Count your blessings.

A good habit to get into is make a list everyday of ten things you are thankful for. It doesn't have to be a major list everyday and the items can be simple and easy. Take for example, "I am thankful for the warm water in my shower" or "I am thankful that my beautiful son comes to see me when he wakes up in the mornings" These are simple little statements but they make a lasting impression on the way you feel. Start doing this everyday even if it is in your mind and soon you might just find your days are better than you think. Even the bad ones will seem better when you realize that you have something to be thankful for.

Do the hokey pokey????

Last night we did a wonderful thing with our 3 year old. We jumped up in the middle of the living room and did the hokey pokey. It was sweet and innocent and the highlight of both our day. It is amazing the fun our little man had seeing mommy and daddy actually doing the hokey pokey. It went much deeper that that however. Not only did we have fun with our son but we also showed him what a parent should be doing. His little brain is going to save that information up and one day he will jump up and do the hokey pokey with his kids. I thank my lucky stars for the woman in my life because she is on the same page with me and wants to show our kids what being a parent is all about. If you look at the statistics most parents that have problems had parents that had problems also. So our kids learn from us, so if you are not the best parent look deep in your soul then ask for help. Attend classes, read books, and break that cycles of how your parents treated you. Because there is nothing more wonderful then watching you partner play and enjoy your children.

Did you say thanks?

One of the things in a relationship that is forgot most often is the simple thank you. We grow use to our partner doing the things they do that we forget that they are doing them for us. Things like taking care of the children so we can get things done or changing the sheets on the bed. Once we start feeling like they should do these things because the always do, that is when we need to take a step back. Look at what your partner does, how they go the extra mile for us and if we aren't thanking them for it, are we truly being fair to them. Love is the special thing and when you love someone you don't do if for praise or appreciation, however without us seeing what they do for us it might just go away. I hear so many women say that sex becomes a chore in their relationship, but what about the chores does your mate complete tasks day in and day out? Do you think they enjoy doing the dishes or taking out the garbage for fun. They are doing it for your relationship, they are putting in their part to make your relationship flow as good as possible. Think about that next time you get upset because something wasn't done and try to remember when the last time you thanked your partner for doing whatever it is they do. I bet you don't do it nearly as much as you should.

Puppy Love.

A wonderful thing you can do for your partner this holiday seasons is give them the gift that gives back so much. There are thousands of dogs and cats at your local humane society that could us a wonderful home and would be the most lovable thing you could give your mate. So if you have room in your place or your apartment accepts pets then thing about giving your partner their very own buddy. They come in all shapes, sizes and colors so you will surely be able to match up the right animal for your partner. This gift works well with the children also if you need a little something to get Christmas moving. I would strongly suggest picking a animal from the humane society that way you brighten two lives during the holiday season. Those animals at the shelter have nothing wrong with them beside that no one loves them.

Be Thankful

Happy Thanksgiving! Today of all days is a perfect day to be thankful for all the good things in your life, especially your partner. Make sure today to make them feel special, put a little more love into your kisses. If you don't on a regular basis (which you should) make them see how important they are to you. Be considerate, ask to help them out, pick out a movie they want to see for later in the evening, to show them your feelings. Don't skip the little things, like take their plate to the kitchen for them, ask them if they would like a drink and then go get it, or even let them take a nap if they desire. So much can be said for these little considerate things. On this great day of family dinners, football, and parades make sure to be thankful for the things that are really important on this day. Have a great day and appreciate the people around you as you watch the turkey getting carved.

How often do you say "I Love You"

"I Love You" the three little words that say so much. The question lies in do you use it to little or too much? I hear both sides on this question and it seem like if one partner says they use it to much the other says that they use it to little. We have a sort of "I Love You" war going on here and both sides are not wrong or right. The trick is to find a balance a middle ground that can make both sides happy. Give a little, take a little is they way we find the exact formula. We need to use the I love you sparingly, it is not just for every reason in the world, if you partner takes out the trash or does their normal chores you don't have to shower them with kisses and I love you's . On the other side of the ball don't respond to a candle lit dinner that includes your favorite dishes with "Thanks, that was good" is not an appropriate response for what that partner has done for you. Think about the times you need to say "I Love You" and don't use it out. It is a special statement that carries so much weight but used wrongly it just seems diluted.