Random acts of Couples Kindness

Most of you have probably heard of Random Acts of Kindness (RAK). Why not put some RAK into our relationships. You can do the normal simple things like bringing home flowers or kissing at special times. However, I want you to think a little outside the box and see what happens. Here is one I like to do. You know how good it makes you feel when you find money in your pockets you didn't know was there. Well use that for you RAK find our what your partner is going to wear that day and while they are in the shower or eating breakfast slip a five or ten in the pocket of those clothes. Watch their reaction as they find it, you have just started their day in a good way. Another great thing to do is take their car and get it washed or fill it up with gas, without them knowing. Whatever you do don't let them know and plead the 5th when they question you about it.

If you know what I mean....

If you remember the Drew Carey Show : Who's Line is it anyway then you know the game they played called "If you know what I mean" Where they used as many sexual innuendos as they could during a skit. Now I am not saying you try to use as many as you can. What I am suggesting is that you make up your own little saying that is just between the two of you that means you are interested in sex. Things like "I would really like the dust your seat, if you know what I mean" or "I would love you to fill me with excitement, if you know what I mean" Personalize your own saying and have fun with it. Change you saying from time to time to create a little more fun and excitement. Watch the clip above to get an idea of sayings you could use. Good luck and I hope this post puts a little bang in your relationship, if you know what I mean!

What would you do for your Love!

Most of us go out of our way to help our partners. I hear stories of people running out in the pouring rain to get ice cream for their pregnant partners. Or parents that will sit up with their sick children all night and not get a minute of sleep. These are the type of actions that show how much you care about that other person. When you evaluate your relationship however you have to look at if you think your partner would do the same for you. Will they stay up late to massage your back if you hurt it at work? Would they run across town to help you out in the middle of the night? Would they take care of the kids so you could get some rest? If you answer no to these questions then you really need to look at your relationship, does it work with one partner putting all the effort into the relationship? Is there room for selfishness in a relationship? Well if you are strong you can overcome many challenges. No one likes for their good deeds to go unnoticed but for many people out their it is like that. Now you have to compare apples to oranges here. On partner might not be able to go without sleep and perform their job the next day, however they can repay the other partner in other ways. You can't look for a specific return on your investment so don't give a relaxing massage and expect your partner to jump up and give you one right after they are done. Look carefully at your relationship and the things your partner might be doing that you are over looking, it is easy to do. Relationships are like a bicycle built for two. You both have to pedal to get where you need to be, and if one person is doing all the pedaling then they will grow tired faster then the one not pedaling.

How many times is to many times to say I love you?

A debate about how many times is the perfect amount of times to say I love you during a day. Some people would say that 1 time is enough a day, while others need those words more as it gives them support and encouragement. I do believe that there is not certain answer to this equation. Everyone is different, however the trick to this is finding the balance between the two individuals. In this matter you need to find a place where it doesn't annoy one partner but is enough for the other partner. The only way to do this is through a little trail and error. Which ever person you are in the relationship you need to either add or subtract the number of times you tell your partner you love them. Continue to do this each day until your partner no longer rolls their eyes at this or in the other case stops pumping your for more. Once you find that medium then stick with it and you can put this debate to bed.

How important is your relationship?

Do you spend time evaluating your relationship, deciding what areas need more work and if you are meeting the needs of your partner. Just like anything else in our life we sometimes lose focus on things that are important to us. You see it in the work place as you get bored with your job, and you see it in activities that you lose excitement for over time. Don't let this happen to your relationship. Sit down and think or write out what areas of your relationship need work. You can do this alone or with your partner, so that you get both sides of the relationship. When both of your work on this you actually get to see what areas your partner feels needs work, and that might be a totally different area then you thought about. When you do this it is important not to down grade your partners concerns, if they say that the two of you don't have enough dates then don't respond with "Yes we do" or "That's silly we just had a date last week" You have to realize that your partner wouldn't speak of it unless it was an issue to them. If you are not willing to work on the concerns your partner has about your relationship then you will find your relationship turning sour at some point. No matter what their issue is your need to put some effort into that area and vice versa he/she needs to put some focus into yours. With a little practice you will quickly learn to address areas of concern before they get to large to make a quick fix on them.

