Sex Toys Are Not Scary Anymore.

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Don't be afraid of sex toys!

Romance happens all around us and yet we still want to ignore some pretty obvious part of romance. While intimacy isn't all romance it is a part of it and I am amazed at the number of people that have never tried any sex toys to enhance the experience. At least people are talking about them more often and the sex toy industry is booming so things are getting better. It is also easier to get these items one of my favorite is Eden Fantasy's and you can use my advertisement at the side to purchase some great items from them. Experiment a little an find just the right one you need, get something for beginners or more advanced if you are! Quite being shy about it. It is natural and wonderful so enjoy and have fun.

Valentine's Day Gift Idea - Gift Certificate to Adult Toy Store

Valentine's Day is a great time to branch out and find new ways to show your love for each other. This gift adds a sexual feel to your gift and also gives you a little insight into what your partner might be curious about. Think about it, one of the hardest things to do is to bring up something new to try in your bedroom. You are afraid you will be rejected or worse feel like your a pervert. The way you can do this for Valentine's Day is to purchase your love a gift certificate for an online sex toy store. Then all you do is give your partner the store's catalog and the gift certificate and let them pick out their items in privacy if they like or with you if they are more outgoing. The only stipulation is that the package has to be sent to you. This way when you get the box and open it up, you see what they are wanting to try and they don't have to come out and tell you. Believe me when I tell you that the person who picks out the items will be so excited waiting for the package to arrive that they will almost jump into your arms when you approach them with the item or items. If you get something out of your comfort zone then you need to sit down and talk about the item never just say no to your partner but find a way to accommodate both your passions.

Check out one of my favorite toys stores - Eden Fantasies for some great ideas and to get your gift certificate. You can click on the title of this post to take you to their store front.

Anal stimulation good for both of you.

His and Hers

When we talk about playing with our butts everyone seems to shy away a little bit, but why? The nerve endings in the anus are some of the most sensitive ones in our body. If you have ever tried stimulating this area you have most likely found it to be very pleasurable and that goes for men and women. You don't even have to penetrate to get the sensation just touching around the anus can send your feelings to a new level. So many people have admitted that stimulating the area around the anus makes for more powerful orgasms that you should be curious to try it at the very least. Everyone is different and it won't be for everyone but the majority of people who have tried it find that they like it quite a bit. For men getting over the homophobic aspect seems to be the main concern. Homosexual refers to your taste in partners not in your taste in feelings! You are homosexual if you prefer partners of the same sex. Now get over it and let your partner play with your bum a little. Most women find that playing with their partner in this way is exciting. Many manufactures make products for anal simulations, which leads us to believe that their are several hundreds of thousands of you out there enjoying this activity. The wonderful thing about it is that no matter your sex we all have an anus, so this is the one area that in common ground for both men and women. Take it slow at first and see what you like always have lots of lube on hand to be safe and don't be afraid to use plenty. Men this is also a great way to enjoy a milking of your prostate and can be not only feeling good but good for your health as well. Some word of caution as you get ready to try some anal play never use anything that doesn't have a flared base on the end and know what your toy is made out of use only non-pourus items that you can boil to clean. Have fun.

Men if you are tired of getting excuses then it is time for some training.

Men are you tired of hearing your partner say they are not in the mood or that they don't feel like it tonight? Well if you are hearing that way to often then you need to do something about it. Think about it if sexy didn't feel good to you and you didn't get satisfied would you enjoy doing it that often? Now put the shoe on the other foot, is you partner getting what they need from this experience? Everyone gets bored with their sex life from time to time, so to fire it back up you need to learn something new. Purchase a new toy or ask you partner what they would like to try that is different. You might be surprise at how anxious they will be if you give them what they want. Study up and learn new oral sex techniques or try out some different positions. You might not be able to use your new technique right away but when you get a chance, be ready to perform your new talent. Be patient and wait for the right time. Here is an especially good idea. Why not let yourself get off until you let your partner. Yes you heard me correctly put them first make it a point let them be the center of attention and you will most likely get a return. You sex life is a funny thing, we seem to lose track of the other persons feelings as we focus on our own. Remember this is for the both of you and once you convince your partner you are focusing on their pleasure they will start focusing on yours. Good luck and good sex to you.

Christmas Eve time for special presents.

All the focus during the Holidays is the big day of Christmas. Christmas eve is usually reserved for trips to Grandparents or parents houses for gift exchanges with your family. No one is expecting a blow out gift from Grandma who usually buys you something you wanted when you were twelve. However, this is one of the best times to get your lover a little something special. Wait until all of the festivities of the day are over and when the two of you are alone and about ready to settle down for your long winters nap, present him/her with a little special gift to go to sleep on. Now this can be a number of things but the things I find that work the best are jewelry, and sexual items. When you give on this night make sure it is one that you want a major reaction from like jumping up and down or just plane getting mauled by the receiver. You won't get the same reaction on Christmas morning when you partner opens that new sex toy in front of everyone. Nor will you get as many kisses from the nice necklace you purchased during the family feast. Plan out which gifts you would like to give in private then make a routine of giving these gifts on Christmas eve.

Take time from the Hustle and Bustle to show you partner how important they are.

