Ready to move your relationship on to the next level.

Okay your relationship to this point has be great, you enjoy your partner, you have got to have sex. Now however you want to know a little more, you want to see if you can move your relationship to a more deeper level or area. Maybe your a little nervous about trying to move things into the next level but their is no better time then the present. Here is what you do very secretly go out to your local sex toy shop and purchase an item to be used on or by your partner. Get items like vibrators, or a G spot stimulator for a woman for a guy in your life purchase a masturbation sleeve or a cock ring. You can get a butt plug for either person. Now take your item home and wrap it up put a note inside that says simply "Want Play". Leave it for you lover to find sometime when you are not home. Now comes the hard part, do not say a word about the present let them bring it up and tell you their feelings about it. If a couple of weeks go by and they don't say a word about it then you can mention it and see their reaction.

By doing this you tell them you are interested in using these type of items with them and it give them a chance to tell you how they feel about these items. Maybe they were just waiting for someone to break the ice.

Chocolate Love?

We always associate chocolate with Valentines Day, the day of love. Maybe we should change it to the other way around. Chocolate has been for many many years known to increase sexual desire. Now before you rush out and purchase as much chocolate as you can, it is not an instant fix. The mood has to be right and all that other good stuff. It has been proven that chocolate can give off a similar feeling to that of orgasm, just in a lower setting. I have posted a link in the title of this post that will give you more information on the effect chocolate has on your sex life. My suggestion after reading this article is eat up on the chocolate. Just remember you have to work it off later.

Keeping Romance Hot

I think most everyone knows that romance is about making your partner feel special. There are several ways to do that, be it bringing home flowers, surprising them with a night out, or maybe even taking a trip. We need to also keep romance alive in our bedrooms. Maybe that wasn't a good statement as some of you might be having intimacy outside of the bedroom. To be truly romantic in your love life you have to make your partner feel like you think they are special. Sex is one of the easiest ways to accomplish this feat. For starters put your focus of foreplay on your partner, make their sensation the best it can be. Use different items and toys to bring their excitement level to the top. Speak to them during your activities, tell them how much you love them and how great of lover they are. This little things are a big turn on for most people. You might be wondering about now when is it your turn to be the center of sexual attention. Well you can't force someone to act this way, but if your partner truly loves you then the both of you will find ways to take turns pleasing the other person. I suggest however making your partner the total focus once in a while, meet only their needs and see what happens. Now everyone deserves a chance at this and if tonight is your turn to lay back and enjoy, you need to make plans to reciprocate the actions.

Naps

On thing people don't usually considers romantic is naps. Taking a break on a lazy Sunday afternoon is a great way to get close and relax together. Turn on some football, get into some comfy clothes and snuggle down together. If you don't want to sleep that is okay just be close. Their is something about a little drowsy nap to get you closer. Maybe a little rumble in the sheets before a nap is a good thing for the two of you. However, the nap will get you energized for later activities or just maybe a movie or a walk. Don't miss the signs if your body is telling you to take a nap, you must need one. Naps are so much better though with someone you love holding or touching you.

Want something sexy and cute to say or send to your partner?

"If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come there are so many books on how to do it?"-Bette Midler

We all now that communication is the key to any good relationship. Blah, blah, blah we have heard it so many times that we are thinking of getting it tattooed on our arms. However I think romantic humor is also very important. Does you partner have to be serious whenever you discuss your love life? You know sex is suppose to be fun, exciting, passionate, hot, and a lot of other adjectives, but no where does anyone say it has to be serious. Can you have serious sex? Think about it for a moment and even if you try I bet you would bust up laughing. Some of the best sex I have ever had as ended up with us both lying their exhausted and laughing. If you click here http://www.verses4cards.co.uk/funny-sexy-quotes.html then you will be taken to a website that has funny sexy quotes by some famous and some not so famous people ( or you can click on the title of this post). Use these on your partner at times they need a little giggle. Text them to each other during the day and maybe it will get minds thinking and heat up your night.

