Tension Build up

Tension is a great cause of relationship problems and the tension might not be from something you have done. Believe it or not the tension might be from work, children, or a number of other sources. However it allows you a great way to show compassion and care for you lover. When you notice this tension building up it is your time to act. Have you partner sit in front of you and massage their neck and shoulders. This area is a major holder of tension and can cause headaches as well as other problems. You might not be able to relieve all the tension but the effort and the concern you show for you partner will go a long way. Never miss a chance to enjoy touching your partner even if it is an attempt to make them feel better. This type of touch is not only great for them but it is beneficial for you also.

Make a flirty promise.

Today I want you to make a flirty promise to your lover. Either promise them some great sexual experience or a romantic get together. Then you have to follow through on your flirt. You can pull them aside and tell them, text them, or just leave a note for them to find. State in your note what you are going to do, when you are going to do it and how much they are going to enjoy it. Now if you have obstacles in the way such as children you can get around that by putting the time as soon as the children are asleep. Make it a point to keep your promise but if something comes up you need to quickly put a rain date on your plans. Say you are sorry and quickly state the rain date and them them that you will even make it more exciting on that date. This little build of excitement actually helps your partner in more ways than you think. Not only will they benefit from the health aspect of sex but they will also benefit from the great mood it will put them in. Remember, sex is a very important part of your relationship and it should take priority at times. Not only because it is great for you but because it is great for your relationship, also.

Romantic ways to put on chap stick.

The other day we were out in the sun most of the day and our lips as well as the rest of us were dry from the sun. We went to the store and picked up some chap stick to help protect our lips. My partner put it on first then didn't pass it over to me. Curiously, I said, "Do I get any chap stick?" I then got the best romantic reply ever. I hear the word, "Sure" and then she applies more chap stick to her lip and leans over and kisses me hard. Rubbing her lips around mine smearing the chap stick over my lips. Pulling back from me, she said, "There how is that" All I good do was say, "Good"

Take a break together.

During you time together do you ever feel like it is rush rush rush? Do you feel like the two of you are together but distant because of the hurried schedules that you keep? Well I suggest taking a break. Just like a break at work make it a specific time and amount of time. Make it at noon and for a half hour. Then during that time become absorbed with each other. Focus on being a couple kiss, hug and be happy in the moment. It might take a little practice but it is well worth the effort. After all you don't have a problem when they call break at work do you. Stoping what you are doing and getting a little snack or drink. Well it shouldn't be that hard to do for your relationship either.

Touch is right up there with food, water and shelter.

Touch is very under rated in life. While we need food, water, and shelter to actually life and not die. Touch is as important to your relationship. If you are not touching you are missing and necessary area of your love. Words are easy to say but you can't fake a loving touch. That gentle and soft touch that says I am here for you or comforts you at night is a desire that everyone longs for. Make it a point today to touch each other more often you might find it very pleasurable. When we touch we share our energy with our partner and the charge we get out of it can propel us through our day with a passion that only a loving touch can bring. Reach out and give your love through touch.

Have a drink ready!

Have you ever had a time where you partner is having a bad day at work? Maybe they called you at lunch or texted you during the day to tell you how terrible of day they are having. We all have these days where nothing seems to go right and every time you turn around it seems to get worse. This is where being a kind and loving partner comes in. You can turn their day around as soon as the walk through the door. Have their favorite drink ready for them and give them a big kiss as the walk through the door. Encourage them to sit down and talk to you about their day, let them get it off their chest so that they can put it behind them. Maybe, just maybe you will make their night a little better and they can forget about the terrible day they have had. Within each and everyone of us there is the power to lift our lovers up. Be it with compassion and praise, or listening and understanding, we can turn the tides for them. Make them feel special the rest of the night, make sure to touch them often as touch is a soothing reminder of the love you have for them. If the time is right have induce a little sexual release from them and let them enjoy your wonderful love for them. We cannot change the past but we can make the present a different place.

Love like there is no tomorrow!

