A surprise in their Shoe?

What is the last thing anyone puts on before going out for the day? Your shoes of coarse. So today's romantic tip is to slip a little excitement into your sweeties shoe. It doesn't have to be something expensive, I am sure jewelry would be appreciated. Things like their favorite candy bar, or tickets to a show later that evening would be nice. Think of things that would fit into their shoes without being able to see them. Imagine their face with they find something in their shoe when they try to slip it on. An old picture of the two of you could be a nice touch, an invitation to dinner or even a brand new pair of sexy panties might set their heart beating faster.

The important thing is to let them know you are thinking about them. The will understand that some planning had to go into this venture and will be delighted you put the extra effort into it. If their shoes are in bad shape maybe a gift card for some new ones. The ideas are as open as you are. So start thinking now of something foot sized that would make your partner feel special. Now go get it and slip it into their shoe. Just make sure it's not something that they can smash with their feet, no grapes please. Wine is better from the bottle.

The sleep massage.

Want your partner to get the best night sleep possible? Then step up to the plate and give them the sleep massage. Basically what you are going to do is massage them to sleep. Start out by working the hard areas such as the shoulders and back. Work them hard and dig deep into those aches and pains. Once you partner starts to relax and their eyes close then start massaging with a little less pressure. Continue working the entire body. Feet, legs, arms will benefit from this churning of the muscles as you glide across them. When you start getting sighs of enjoyment from your partner reduce the pressure even more and going over all the parts you just did. Continue this pattern until you are just barely touching your partner. Let your finger tips glide across their body slowly but with very little touch. Soon they will be sleeping like a baby and you can take the satisfaction of giving them the gift of a good nights sleep.

The Nipple is the Clitoris of the breast.

Here is some timely tips for playing with breasts. Most everyone wants to dive in and attack the nipple. This can cause the recipient to pull away as the sensation might be to much. You have to treat the nipple like you do the clitoris and work your way up to it. Start by massaging around the larger part of the breast slowly. The underneath of the breast is a great place to start, because this area usually doesn't get much attention. Kiss all these areas and make it a point to leave the nipple out of the equation for a while. The nipple will begin to become erect as it gets closer to wanting your attention. Play with the other areas of the breast as a way of teasing the nipple. Anticipation is the key here make the recipient want you to play with their nipples by making them erect without touching them. Then when you finally get to the point of proceeding to the nipple you both will be ready and excited as the hard nipples touches your lips.

Do something a little crazy during the night.

When it is time for sleep we all hope to get under the covers and fall into a deep deep sleep. While this is not always the result it is what we hope for. Sometimes however when you are having troubles sleeping you might just want to try something different. If your partner is not totally sleeping like a baby, roll up next to him/her and put a body part against them that you normally wouldn't. Touch feet or a naked butt against a thigh works well. Anything to say, "I'm here in a different capacity" Touch your partners elbow or caress their armpit. See what kind of reaction you get. Or heck if you are the partner that weighs less climb on top of them and stroke their arms until they begin stroking yours back. These crazy little moves might not help you get to sleep but they will get you our of your routine and maybe you might find something that helps produce a better nights sleep. You also never know but it might spark a little middle of the night tango that could give you the relaxing chemicals you need to fall deep asleep. Don't ever under estimate the power of touch as a sleep aid.

Do you touch each other while you sleep?

I an curious about how much people touch while they are asleep. I am a huge fan of touching and the comfort of it while I sleep. However, my partner isn't so we battle back and forth on the subject. She tries to touch and times I try not to but I think that maybe it is each individuals make up. We all know that touch is important in our daily lives studies have shown the touch is a very positive thing to us. But is it when we are sleeping? I would love to see a study done on this topic and see what the conclusions are. Chime in yourself and let me know how you feel about touching during sleep. Is it a comfort or a annoyance to you? Does it help you sleep or does it keep waking you up? Lastly, how do you touch during sleep stages, are your arms around on another, head on chest, or do you feet touch? I am curious and would love for you to send me your feelings on this subject to thecouplesspot@gmail.com Now go get some sleep.

