Showing posts with label different. Show all posts
Showing posts with label different. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Love has so many avenues


Love has so many avenues you think there is only one way to get there. However you soon find out that love has as many streets as New York City. There are back alleys and side streets that will still get you to love but make take you through some pretty different parts of the city. However the final destination is into the arms of your beloved so take those changes in direction in stride and enjoy the ride, getting to your destination is all that matters.

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Do something a little crazy during the night.

When it is time for sleep we all hope to get under the covers and fall into a deep deep sleep. While this is not always the result it is what we hope for. Sometimes however when you are having troubles sleeping you might just want to try something different. If your partner is not totally sleeping like a baby, roll up next to him/her and put a body part against them that you normally wouldn't. Touch feet or a naked butt against a thigh works well. Anything to say, "I'm here in a different capacity" Touch your partners elbow or caress their armpit. See what kind of reaction you get. Or heck if you are the partner that weighs less climb on top of them and stroke their arms until they begin stroking yours back. These crazy little moves might not help you get to sleep but they will get you our of your routine and maybe you might find something that helps produce a better nights sleep. You also never know but it might spark a little middle of the night tango that could give you the relaxing chemicals you need to fall deep asleep. Don't ever under estimate the power of touch as a sleep aid.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Working together.


Some of you might think that working together is a wonderful idea, and some of you think that work is your separation time. Well it can be both. Recently my partner and I were offered a position to run a retirement neighborhood. The pay was really good and we would have gotten free housing, now a problem arouse that there were not enough bedrooms for our children, so we had to decline. The thought of working together was a wonderful challenge for us. The more and more I thought about it however I realized that even though we would essentially be working together we would spend most of that time apart. Doing different things and marketing would keep us busy most of the day. I feel like we would have still had lots to talk about later in the evening and would still have the coming home feeling. It is to bad this didn't work out I think that as in our relationship we would have made a great team in business. Where does your relationship stand as of work? It is okay if you need that space from you partner, however think about if you could work together with your partner and what that says about your relationship. A big question for working together is can you leave the work behind? Will you drag it into the bedroom or worse yet will it cause problems in your personal relationship. If you can keep business separate from your personal relationship there is no problem.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Maybe wine isn't your thing but you can go on a beer tasting.


Wine is a wonderful thing to share between the two of you but if you taste are a little more hometown you might trade in your wine tasting for beer tasting. There are a vast number of small brew pubs across the country that offer their own special blend of ale. Almost any larger city will have at least one brew pub where you can eat and sample their beers. They are quaint and fun to seek out. When ever just me and my partner go somewhere we try to check out at least on of these specialty breweries. The first one we ever experienced was the Smokey Mountain Brewery in Gatlinburg, TN. I have become a big fan of trying different beers around the country and I am anxious to one day try out beers from overseas. In parting make sure to drink responsibly and don't drive if you had to many of these wonderful beers.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Get some new sunglasses.


Sunglasses can change your whole personality. Picking up several pairs for cheap can help you display the mood you are in. You can become a superstar with big hide your face glasses. Dark slim glasses can make you look mysterious. Super Trooper glasses can make you look dorky and fun while round lens glasses can make you look artsy. It is amazing how just by changing sunglasses you can look totally different. Different can be great in a relationship you can use it for a little out of the bedroom role play. Don' be afraid to get a style of sunglasses that you normally wouldn't get. Until you walk a mile in someone else's sunglasses you don't know how they feel.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Surprise Haircut!


Today I am going to get my haircut. This might not seem romantic but I am going to do something different and my partner will not see me until it is done and over with. It is a little exciting for me to do something drastically different. I know that when my partner comes home with a different hairstyle I find myself wanting to get to know her all over again. On the outside she looks like a different person, and I wonder what sparked the change. I think it adds spice to you relationship and mixes things up a bit. Nothing wrong with that, how many people have you known that still have the same hairstyle from when they were in high school! For us guys it's a little different their are not that many hairstyles out there. One thing my wife doesn't have to worry about is me having the same hairstyle from high school. Why? because I had a mullet.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Change your kissing position.


Well all know that changing sexual positions can improve your sex life. Have you thought that even changing angles and positions for kissing each other could do the same? Everyone I know kisses straight forward lip to lip and they don't think anything else about it. However if you change your angle or position from which you kiss it makes it much more different. The feel the approach gives kissing a much more exciting feel. Think about it kissing your partner on the neck or them leaning back into you to kiss your lips as you stand behind them. Enjoy how different their lips feel against yours in these different positions. Holding the person becomes a different experience also now you hands are not hanging out on their back you can explore the front of their body and see where your hands might lead you. In the Karma Sutra you see the drawings of people doing backbends and all sort of other positions to kiss and more. Try it out what can it hurt, just make sure you stretch before you try a pulled muscle really takes the wind out of your sail.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Cheese a romantic snack?


We don't usually think of Cheese as a romantic snack. However when you put a little bit of crackers and wine with it you change the whole image. Now cheese becomes a treat of the wealthy and higher class. Even though all of these items might be from you local discount store. Once you take them out of the package no one knows. Next time the two of you sit down to watch a movie, instead of cooking a bag of microwave popcorn make a small cheese tray and open up a bottle of wine. It might seem upper class while watching a rented movie but heck it is romantic!!!!!