The one thing I hear so often from people that have lost their spouse or partner, is this, "If I would have known I would have done this differently" Don't let this fall into chance. If you love your partner like it might be your last day together then you won't have any regrets if something happens. Sure not all the time you feel like dancing and singing but you can still treat your partner with respect, care and concern. Don't put off things, get the words "I don't feel like it" out of your vocabulary and start enjoying the love you have today. Tomorrow is never promised and it can all be taken away so quickly. Don't put yourself in a place of regret, kiss each other passionately as you leave for work, laugh at things together, worry about each other, and touch often. I don't want to be morbid on my blog but we don't get second chances very often and I would hate to think in my mind if my lover passed, why we didn't do more things together, instead I would love to remember the great memories we built together.

Romance is for Sissies.

This past year I have been promoting romance as a means to improve your relationship. Well I now feel differently, romance is for sissies. Anyone that would be involved with trying to be super nice to their partner should be locked up. Why would you do great things for your partner and expect nothing in return? This sounds like something that some lunatic made up. I am hear to tell you today that if you don't know that it is April Fools day, you do now!!!! Romance is my life and love so take it to heart and happy April Fools day.

Feeling needed!

A wonderful feeling that accompanies romance is the feeling of being needed or helpful. Have you even felt this emotion? It can bring your soul up from the depths of dispare and make you feel like an important part of life. Now how can we work this feeling into romance? Thing about it can you make your partner feel needed, are there things in your life that it would be helpful if your partner participated in them. We all have a power struggle that makes us want to take care of everything yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to help you do your taxes, or help you figure out the best exercises to be doing. The point of these things is to make them feel like not only you want them but that you need them in your life. There is not a single soul out there that doesn't like to know that they are needed. What better person in your life to express that to you than you partner. Sure both of you could live without the other person that is not the point and we don't want you to give up your Independence. We just want you to show your partner that they are important to you and not just an accessory in your life.

How important is your relationship?

Do you spend time evaluating your relationship, deciding what areas need more work and if you are meeting the needs of your partner. Just like anything else in our life we sometimes lose focus on things that are important to us. You see it in the work place as you get bored with your job, and you see it in activities that you lose excitement for over time. Don't let this happen to your relationship. Sit down and think or write out what areas of your relationship need work. You can do this alone or with your partner, so that you get both sides of the relationship. When both of your work on this you actually get to see what areas your partner feels needs work, and that might be a totally different area then you thought about. When you do this it is important not to down grade your partners concerns, if they say that the two of you don't have enough dates then don't respond with "Yes we do" or "That's silly we just had a date last week" You have to realize that your partner wouldn't speak of it unless it was an issue to them. If you are not willing to work on the concerns your partner has about your relationship then you will find your relationship turning sour at some point. No matter what their issue is your need to put some effort into that area and vice versa he/she needs to put some focus into yours. With a little practice you will quickly learn to address areas of concern before they get to large to make a quick fix on them.

Great Listening tool!

We have talked and will continue to talk about ways to improve your ability to converse with your partner. Communication is and always will be the foundation of your relationship. With that in mind I came across a method of communication that improves your listening skills. The IMAGO method of conversing is a great way to really hear what your partner is saying, and it is totally simple. What you do is basically repeat what your partner is saying when they want to speak to you about an issue they are having in your relationship. Simply put you quietly listen to what your partner has to say and then you repeat it. You don't comment on it or interrupt while they are talking you just listen and repeat. Sounds to simple to work doesn't it. I suggest you try it sometime it truly is an amazing way to hear and understand the message. Have you partner make sure you repeat the message exactly as they did so you get the full effect. Number one with you speaking this concern you hear it in a different manner and it registers better in your head and by not addressing or speaking on the issue it gives you time to think about what they and you are saying. For more on this topic click on the title of this post and learn in more detail how the IMAGO method can help your relationship. You can also pick up the book "Getting the love you want" or "Getting the sex you want" for a more detailed instruction on the subject.

Hide a note in their underpants.

