaning it", or you can even just kiss them and say that is for the clean socks honey. Mix it up a little and go over the top from time to time to show them that you really do appreciate it. Do things like while eating a wonderful dinner they made slip them a note that says "This dinner is so good, I think I will make hot passionate love to you later tonight as a tip" or maybe after doing gardening or yard work you can get them in a shower and wash their hair for them. Showing appreciation is a lot form of art in relationships today and it is up to us to help bring it back to the forefront. Next time your partner takes care of the kids so you can nap, offer to give them a massage later in return, or if they have to miss work to take care of your sick child tell them to call up some friends and have a lunch date this weekend. Relationships are about helping each other out, not helping ourselves. Love is a powerful tool if used correctly, and appreciation in part of that power.

Worst Pick up lines ever!! (Click this title for more)

Guys we need to cut out the corny pick up lines. Never have I heard of a one-line opening that worked well. Especially the ones that jump straight into “I want to have sex with you” Do yourself and all the ladies out there a favor and introduce yourself and tell them you would like a chance to get to know them. If you get a phone number or some conversation congratulations you are doing wonderful. These corny pick up lines only get you punched or kicked in the groin so if you’re into the abuse thing here you go. Check out the link attached to the title of this post for some of the worst all time pick up lines in the history of modern dating. Below is in my opinion one of the worst of the worst.

“I may not be a Flintstone, but I can sure make your bed rock” Scary that someone would use that.

Give a late night call.

Have you ever laid awake thinking about the person you love. Well next time you are sitting their wondering about them, give them a little call. Pick up your phone call them and tell them you were thinking about them and just wanted to call and say Hi. Don't do this if you know they have to get up early the next day. Most likely they will feel great that you called and a smile will grace their face. This works great if you are on a business trip or away from home for a long period of time. Springing a call on a person at the spur of the moment tells them you really care and makes them realize that your mind is on them. You can even do this when you are in the same house if one of you stays up later then the other pick up your phone and call them just to tell them you love them. You will most likely get extra snuggles once you get into bed with them. Don't keep them on the phone long let them get back to sleep and there is a good chance they will dream about you.

How often do you say "I Love You"

"I Love You" the three little words that say so much. The question lies in do you use it to little or too much? I hear both sides on this question and it seem like if one partner says they use it to much the other says that they use it to little. We have a sort of "I Love You" war going on here and both sides are not wrong or right. The trick is to find a balance a middle ground that can make both sides happy. Give a little, take a little is they way we find the exact formula. We need to use the I love you sparingly, it is not just for every reason in the world, if you partner takes out the trash or does their normal chores you don't have to shower them with kisses and I love you's . On the other side of the ball don't respond to a candle lit dinner that includes your favorite dishes with "Thanks, that was good" is not an appropriate response for what that partner has done for you. Think about the times you need to say "I Love You" and don't use it out. It is a special statement that carries so much weight but used wrongly it just seems diluted.

Drive them wild with their favorite.

Want to really drive the person you care about wild. First thing you need to do is find a cologne or perfume that they absolutely love. Then when ever you are with them put a little on. Sure when you are going out together they will expect it but do it other times when they least expect it. Like right before getting into bed, or before you start watching a movie at home together. Don't over due it, just a little will do the trick. Put some on when you know the two of you are going to be close, like when the two of your are doing the laundry or doing other house work together. Another romantic thing to do is put a dab on their pillow when they are going to go to bed before you. They might not be able to sleep and will for some reason keep thinking of you. Put a little hint of the smell in their car before they leave for work or better yet do it while they are at work then they will smell your scent all the way home. The important thing here is to get them thinking about you and letting them know that you are thinking about them. If you try any of these suggestions let me know how they work out. I would love to hear your stories, email them to me a thecouplesspot@gmail.com

Looking for a Romantic Gift?

So you are looking for a romantic gift, one that says I really care about you but doesn't cost a lot of money. Well how about a nice pen set? You know they kind you don't just buy yourself. A really nice set that would look great on a desk. This way every time they use your pen they will think about you. What a lovely idea. This way even if they are doing bills or other things that are not so desirable they will still get the pleasure of thinking of you. Some places you can even get the engraved with a special message for you love. Things like "The pen is mightier then the sword" or "I love note written from you" Even just their name would be a nice touch. You can pick up said pens at most local stores or even order them online. I have included a link to a extreme pen store in the title of this post. You however do not need to spend $300 on a pen for your love a fraction of that price will get you the same effect.

The "I Love You Meal"

Gentlemen/ladies let me tell you something I have learned - cooking is fun! Cooking for your spouse or loved one is even better because it shows him/her you care. We live in such a wonderful age with the Internet that it is never hard to find a recipe. Now, your mission begins with you making a list of what type of foods your partner likes. Does she/he like chicken or a specific cuisine such as mexican. Make a list and then hit the Internet. There are several recipe sites that you can find, and some of them you can even put in the ingredients your partner likes. The site will bring back a dish using those ingredients. One of my favorite sites is http://bigoven.com. I even have the big oven application on my iPod touch. One point I want to make here is not to pick the same old thing you have everyday. Make something a little out of the ordinary. If you do this, it makes it a little adventurous as neither one of you will really know what it is going to taste like. I love it when my wife makes us a different meal. It may sound silly, but the excitement of taking that first bite and seeing everyones reactions is exhilirating to me. If you can, get your ingredients ahead of time. That way you are are ready to cook instead of searching through the cabinets or making a quick trip to the store. Don't take comments too seriously if your partner doesn't like it. No biggie - now you know you guys don't like - don't make it again. I know that sometimes I have made something even I don't like, every once in a while you just have to say "Wow, this sucks, lets order a pizza. Oh look the dog won't even eat it!" Yet, nothing ventured nothing gained. Lastly, if your partner makes you a meal good or bad, a burp is not the correct way to apperciate it. A simple thank you with a kiss will do.