Play dress up

Do you spend most of your days in shorts and t-shirts around the house? Is you basic dressing up putting on a polo shirt and a nice pair of jeans or wearing a matching sweat outfit. Well as a romantic gesture I want to suggest breaking out the dress clothes and going out on the town. I do mean dressing up suit and tie or dress and heels. This is a great way for your partner to see you and it will make them see how great you look dressed up. Most people say that their partner looks awesome when they are dressed up, but do they say that when you put on your normal clothes. I am not suggesting you dress like this all the time but every once in a while will remind your partner what you look like when you get all dressed up. Go out to a fancy restaurant or just go walk around expensive places to see how it feels. Get yourself comfortable in your dress clothes. Plus it is good to put them on from time to time to make sure they still fit. This way you have a heads up before you need them for a job interview or a wedding.

Bring some home when going on a trip

We have a special little trick we use when we go on a trip. We never can seem to get a comfortable bed like our one at home when we get a hotel room. The pillows are always thin and have no substance to them. There is no chance of getting a good night sleep in a strange bed with pillows that you could slid in a pizza box. What we do is bring a little home with us. No we can't bring our bed but we can bring our pillows. The pillows help make us feel like we are in our own bed even if the bed isn't ours. They smell like our house, we get the same neck support and they are easy to pack. Yes pillows are easy to pack all you have to do is have a vacuum and you can fit your pillow into your suitcase. Get a bag or one of those new air removing devices and you will have your pillow flat as a pancake to pack. Then just open the bag and let the air in and your pillow springs back to life. In this manner you can make the sleeping part of your trip a little more romantic and a lot less uncomfortable.

Ladies take the pants off.

Ladies this post if directed towards you. There is one bed time look that drives us guys crazy and is comfortable as hell for you. No it is not being naked. It is when you wear a normal sized t-shirt and just your panties. That look is so sexy yet it is the most basic thing you can wear. We love to get that little glimpse of how sexy you are without seeing to much. When you bend over and we see a little bit of your buttocks. We have to bite out lip to keep us from just taking you right then and there. You can perfect this look a little more by using panties that creep up a little to expose more of your bottom. Ladies this is the way you can drive us wild without having to wear something that is a little uncomfortable to you. Thing about this next time you guy wants to spend hours in front of the television. A little comfy look might just have his eyes wondering towards you!!!

Get out of your comfort zone.

We all have our normal routine that we go through day in and day out. We do the same things enjoy the same hobbies over and over. Why, because they are comfortable to us, we know we like them and it is easy to pick something to do when we know we like it. Well in the business of romance we need to think a little differently, because different is romantic. Get out of the comfort zone and pick something a little different to try on a date, just for fun or when you need a boost spicing up your life. We recently discovered geocaching and at first we felt really silly looking around place for little hidden boxes, but know we love it. Our next adventure is going to be laughter yoga, and I want to try going on a volunteer vacation. These thing are not our normal thing but who knows just like our geocaching they might become our normal thing as we get into it. To me romance it experiencing things with the person you love, and the more you experience the more memories you make but the more romance you have.

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Dress it up a little!

Romance can take all shapes and forms but usually we want it to be as comfortable as it can be. However the more comfortable we get the less likely we are to get out of that comfort. One of the things that takes a big hit is dressing up to go out to dinner or on a date with each other. We get in a habit in a relationship of feeling so comfortable that it takes over the way we dress. Soon we find ourselves looking for places to eat where we can wear or comfortable clothes and be ourselves. Think back to when you wanted to impress each other. Did you wear your loose fitting clothes or eat at the local fast food establishment? No you went someplace nice and you wore clothes to impress each other. Why don't we do that now? At least once a month you should shed those normal clothes and venture out together looking good together. Find a place that is on the higher end of your budget and doesn't have any cartoon characters or clowns. Then spend the night conversing and enjoy the sights of each other. Find something to do after dinner without dressing down. Go for a stroll or go out for a drink and keep the dressed up feel going all night.

Time for some water fun.

