Great Listening tool!

We have talked and will continue to talk about ways to improve your ability to converse with your partner. Communication is and always will be the foundation of your relationship. With that in mind I came across a method of communication that improves your listening skills. The IMAGO method of conversing is a great way to really hear what your partner is saying, and it is totally simple. What you do is basically repeat what your partner is saying when they want to speak to you about an issue they are having in your relationship. Simply put you quietly listen to what your partner has to say and then you repeat it. You don't comment on it or interrupt while they are talking you just listen and repeat. Sounds to simple to work doesn't it. I suggest you try it sometime it truly is an amazing way to hear and understand the message. Have you partner make sure you repeat the message exactly as they did so you get the full effect. Number one with you speaking this concern you hear it in a different manner and it registers better in your head and by not addressing or speaking on the issue it gives you time to think about what they and you are saying. For more on this topic click on the title of this post and learn in more detail how the IMAGO method can help your relationship. You can also pick up the book "Getting the love you want" or "Getting the sex you want" for a more detailed instruction on the subject.

Sent your partner a Christmas Card.

I have seen a drastic decline in the number of Christmas Cards that we are receiving. We use to get forty or so cards each and every year but lately we are lucky to get ten and they are only from our closest family and friends. If is kind of a bummer because it was nice to get a card in the mail to break up the monotony of bills. This is your cue to take it upon yourself to set out and make getting the mail a little special for your partner. Send them a sweet little card for Christmas one that expresses how important they are to you. Make it so they can't tell it is from you when they receive it in the mail have someone else address the envelope or print in on the computer. This will make it even more special as they struggle to guess who it could be from. If you really are adventurous then go out and pick out 12 different cards and send her one each day for the twelve days of Christmas. He/She might get a little bored with getting a card everyday from you and it will take a little of they surprise out of it around the third day but once Christmas finally gets her and they have the door frame covered with cards from you, you might just get a big kiss for it under the mistletoe.