Hanging out at home!

During this time of economic turmoil, more and more people are having to rethink what they do for dates and recreation. Remember when you were teenagers and you would just hang out at someones house! You would pick someone who's parents weren't home and just lay around watching television and acting stupid. Well why not bring back the feeling. You can save a lot of money by doing this. You could rent some movies, purchase some snacks and bring home some booze. All of the things you might do on a night out. Invite some friends over and have a little movie party or play a board game together. Just spend the evening hanging out having a few drinks and getting into some great conversations.

Maybe you want the evening to just be the two of you. Again just like when you were teenagers you can spend the night making out or watching a movie, or both. I love just sitting and debating things with my partner. I feel it brings us closer even if we disagree on things. Now think of all the money you will be saving and you still get all the things you would on a date. Good conversation, fun, entertainment, and maybe even sex, for a fraction of the cost of the traditional date.

What to do with your stuffed animals during sex..

Does you partner have stuffed animals that they keep on the bed. You might think this is a little childish, but hold on. Have you ever thought to use these animals as sexual aids? Don't get to disgusted, just yet. Have you ever been to the liberator shop and saw all the different pillows that they have to get your partner and you into different positions? Now are you starting to get the picture. Think of that great big lion they keep on your bed and how you could bend someone over that and have your way with them. The bigger the stuffed animal the better, but think about sticking the smaller ones under the small of the back or to use as props for other parts of your body. Changing the angle of penetration makes the act of sex seem very different and exciting. Not to mention most stuffed animals are soft and feel good on the skin. I have even seen some stuffed animals that have a compartment for hiding sex toys inside them so they are close and ready to use.

A gift for the Men.

Ladies here is a little guide to help you purchase a gift for your man. I understand that not every man is the same so you might have to tailor your gift to your specific man. Here in my opinion are you never miss gifts. Number one is electronics most men love to get a new gadget and their are plenty of them to choose from. Number two is Sports Tickets most men like some sort of sports so pick his favorite team and surprise him with great seats. Last and the never fail item is some great sex. Purchase some great lingerie and treat him like he is a king at least for a day. If he doesn't like that then he is nuts. Maybe you can do something he is been dieing for you to do for a while, that will make his night even more special. Any of the gifts mentioned above will work wonders on showing your man how much you care about him.

Give in a little.

We all love to get our way, however sometimes it is more romantic to give in a little. Now I am not talking about letting someone run over you. I am talking about a simple surrender to make your partner feel special. Maybe it is letting them have the pick of which movie you watch tonight, even though you know the one they will pick will just make you vomit. Maybe you can't decide on which restaurant to eat at. You can suck it up and go with their choice. Giving in a little is great for you relationship, it shows you are committed to working thinks out. You can use this in many ways and you can use it in the bedroom also. Maybe your partner wants you to try a different position, what the heck let it go and give it a try. If it doesn't work at least you can get it out of their mind. Relationships are tricky and sometimes you can't get everything you want. So give in a little and hopefully your partner will return the favor and give in to you, at times.

Ladies choice!

Okay tonight you are ready for a great night of sex. You would love for you wife, partner, or girlfriend to give you a play by play of what she would like. What do you do if your partner is a little more reserved about letting you know her likes or dislikes. A lot of people men as well as women have a hard time asking or tell their partner what they want or fantasies about. Don't fear however I have a couple of solutions that might help you out.

If your like most couples you have a drawer full of sex toys, lubes, simulators, etc. Yet it seems like you don't go to it very much for fear your more reserved partner might not want to, because they won't talk about it. Well take the embarrassment out of their hands. Tell them you are going to leave the room and you would like them to pick out a couple of items form the drawer they would like to use. Tell them to stick the items inside your pillow case and turn out the lights when they are ready. With the lights out and the items tucked away, it will seem like they didn't really pick out the things you are going to use on them. This might be a great way for them to open up about their sexual preferences so make sure you use the items they have picked. Take turns once a week and do the same for your partner by placing things you want to experience in their pillowcase the next time.