As we are starting to see some hot weather as we enter summer their is one way for sure to cool off. Any thing to do with water can be romantic and fun. Going to the beach, relaxing at the pool, breaking out the slip and slide, or even squirt gun fights can all be a way of being romantic while cooling off. Water is sexy, and if you don't believe me just think about this, how hot does your partner look when they just get out of the shower? Plus, normally when you are around water you wear less clothing, hence you get to see more of your loves skin. Swimming is a wonderful way to exercise with out the pounding on your body and the getting wet then drying off is a wonderful sensation for you skin. There are so many things to do around or in the water that you can't help but think is it because we are made up of so much water that we feel comfortable around and in the water. Squirt gun fights can be a wonderful means of foreplay the might end up with you soaked and naked! I think you can figure out what to do after that. Got out on the next hot day and plan on getting soaked, and romantic.

Comfort is a key to romance

Romance comes in all shapes and sizes. While someone might thing that snuggling down on the couch is romantic another might think that is not romantic. The one thing that seems to be reacquiring in romance is comfort. When you feel comfortable you are able to open up more and receive the romance the other person is giving. Now comfort doesn't mean that you use a lot of pillows and soft cushions. Comfort is a sense of well being or safety and when you reach that point the romance will flow like a river. Keys to getting comfortable are things like honesty and integrity. Your partner needs to know how you are going to react to things. You can't be calm and collected during a big situation then blow your top when something little happens. Your partner has to understand what pushes your buttons. Once you reach a level that is reassuring to both of you the comfort will surround you and make you feel safe. That my friends is when your romance will erupt.

Love thy self!

When we think of romance we think of doing kind things for the person we love. Sending them flowers, giving them massages, hand in hand walks and passionate love making fill our heads when we think about romance. I want to tell you that by loving yourself you are setting up the romance in your life to become way more better. When we are comfortable with who and what we are we give of a confidence that is like a drug to others. They catch on to the feeling and want and desire to have it for themselves. I am not talking about conceit I am talking about honest to goodness feeling good about yourself. Conceit is trying to show everyone how great you are while loving yourself is an content within yourself. These people that love themselves are never alone and have tons of energy to give to creating romance in their lives. It might sound a little crazy but to get the most out of your romance make sure to love yourself first. If you find trouble doing this make a list of all your characteristics that you think others find appealing to you and read them often to confirm the reasons why you lover yourself. You are a special person and someone somewhere will see that in you also.

Snuggle time

Once all is done for the day, and you no longer have to think about doing anything it is time to snuggle up together. After a hard day of work, or play, and you have made love it is time for the two of you to fit together like puzzle pieces. It takes some trial and error to find just the perfect placement where you both can feel comfortable and connected to each other during slumber. Spooning is the easiest and most accepted way to snuggle but every couple is different. Some couples like to sleep back to back with their butts touching while others use their feet as if they were hands to hold each other. We always see the woman sleeping on the man's chest in the movies but from most of my conversations, most couples find this uncomfortable. Then the other question that pops up is what do you sleep in while you are snuggling? My favorite is to just be naked, skin on skin is the best in my opinion, plus it makes it easy if you get any urges to be intimate with each other during the night. Light pajamas seem to be the favorite on average though especially if their are any little children in the house. I would love to hear about the different and strange ways our viewers snuggle so drop me a line and let me know your crazy way of snuggling.

How many times is to many times to say I love you?

A debate about how many times is the perfect amount of times to say I love you during a day. Some people would say that 1 time is enough a day, while others need those words more as it gives them support and encouragement. I do believe that there is not certain answer to this equation. Everyone is different, however the trick to this is finding the balance between the two individuals. In this matter you need to find a place where it doesn't annoy one partner but is enough for the other partner. The only way to do this is through a little trail and error. Which ever person you are in the relationship you need to either add or subtract the number of times you tell your partner you love them. Continue to do this each day until your partner no longer rolls their eyes at this or in the other case stops pumping your for more. Once you find that medium then stick with it and you can put this debate to bed.

