Compliments.

If you don't already you need to make it a point to complement your partner on a daily basis. You don't have to go overboard because that will just be overkill. However a simple, "You look nice" or "Your so Handsome" is a great way to start your partners morning. This simple little compliment could possibly change they way their day goes. Boosting your partners confidence is a great way to make your relationship better, plus it shows them you really care. Mix it up a little and spread you compliments out during the day. When ever you have something negative to say make sure you always follow it with a compliment. For instance, if you partner makes the worst dinner ever, simple say "This meal is not nearly as tasty as the one you make last week, now that was delicious" or "That really didn't feel very good for me, but I loved it last time when you did this" Not only do you express your true feelings but you also let them know what your really enjoyed or liked. Now listen up this is an important part of this post on compliments. When ever you partner goes out of their way to do something like dressing up or doing extra housework you need to make it a point to let them know how great they look or did. Go overboard at this point "WOW, you look so wonderful, everyone is going to have their eyes on you" or "Oh my god, the house looks wonderful" followed by a long kiss. This is how we are suppose to be addressed when you go out of our way to accomplish something. Now you have the tools to make your partner feel like a million buck with only the use of words and actions.

How often do you say "I Love You"

"I Love You" the three little words that say so much. The question lies in do you use it to little or too much? I hear both sides on this question and it seem like if one partner says they use it to much the other says that they use it to little. We have a sort of "I Love You" war going on here and both sides are not wrong or right. The trick is to find a balance a middle ground that can make both sides happy. Give a little, take a little is they way we find the exact formula. We need to use the I love you sparingly, it is not just for every reason in the world, if you partner takes out the trash or does their normal chores you don't have to shower them with kisses and I love you's . On the other side of the ball don't respond to a candle lit dinner that includes your favorite dishes with "Thanks, that was good" is not an appropriate response for what that partner has done for you. Think about the times you need to say "I Love You" and don't use it out. It is a special statement that carries so much weight but used wrongly it just seems diluted.

Change the words

Have you ever been caught sitting watching television together when there is nothing really on you want to watch? If you end up in this situation here is what you can do. Turn the volume down on the show and make up your own words. Make up the most absurd things you can think of and challenge you partner to answer your remarks. This can be a real test to your wit. It also helps you become quick on your feet at answering questions. It can also help stimulate your brain power and get you thinking, instead of just sitting absorbing useless junk. Do it during the commercials also they can end up being really funny.

The best part about this is that it will get you laughing together. As I have said many times laughter is great medicine and it actually helps you live longer. So find a show that looks serious and ad lib so silliness into it tonight.

Make it a point to say something nice today!

Make it a point to say something nice today to everyone you come in contact with. Not only your partner, but your mother, brother, sister, neighbor, teacher, sitter, and the list goes on and on. By making it a habit to say something nice to everyone you meet, people begin to enjoy being around you. Saying "Did you lose weight" to your neighbor might just make her/his day. Telling the cashier at the store to have a nice day, might make their work day just a little brighter. These types of little statements can go a long way in brightening up someones day. If you brighten up someones day you are going to feel so much better.

Now you get double the points with your partner. For one they hear you say all those nice things to everyone else. This makes them see how wonderful you are to other people. Now when you say those things to your partner, not only do they know how wonderful you are but they also get the benefit of hearing something nice about themselves or just a nice statement in general.

You know it is really quite sad at how many people I know that can't say anything nice. It blows my mind to think, as I hear people being grumpy towards people they don't even know, that those words are the only thing that is popping into their heads right now. Sure we all have bad days but does that mean we should take them out on other? If your boss gets made at your should you go home and take it out on your family. The answer is no, if your struggling with that. Hopefully by getting in a pattern of saying nice things to people you can avoid the times when your down and say something that isn't how you really feel.

Always remember WORDS CAN HURT!

If you haven't seen the Free Hugs Video Here it is. This goes right along with what we are talking about. Also if you click the title of this post you can go to the free hugs website. Enjoy!