Did you say thanks?

One of the things in a relationship that is forgot most often is the simple thank you. We grow use to our partner doing the things they do that we forget that they are doing them for us. Things like taking care of the children so we can get things done or changing the sheets on the bed. Once we start feeling like they should do these things because the always do, that is when we need to take a step back. Look at what your partner does, how they go the extra mile for us and if we aren't thanking them for it, are we truly being fair to them. Love is the special thing and when you love someone you don't do if for praise or appreciation, however without us seeing what they do for us it might just go away. I hear so many women say that sex becomes a chore in their relationship, but what about the chores does your mate complete tasks day in and day out? Do you think they enjoy doing the dishes or taking out the garbage for fun. They are doing it for your relationship, they are putting in their part to make your relationship flow as good as possible. Think about that next time you get upset because something wasn't done and try to remember when the last time you thanked your partner for doing whatever it is they do. I bet you don't do it nearly as much as you should.

Book Suggestion : TANTRIC SEX FOR BUSY COUPLES

We all want to get closer and be more connected with each other. However in this day and age our lives seem to be spinning out of control. Tantric Sex for Busy Couples by Diana Daffner, M.A., offers a solution to the lack of time it seem we all have. Giving you quick way to deepen your passion while learning to understand each other and your feelings better. This is not a full fledged devotion to Tantric practices but it does give you some great help in getting closer and also for letting you know if you are interested in diving in deeper to Tantric Sex. I would suggest this book to any couple that might not be connecting as well as they should, heck I would suggest this to any couple it is fun and gets the two of you closer. Nothing wrong with that!

What would you do for your Love!

Most of us go out of our way to help our partners. I hear stories of people running out in the pouring rain to get ice cream for their pregnant partners. Or parents that will sit up with their sick children all night and not get a minute of sleep. These are the type of actions that show how much you care about that other person. When you evaluate your relationship however you have to look at if you think your partner would do the same for you. Will they stay up late to massage your back if you hurt it at work? Would they run across town to help you out in the middle of the night? Would they take care of the kids so you could get some rest? If you answer no to these questions then you really need to look at your relationship, does it work with one partner putting all the effort into the relationship? Is there room for selfishness in a relationship? Well if you are strong you can overcome many challenges. No one likes for their good deeds to go unnoticed but for many people out their it is like that. Now you have to compare apples to oranges here. On partner might not be able to go without sleep and perform their job the next day, however they can repay the other partner in other ways. You can't look for a specific return on your investment so don't give a relaxing massage and expect your partner to jump up and give you one right after they are done. Look carefully at your relationship and the things your partner might be doing that you are over looking, it is easy to do. Relationships are like a bicycle built for two. You both have to pedal to get where you need to be, and if one person is doing all the pedaling then they will grow tired faster then the one not pedaling.

Laugh at each other.

One of my favorite things to do in a relationship is to laugh. To me that is a sign that you are having a good time. See how much humor you relationship has in it by counting the number of times you have laughed with your partner in the past week. 5 plus times and your relationship has a good amount of humor in it, 4-2 times and you could work on the laugher in your relationship a bit. Now if it is one or less then you have some work to do. When we think about having a good time we visualize people laughing, same can be said for your relationship. If you need a boost getting this started you need to go no further then you computer. There are many funny things to watch here. For starters you can go to youtube and watch endless streams of other people being stupid and recording it for your enjoyment. You can download a funny movie from itunes or if you enjoy a little sicker humor you can watch the new MTV show "Silent Library" to get your chuckles. Laughter is essential to not only our lives but our relationship also. So loosen that tie and get some tissue to wipe the tears from you eyes as you get set to laugh.

Don't be blinded by new relationship energy!

Sometimes we are so excited with a new relationship that we can be blinded to things that might be signs the relationship won't work out. You might think that this is a little out of context for a romance site. We are here to bring romance into relationships and part of that starts with understanding the relationship from the start. New relationship are exciting but so much so that sometimes we overlook things that will really bug us later in the relationship. You need to stop and think about things while you are away from this new person. Try to see into the future with their drinking make a difference later in your relationship. Maybe they have a drug habit or maybe they just ask for you to do things that make you feel a little uncomfortable. Yes trying new things are a great way to branch out but thing about the future. Can you put up with this things that seem okay at the start of a relationship. Another thing you need to think about is are you doing things at the start of this relationship that you might not do later down the road? Are you trying to hard to make this person feel the same energy you are feeling right now? Are you being yourself? New relationship energy is great and can make you feel better then you have in a while, just make sure it isn't blinding you to the facts that are right in front of your face. I'm not trying to scare you off of a relationship you have just entered into, but wouldn't it be better to be a little more cautious at the beginning of the relationship. If the relationship is right it will grow and build around the problems, you don't want to ignore the problems.

A gift for the Men.

Ladies here is a little guide to help you purchase a gift for your man. I understand that not every man is the same so you might have to tailor your gift to your specific man. Here in my opinion are you never miss gifts. Number one is electronics most men love to get a new gadget and their are plenty of them to choose from. Number two is Sports Tickets most men like some sort of sports so pick his favorite team and surprise him with great seats. Last and the never fail item is some great sex. Purchase some great lingerie and treat him like he is a king at least for a day. If he doesn't like that then he is nuts. Maybe you can do something he is been dieing for you to do for a while, that will make his night even more special. Any of the gifts mentioned above will work wonders on showing your man how much you care about him.