Trust

One of the most important things in a relationship is trust, everyone has heard this a million billion times. Not only is trust an important for finding someone to love but it is also important later in your relationship. Keeping a friendship in your relationship is a thing most people don't feel is that important. When you have trust in your partner you also view them as a friend telling them things that you would only tell a friend. This way the two of you can laugh and joke around together, which is a staple of any long term relationship. The days of co-habiting are numbered as people are starting to realize that life is way to short to be unhappy. Trust is also important in your sexual relationship. As your relationship grows you may want to try some different things in the area of sex. If you trust your partner you will have no problem telling them of the desires and fantasies that you have. This will create new dynamics in your sex life and in turn build an even stronger relationship between the two of you. Trust also comes into play as you get older and need that rock to stabilize you. You might need someone to take care of your and a trust worthy partner is the best at this. Life is not easy but with the trust of your partner it is definitely more fun and exciting.

Feeling comfortable

Feeling comfortable in a relationship is one of the most under rated feelings that people miss out on. We go into relationship trying to be the perfect person and making the person we are trying to attract think that we don't have any flaws. In doing this we set ourself up to not be as comfortable in the beginning as we would like to be. We live under these false pretenses believing that we can keep it up the through out the relationship. Finally as some point you have to break down and show that you are not this perfect person that you have been trying to convince your partner you are. When you feel comfortable in your relationship this isn't hard, you have open communication and it is easy to express your feelings and admit your problems. On the other hand if you are uncomfortable with the communication admitting these issues is a bit more hard. My suggestion to anyone getting into a relationship is to be as close to yourself as you can and make sure the person you are trying to attract likes the real you. You don't what them to find out down the road of issues that might make your relationship tense. Relax as you go out on those first few dates and show your new flame how you really are, not only will they appreciate it but you can rest assured that you won't have to live behind a mask.

Buy extra pillows for you bed.

Want to get more comfortable in your bed? I am sure you have seen the pictures of the lavish bed with about 25 pillows on it and you think to yourself "That's a lot of pillows to take on and off the bed every night" Well you right it is a lot of pillows, however it makes the bed more inviting. Not necessarily for sleep! It makes your partner and you want to lay in bed more, maybe reading, maybe playing a game, or maybe doing a little pillow fighting. The pillows can be used and devices to help you sit up to read or just get more comfortable while you enjoy your space. If some of your pillows are small try sleeping with one between you knees, if you lay on your side, this simple action makes me sleep a whole lot better. On a sexual side with a ton of pillows on your bed you can achieve more positions then you can just on a flat surface. Plus you can use these pillows for support and even make sure you partner is more comfortable. A simple pillow under the small of a woman's back adds a greater sensation to love making in the missionary position. Now go out and get several pillows today and make your bed the comfort zone it should be.

Watching the tree lights.

You know how the flicker of the fire sets a great mood for romance. Well at this time of year your Christmas tree lights can do the same thing. Turn all the lights down in the room with your tree in it and then find a cozy chair to snuggle down in. Don't let talking get in the way of enjoying the lights, just relax for a bit and take in the magic season of lights. Once you feel relaxed then you can start talking about things like presents you need to buy or what you want to do this holiday season. However, don't think to much the object here is to relax and enjoy the wonderful christmas tree the two of you have put up.

Be Romantic Stock up on Cold and Flu Supplies

The season is upon us that live in colder climates. Cold and Flu season can hit you and your partner hard at anytime. You can do your best to prevent it from sidelining the two of you but chances are at some point and time you will have to confront it. Nothing says that you care about someone more then when you are prepared for them being sick. The last thing you want to do is to have to run out to a busy store at this time of year and spend a half hour to an hour waiting in line, to get some cold and flu supplies. Go through your cabinets and look for outdated remedies, as well as stuff that is absent from your cabinet. Then make a store run to pick up your favorite remedies to restock your medicine cabinet. Then the first time your partner is under the weather, you can treat them quickly and snuggle with them instead of running all over town standing in busy stores. Doing this can also save you money to as it affords you the luxury of finding coupons or special deals on the products you use. When you run out at the last minute the last thing you are looking for is you coupons or any special deals, you just want to get what you need a get home. If you have any children in your house you should do the same thing for them, to be prepared. Sure we all want to think about candle lit dinners when we think of romance but romance starts with care and concern for someone special and comforting someone that is ill will make you look like a saint in their eyes.

How do you dress at home?

