Sometimes you just have to do nothing at all!

Everyone has those days when you just don't feel great or you might be a little depressed. These are the days you don't want to do your normal routine. You don't want to work out, you don't want to mess with cleaning the kitchen you just want to wallow in your sorrows. Most people might think this is not a healthy activity. I feel like a little bit of this is good for you it keeps you grounded. Now if this is happening everyday you might need to seek some help. One day of this is not going to drive you over the edge. Take the time and do nothing at all, watch some bad television and just hang out together. Don't analyze what is going on just take time to reflect. Think of the good things in your life as you are dealing with the bad, the theory behind this is that once you start thinking of the good things the bad won't seem that bad. I remember a particular tough time in my life where I found myself in a lawyers office. I was depressed and sad about the things going on and I remember my lawyer telling me, "Everything is going to be all right" Then he went on to say "I lost my daughter last week in a car accident, now that is something to mourn for" That statement hit me like a ton of bricks and it really got me understanding how to put things in perspective. Don't make a habit of it but embrace the times you don't feel great and happy and then reflect on them and see that they are really most likely not as bad as they are making you feel.

What to do with old underwear?

What do you do when your underwear gets old and it is time to get rid of it? Do you just pitch it in the trash and be done with it? Well I have a better suggestion and it doesn't matter wether you a man or woman, all you need is older underpants that you are ready to get rid of. What I want you to do is save these underpants until the next time you are getting to ready to make love then slip on the old underpants. What? that is not sexy wearing old underpants to seduce your partner in. Well, just wait a minute I haven't finished yet. Once you have them on a ready then tell you partner to... RIP THEM OFF OF YOU! Now that is sexy, ripping the panties or underwear right off your body. If you partner isn't the strongest person in the world place some strategic cuts in the old underwear to make them tear easily. Have fun and enjoy actually ripping your partners panties off their naked body. What you do after that is totally up to you.

Feeling comfortable

Feeling comfortable in a relationship is one of the most under rated feelings that people miss out on. We go into relationship trying to be the perfect person and making the person we are trying to attract think that we don't have any flaws. In doing this we set ourself up to not be as comfortable in the beginning as we would like to be. We live under these false pretenses believing that we can keep it up the through out the relationship. Finally as some point you have to break down and show that you are not this perfect person that you have been trying to convince your partner you are. When you feel comfortable in your relationship this isn't hard, you have open communication and it is easy to express your feelings and admit your problems. On the other hand if you are uncomfortable with the communication admitting these issues is a bit more hard. My suggestion to anyone getting into a relationship is to be as close to yourself as you can and make sure the person you are trying to attract likes the real you. You don't what them to find out down the road of issues that might make your relationship tense. Relax as you go out on those first few dates and show your new flame how you really are, not only will they appreciate it but you can rest assured that you won't have to live behind a mask.

Warm her up to get the most out of your sexual relationship.

Men we have a hard time understanding that we need to warm up a woman to get her in the mood for some loving that will last all night. We are simple creatures, as soon as we feel the urge we are ready, we have no warm up phase. Woman however need to be gently guided towards that feeling that just happens in us. We have to take our time and get the mood just right, which is hard for us because we are ready to pounce right now. Gentlemen let me put it to your this way the warming up is a way to make the love making last longer, by slowing down a bit the activities will last longer into the night. The more time you take the better she will be a receiving your advances. We all here the jokes about how quick men are and that their partners wish they could last longer, well let me tell you the sexual stamina isn't what will get it for you. The foreplay and the building of excitement will get your female companion to the point she need to be at. Don't be embarrassed if you need help in this matter, there are several books out on the subject of foreplay that can help you. The main thing is not to rush. Most of us are so excited when we get to engage in these activities that we dive right in, but believe me that is the worst thing you can do. Take your time, that feeling isn't going to go away especially if you push all the right buttons. Now go out and get your love making in shape and take your time.

Start Journaling.

I think a very romantic thing for a couple to do together is journal. Not together but as separate entities. Buy your love and yourself little cheap journals at your local discount store and begin writing down the everyday things in life that make you happy or sad depending on the day. Now here is the romantic part. Find a special time where the two of you can sit down together and write your daily feelings out. Then make it an event make some coffee or pour a class of wine and sit down together and journal. If you want to go paper less you could use your computer, just make sure to store you journal either on a service that keeps them for you our on some removable media so that they are not only on your computer. We all know to well what happens when your computer crashes. There are several types of journal you could keep if you don't just want to write down diary entries. You could keep a gratitude journal of all the things you are grateful for or you could keep a expense journal to keep track of your finances a little better.

If you want to journal together you can use it as a means of communication. People who have problems expressing their feeling sometimes have a better time writing them down. This works great if one partner is a talker and the other is more reserved. This allows the more reserved partner to get their feelings out without getting interrupted. You can keep a sex journal and list all the things the two of you have done that have worked or not. When you keep a journal together you both read the others entries and learn from them. This way you really know how your partner felt about what the two of you did together. Then you know if you should do it again or abandon that idea.

Journaling also helps keep everything in perspective. Sometimes when your feelings are running high we don't make the best decisions. If you write down these feelings then go back and read over them you might see that the way you were feeling was just silly and because your emotions were high you were not thinking clearly. So go out today and pick up some journals it can make your life a whole lot better.

How do you dress at home?

We all love to dress comfortable when we are at home. But is comfortable okay with your partner? Are old sweats with holes in them okay to spend the time with your partner in? This is a great debate question and I think the answer lies somewhere in the middle ground. We spend all week dressing up to go to work and yet the person we most want to impress we usually dress down for? Now I am not suggesting that you wear a three piece suit or a evening gown when you are running around the house. We need to find some happy medium. Go shopping and check out some of the nice looking work out gear or both men and women. You can find some really nice athletic gear that doesn't make you look like a slob. Brands such as Under Armor and Nike have some excellent choices that will keep you comfortable and looking like someone that would be great to snuggle down with. Some of the new materials are even great to feel so maybe if you find some of these items your partner might have a hard time keeping their hands off you. Don't throw away all your bumming clothes, keep them for days you don't feel well so that your partner knows you don't want to be bothered on these days.

Change the words

Have you ever been caught sitting watching television together when there is nothing really on you want to watch? If you end up in this situation here is what you can do. Turn the volume down on the show and make up your own words. Make up the most absurd things you can think of and challenge you partner to answer your remarks. This can be a real test to your wit. It also helps you become quick on your feet at answering questions. It can also help stimulate your brain power and get you thinking, instead of just sitting absorbing useless junk. Do it during the commercials also they can end up being really funny.

The best part about this is that it will get you laughing together. As I have said many times laughter is great medicine and it actually helps you live longer. So find a show that looks serious and ad lib so silliness into it tonight.