Comfort is a key to romance

Romance comes in all shapes and sizes. While someone might thing that snuggling down on the couch is romantic another might think that is not romantic. The one thing that seems to be reacquiring in romance is comfort. When you feel comfortable you are able to open up more and receive the romance the other person is giving. Now comfort doesn't mean that you use a lot of pillows and soft cushions. Comfort is a sense of well being or safety and when you reach that point the romance will flow like a river. Keys to getting comfortable are things like honesty and integrity. Your partner needs to know how you are going to react to things. You can't be calm and collected during a big situation then blow your top when something little happens. Your partner has to understand what pushes your buttons. Once you reach a level that is reassuring to both of you the comfort will surround you and make you feel safe. That my friends is when your romance will erupt.

Feeling needed!

A wonderful feeling that accompanies romance is the feeling of being needed or helpful. Have you even felt this emotion? It can bring your soul up from the depths of dispare and make you feel like an important part of life. Now how can we work this feeling into romance? Thing about it can you make your partner feel needed, are there things in your life that it would be helpful if your partner participated in them. We all have a power struggle that makes us want to take care of everything yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to help you do your taxes, or help you figure out the best exercises to be doing. The point of these things is to make them feel like not only you want them but that you need them in your life. There is not a single soul out there that doesn't like to know that they are needed. What better person in your life to express that to you than you partner. Sure both of you could live without the other person that is not the point and we don't want you to give up your Independence. We just want you to show your partner that they are important to you and not just an accessory in your life.

Trust

One of the most important things in a relationship is trust, everyone has heard this a million billion times. Not only is trust an important for finding someone to love but it is also important later in your relationship. Keeping a friendship in your relationship is a thing most people don't feel is that important. When you have trust in your partner you also view them as a friend telling them things that you would only tell a friend. This way the two of you can laugh and joke around together, which is a staple of any long term relationship. The days of co-habiting are numbered as people are starting to realize that life is way to short to be unhappy. Trust is also important in your sexual relationship. As your relationship grows you may want to try some different things in the area of sex. If you trust your partner you will have no problem telling them of the desires and fantasies that you have. This will create new dynamics in your sex life and in turn build an even stronger relationship between the two of you. Trust also comes into play as you get older and need that rock to stabilize you. You might need someone to take care of your and a trust worthy partner is the best at this. Life is not easy but with the trust of your partner it is definitely more fun and exciting.

Don't be to shy to open up to someone you love.

So many times we keep to ourselves and don't let anyone in. If you are doing this to the love of your life you are making a big mistake. The one person that you should be able to trust should be that person you want to spend the most time with. Now I am not saying open up totally to someone you just met, you have to get to know them first. When you have been in a relationship for a while you need to confide and trust them. Tell them the things you need to get off your chest or the things that haunt you. If you have fantasies you can share them with this person. This is the best place for judgement not to be passed. One thing I would suggest is if you are feeling a little indifferent on a subject talk it out with your partner. Tell them that you don't know why you feel this way and then explain the way you feel to them. You might not like going to your parents house or sitting at the back of the movie theater, things like this deserve an explanation. This way your partner doesn't keep asking you why or keep trying to get you to do something you don't want to or that freaks you out. You might be a little surprised that if you get these issues off your chest to your partner, how much stronger your relationship can become. For example if you were scared by clowns as a child and have a fear of them, your partner will know not to buy tickets to the circus, or if you have cousins that teased and hit you as a child, they will understand why you don't want to go to the family reunion that you got an invitation to. Bringing your partner into the light on things that upset you will help shed new light on your relationship.