Sometimes it is just best to stay out of the way.

As your relationship grows you will start to sense times when you need to leave your partner alone. It might be a certain time of the month or a certain day of the week. It could also be sporadic in nature but you can just tell by the way they are acting. On these days it is better just to stay away from the subject of making them feel better. For example if Mondays are a bad day because it is back to work time, then give them the space. Don't try to make them feel better only to get them upset with you let them roll around in their anger. Don't give them the chance to direct the anger towards you on these days that you know they are going to be upset. If you partner is female, then track her menstrual cycle to see the days that might be a good day for you to hang with the guys. You don't always have to cheer up your partner. This has taken me many years to understand but sometimes you just have to let them fume for them to get over it.

Anger Management.

Have you ever had one of those days when your partner comes home madder than a hornet. They burst through the door with their nostrils flaring like a raging bull. Their anger is so strong that it seems like they are yelling at you. The last thing you want to do in this situation is try to rationalize what has happened. What you need to do is let them release the steam. Yelling and screaming might be part of this process for them. Sit quietly and listen and offer positive support, don't question their anger or try to make light of it. For their benefit it is good to join the fight and start getting angry about the situations yourself. Boost them up and let them know you are standing behind them. This is great because once they setting down they will be most appreciative of what you have done for them. When your partner is this mad you have to let them let it out or they might blow up later of something super small. Think of them as a pressure cooker letting the steam out keeps the pot from exploding.

Resist the urge to snap!

Have you ever gotten mad about something and snapped, then later felt really bad that you said something that maybe you shouldn't have. This is were you need to learn a little self control. When you are in a heated argument you always need to think what you say out. Usually that first thing that pops into your mind is something that might not be so easy to take back. Plus it usually is just a tear at the person and might not even have anything to do with the argument. When you get a little frustrated with you mate you need to take some time before you open your mouth. Once you say something, you won't be able to say sorry later and take it back. Many feelings have been hurt for a long time by someone just blurting something out in a fit of anger. Take your time and count if you need to these few seconds could save some hurtful feelings later.