Make Sure To Check Your Partners Breasts - That Is Romantic

Sexy Challenges is mostly about having fun with your partner. However in this our Breast Cancer Awareness Issue we tackle some issues that are a little out of our norm. So many people have been effected by breast cancer. While we are not scientist here to develop a cure we can help try to educate and get people to keep an eye out for the early stages of this terrible cancer. Breast and testicular cancer can be detected early with a careful eye and hand. Since both of those areas are focal points of our interest any way it would be silly not to incorporate them into our challenges. Well this challenge is one of our best if it might only help one person detect cancer early enough for successful treatment it will all be worth it. Share this issue with your friends and help us do our part to stop these killers. 

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How to Not Lose Touch With Your Sweetie

It is so easy to lose touch with your beloved partner.  In these modern times, it has become easier and easier to tune in to the television, your computer, your phone or your iPad.  This means you are tuning out from your sweetheart and your intimate relationship.  It may not seem so at first, but eventually, even being turned on by your lover will wane and become second to today’s media and digital gadgets and other things you fill your life with.  It is vital to stay tuned in to your relationship and to your partner so that you stay turned on by them too!  Only then can you work towards experiencing a long-lasting committed relationship filled with love and trust.   

Relationships are actually spiritual paths for each of us.  Your romantic intimate relationship is the most profound of all.  It will offer you a mirror for your deepest emotions, expressions, neurotic patterns (we ALL have them), love, compassion, and humor to be reflected back to you in some fashion.  

So, how can you reignite intimacy and sensual pleasure in your relationship?  And, if you still have it, how can you take it to the next level?

A Quick Note About Sensuality vs. Sexuality

More often than not if someone says to you, “That was a sensual delight.”  Your mind will instantly think “sex”.  But, sensual pleasure is really about gratifying the senses – all of them – not just the five physical ones.  You don’t have to involve physical lovemaking to experience your sensuality.  Delighting in the sight of your lover, hearing his/her laugh, smelling a special cologne, holding hands or sharing a massage, or tasting his/her lips are sensual experiences.  Connecting to your own soul, your lover’s soul, and your spirituality is also very sensual. 

Know YOU – Get Connected to Your Own Soul

Getting in touch with yourself, with your soul is the first step in reigniting or upleveling your intimate and sensual pleasure in life and in your relationship.  If you aren’t aware of your spirituality, simply focus on getting in touch with YOU.  Whatever or whoever you are to you. 

The easiest and quickest way to reconnect with your soul is by first recognizing those things in your life that simply light you up inside.  They feel like they are the wind in your sails.  These things can be anything: drumming; singing; teaching; hiking; swimming; dancing; laughing; making love; cooking; gardening; cycling; etc.  There is no right or wrong.  Only you have the answer to what makes you feel this way.  The second step is to make sure you have some of these unique-to-you things in your life daily, weekly, monthly.  Bring them in to your life as often as you can.

You will be happier and this happiness will feed into your relationship.  Share these joys with your lover.

Know Your Sweetheart – Connect to His/Her Soul

This will take your relationship to a deeper level.  Once you (re)connect with your soul – yourself, it is vital that you connect with your sweetheart in a similar way.  What makes him/her light up?  How can you support that and bring more of that into your lives?  If both of you do this and then share it together, you will discover a beautiful aspect of your relationship that you may not have been aware of before.   

Communicate

Communication is key to every single aspect of your relationship.  Yet, not everyone communicates in the same way.  You may be able to talk about your joys, your sorrows, what happened at work today, what the dog did to irritate you, what your best friend posted on your Facebook wall and what is upsetting you in your relationship.  But, your lover may not be able to easily talk about these things.  We can express our feelings through ways other than verbal communication.  It may come through singing, painting, or drawing.  Of course, one of the biggest ways to communicate is through body language.  Be fully present and truly pay attention to your lover.  Listen – deeply – to what he/she may say.  Observe his/her actions or reactions.  There are clues and often, clear messages even if the two of you communicate very differently.

Share Laughter and Play Together      

Don’t take life or yourself too seriously.  Yes, of course, there are very serious aspects, but letting go and goofing around, laughing and being playful is a huge key to happiness and feeling joyful.  This will deepen the closeness between the two of you, which will ultimately help you enhance your sensuality overall. 

