Showing posts with label mad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mad. Show all posts

Monday, August 9, 2010

Sometimes it is just best to stay out of the way.


As your relationship grows you will start to sense times when you need to leave your partner alone. It might be a certain time of the month or a certain day of the week. It could also be sporadic in nature but you can just tell by the way they are acting. On these days it is better just to stay away from the subject of making them feel better. For example if Mondays are a bad day because it is back to work time, then give them the space. Don't try to make them feel better only to get them upset with you let them roll around in their anger. Don't give them the chance to direct the anger towards you on these days that you know they are going to be upset. If you partner is female, then track her menstrual cycle to see the days that might be a good day for you to hang with the guys. You don't always have to cheer up your partner. This has taken me many years to understand but sometimes you just have to let them fume for them to get over it.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Sometimes you just need to listen, and not speak


Have you ever had a really bad day and just needed to vent. You don't want to be consoled or babied and the last thing you want is to be cuddled. You just want to scream and let it all out. When you partner feels this way you need to pick up on it as soon as you can and then become what I consider the tackling dummy. Let them let it all out, don't judge, don't offer opinions just stand or sit there and listen. Listen with your heart and pay attention, only offer any words if they ask you for them. Nod your head, reach out and touch them but don't tell them they are wrong or that you would have handled it differently because that is not what they need right now. They need to get that negative energy out of their body and venting is the way to do that. It might take all night to get it out but when it is your turn they will be there for you.

Friday, July 9, 2010

Shopping together can be fun.


Most couples hate going shopping together. Can you see the images of one partner holding the bags while the other one tries on a hundred different outfits. Maybe its the other way around and one partner wants to go to the power tool store and spends hours looking a drills. The good thing about shopping is it can give the two of you some time out together. You usually have to have lunch out which is a good thing for the two of you to share. My suggestion for the other stuff that drives us nuts is to set time limits before you enter a store set a time limit. Mark you watches and the other person just has to bear it for that section of time. Then when the time is up you go to the other person store with the same time restraints. This way both of you get the same feelings and the same amount of time looking at what you want. Another option is to split up and then make it a game to find each other. Send clues via text messages to each other as to where you are, this can be a fun way to enjoy your shopping a little more. Lastly find some things that interest you both. Maybe a store that carries items for you home or on that carries intimate apparel that way you end on common ground. With a little work and imagination shopping can be fun for both parties.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Romance is for Sissies.


This past year I have been promoting romance as a means to improve your relationship. Well I now feel differently, romance is for sissies. Anyone that would be involved with trying to be super nice to their partner should be locked up. Why would you do great things for your partner and expect nothing in return? This sounds like something that some lunatic made up. I am hear to tell you today that if you don't know that it is April Fools day, you do now!!!! Romance is my life and love so take it to heart and happy April Fools day.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Resist the urge to snap!


Have you ever gotten mad about something and snapped, then later felt really bad that you said something that maybe you shouldn't have. This is were you need to learn a little self control. When you are in a heated argument you always need to think what you say out. Usually that first thing that pops into your mind is something that might not be so easy to take back. Plus it usually is just a tear at the person and might not even have anything to do with the argument. When you get a little frustrated with you mate you need to take some time before you open your mouth. Once you say something, you won't be able to say sorry later and take it back. Many feelings have been hurt for a long time by someone just blurting something out in a fit of anger. Take your time and count if you need to these few seconds could save some hurtful feelings later.