Another way you can get them to open up about their wants is to give them an outlet other then talking. Let them right down what they want to do. They could do it on paper, through email, or even text you. Give them room to do this, and don't set there and look over their shoulder. Leave the room and have them give you a sign when they are done. Again you can take turns doing this as it is only fair both partners get a chance.

It seems silly that we sometimes have trouble conversing about sex to our partner. Sometimes it comes from the way we were brought up and what our parents instilled in us. Other times people are just shy or fear the other persons reactions about their choices. Doing these things a few times might loosen up your talking about them at a later time.

You don't have to break the bank to find great toys!

Say you want to heat up your sex but don't have the money to go out and purchase that expensive sex toy you've been dreaming of. Well don't fret you probably have a love of sex enhancers laying around your house. Are your eyebrows raised, well I will give you a view examples. Do you have a string of beads around? You know a necklace will work and this can be used on both partners. Take the string of beads and run in around the outside of her pussy, pushing it around the lips and perineum. Same for his penis, run the beads around his shaft and let them dangle around his balls. The excitement of something new touching you will drive you wild. A word of caution though never insert something into your partner that doesn't have a flared base for safety, you don't want to be explaining at the emergency room how your wife's pearl necklace ended up your anus.

Another thing some people find exciting is food items such as whip cream, or chocolate. These are find to play with but just make sure you wash extra good before having sex. You don't want to get food items inside either of you. A feather duster (new of coarse) can add delight to your partner as you run it across them and their genitals. A heating pad can really warm up your sex life also. By placing it in strategic places you might get a warm reaction. Ice packs can similarly be used to enhance you intimacy. Washable markers can make your lover a canvas. A bean bag chair allows you to find several new positions. I think you are beginning to get the idea. Be creative but be safe also. Again never stick anything inside your partner with out a flared base on it or making sure the material it is made out of is safe for insertion.

Have fun and I am going to throw out a challenge to all of you. This month I want to see if you can make love in every room in your house or apartment. This might take some planning if you have children but where there is a will there is a way. Good luck and have some great sex, it is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your relationship.

Keep the Fireworks going!

Well the 4th of July has passed and so have the fireworks. You can however keep the fireworks bursting all year long. Now I am not talking about buying several thousand dollars worth of fireworks and lighting them off each night. I am talking about keeping that excitement going in your relationship. Think about how you watch in awe as each blast lights up the sky. Now make the everyday things you do look that special. Cook for you partner, let them sleep a little later, anything that will make them feel special and show you care about them will do. I enjoy fireworks but I would much rather have my partner give me a fantastic kiss before leaving for work, or hold my hand as we walk to the mall. These little fireworks are what makes your heart jump up and down. Now if you want to get literal you could turn all the lights off in the house and find firework displays on YouTube, not only would that be literal it would be romantic also.

Say her name... or his if the case maybe.

Will all get in the habit of calling our partner something other then their name. You know we posted just the other day about pet names. Nothing makes us feel more complete with our partner then hearing them say our name. Just in everyday life use their name more often. Don't answer you phone "Hey babe" or say "Sweetie can you get me a drink." Take one day and try to use their name every time you address them. My theory on this is that we want to know are partner is in touch with us. Not using a slang term like sweetie or baby that could be used for anyone, will make your partner feel you are personalizing every statement.

Not only should you practice this in everyday life, you should also use it in your intimate life. It drives me nuts to hear my name as my partner reaches orgasm. I know that one is a little tough but instead honey, baby, or calling out to god, use your partners name and tell them what is happening. I believe that this only makes your sex life better. Practice it when you masturbate with your partner just as your about to climax, scream out their name. See what kind of reaction that gets out of them.