Laugh at the dinner table.  Laugh while brushing your teeth.  Laugh throughout your day anywhere and everywhere that you can.  And, for God’s sake, laugh in the bedroom!

Share inside jokes with each other.  Maybe they will relate to a funny bedroom experience or something completely different, but they will be your little secret.  People will envy your closeness.  Allow yourselves to be like two young lovebirds giggling and whispering.

Sharing more laughter with each other and deepening your intimate bond will open a doorway for the two of you to experience powerful, playful passion all day long.  You will be able to feel it pretty much everyday.  Draw upon it when something gets you down or something causes you stress. 

Continue to Learn and Grow Together

Continually seek new things to learn.  You can take classes together or pick up a new hobby together.  Yet, be bold enough to have new experiences individually, too.  By honoring and respecting your lover’s individuality you are helping the two of you grow.  You need to honor and respect YOU, your lover, and your relationship.  You are teammates, but you don’t need to stay attached at the hip all the time either. 

Step outside your comfort zone.  Oh boy, this is a big one!  You can’t grow and sustain a beautiful relationship if you refuse to step outside of your comfort zone.  If you allow fear (fear of failing, fear of rejection, fear of looking like an idiot, fear of???) to keep you within in the boundaries of what you know already, then you prevent yourself from the potentiality of amazing new experiences and from continued growth.  Staying in your comfort zone without learning to step outside of it (even just a tiny baby step) will cause your life to become stagnate.  Hmmm…what will that do your relationship? 

Imagine a beautiful flowing stream always moving and changing when the need arises.  Hear the gentle trickle and smell the fresh air. Now imagine a stagnant pool of water with debris piled up in it.  No pleasant sounds of moving water and a nasty stench to boot.  Would you prefer to continue gently flowing into the unknown or stay stagnate and backed-up? 

Put It All Together

Get in touch with you.  Truly know your own soul.  Dive deep into whom your partner/lover/spouse is and whom he/she becomes as you continue your path together.  Communicate on numerous levels.  Talk to your lover, but be aware of your other forms of communication – body language, eye contact, and much more.  Be playful and bring more laughter into your lives.  Intentionally and willingly step outside of your comfort zone so that you continue to learn and experience new things. 

These are simple ways to not only reignite your passion for your relationship, but for your life.  When passion and deep intimacy is sustained in your romantic relationship, your relationship will be stronger and more beautiful than you may ever have imagined. 

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. - Spiritual Teacher

Rob Alex, M.Sc. - Author or Sexy Challenges/Sacred Sensual Teacher

Copyright 2013

Don't forget to have quite time.

We spend so much time talking and learning about each other that sometimes we forget that just being present with each other is a blessing in itself. Enjoying that quiet time with each other just laying next to your love or lightly touching each other is a wonderful way to relax and enjoy each other without having to worry about bring up something interesting or new. You can just be together and soak up each others energy without saying a word. Sometimes this is just what the doctor ordered on those days that seem a little harder that others. Try it sometime don't speak just relax and enjoy and feel your partners presence.

Do something to get your lovers attention.

Today is a great day to do something to get your lovers attention. Well everyday is a good day for this, but today we are going to do it a little more wild. We are going to make them have to touch you in places that we hope will spark a little more intimate touching later. What you need to do is get a personal item of theirs that you know they will need. Such as their car keys, purse, or even the clothes they are getting ready to put on are good items to start with. Next you are going to place these items near a place on your body that would be a little more intimate to touch. For instance you could have the remote to the television tucked between your legs near you crotch area. Then when they need the item make them come and get it. When their hand reaches for the item make sure to move so that they have to touch you in the intimate area and see how they react to that. Men you can put things in your front pockets and make your partner dig for the item hopefully hitting all the right areas. Ladies you can put money in your bra for when you partner asks for a little cash, go ahead and let them search around your bra for it. Hold thing behind your back and make them have to reach around you to get it then wrap them up in a hug as they do. The possibilities are endless to be creative like the picture above you might be able to get your partner to switch their beer to buttwiser. Sorry couldn't resist the joke. Have fun and get it on.

Do something a little crazy during the night.

