Sex After Mid-Life....5 Reasons It Can Be Super Sexy

Sex After Mid-Life

5 Reasons It Can Be Super Exciting and Hot!

American culture teaches us to believe that we are only sexy in our 20s, 30s and maybe – if you are lucky, 40s.  We are taught that having an active and exciting sex life is something that we will no longer have once we hit middle age and beyond.  Well, screw that (pun intended)! 

I am going to share with you 5 reasons why sex after middle age can be even hotter, sexier, spicier, and more exciting than when you were younger.  Yes, sometimes there are medical conditions that can affect your sex life, but you can seek help for those.  You can find natural methods to assist with physical conditions as well as finding assistance within in western medicine.  It can be freaking amazing and here’s why. 

1.    Experience!  - Okay, you have gone through your teens and 20s trying to figure out what the heck all the fuss was about.  Hopefully, you enjoyed a lot of wonderful lovemaking during those years and had a loving committed partner for part (if not most) of that time.  Then, you moved into your 30s and 40s and hopefully, still had wonderful sex around having kids and a career.  Well, guess what?  All these years gave you a lot of experience.  You had the opportunity to figure out what you do and don’t like when it comes to gettin’ busy.  Boy, oh boy, that can come in handy now!

2.    No Kiddos! – Most likely, if you had children, they are grown or at least not little anymore.  So, now you don’t have to worry about little ones bursting into your bedroom and there is a very good chance that you can get back to making love in any room in the house.  Plus, you aren’t as apt to be stressed and worn out due to running them to this practice and that event and trying to help get their homework done.  Yay!  Stress level has dropped!

3.    More Time!  - By now you are hopefully more established in your career and don’t need to spend so many hours working.  As mentioned above, you aren’t as likely to be running kids everywhere.  There is time for the two of you again.  Time to date (whether or not you are already in a relationship or looking for a new one).  The more time you spend together the more likely you are to bond on a deeper level and then….yep – rip each other’s clothes off and spend some naked time together!

4.    Extra Money! – In those earlier years, your finances may have been a bit tighter.  Now you are, hopefully, better off financially and have more disposable income to spend on dates, romantic excursions, clothes/shoes that make you feel sexy, and even more adult toys/lubes.  *Ah, reflect back to “experience”: you know what you like or you are more willing to find out now – so, spend some money on high quality sex toys and enjoy hotter, new, different, intimate play with your lover.

5.    Sexy & Healthy! – The more pleasurable sex (particularly in a committed relationship) you enjoy the more oxytocin that is released into the body.  This is the “feel good” hormone.  It eases pain and just makes you happier in general.  And, even more exciting is the fact that as oxytocin is released in the body more oxytocin receptors are created!  Woo Hoo!  That means the more sex you have the better and better you can feel.  Of course, on top of all that is the fact that making love is a spiritual connection even if you never intend for it to be.  Therefore, not only does your physical body become healthier and happier, but so does your soul.  How can you beat that?

So, for those who have told you that having a great sex life past middle age is practically hopeless, you now have five reasons why they are wrong.  Experience!  No kiddos!  More time!  Extra money!  Sexy & healthy – physically and spiritually!  We typically live so much longer nowadays.  Take the time to enjoy this second half of your life and fill it with playful experiences – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Honor your life and your sweetie’s by engaging in more powerful, playful passion.

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. © 2013  

Co-Founder of Sexy Challenges

www.sexychallenges.com

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Don't be afraid of sex toys!

Romance happens all around us and yet we still want to ignore some pretty obvious part of romance. While intimacy isn't all romance it is a part of it and I am amazed at the number of people that have never tried any sex toys to enhance the experience. At least people are talking about them more often and the sex toy industry is booming so things are getting better. It is also easier to get these items one of my favorite is Eden Fantasy's and you can use my advertisement at the side to purchase some great items from them. Experiment a little an find just the right one you need, get something for beginners or more advanced if you are! Quite being shy about it. It is natural and wonderful so enjoy and have fun.

The penis the joystick of love

The penis is obviously the key to a man's ultimate sexual pleasure. However playing with his joystick can launch you enter several different levels of love. When you free the man from his desires for sex you give him the ability to focus on other things. Things that might just make your relationship much better then ever. Ladies if you want your relationship to flourish start with quenching his desires and see how much other time you have for the things you want in your relationship. It is common knowledge that a man spends most of his time thinking about sex not on purpose but it is his make up, so what is he going to think about once sex is no longer a question? So if you want more quality time with you male mate this is the way to get it. Next time you wish your male partner would care more about chores, dinner, or playing games with you start by satisfing his ultimate desires, by putting this first you will free up a lot of time for the things you would like to focus on. Ladies the joystick is in your hands do you want to reach a new level or be satisfied playing the same one over and over again?

Forget about improving your size and think about your technique.