We all love to dress comfortable when we are at home. But is comfortable okay with your partner? Are old sweats with holes in them okay to spend the time with your partner in? This is a great debate question and I think the answer lies somewhere in the middle ground. We spend all week dressing up to go to work and yet the person we most want to impress we usually dress down for? Now I am not suggesting that you wear a three piece suit or a evening gown when you are running around the house. We need to find some happy medium. Go shopping and check out some of the nice looking work out gear or both men and women. You can find some really nice athletic gear that doesn't make you look like a slob. Brands such as Under Armor and Nike have some excellent choices that will keep you comfortable and looking like someone that would be great to snuggle down with. Some of the new materials are even great to feel so maybe if you find some of these items your partner might have a hard time keeping their hands off you. Don't throw away all your bumming clothes, keep them for days you don't feel well so that your partner knows you don't want to be bothered on these days.

Comfort in time of Need

One of the most romantic things you can do for someone is just being there for them in a time of need. Everyone is different and some people want to be alone in a time of need. They will appreciate you for just holding your ground if that is what they need. Things like losing a parent or any family member are hard and a time when you need to put your partners feeling in front of everything else. Getting fired from a job is another time where you partner will need you to comfort them. It's is easy to feel rejected at a time like that, however a positive partner can change the situation around in a hurray.

Holding hands or just hugging make your arms a safe place to hide if only for a moment for you partner. When things like that happen you need to be the rock in the relationship. Put all your effort into helping any way you can. You be the one to go out and get dinner for the family at the funeral home. Help with the job search if your partner has just lost their job. Always be positive and show them you care. Most people find out just how romantic their partner is when times are tough. So don't be the person who runs away from the situation. Stand your ground and hold your partner up. After all you might need them sooner then you think.

A drink or two! (Thats it) - Click here to learn how to make almost any drink

I know all the problems that alcohol can have on a relationship and by know means do I encourage excessive drinking. However, sitting down with your sweetie and picking out a drink to try can be fun and exhilarating. I personally might have a drink 2 or 3 times a month but I think it is fun to try different drinks. In my title line I have put a link to Alex's Cocktail Recipes it is an extensive list of drinks. Once you have found a drink to try make it together or if your into a little role playing pretend one of your is the bartender and the other is trying to pick up the bartender. Have fun with it and after the drink is made sit down together to try it. You might end up spitting it our but at least you tried it together. As always get creative, buy special glasses, look for the little umbrellas to put in the drink, or when you are picking out your drink just pick a color or word and find a drink that matches.

Words of Warning - DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE EVER! and if you find yourself desiring the drink more than the company of your partner, get help.

It is okay to drink and have sex, but drinking during sex can get a little messy!!

That's not my chore...

One of the things that makes a women feel special is taking some of her work load off her back. So next time you know your partner is having a particularly bad day do some of her chores at home. At our house my wife and I have specific duties that we perform to keep up the house. For instance I do the dishes and she does the laundry. With our busy work schedules sometimes she might get behind a little during the week on the laundry. She usually tries then to catch it up on the weekend. Well my theory behind this is if I can save her a couple of hours of doing laundry "WE" will have more time to spend together. I also hope it shows her how special she is to me.

No one like to do chores, but they have to get done sometime. If you can eliminate some of the time spend doing these chores your relationship time increases and that my friend is never a bad thing.

Wishful Thinking... Tell her your fantasies.

Something all relationships need is a peak into each others fantasies. It helps you get closer and you might even find something that clicks with both of you. Men you have to take the reigns here, spill it to her tell her one of your fantasies and see how she reacts. If you think your partner doesn't have fantasies you need more help then I can give you. So start out small tell her something you might like to try and see how she reacts. If she is disgusted then you might have to wait a little while to try again. Most likely if your partner cares about you she will at least listen and if your really lucky she might even try it on you. Don't be offended if she doesn't feel comfortable with your fantasy sometimes they just don't click. Maybe if she feels comfortable hearing your fantasies, she might even open up enough to tell you some of hers. Be very careful here don't judge her just as you don't want her to judge you. Listen and see if maybe it might be something you could a least try, who knows you might enjoy it even more then her. I know that one time I tried something with my partner and low and behold after we finished she was like "I have so wanted you to do that forever" and this was about 6 years into our relationship. Take your chances men, she is with you for a reason so you should trust that she will be receptive to your fantasies. That doesn't mean she is going to dress up like Princess Lea for you, but maybe she will at least play with your light saber!!!!