A great way to let someone know that you care about them is to drop them a note from time to time. When you live with that person it becomes easier, as all you have to do is strategically place the note somewhere for them to find it. The best place in my opinion is in their underwear draw. You know they have to get in there at least once a day (at least we hope they get in there once a day). Most of the time they are getting in there while you are out of the room either getting ready yourself or already gone for the day. It is a great feeling to find a note left by your lover, it tells you that they care enough to plan out leaving this note, not to mention what they write upon the note. Put some thought into what you right, you can brighten your partners day with this simple yet meaningful action. If you have a favorite pair of underpants your partners wears you can even tape the note inside them so they won't see it until they begin to put them on. The simple words "YOU LOOK HOT IN THESE" would bring a smile to most peoples faces.

Be Romantic Stock up on Cold and Flu Supplies

The season is upon us that live in colder climates. Cold and Flu season can hit you and your partner hard at anytime. You can do your best to prevent it from sidelining the two of you but chances are at some point and time you will have to confront it. Nothing says that you care about someone more then when you are prepared for them being sick. The last thing you want to do is to have to run out to a busy store at this time of year and spend a half hour to an hour waiting in line, to get some cold and flu supplies. Go through your cabinets and look for outdated remedies, as well as stuff that is absent from your cabinet. Then make a store run to pick up your favorite remedies to restock your medicine cabinet. Then the first time your partner is under the weather, you can treat them quickly and snuggle with them instead of running all over town standing in busy stores. Doing this can also save you money to as it affords you the luxury of finding coupons or special deals on the products you use. When you run out at the last minute the last thing you are looking for is you coupons or any special deals, you just want to get what you need a get home. If you have any children in your house you should do the same thing for them, to be prepared. Sure we all want to think about candle lit dinners when we think of romance but romance starts with care and concern for someone special and comforting someone that is ill will make you look like a saint in their eyes.

Give a late night call.

Have you ever laid awake thinking about the person you love. Well next time you are sitting their wondering about them, give them a little call. Pick up your phone call them and tell them you were thinking about them and just wanted to call and say Hi. Don't do this if you know they have to get up early the next day. Most likely they will feel great that you called and a smile will grace their face. This works great if you are on a business trip or away from home for a long period of time. Springing a call on a person at the spur of the moment tells them you really care and makes them realize that your mind is on them. You can even do this when you are in the same house if one of you stays up later then the other pick up your phone and call them just to tell them you love them. You will most likely get extra snuggles once you get into bed with them. Don't keep them on the phone long let them get back to sleep and there is a good chance they will dream about you.

Keep the Fireworks going!

Well the 4th of July has passed and so have the fireworks. You can however keep the fireworks bursting all year long. Now I am not talking about buying several thousand dollars worth of fireworks and lighting them off each night. I am talking about keeping that excitement going in your relationship. Think about how you watch in awe as each blast lights up the sky. Now make the everyday things you do look that special. Cook for you partner, let them sleep a little later, anything that will make them feel special and show you care about them will do. I enjoy fireworks but I would much rather have my partner give me a fantastic kiss before leaving for work, or hold my hand as we walk to the mall. These little fireworks are what makes your heart jump up and down. Now if you want to get literal you could turn all the lights off in the house and find firework displays on YouTube, not only would that be literal it would be romantic also.

Don't for Anniversaries or Birhtdays.

Just a note to everyone DON'T FORGET ANNIVERSARIES OR BIRTHDAYS. Nothing says I could care less about you then forgetting these important dates. Now a days you have no excuse for forgetting either. You can program it into your cell phone, computer, iPod, television, and even your alarm clocks. So there is absolutely no reason, with the exception of amnesia, for you to forget. You can only use the amnesia excuse once anyway. Now do whatever it takes to remember these events.

One a side note make sure you don't celebrate these events on the wrong day either. My mom once called me and sang Happy Birthday to me, when it was my sisters birthday. She was quick with an excuse though saying she miss dialed the phone. Good one mom. We get a good laugh about it now, however.

Remember these days are special for a reason. You need to put effort and time into them. I understand sometimes they don't fall at the best times. So that is when you have to let your partner know that you will be celebrating later. You don't have to spend a lot of money on these special occasions like the old adage "It's the thought that counts" Heck a card and a back rub works wonders.