Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

Trust

One of the most important things in a relationship is trust, everyone has heard this a million billion times. Not only is trust an important for finding someone to love but it is also important later in your relationship. Keeping a friendship in your relationship is a thing most people don't feel is that important. When you have trust in your partner you also view them as a friend telling them things that you would only tell a friend. This way the two of you can laugh and joke around together, which is a staple of any long term relationship. The days of co-habiting are numbered as people are starting to realize that life is way to short to be unhappy. Trust is also important in your sexual relationship. As your relationship grows you may want to try some different things in the area of sex. If you trust your partner you will have no problem telling them of the desires and fantasies that you have. This will create new dynamics in your sex life and in turn build an even stronger relationship between the two of you. Trust also comes into play as you get older and need that rock to stabilize you. You might need someone to take care of your and a trust worthy partner is the best at this. Life is not easy but with the trust of your partner it is definitely more fun and exciting.

Slip your partner some lucky money!

We all have times when we just need something good to happen to make us feel a little better. Have you ever found money in a pocket,when you put on a coat or pair of jeans you haven't worn in a while. Well I want you to create that feeling for your partner. It doesn't have to be a lot of money maybe even five bucks but if you can find a way to slip it into their pocket before they put their clothes on you might just start their day off on the right foot. I know the first thing I say when I find money in a pocket I didn't expect is, "Wow this must be going to be a lucky day" Now my whole attitude for the day has been changes with this simple act of finding unexpected money. Imagine how you could pick up your partners spirits if they are not excited about the day ahead. The only thing you can't do is tell them you placed it there, that would do just the opposite and most likely get a negative reaction. There are many other ways to accomplish this goal, such as putting a little cash in a book they are reading, slip it into their wallet, lay in on the floor board of their car, or simply lay it in their path. This simply action will make you feel good inside and it is a secret you can keep with yourself. This also is handy if your partner needs money for something right away, just tell them to wish for it and see what happens, just don't you get caught with your hand in the pocket.

Let the pictures tell the story

I say I am going to do this every time we go on a trip, and by golly next time I am.

Next time you take a trip somewhere together make sure to take your camera and take pictures of everything you do. With today's digital cameras it is even easier to do then ever. Then get an album and place the pictures in order based on how you did them. If you don't do it soon after you get home you will find yourself scratching your head and wondering which event goes where. Place silly captions under each photo and label the front of the album with a specific title, such as "Trip to Italy" Then when you pull the album out in about five years you will have no problem reliving that trip or event.

This may sound silly but as we age we don't always remember things exactly as they happened. So this method will help you and your partner remember all those special times you enjoyed together. With today's advances in technology you can even perform this while you are still on vacation. You can email the photo to your house with labels already attached. If you take a laptop you can even work on the photo album while you are relaxing by the pool. So don't be like me there is no reason or excuse for not getting these memories recorded on your next trip or event.

(Special thanks to For Inspiration Only from flickr for the photo CC)

Romance Game

Here is a simple game of romance. Take turns telling each other what you feel is romantic. Be it places to go, or just things to do together. Start out slow maybe saying "I think the most romantic place in the world is...." Then the next person says their feelings on the subject. Elaborate on each output and tell why you thing it would be romantic. This is a great way to get to know your partner better. You would think you would only have to play this game once. Well I am here to tell you, that you should make a point to play it at least a couple of times a year. People change and as we get older so do our needs and wants. So at 18 I might think making love on the beach would be the best thing ever. Now that I am old I think about the sand and where it would end up. Nothing is set in stone, make notes but use a pencil as the changes happen.