When it is time for sleep we all hope to get under the covers and fall into a deep deep sleep. While this is not always the result it is what we hope for. Sometimes however when you are having troubles sleeping you might just want to try something different. If your partner is not totally sleeping like a baby, roll up next to him/her and put a body part against them that you normally wouldn't. Touch feet or a naked butt against a thigh works well. Anything to say, "I'm here in a different capacity" Touch your partners elbow or caress their armpit. See what kind of reaction you get. Or heck if you are the partner that weighs less climb on top of them and stroke their arms until they begin stroking yours back. These crazy little moves might not help you get to sleep but they will get you our of your routine and maybe you might find something that helps produce a better nights sleep. You also never know but it might spark a little middle of the night tango that could give you the relaxing chemicals you need to fall deep asleep. Don't ever under estimate the power of touch as a sleep aid.

Do you touch each other while you sleep?

I an curious about how much people touch while they are asleep. I am a huge fan of touching and the comfort of it while I sleep. However, my partner isn't so we battle back and forth on the subject. She tries to touch and times I try not to but I think that maybe it is each individuals make up. We all know that touch is important in our daily lives studies have shown the touch is a very positive thing to us. But is it when we are sleeping? I would love to see a study done on this topic and see what the conclusions are. Chime in yourself and let me know how you feel about touching during sleep. Is it a comfort or a annoyance to you? Does it help you sleep or does it keep waking you up? Lastly, how do you touch during sleep stages, are your arms around on another, head on chest, or do you feet touch? I am curious and would love for you to send me your feelings on this subject to thecouplesspot@gmail.com Now go get some sleep.

Take turns undressing each other.

There is an art to getting undressed for your partner, but it is even more fun and exciting to let your partner undress you. This can be the start of foreplay if you take turns undressing each other. Go back and forth let each other take off one piece of clothing then let your partner do the same to you. Go slow this is not a race, sometimes it is fun to rip his/hers clothes off but this time I want you to take your time. Enjoy each and every part of your lovers body that you expose. Try to give them cold chills with the removal of each item. The anticipation and excitement will build to a very high level as you get them closer and closer to being naked. Make it a game if you want, play strip poker with the other person getting to remove your clothes and throw them on the table. Use your hand to explore each and every inch of their skin with light and delicate touches. I am sure this suggestion will have you more then ready to proceed with intimacy after the clothes are gone. Make it last set a time limit like you can only remove a piece of clothing every two minutes and you have to continue to massage or touch the area the last piece of clothing was removed for the remainder of the time. You can also do this in front of a mirror for a little added effect. Last but not least enjoy getting each other naked it should be fun.

Time to practice your touching.

This is the time of year of extra clothing and not much skin showing. Which also means that you don't touch each other as much, at least on the skin as you do during the warmer months of the year. With this said you have to take full advantage of touching when you get a chance. Whenever you snuggle up together under a blanket make sure to find your partners skin and caress it (make sure you hands are warm, first) Make it a point to give each other massages and use lotion to chase away dry skin that is ever present during this time of year. Make sure to touch areas of their skin that is exposed even it is not a normal place you touch, places like the face or ankles give a deeper meaning to touch.

Touch is an important part of our relationships. It keeps us close to our partner it gives us that feeling of confidence and empowerment in the fact that someone cares about us.

Touching the Driver

We spend a lot of time in our cars, even when we are on dates or going to an event. Most often we don't have any physical contact during this time. Yes there is safety concerns and I am not saying you should be making out while you are driving to your destination. However, there is something to be said for touching the drives hand or arms, maybe even caressing their shoulders. Not only does this help you stay physically connected during your voyage but it might also help avoid accidents. If you are on a long trip the driver gets a little tired or fatigued a little touch might be just the thing to pep them up. I know when I am driving it is nice to have a gentle touch, it just feels good and it stimulates the nerves helping to keep me awake on a late night drive. I also find it romantic that my partner just doesn't roll over a sleep but instead want to make sure I realize they are beside me. Keep this in mind the next time you are the passenger on a long trip with your sweety.

How to act in public

We all understand the begining of a relationship is a wonderful time. You cannot seem to get enough of each other and every time you are together you want to touch and kiss. Well that is fine and dandy when you are in the comfort of your own home. When you venture out in public you need to have some control. People do not like to see adults groping each other at the mall. Parents especially don't want their young children watching to adults, for lack of a better term, getting it on. Use some control, hold hands, or put your arms around each other is fine. These hands should always remain in a respectable place, never down the back of her pants. Have a little control and when you get home you can lose this control.

