let em sleep in!

Somedays you are just not ready to wake up. Your partner might feel the same way sometimes. Sundays are the best day to do this and as a kind jester slip out of bed quietly and let your partner get some extra snooze time in. Believe me they will appreciate it more than you laying there tossing and turning. Your partner will require stillness that you can give if you are in the bed awake. You could even start the coffee or breakfast for them to wake up to. Being a great partner calls for you sometimes to give your partner the space they need. Being able to stretch out in bed is a great start to creating that space.

Sometimes you just need to listen, and not speak

Have you ever had a really bad day and just needed to vent. You don't want to be consoled or babied and the last thing you want is to be cuddled. You just want to scream and let it all out. When you partner feels this way you need to pick up on it as soon as you can and then become what I consider the tackling dummy. Let them let it all out, don't judge, don't offer opinions just stand or sit there and listen. Listen with your heart and pay attention, only offer any words if they ask you for them. Nod your head, reach out and touch them but don't tell them they are wrong or that you would have handled it differently because that is not what they need right now. They need to get that negative energy out of their body and venting is the way to do that. It might take all night to get it out but when it is your turn they will be there for you.

Random acts of Couples Kindness

Most of you have probably heard of Random Acts of Kindness (RAK). Why not put some RAK into our relationships. You can do the normal simple things like bringing home flowers or kissing at special times. However, I want you to think a little outside the box and see what happens. Here is one I like to do. You know how good it makes you feel when you find money in your pockets you didn't know was there. Well use that for you RAK find our what your partner is going to wear that day and while they are in the shower or eating breakfast slip a five or ten in the pocket of those clothes. Watch their reaction as they find it, you have just started their day in a good way. Another great thing to do is take their car and get it washed or fill it up with gas, without them knowing. Whatever you do don't let them know and plead the 5th when they question you about it.

Friday night flings

Friday starts the weekend for most people yet it is not the big night to go out. Saturday dominates the party night while friday comes in a distant second. You can use this to your advantage. Friday night is a great night to go out if you are wanting to talk and find out more about your love. Find places that don't have bands on fridays or that don't get hoppin until Saturday and spend the evening over a few drinks and some good conversation. Another option here is to get out early before the party crowd hits and have your conversation and drinks and then do something a little more personal like taking a walk, going to a movie, or maybe back to one of your places!!

Romantic Christmas Eve

Tonight is the night it is one of the best night for romance of the year. It is the time for you to show your partner or friend how much you care about them. Make sure during the family gatherings, parties, and tucking the children in that you make time for the two of you to have some quiet time together. Block out all of the other distractions of the upcoming day and focus on each other. Set a time, say two hours, for uninterrupted time that you can snuggle and calm each other for the upcoming arrival of Santa. Make love, drink cocoa, wrap the remaining presents but do it together and as a team. It is easy to go to bed early to get to the next day but don’t forget about on of the most important parts of the season, that being the person you love.