The gift of a good nights sleep

One thing that everyone lose is a great night of sleep. So often in today society we don't get enough sleep. But today you are going to take some steps to try to give you partner a great nights sleep. There are several ways to get people in the mood for a great night sleep. Many people believe that a warm glass of milk does the trick while other thing a little kahlua and milk will do the trick. Find out which makes your partner most relaxed and have the drink waiting on them just before bedtime. The next thing you need to incorporate is touch. Either a nice massage on the back or a light flowing touch works wonderful in adding extra relations for you partner to make them sleep better. Make sure all distractions are taken care of, like children, noises in the house, and keep the light dim until you turn them out completely. If you partner needs background noise such as a fan make sure to have that in place also. Sex also works to help some people sleep but this is hit or miss so don't count on it working unless they give the nod for it. Lastly make sure you are still while in the bed. If you flopping around like a fish they are not going to get any good sleep. Find a positions in which you can lay and touch them and doze off yourself, hopefully in the morning they will wake being refreshed and ready to thank you for the great night of sleep.

Grilling Out!

It is getting close to being a great time to grill outside. Many people find firing up the grill a important part of summer. Here is how we are going to make it romantic. Pick out your partners favorite dish, be it chicken, steak, or seafood. Now start searching the Internet for different recipes for this dish. Pick something easy but that looks really hard to make. Big Oven is a great source or recipes for the beginning chef or the advanced. Next head down to the liquor store and pick up a nice bottle of wine, Sangria during the summer is exspecially tasty. Finally let your partner sit back and enjoy the sun as you prepare the meal for them. Pour them a glass of your beverage and make sure to check on them from time to time as you cook. Turn on some music to set a great mood and if you have some special friends invite them over. Either the men or women can take turns planning and preparing the meal, you could even make it a ritual like every other Sunday during the summer. After the meal is cooked and done make sure you get a little time to relax and enjoy the day also.

Do you have a sex night?

Several of today's relationship gurus believe that having a specific night for sex is a must for the majority of relationships. The consensus is that our lives are so busy that just letting sex happen leads to less sex in the relationship. We have heard for years that spontaneous sex is the best, but is it really? Not knowing what is going to happen or when doesn't seem to fit with today's busy lifestyle. Don't get me wrong if you are together and the feeling hits you don't deny it, and say well this isn't sex night.

I believe that sex night is a great idea. I think it could help build anticipation and lessen disappointment. If you know your going to have sex tonight, I believe that you would fantasize about it most of the day. You would work yourself up and the passion when you finally got to that point would be incredible.

Let me know if you have a sex night? I want to hear about how you picked that night and the reason. Maybe you have certain nights throughout the year that are also guarantied for sex. Let me know all your situations. I am very curious what the public thinks.

Lather her with riches. (Click here to find luxury soaps)

During one of your shopping sprees take some time to find a really high quality soap. Not your normal soaps you pick up at the local discount store. Find the ones that might be a lot higher in price but are suppose to be excellent for you skin. I have added a link at the top of the page that might help you out. Present her with the high end soap before her next bath or shower. Tell her that you want only the best to be placed on her body. After she showers make sure to take some time to caress her skin and tell her how great it feels. Nothing makes a woman feel more special then pampering her a little bit. Experiment a little and find out what she like and dislikes for future purchases.

Some words of warning make sure not to pick up something she might be allergic to, that will really kill the thought. Don't be afraid to ask a sales person to help sometimes as a man we don't particular think the same when we pick out soaps as our partner does. A woman's input will help you out.

Romantic Needs

Romantic Needs

Gentlemen and Ladies let me start by saying that there is no map to creating a more romantic relationship in your life. Now that I have burst your bubble let me tell you why. Romance is an ever changing facit of your life. Just as in every other part of your life if you keep doing the same thing over and over it gets boring. So, don't think that you can read this blog one time and presto you are the most romantic person in the world. For example, if your partner loves to get flowers you can send her some and be Romeo, but if you send her flowers everyday, it just becomes creepy. She will probably begin to resent the flowers or maybe run in terror everytime she sees any. Help me out ladies and tell me about that fine line between the man of your dreams and the stalker.

So men there is no easy road map to this romance thing. You're gonna have to work at it the rest of the life of your relationship. Now stop sobbing. Dry those tears from your eyes and let's think. Remember when you were first dating and how all you wanted to do was please that specail lady in your life. Well do you still feel that way? Same for you ladies - has the romance left your relationship or are we just a little be lazy now that we are comfortable. Ahhhhh here lies the secret. You have to work at your relationship and putting romance into it. You have to remember why you fell head over heels for this person. Now roll up your sleeves, and let's get to work.

Think back to the things you did when you first started dating. Remember those days trying to find something fun and exciting to do everytime you got together. Well why did you stop doing that? Why when we get comfortable with someone do we forget how much fun we had wtih them? Now continue thinking about something you did that you both enjoyed and start trying to find a way to relive that. Maybe it was a magical night on the beach watching the sunset, or driving in the country and taking pictures, or something as simple as walking around your old campus holding hands. Never underestimate the power of the date rerun. Again, keep it within reason. The same date rerun done everyweek makes it a chore, and men we all know how much we hate those.

Remember Romance isn't a given. It's like a garden that must be pampered and watered and hold up hold up let me rephrase that so my fellow men can understand. Fellas, romance is like pizza you can put lots of different things on it but it's still a pizza and it still tastes good. So, until the next time, keep the romance alive. Oh by the way, does anyone have the number to the pizza place? For some reason I seem to be a little hungry now.