Friday, March 26, 2010

Mirrors can be sexy


Have you ever used mirrors to help your romantic side? Simple placement of mirrors can create a different environment. Place mirrors around you house to add effects. Place mirrors to get views of the outside when you are darker corners of your house. You can also place mirrors around to give your place the appearance of a larger space. Mirrors in the bathroom are usually a staple but for added effect place one on the opposite side so you can see your back. This will help when you need to know if your butt looks big in those jeans. Mirrors in the bedroom can add intimacy as long as they are not overdone. Mirrors on the ceiling are a little over done unless you have been in a relationship for a long time, avoid them. Place them around the room to give you a different look at your bed and to help set a more intimate vision to the beholder. A word of caution however, too many mirrors in the bedroom becomes creepy. By using the mirrors in the correct way you will help to make your place a more cheerful place, which in turn make your partner feel more cheery.

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Do something new!


Today is a great day to try something new for the two of you. It can be anything as long as it is something you normally don't do. You could go to a museum, or an art gallery as a way of broadening you artistic appreciation. Find a place near your town that neither of you have ever been to and go check out what it offers. This activity helps build adventure in your life and by putting adventure in your life you will make a stronger connection between the two of you. Other things you can look for might be things at your local college, they seem to always have something going on that is most likely out of your normal range. Pick up the paper and look at the entertainment section and find different events that might be going on around you. Things like ethnic festivals, specific trade shows, or even collectible or antique shows. The most important part is that you experience whatever you do together.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Romance is open minded.


If there is one thing that I know for a fact, it is that romance is open minded. Romance has to stay open and new at all times. You can only give flowers so many time and if you got flowers everyday you would likely get sick of getting them. So, to keep romance fresh and new you have to continually open to new and exciting ways to romance your mate. Sure there are things that you might not be comfortable with and you can choose to stay away from those things. However when you want to branch out and find something new way to be romantic you have to get out of your comfort zone a little. For instance if you always go to a Italian restaurant when you go out to eat deciding to go to a Thai restaurant would make you a little uncomfortable. Same can be said for more intimate activities, so many people are against anal play but some people really enjoy the thrill of it. The most important part is not to judge anything your partner might want to try be open and keep the communication flowing before and after the event. If you have stomach problems then Thai might not agree with you but you will not know for sure until you try it. Same for sexual issues, unless you try it then you don't know for sure that it does feel good. However if you are totally against something you should speak up and express that to your mate. If you go into it with a closed mind you will not be comfortable and not give it a fair chance. So sometimes you have to put these types of things on the back burner or find alternatives. For instance if you are against swinging and your partner wants to try it maybe purchasing some wigs or fake mustaches will help them get into their romance while not crossing your boundaries. Again it all goes back to communication, some of the off the wall things that I have tried it took me a while to work up asking for but when I did I was amazed at how well they were received. Romance and love are wonderful things but you can't expect them to stay fresh and exciting on their own, you have to put the effort and communication into them.

Monday, December 28, 2009

Men if you are tired of getting excuses then it is time for some training.


Men are you tired of hearing your partner say they are not in the mood or that they don't feel like it tonight? Well if you are hearing that way to often then you need to do something about it. Think about it if sexy didn't feel good to you and you didn't get satisfied would you enjoy doing it that often? Now put the shoe on the other foot, is you partner getting what they need from this experience? Everyone gets bored with their sex life from time to time, so to fire it back up you need to learn something new. Purchase a new toy or ask you partner what they would like to try that is different. You might be surprise at how anxious they will be if you give them what they want. Study up and learn new oral sex techniques or try out some different positions. You might not be able to use your new technique right away but when you get a chance, be ready to perform your new talent. Be patient and wait for the right time. Here is an especially good idea. Why not let yourself get off until you let your partner. Yes you heard me correctly put them first make it a point let them be the center of attention and you will most likely get a return. You sex life is a funny thing, we seem to lose track of the other persons feelings as we focus on our own. Remember this is for the both of you and once you convince your partner you are focusing on their pleasure they will start focusing on yours. Good luck and good sex to you.

Monday, August 17, 2009

What to do with your stuffed animals during sex..


Does you partner have stuffed animals that they keep on the bed. You might think this is a little childish, but hold on. Have you ever thought to use these animals as sexual aids? Don't get to disgusted, just yet. Have you ever been to the liberator shop and saw all the different pillows that they have to get your partner and you into different positions? Now are you starting to get the picture. Think of that great big lion they keep on your bed and how you could bend someone over that and have your way with them. The bigger the stuffed animal the better, but think about sticking the smaller ones under the small of the back or to use as props for other parts of your body. Changing the angle of penetration makes the act of sex seem very different and exciting. Not to mention most stuffed animals are soft and feel good on the skin. I have even seen some stuffed animals that have a compartment for hiding sex toys inside them so they are close and ready to use.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Set in a different chair tonight!


Most people in a relationship have a very normal routine. You most likely sit in the same place every time you eat dinner or watch television. Well tonight mix it up a little and surprise you partner by sitting in a different chair at both dinner and while you watch some television. Not only will this break the monotony of your normal routine, but it will make you look at your partner in a different view. You can always switch back to your normal sittings tomorrow but for tonight let it ride. You might even be able to make a game out of it do a form of musical chairs where everyone sits in their normal spot and then someone yells change and everyone finds a different chair. If you have children they will love it. This function might just get you thinking outside the box and get you to try other things you might not try otherwise.