I think it is very sweet to see an older couple holding hands in public, but the thought of them french kissing in public might make me puke. So think about how other people are viewing you during this important phase in your relationship. Don't use it all up right from the start, think of it as saving it for later. Ration this affection out. I would much rather have a stable passionate relationship for the rest of my life, then one that loses it's appeal because we have done all we can do.

Looking for a Romantic Gift?

So you are looking for a romantic gift, one that says I really care about you but doesn't cost a lot of money. Well how about a nice pen set? You know they kind you don't just buy yourself. A really nice set that would look great on a desk. This way every time they use your pen they will think about you. What a lovely idea. This way even if they are doing bills or other things that are not so desirable they will still get the pleasure of thinking of you. Some places you can even get the engraved with a special message for you love. Things like "The pen is mightier then the sword" or "I love note written from you" Even just their name would be a nice touch. You can pick up said pens at most local stores or even order them online. I have included a link to a extreme pen store in the title of this post. You however do not need to spend $300 on a pen for your love a fraction of that price will get you the same effect.

Never under estimate the power of touch.

Never under estimate the power of touch. A simple touch can bring about several feelings. The way you touch can effect the way a person reacts. Light stroking touchings can add intimacy to your relationship. Stroke the inner forearm of your partner and watch how they react. In me it gives me a sense of calm and relaxation. A touch can also give support, such as a putting her hand at the base of your partners back. This tells them that you are there standing behind them if they need you. A touch as in a massage can bring about feelings of relaxation or relief from the daily grind of life. One of my favorite touches happens when my wife and I rub feet together during the night. It says to me that we are connected and even though we are asleep we are close. So next time your with your partner don't miss a chance to touch them. Put your hand on theirs or hold hands even if you are just sitting in the living room.

When two partners touch you create a bond or circuit if you will. It connects you and makes all energy flow through both partners. If you partner has had a bad day, get your hands on them and soak out some of that bad energy from them. In reverse if you have had a great day give them some of your super charged energy. Relationships are about sharing and if you can share through touch you are well ahead of the game.

Touch your parnter somewhere you usually don't

Today I want you to touch your partner on a part of their body you usually don't touch. The inside of their elbow, or behind their knee any where be creative.

Stand behind each other Naked!

Laying in bed together we have a normal feeling about each other. We reach over and caress our partner, kiss them, and look in their eyes. Well today I want you to get behind them. No, not stand up for their cause. I want you both to get buck naked and take turns standing behind each other and feeling the others body. Push your chest into their back and run your hands around their chest. Reach down and feel the muscles in their legs. Touch their lips and face from this positions. Then finally reach down and feel their genitals. Doesn't' it feel a lot different from the normal facing each other way.

If you are comfortable with your images you might even do this in front of a mirror. So the person in front can see your hands exploring your body in a different way. Kiss the back of their neck while you perform this exploration and rub your face over their back. When you are the one in front you will find sensations feel a little different when you are not face to face. Trusting your partner to feel your body in this way might help you become closer and spark some feeling that might have been hidden for a while.

Ladies make sure to use your breasts and rub them against your partner in places that you would not have thought about when standing in front of them. Like on their butts or the back of their legs. Men use your penis and rub it around your partners butt or on the outside of their hips. Both of you can preform a reach around on the other. Ladies you can really get the feel of how a man masturbates in this position and vice versa. Men you can maybe get a better feel at stimulating your partner at the angel in which they do it.

Experience each others touch and you can't go wrong. If you are self conscious of your body image, simply turn off the lights and feel the touch.

Lather her with riches. (Click here to find luxury soaps)

During one of your shopping sprees take some time to find a really high quality soap. Not your normal soaps you pick up at the local discount store. Find the ones that might be a lot higher in price but are suppose to be excellent for you skin. I have added a link at the top of the page that might help you out. Present her with the high end soap before her next bath or shower. Tell her that you want only the best to be placed on her body. After she showers make sure to take some time to caress her skin and tell her how great it feels. Nothing makes a woman feel more special then pampering her a little bit. Experiment a little and find out what she like and dislikes for future purchases.

Some words of warning make sure not to pick up something she might be allergic to, that will really kill the thought. Don't be afraid to ask a sales person to help sometimes as a man we don't particular think the same when we pick out soaps as our partner does. A woman's input will help you out.