Right now we all are scrambling to make sure we have everything in place for the big day of Christmas. We are wrapping presents, shopping, attending school functions. While this is great and the time is wonderful we sometimes put our relationships on the back burner. Think about it are you giving your partner they attention they need, at this time also. Never put your relationship on hold for the holidays. With that said you can incorporate it into your planning. You can do the twelve days of Christmas for you partner by doing twelve special things for them during this time of year. No!, don't go out looking for a partridge in a pear tree, and you don't have to find a gift each time. Get a calendar out and mark twelve days this month and each of those days make it a point to do something special for the one you love. It can be as simple as a back rub or buying some hot cocoa to share. The little things mean so much and show how much you care. Don't stop there go out and purchase a little naughty gift for the two of you a sexy santa outfit or maybe a new sex toy for the two of you to play with. It is okay to give sex to the one you love for the holidays, go out of your way to show them that you still think they are sexy. Finally do the basics to make them know you care, like holding hands while your shopping, laughing as you spend time together wrapping presents, get a little tipsy with them drinking rum laced eggnog. Memories made at this time of year seem a little more special so don't let the season pass your relationship by.

Introduce you partner to your childhood

A fun and romantic thing to do is discuss the toys you had when you were growing up. Tell your partner about your favorite toys and how you use to play with them. Don't be ashamed I am sure the both of you have played with things you might have been embarrassed by in the past. This helps you partner get a inside look at the way you were raised. If all you played with was sports equipment then they will understand a little better why you love to play golf all the time now. If you had barbies and had a hundred outfits for them they might understand why you closet is so full now. Believe me you will see some correlation between the past and the present. Give it a try tonight.

Ladies choice!

Okay tonight you are ready for a great night of sex. You would love for you wife, partner, or girlfriend to give you a play by play of what she would like. What do you do if your partner is a little more reserved about letting you know her likes or dislikes. A lot of people men as well as women have a hard time asking or tell their partner what they want or fantasies about. Don't fear however I have a couple of solutions that might help you out.

If your like most couples you have a drawer full of sex toys, lubes, simulators, etc. Yet it seems like you don't go to it very much for fear your more reserved partner might not want to, because they won't talk about it. Well take the embarrassment out of their hands. Tell them you are going to leave the room and you would like them to pick out a couple of items form the drawer they would like to use. Tell them to stick the items inside your pillow case and turn out the lights when they are ready. With the lights out and the items tucked away, it will seem like they didn't really pick out the things you are going to use on them. This might be a great way for them to open up about their sexual preferences so make sure you use the items they have picked. Take turns once a week and do the same for your partner by placing things you want to experience in their pillowcase the next time.

Another way you can get them to open up about their wants is to give them an outlet other then talking. Let them right down what they want to do. They could do it on paper, through email, or even text you. Give them room to do this, and don't set there and look over their shoulder. Leave the room and have them give you a sign when they are done. Again you can take turns doing this as it is only fair both partners get a chance.

It seems silly that we sometimes have trouble conversing about sex to our partner. Sometimes it comes from the way we were brought up and what our parents instilled in us. Other times people are just shy or fear the other persons reactions about their choices. Doing these things a few times might loosen up your talking about them at a later time.

You don't have to break the bank to find great toys!

Say you want to heat up your sex but don't have the money to go out and purchase that expensive sex toy you've been dreaming of. Well don't fret you probably have a love of sex enhancers laying around your house. Are your eyebrows raised, well I will give you a view examples. Do you have a string of beads around? You know a necklace will work and this can be used on both partners. Take the string of beads and run in around the outside of her pussy, pushing it around the lips and perineum. Same for his penis, run the beads around his shaft and let them dangle around his balls. The excitement of something new touching you will drive you wild. A word of caution though never insert something into your partner that doesn't have a flared base for safety, you don't want to be explaining at the emergency room how your wife's pearl necklace ended up your anus.

Another thing some people find exciting is food items such as whip cream, or chocolate. These are find to play with but just make sure you wash extra good before having sex. You don't want to get food items inside either of you. A feather duster (new of coarse) can add delight to your partner as you run it across them and their genitals. A heating pad can really warm up your sex life also. By placing it in strategic places you might get a warm reaction. Ice packs can similarly be used to enhance you intimacy. Washable markers can make your lover a canvas. A bean bag chair allows you to find several new positions. I think you are beginning to get the idea. Be creative but be safe also. Again never stick anything inside your partner with out a flared base on it or making sure the material it is made out of is safe for insertion.

Have fun and I am going to throw out a challenge to all of you. This month I want to see if you can make love in every room in your house or apartment. This might take some planning if you have children but where there is a will there is a way. Good luck and have some great sex, it is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your relationship.

Birthday Sex Greeting - (Click her to go to The Smitten Kitten Shop)

Birthdays are a great time to get your partner and yourself into something new. Go out on a limb and get them something a little extra this birthday. Besides what ever you are planning to get them. Pick up something that will help spice up your relationship. Weather it be a book on improving your sex life, a sex toy or a relationship improving book. When you wrap up your present be sure to put a note inside that says "As good as we are, we can always get better". Now make sure you are alone when presenting this present, it's not the type of thing to give during the family get together.

An Idea I really like it to buy them a gift certificate to a store that sells sex toys and other merchandise. The only stipulation is that whatever they purchase has to be sent addressed to you. This alloys the person to pick out things alone that they might feel a little embarrassed to do right in front of you. It will also excite you wondering what they will pick out! Double Bonus!

Attached to the tittle is a link to the Smitten Kitten Website a great place to purchase any sexual items.