The I got to leave before you get up kiss.

Nothing is worse than having to leave for work before you partner gets up. You don't want to wake them up and disturb their sleep but you still want that exchange of care before you walk out the door. Talk about this with your partner and ask what they would like. Changes are they want that exchange also without disturbing their slumber. Maybe a quick peck on the forehead when you start to get out of bed or a gentle caress of their back will do the trick. The important part is to let them know you want to carry them with you as you go about your day. Figure out what works best for both of you and then start a routine. Soon you will find you are both happy and no one loses sleep over it.

The sleep massage.

Want your partner to get the best night sleep possible? Then step up to the plate and give them the sleep massage. Basically what you are going to do is massage them to sleep. Start out by working the hard areas such as the shoulders and back. Work them hard and dig deep into those aches and pains. Once you partner starts to relax and their eyes close then start massaging with a little less pressure. Continue working the entire body. Feet, legs, arms will benefit from this churning of the muscles as you glide across them. When you start getting sighs of enjoyment from your partner reduce the pressure even more and going over all the parts you just did. Continue this pattern until you are just barely touching your partner. Let your finger tips glide across their body slowly but with very little touch. Soon they will be sleeping like a baby and you can take the satisfaction of giving them the gift of a good nights sleep.

Appreciate the fact you lover is working hard.

Sometimes we all have to put in extra time at work. Maybe you work has a busy season or you are working on beating a dead line. When we are in a relationship we need to understand and appreciate our lover for going the extra mile. Having a job to support a relationship is a wonderful way to say I care about this love we have. Putting effort into work, as long as it isn't over the top, shows commitment that you want in your relationship also. When you know these times are coming for your lover then make it easier on them by understanding and making the best of it. If you partner has to work late, stay and and wait for them to come home and meet them at the door with a kiss. If they are working from home make sure all it quiet for them to get the most out of their time. Ask for a break for the two of you to get some time together. Set a time limit on it so as not to delay the work getting done. Lastly reward you partners hard work. If they are fighting to meet a deadline, then give them incentive. Tell them when the project is done you will make mad passionate love to them, or plan a romantic weekend away. Show your partner that they are loved and you appreciate the hard work they put into your relationship and their job as well.

Sometimes it is just best to stay out of the way.

As your relationship grows you will start to sense times when you need to leave your partner alone. It might be a certain time of the month or a certain day of the week. It could also be sporadic in nature but you can just tell by the way they are acting. On these days it is better just to stay away from the subject of making them feel better. For example if Mondays are a bad day because it is back to work time, then give them the space. Don't try to make them feel better only to get them upset with you let them roll around in their anger. Don't give them the chance to direct the anger towards you on these days that you know they are going to be upset. If you partner is female, then track her menstrual cycle to see the days that might be a good day for you to hang with the guys. You don't always have to cheer up your partner. This has taken me many years to understand but sometimes you just have to let them fume for them to get over it.

Anger Management.

Have you ever had one of those days when your partner comes home madder than a hornet. They burst through the door with their nostrils flaring like a raging bull. Their anger is so strong that it seems like they are yelling at you. The last thing you want to do in this situation is try to rationalize what has happened. What you need to do is let them release the steam. Yelling and screaming might be part of this process for them. Sit quietly and listen and offer positive support, don't question their anger or try to make light of it. For their benefit it is good to join the fight and start getting angry about the situations yourself. Boost them up and let them know you are standing behind them. This is great because once they setting down they will be most appreciative of what you have done for them. When your partner is this mad you have to let them let it out or they might blow up later of something super small. Think of them as a pressure cooker letting the steam out keeps the pot from exploding.

Working together.

Some of you might think that working together is a wonderful idea, and some of you think that work is your separation time. Well it can be both. Recently my partner and I were offered a position to run a retirement neighborhood. The pay was really good and we would have gotten free housing, now a problem arouse that there were not enough bedrooms for our children, so we had to decline. The thought of working together was a wonderful challenge for us. The more and more I thought about it however I realized that even though we would essentially be working together we would spend most of that time apart. Doing different things and marketing would keep us busy most of the day. I feel like we would have still had lots to talk about later in the evening and would still have the coming home feeling. It is to bad this didn't work out I think that as in our relationship we would have made a great team in business. Where does your relationship stand as of work? It is okay if you need that space from you partner, however think about if you could work together with your partner and what that says about your relationship. A big question for working together is can you leave the work behind? Will you drag it into the bedroom or worse yet will it cause problems in your personal relationship. If you can keep business separate from your personal relationship there is no problem.

Have a drink ready!