Exploring bodies

Intimacy is one of the best parts about being in love with someone. Sometimes however we quickly advance to the sexual part of intimacy without taking out time to explore our senses and bodies. Next time the two of you have the time or are getting ready to enjoy an evening of love making, I want you to spend some time enjoying each others body. Leave the lights on or put some candle light in the room and take turns even just looking at each others body. One of you lay down completely naked and let the other one go over your body. Checking out each delicate inch of our skin. Don't just focus on the genitals really look over their body making notes on things like birth marks or freckles. Kiss and touch your way around their body find out if maybe you are missing the any erogenous zones. Let them know constantly how beautiful they are and how much you enjoy their body. Set a time limit and then when the time is up switch and let them explore you body. No spots are off limits in this exploration, trust in your partner and let them have free range over you body. You might just find it an activity you can enjoy over and over.

The slightest touch can mean so much.

Touch is one of the things that most people desire. We want to feel that warmth of another human being putting their hands on us. The touch of a child is also very therapeutic with in their innocents. Even the slightest touches can mean so much to your partner. Think about how comforting the simplest of touches can be. When you touch feet in bed at night says I am here for you. The touches that just happen without warning like when you just brush each other as you pass. The soft caress on your arm as you are sitting together. The tingles that are sent up and down your body with the excitement of these touches is a joy that everyone should feel. Brushing away your partners hair as you look in their eyes or even just the touch of when you have to get something in front of them, says so much in a relationship. You hands are a wonderful tool for showing and expressing your love, so touch and enjoy.

Be Nice to everyone!

One thing I find extremely attractive in a person is the way they treat others. Are you the type of person that helps others out in time of need or offers your assistance when someone you care about is in trouble. These type of qualities are factors that could possibly attract the person of your dreams to you. Haven't you seen in the movies where someone does something nice and it seems like they are rewarded with the person of their dreams. This can happen to you. Just start being nice to everyone even if they are nasty to you. Turn the other check if you have to and just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and explain your side of the situation. Not only will this make you attractive to others, it will make you attractive to yourself. You will feel good and not carry baggage around with you in your daily life. Think of how many times you have let someone upset you, only to carry it around with you all day. Thinking about how you should have told them off or what you should have done to them. If you can let it roll of your back think of better use of your time you would have. Start today it is not to late, be nice.

Sometimes Thongs are oh so wrong!

Please ladies and gentlemen if you want to wear a thong to impress your lover takes these safety precautions. Number one make sure you have it on the right way. Nothing chaffs more then the back side of a thong. Number two make sure you get the right size, a thong to big doesn't do anything for you and one to small could cut off circulation. Last and most important make sure only your lover gets to see your thong. Some of us are trying to eat and don't want to image this!!!!!

Looking for a Romantic Gift?

So you are looking for a romantic gift, one that says I really care about you but doesn't cost a lot of money. Well how about a nice pen set? You know they kind you don't just buy yourself. A really nice set that would look great on a desk. This way every time they use your pen they will think about you. What a lovely idea. This way even if they are doing bills or other things that are not so desirable they will still get the pleasure of thinking of you. Some places you can even get the engraved with a special message for you love. Things like "The pen is mightier then the sword" or "I love note written from you" Even just their name would be a nice touch. You can pick up said pens at most local stores or even order them online. I have included a link to a extreme pen store in the title of this post. You however do not need to spend $300 on a pen for your love a fraction of that price will get you the same effect.

Keep the Fireworks going!

Well the 4th of July has passed and so have the fireworks. You can however keep the fireworks bursting all year long. Now I am not talking about buying several thousand dollars worth of fireworks and lighting them off each night. I am talking about keeping that excitement going in your relationship. Think about how you watch in awe as each blast lights up the sky. Now make the everyday things you do look that special. Cook for you partner, let them sleep a little later, anything that will make them feel special and show you care about them will do. I enjoy fireworks but I would much rather have my partner give me a fantastic kiss before leaving for work, or hold my hand as we walk to the mall. These little fireworks are what makes your heart jump up and down. Now if you want to get literal you could turn all the lights off in the house and find firework displays on YouTube, not only would that be literal it would be romantic also.

Lay on the floor together.

When is the last time you and your partner just laid on the floor. We just got new carpet and I decided to just plop down on the floor to see how it felt. My partner soon joined me and she laid there holding hands and we looked up at the ceiling giving us a different perspective then we had had just a few minutes ago. It is amazing how different everything looks from this angle. So next time you and your partner are just lazin around spend some time on the floor and see what you might be missing. It will maybe help you understand how you have to look at everything in your relationship at all angles, this helps the couples stay happy and in love.

Thanks to Gary Lerude for the picture from creative commons and flickr.

