Birth control and safe sex.

Thank goodness in today's society birth control and safe sex are starting to get the attention they need. They are even trying to make it sexy. Some of the condom adds I have seen her lately are hilarious. However they are on late at night so kids can't see them. They should have these on during teenage shows in my opinion so at least the kids will think they are sexy. Choosing the right birth control can be an important decision for the two of you not only does it need to help you not get pregnant, at least until you want to, but it needs to be safe also, without taking away your intimacy. The pill and condoms seem to be the most popular methods but they have their draw backs and while all methods have their drawbacks some are more risky then others. Taking the top two for example. Condoms are not as affective if they are not put on in the right manner, and the pill can cause all kinds of drastic side effects in women. Look at other options if these two things scare you and find just the right fit for the two of you.

Anal stimulation good for both of you.

His and Hers

When we talk about playing with our butts everyone seems to shy away a little bit, but why? The nerve endings in the anus are some of the most sensitive ones in our body. If you have ever tried stimulating this area you have most likely found it to be very pleasurable and that goes for men and women. You don't even have to penetrate to get the sensation just touching around the anus can send your feelings to a new level. So many people have admitted that stimulating the area around the anus makes for more powerful orgasms that you should be curious to try it at the very least. Everyone is different and it won't be for everyone but the majority of people who have tried it find that they like it quite a bit. For men getting over the homophobic aspect seems to be the main concern. Homosexual refers to your taste in partners not in your taste in feelings! You are homosexual if you prefer partners of the same sex. Now get over it and let your partner play with your bum a little. Most women find that playing with their partner in this way is exciting. Many manufactures make products for anal simulations, which leads us to believe that their are several hundreds of thousands of you out there enjoying this activity. The wonderful thing about it is that no matter your sex we all have an anus, so this is the one area that in common ground for both men and women. Take it slow at first and see what you like always have lots of lube on hand to be safe and don't be afraid to use plenty. Men this is also a great way to enjoy a milking of your prostate and can be not only feeling good but good for your health as well. Some word of caution as you get ready to try some anal play never use anything that doesn't have a flared base on the end and know what your toy is made out of use only non-pourus items that you can boil to clean. Have fun.

Great Listening tool!

We have talked and will continue to talk about ways to improve your ability to converse with your partner. Communication is and always will be the foundation of your relationship. With that in mind I came across a method of communication that improves your listening skills. The IMAGO method of conversing is a great way to really hear what your partner is saying, and it is totally simple. What you do is basically repeat what your partner is saying when they want to speak to you about an issue they are having in your relationship. Simply put you quietly listen to what your partner has to say and then you repeat it. You don't comment on it or interrupt while they are talking you just listen and repeat. Sounds to simple to work doesn't it. I suggest you try it sometime it truly is an amazing way to hear and understand the message. Have you partner make sure you repeat the message exactly as they did so you get the full effect. Number one with you speaking this concern you hear it in a different manner and it registers better in your head and by not addressing or speaking on the issue it gives you time to think about what they and you are saying. For more on this topic click on the title of this post and learn in more detail how the IMAGO method can help your relationship. You can also pick up the book "Getting the love you want" or "Getting the sex you want" for a more detailed instruction on the subject.

Naps

On thing people don't usually considers romantic is naps. Taking a break on a lazy Sunday afternoon is a great way to get close and relax together. Turn on some football, get into some comfy clothes and snuggle down together. If you don't want to sleep that is okay just be close. Their is something about a little drowsy nap to get you closer. Maybe a little rumble in the sheets before a nap is a good thing for the two of you. However, the nap will get you energized for later activities or just maybe a movie or a walk. Don't miss the signs if your body is telling you to take a nap, you must need one. Naps are so much better though with someone you love holding or touching you.

You don't have to break the bank to find great toys!

Say you want to heat up your sex but don't have the money to go out and purchase that expensive sex toy you've been dreaming of. Well don't fret you probably have a love of sex enhancers laying around your house. Are your eyebrows raised, well I will give you a view examples. Do you have a string of beads around? You know a necklace will work and this can be used on both partners. Take the string of beads and run in around the outside of her pussy, pushing it around the lips and perineum. Same for his penis, run the beads around his shaft and let them dangle around his balls. The excitement of something new touching you will drive you wild. A word of caution though never insert something into your partner that doesn't have a flared base for safety, you don't want to be explaining at the emergency room how your wife's pearl necklace ended up your anus.

Another thing some people find exciting is food items such as whip cream, or chocolate. These are find to play with but just make sure you wash extra good before having sex. You don't want to get food items inside either of you. A feather duster (new of coarse) can add delight to your partner as you run it across them and their genitals. A heating pad can really warm up your sex life also. By placing it in strategic places you might get a warm reaction. Ice packs can similarly be used to enhance you intimacy. Washable markers can make your lover a canvas. A bean bag chair allows you to find several new positions. I think you are beginning to get the idea. Be creative but be safe also. Again never stick anything inside your partner with out a flared base on it or making sure the material it is made out of is safe for insertion.

Have fun and I am going to throw out a challenge to all of you. This month I want to see if you can make love in every room in your house or apartment. This might take some planning if you have children but where there is a will there is a way. Good luck and have some great sex, it is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your relationship.

Just be Naked!

Here is something to try sometime when you need to shock your partner. Sometime when you are home alone. Do something you normally do naked! You heard me do some of you everyday chores or routine naked. You will definately shock your partner and hopefully get them thinking about what they would like to do with you naked. What would your partner think if they come home and find you doing the laundry naked, or washing dishes. How about reading the sunday paper in the buff or exercising. The important part of the shock value of this is not to act like you are doing anything unnatural. Just keep doing what you are doing as the questions start coming. Tell them you were hot or that you just didn't want to put on clothes yet. Heck maybe they will even join you.

A caution should be place here. Don't do anthing that will get you arrested, for example don't go out and water the lawn in your birthday suit. Keep it within your house and under closed blinds. Another word of warning if you try this make sure you are up for the advances of your partner. You are wanting to get a reaction from them and that reaction will most likely be sexual. So make sure you are ready to recieve.

Lastly do things that are safe to do naked. Frying bacon would not be a great thing to do naked. So use some common sense and protect what you normally have covered up.