Have you ever had a time where you partner is having a bad day at work? Maybe they called you at lunch or texted you during the day to tell you how terrible of day they are having. We all have these days where nothing seems to go right and every time you turn around it seems to get worse. This is where being a kind and loving partner comes in. You can turn their day around as soon as the walk through the door. Have their favorite drink ready for them and give them a big kiss as the walk through the door. Encourage them to sit down and talk to you about their day, let them get it off their chest so that they can put it behind them. Maybe, just maybe you will make their night a little better and they can forget about the terrible day they have had. Within each and everyone of us there is the power to lift our lovers up. Be it with compassion and praise, or listening and understanding, we can turn the tides for them. Make them feel special the rest of the night, make sure to touch them often as touch is a soothing reminder of the love you have for them. If the time is right have induce a little sexual release from them and let them enjoy your wonderful love for them. We cannot change the past but we can make the present a different place.

Balanced Life

A Balanced life is one that is filled with all the things you want and need. You can't ignore any part of your life if you want your romance to skyrocket. For example you cannot put all your energy into being romantic, that you forget about other things. Things like taking care of your health, or focusing on your profession. It is hard to be romantic when you are so out of shape you or that you don't have any money to be romantic. In turn you also have to have balance in your relationship, it can't all be romance you have to do the basic things to like the chores around the house or helping your partner with things they have to do. Once you understand that romance fits into that balanced lifestyle, then it just gets better and better. Always make sure you remember to be romantic but never forget to live the other parts of your life.

Waiting up

Do you have a night when your partner gets home late? If so this is a great time to surprise them by staying up to spend a little time with them. Most people that have to either work or stay out late cannot just come home and jump into bed to fall asleep. A nice gesture would be to surprise them by being up to spend some time with them. Have a great conversation, play a game, watch some late night television or you could even be waiting with some sexy intentions in mind to show them how much you care about them. You don't have to do this every night but once in a while will get your partner rushing home to see if there might be a chance you will still be up to enjoy their company.

Want to pass some time? together!

Here is a nice thing to do if the two of you want to pass some time together. Find games that are for only one player and then play that game together. Games like solitaire, or computer games that require some thinking are great to put your minds together and work as a team. This is one of those things to see how well the two of you can work together without being something that is important. See how quickly you start to feed off of each other. If it is a game one partner doesn't understand take the time to teach them how to play and use all your patience as it brings the two of you closer together.

Share your feelings

Here is a little hint for you no matter where you are in your relationship. Share your feelings, it's that simple. If something bothers you then let your partner know about it. Don't just tell them about feelings about your relationship, use this outlet to express your feelings about all factors in your life. Work, children, education, no matter what the area let your feelings be known, even if you agree with the topic let it out. This is a great practice to get into as it opens up the lines of communication. Once you are in flow of this you won't even hesitate to share your feelings as they happen, and if you don't let your feelings fester then you might see an improvement in not only your relationship but your life in general.

Do the little things to help improve your relationship

There are many things you can do to improve your relationship and most of them do not involve major changes in your life. It is sometimes the small things we do that make our romance improve. Things like not flushing the toliet when our partner is in the shower, helping with the chores that are not yours, fixing dinner, or even a gentle back rub while watching television. These simple little things can go a long way to improving your relationship. If you listen to people that are having relationship troubles you will see that most the time they will pick out these little things to show how their relationship has changed. Things like she/he doesn't hold my hand any more, or he/she doesn't shave on nights we are going to be together. When we stop attending to the little things soon we will have larger problems in our relationship. Now if you want to keep your relationship strong and health start with the little things and work your way up to major topics. Most likely they will be gone by the time you attend to the little things.

Pump that Body.

Have you ever noticed how full your muscles feel after a good work out. After a serious bout of lifting my muscles are tight and firm. You can use this tactic to your advantage in your relationship. If you know you are going to have times when your partner is going to be touching you, then thinking ahead you can give them something to make them say wow. Get some dumbells and keep them handy and about a half hour before you snuggle down to watch a movie or do any kind of physical contact give yourself a quick work out for your arms. Do several reps at a light weight to get your muscles tired and full. For added effect flex a little whenever your partner touches you and you might just get touched more. This is an old practice that I learned reading about my favorite bands and how they would do some quick lifting before a photo shoot to make them look better, well it works so why not use it. Start pumping that body and get yourself rock hard for your partner.

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How important is your relationship?