Rent a Silly Comedy Movie

As we have mentioned many times laughter is great for your relationship and health. So tonight find one of those supper silly movies to rent. Something along the lines of Airplane or Naked Gun are great examples. Something that will have you busting a gut the whole time you are watching it. The Three Stooges or American Funniest Videos are another couple that keep the laughs coming non stop. Never under estimate the power of laughter. If you partner is mad at you or if you have done something wrong a good laugh gets the perspective back in place in a hurry. As the expression goes live, love, and laugh.

Stand behind each other Naked!

Laying in bed together we have a normal feeling about each other. We reach over and caress our partner, kiss them, and look in their eyes. Well today I want you to get behind them. No, not stand up for their cause. I want you both to get buck naked and take turns standing behind each other and feeling the others body. Push your chest into their back and run your hands around their chest. Reach down and feel the muscles in their legs. Touch their lips and face from this positions. Then finally reach down and feel their genitals. Doesn't' it feel a lot different from the normal facing each other way.

If you are comfortable with your images you might even do this in front of a mirror. So the person in front can see your hands exploring your body in a different way. Kiss the back of their neck while you perform this exploration and rub your face over their back. When you are the one in front you will find sensations feel a little different when you are not face to face. Trusting your partner to feel your body in this way might help you become closer and spark some feeling that might have been hidden for a while.

Ladies make sure to use your breasts and rub them against your partner in places that you would not have thought about when standing in front of them. Like on their butts or the back of their legs. Men use your penis and rub it around your partners butt or on the outside of their hips. Both of you can preform a reach around on the other. Ladies you can really get the feel of how a man masturbates in this position and vice versa. Men you can maybe get a better feel at stimulating your partner at the angel in which they do it.

Experience each others touch and you can't go wrong. If you are self conscious of your body image, simply turn off the lights and feel the touch.

Don't for Anniversaries or Birhtdays.

Just a note to everyone DON'T FORGET ANNIVERSARIES OR BIRTHDAYS. Nothing says I could care less about you then forgetting these important dates. Now a days you have no excuse for forgetting either. You can program it into your cell phone, computer, iPod, television, and even your alarm clocks. So there is absolutely no reason, with the exception of amnesia, for you to forget. You can only use the amnesia excuse once anyway. Now do whatever it takes to remember these events.

One a side note make sure you don't celebrate these events on the wrong day either. My mom once called me and sang Happy Birthday to me, when it was my sisters birthday. She was quick with an excuse though saying she miss dialed the phone. Good one mom. We get a good laugh about it now, however.

Remember these days are special for a reason. You need to put effort and time into them. I understand sometimes they don't fall at the best times. So that is when you have to let your partner know that you will be celebrating later. You don't have to spend a lot of money on these special occasions like the old adage "It's the thought that counts" Heck a card and a back rub works wonders.

Shower Talks

Here's a little test in self control. Next time your partner is taking a shower, and you have the time, just slip into the bathroom, sit on the stool and talk with them. It is a big test of your self control because you know he/she is naked on the other side of the shower curtain, and you know you want to peak in on them (at least I know I want to see my wife.). Strike up a conversation about something other than your relationship; it could be about your kids, work, church, or anything other than them being naked. This exercise raises trust as your partner is naked and in a vulnerable state. You are trying to mind your Ps and Qs, and not just ripping open the shower curtain and attacking. To me this feels like when you used to talk on phone as a teenager. You were wondering what the other person was wearing or what he/she was doing at this point of day. Talk to your partner for a while, but make sure that once he/she is ready to get out of the shower and dry off you are out of the area. Give him/her some privacy. If you were in the middle of an in-depth conversation, make sure to pick it back up when he/she is finished. You can also do this activity while your partner takes a bath, shaves or grooms himself/herself in some fashion. Conversation is good for the relationship. If you can focus on the conversation when your partner is completely naked, then you have a sound foundation in your relationship. Special note: Don't try this while you are trying to be intimate. Think of intimate things to talk about during that time. Talking about your mother during sex is a real buzz kill. Focus on the task at hand in this situation. :-)

Now, head for the shower and some good conversation.

Short and Sweet

This morning before getting out of bed reach over a gently touch your partners back. Lightly caress their skin for a few minutes, the give them a gently kiss on the back of their neck. Follow this up by whispering I love you. Then get up and start your day. My bet is that you have made someone else day start out great!