Hang some pictures of the two of you.

If you want to really show your mate you really care about them, an easy way to do it is to hang some pictures of the two of you up in your house. Pictures from your vacations, or from the holidays it doesn't matter. Get the pictures blown up to an acceptable size and position them around your house in areas that they mesh with. Vacation pictures or Holiday pictures can go in the living area while pictures of you in the rain might work well in the bathroom. Pictures of the two of you in restaurants might work well in the kitchen or dinning area. Save pictures of the two of you kissing or hugging for the bedroom. Keeping images of great times you have had in the past help to cement your relationship and give you a constant visual reminder of how much fun you have together. I would suggest getting pictures you have taken through the years instead of getting some professional ones done, the one you take seem to have a more personal feel. You might have to rely a little on others to take pictures of the two of you, but no matter where you are someone will always be their to lend a helping hand.

A snuggie are your serious.

This is the time of year when the best part of living in areas that get cold is snuggling under a blanket with you partner. There is not comparison to the warmth you feel when you are soaking up someone else's body heat. One thing that helps you out in this struggle to keep warm is great blankets. The better the blanket the warmer the two of you will be under it. Plus the warmer the blanket the less amount of clothes they two of you will have to have on underneath the blanket. I am amazed at how cold it seems when I get into bed naked, but once in there and I start to soak up the warmth from my naked partner and the cold goes away rather quickly. We all know that the more amorous we get the warmer we can make it. Now it your chance to get close to your partner and save money on your heating bill. Go out and purchase some thick warm blankets and smile as you offer to share with your partner. I don't know if they make a snuggie for two but if not maybe they should!!!

Romantic Christmas Eve

Tonight is the night it is one of the best night for romance of the year. It is the time for you to show your partner or friend how much you care about them. Make sure during the family gatherings, parties, and tucking the children in that you make time for the two of you to have some quiet time together. Block out all of the other distractions of the upcoming day and focus on each other. Set a time, say two hours, for uninterrupted time that you can snuggle and calm each other for the upcoming arrival of Santa. Make love, drink cocoa, wrap the remaining presents but do it together and as a team. It is easy to go to bed early to get to the next day but don’t forget about on of the most important parts of the season, that being the person you love.

Have your own little Thanksgiving for the two of you.

If your like us, you spend your Thanksgiving going from one partners parents to the next. Eating and roaming the country side. While I am not in the least bit saying you should skip these family gatherings, I am suggesting you make your own little Thanksgiving dinner on the night before or after. Pick on of the nights and make a little dinner for the two of you, heck you can even use left overs if you brought some home. You could also make a specific dish for the two of you to enjoy this time of year. Sit around and tell each other why you are thankful for their being in your life and don't just say the big things, use the little ones to show how much you value them. Things like "I am so thankful when you get up a little earlier to let me sleep in" or "I am thankful that you pushed me to apply for my new job" Spread them out through out the whole day and retrace the entire year. Sure being thankful shouldn't happen just once a year but when the word is in the title of the day you can't help but make it a focal point.

Love me two times baby.

For those of you lucky enought to remember The Doors classic song "Love me two times" we would like to encourage you and those that haven't heard this classic song to take a listen to it. Love can be shown in many different ways much like the song suggests. To make a great relationship you have to encompass many different forms of love. You have to be a friend, lover, partner, gardian angel, entertainer, shoulder to cry on, etc, etc, etc. The list goes on forever and if you want the best relationship you must be all these things for your partner. So don't think if you are getting into a relationship that you just need to be present to make everything great. You really have to put the effort into this life. So go listen to the song mentioned above and then thing about how important your relationship is to you.