Do you spend time evaluating your relationship, deciding what areas need more work and if you are meeting the needs of your partner. Just like anything else in our life we sometimes lose focus on things that are important to us. You see it in the work place as you get bored with your job, and you see it in activities that you lose excitement for over time. Don't let this happen to your relationship. Sit down and think or write out what areas of your relationship need work. You can do this alone or with your partner, so that you get both sides of the relationship. When both of your work on this you actually get to see what areas your partner feels needs work, and that might be a totally different area then you thought about. When you do this it is important not to down grade your partners concerns, if they say that the two of you don't have enough dates then don't respond with "Yes we do" or "That's silly we just had a date last week" You have to realize that your partner wouldn't speak of it unless it was an issue to them. If you are not willing to work on the concerns your partner has about your relationship then you will find your relationship turning sour at some point. No matter what their issue is your need to put some effort into that area and vice versa he/she needs to put some focus into yours. With a little practice you will quickly learn to address areas of concern before they get to large to make a quick fix on them.

Make dinner, conversation time.

When we go out to eat or even eat a home for that matter, we are setting up a great time to discuss and learn about each other. Even if you have been married or dating for years there is always something you can learn from great conversation. Find topics that you can discuss that will have both of your offering your opinions. Don't be only a listener, engage in the conversation and get your ideas heard. Find out about things going on in your partners life they you might not hear about other wise. Things like work, or happenings in their life that you are not apart of. Make it a game and ask questions of each other, take turns and make the other person answer each of your questions. A good night of conversation is actually foreplay and with your minds stimulated your bodies are soon to follow.

Romance is open minded.

If there is one thing that I know for a fact, it is that romance is open minded. Romance has to stay open and new at all times. You can only give flowers so many time and if you got flowers everyday you would likely get sick of getting them. So, to keep romance fresh and new you have to continually open to new and exciting ways to romance your mate. Sure there are things that you might not be comfortable with and you can choose to stay away from those things. However when you want to branch out and find something new way to be romantic you have to get out of your comfort zone a little. For instance if you always go to a Italian restaurant when you go out to eat deciding to go to a Thai restaurant would make you a little uncomfortable. Same can be said for more intimate activities, so many people are against anal play but some people really enjoy the thrill of it. The most important part is not to judge anything your partner might want to try be open and keep the communication flowing before and after the event. If you have stomach problems then Thai might not agree with you but you will not know for sure until you try it. Same for sexual issues, unless you try it then you don't know for sure that it does feel good. However if you are totally against something you should speak up and express that to your mate. If you go into it with a closed mind you will not be comfortable and not give it a fair chance. So sometimes you have to put these types of things on the back burner or find alternatives. For instance if you are against swinging and your partner wants to try it maybe purchasing some wigs or fake mustaches will help them get into their romance while not crossing your boundaries. Again it all goes back to communication, some of the off the wall things that I have tried it took me a while to work up asking for but when I did I was amazed at how well they were received. Romance and love are wonderful things but you can't expect them to stay fresh and exciting on their own, you have to put the effort and communication into them.

Where have our viewers made love? The results are in.

In our resent survey of where our viewers have found and preformed intimacy, we learned some pretty interesting things. First of all a no brainer 100% of our viewers have made love in bed. 57% have experienced the thrill of sex in the shower / tub or in their car. Now this one really surprised me 42% of our viewers that responded have ventured into their office or work to experience a little overtime. Another surprising thing is that 28% have made love outside while 14% have made love in a public place. Seems like our viewers like to get outside the house. Again thanks for the input and help us help you by sending us your questions (they are confidential and private, no names will be used) you can email them to us at romanticantics@gmail.com

Labor Day

Romance never takes a holiday so times like today being Labor Day should make you even try harder to be romantic. With extra time off and all day to find some nice things to do. You should have no problem being romantic. Think of things to do that you can't normally do right after work, pick something that takes a little longer then you normally have during the week. Go out and enjoy that activity. Cookouts are great for this time of year and walks at your nearest state park are wonderful times spent alone. Just because it's Labor Day doesn't mean you should sit on your butt all day and do nothing. Get out their and work on your romance.

Get your partner a little hot under the collar.

Want to turn you partner on a little and do something good for your health at the same time? Well next time you are just sitting around doing nothing, get up and work out a little in front of your partner. Grab some weights or slip in an aerobic tape and start working out. You can bet your partner will take notice. It doesn't matter how out of shape you are at least you will be showing them that you are going to start getting into better shape. Now that you have started this you have to keep doing it, make it a routine at certain times of the week. Say Sunday while you are watching football, or right before you go to bed during your cool down time. Nothing is more exciting then watching your partner flex their muscles or bounce around the house sticking your butt in the air. Even if your partner is doing something else I am sure they will glance over the top of their book from time to time to take a peak at you getting even more sexy. Try it today and let us know how it works out!!!

Work!

When you and your partner perform a task together that benefits both of you should reward your partner in some way or other. Take them to dinner, massage their back, or simple put make them feel really good.