Gentlemen, you need to forget about wonder drugs that are going to make your penis larger and thicker. Most of these products are just gimmicks to get your money because everyone wants a larger penis. Instead of spending money on something that is made to boost your ego, why not put the money towards a better way of satisfying your partner. Pick up a book on love making techniques or positions. Learning new and exciting ways to pleasure your partner is a far better way to go about improving your relationship then trying to make your penis larger. Studies confirm that most women don't have vaginal orgasms. This tells us that a larger penis is not going to do the trick. Clitoral stimulation is the way to approach improvement in the bedroom. Learn all you can about this little pleasure button and to get the best results go to the source. Ask your partner what they like and let them guide you to a better and more fulfilling love life. You can learn a lot by watching her masturbate if she will let you, study her strokes and the pressure that she puts on areas.

Another great way to spend this money you are saving by not purchasing the incredible penis enlargement cream, is to spend the money going out and having fun. I will be the first person to tell you that if you can go out and have fun the chances of getting it on when you get home are a whole lot better.

Men if you are tired of getting excuses then it is time for some training.

Men are you tired of hearing your partner say they are not in the mood or that they don't feel like it tonight? Well if you are hearing that way to often then you need to do something about it. Think about it if sexy didn't feel good to you and you didn't get satisfied would you enjoy doing it that often? Now put the shoe on the other foot, is you partner getting what they need from this experience? Everyone gets bored with their sex life from time to time, so to fire it back up you need to learn something new. Purchase a new toy or ask you partner what they would like to try that is different. You might be surprise at how anxious they will be if you give them what they want. Study up and learn new oral sex techniques or try out some different positions. You might not be able to use your new technique right away but when you get a chance, be ready to perform your new talent. Be patient and wait for the right time. Here is an especially good idea. Why not let yourself get off until you let your partner. Yes you heard me correctly put them first make it a point let them be the center of attention and you will most likely get a return. You sex life is a funny thing, we seem to lose track of the other persons feelings as we focus on our own. Remember this is for the both of you and once you convince your partner you are focusing on their pleasure they will start focusing on yours. Good luck and good sex to you.

Say her name... or his if the case maybe.

Will all get in the habit of calling our partner something other then their name. You know we posted just the other day about pet names. Nothing makes us feel more complete with our partner then hearing them say our name. Just in everyday life use their name more often. Don't answer you phone "Hey babe" or say "Sweetie can you get me a drink." Take one day and try to use their name every time you address them. My theory on this is that we want to know are partner is in touch with us. Not using a slang term like sweetie or baby that could be used for anyone, will make your partner feel you are personalizing every statement.

Not only should you practice this in everyday life, you should also use it in your intimate life. It drives me nuts to hear my name as my partner reaches orgasm. I know that one is a little tough but instead honey, baby, or calling out to god, use your partners name and tell them what is happening. I believe that this only makes your sex life better. Practice it when you masturbate with your partner just as your about to climax, scream out their name. See what kind of reaction that gets out of them.

The Art of Massage

Massages One great truth in a relationship is that everyone enjoys a good massage. Whether it is used as a pain reliever or foreplay, I don't believe I know a soul that doesn't enjoy a massage. There are many therapeutic reasons for a massage. I know that a good massage can relieve the daily pressures of the day. Relieving this stress is a great benefit in a relationship because if you eliminate that tension you are bound to have a better time together. A massage can, also, loosen up the muscles and relieve the aches and pains associated with exercise, arthritis, or the pain that comes with just getting older.

The relaxing of your muscles can be beneficial in your relationship in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you perform activities that you might not have been able to do if you had pain in a certain area. Activities such as going on walks, playing sports or bedroom activities are just a few things that could be aided by an occasional massage. Now a great asset of massage for the couple is the fact it can be considered foreplay. There are several books and methods of sensual massage, which are designed to lead from massage to intimacy with a smooth transition. The massage works for both partners in this manner. One partner gets to feel the benefits of the massage while the other gets to enjoy touching and caressing his/her partner. Add in the use of oils and devices and the massage becomes a ritual or passion. Scented oils, candles, and mood music can enhance the experience to the point of an erotic adventure. There are even specific types of massage for the genitals and other areas that could be arousal spots. These genital massages work very well and are definitely a sexual experience between the partners.

Now you might think that you just start rubbing your partner and everything will fall into place. Well, it doesn't work that way. I suggest you head on down to your local book store, search Amazon, or Google the Internet to find the specific technique that appeals to your partner and you. I think you will be surprised at the number of different techniques and forms of massage that are out there. Don't be timid. Try something different. The benefits will outweigh the fear in the end. Once you decide on the proper technique go about making the setting perfect and picking a time when you won't be interrupted by the kids or parents. Your massage session will be able to turn into a beautiful love making session.

Click on the title link will take you to a website listing all different types of massages techniques.