Tension Build up

Tension is a great cause of relationship problems and the tension might not be from something you have done. Believe it or not the tension might be from work, children, or a number of other sources. However it allows you a great way to show compassion and care for you lover. When you notice this tension building up it is your time to act. Have you partner sit in front of you and massage their neck and shoulders. This area is a major holder of tension and can cause headaches as well as other problems. You might not be able to relieve all the tension but the effort and the concern you show for you partner will go a long way. Never miss a chance to enjoy touching your partner even if it is an attempt to make them feel better. This type of touch is not only great for them but it is beneficial for you also.

Scratch like a cat.

When we think of romantic things we can do for our partner via touch the first thing that pops into mind is a massage. You might think of light touching or caressing the skin to bring goose bumps. While these are perfectly fine, sometimes you need to whip out your claws and give them a good scratching. I am not talking about breaking the skin but running your nails over their back can feel exhilarating to him/her. Scratching will stimulate the skin in a different way and get rid of any itches that your partner might have. Besides the back there are many other areas that can benefit from a good scratch. Scratching your partners rear end or scalp are two that come to mind but any where that you partner has skin that is not to sensitive is a great place to scratch. For a tantalizing time rotate scratching with light caressing, by changing up the sensation you partner will get a rush like waves lapping the beach.

Do you touch each other while you sleep?

I an curious about how much people touch while they are asleep. I am a huge fan of touching and the comfort of it while I sleep. However, my partner isn't so we battle back and forth on the subject. She tries to touch and times I try not to but I think that maybe it is each individuals make up. We all know that touch is important in our daily lives studies have shown the touch is a very positive thing to us. But is it when we are sleeping? I would love to see a study done on this topic and see what the conclusions are. Chime in yourself and let me know how you feel about touching during sleep. Is it a comfort or a annoyance to you? Does it help you sleep or does it keep waking you up? Lastly, how do you touch during sleep stages, are your arms around on another, head on chest, or do you feet touch? I am curious and would love for you to send me your feelings on this subject to thecouplesspot@gmail.com Now go get some sleep.

The slightest touch can mean so much.

Touch is one of the things that most people desire. We want to feel that warmth of another human being putting their hands on us. The touch of a child is also very therapeutic with in their innocents. Even the slightest touches can mean so much to your partner. Think about how comforting the simplest of touches can be. When you touch feet in bed at night says I am here for you. The touches that just happen without warning like when you just brush each other as you pass. The soft caress on your arm as you are sitting together. The tingles that are sent up and down your body with the excitement of these touches is a joy that everyone should feel. Brushing away your partners hair as you look in their eyes or even just the touch of when you have to get something in front of them, says so much in a relationship. You hands are a wonderful tool for showing and expressing your love, so touch and enjoy.

Snuggle time

Once all is done for the day, and you no longer have to think about doing anything it is time to snuggle up together. After a hard day of work, or play, and you have made love it is time for the two of you to fit together like puzzle pieces. It takes some trial and error to find just the perfect placement where you both can feel comfortable and connected to each other during slumber. Spooning is the easiest and most accepted way to snuggle but every couple is different. Some couples like to sleep back to back with their butts touching while others use their feet as if they were hands to hold each other. We always see the woman sleeping on the man's chest in the movies but from most of my conversations, most couples find this uncomfortable. Then the other question that pops up is what do you sleep in while you are snuggling? My favorite is to just be naked, skin on skin is the best in my opinion, plus it makes it easy if you get any urges to be intimate with each other during the night. Light pajamas seem to be the favorite on average though especially if their are any little children in the house. I would love to hear about the different and strange ways our viewers snuggle so drop me a line and let me know your crazy way of snuggling.

Time your foreplay!

Society today is so rushed. It seems like we rush from one thing to another. If you have kids then you add at least twice as much running into your schedule and usually more. Unfortunately we are also rushing in the bedroom. Our sex is hurried so that we can get to sleep and get up to start this cycle all over again.

Well it is time to break this cycle. I want the two of you to slow it down a little in your bedroom. Let's not rush the most passionate area in our relationship. This may sound a little silly but I want you to get one of those kitchen timers that dings when time is up. Now before you are ready for intimacy I want you to set it for at least 30 minutes. This is the amount of time I want you to spend on foreplay before intercourse takes place. No penetration can happen until the ding sounds on the timer. Spend time touching, kissing and licking each other up into a frenzy believe me this might seem a little strange at first but once the ding sounds and the actual intercourse starts you will be thanking me. The extra time spend stimulating each other will make your sex better then ever.

Now you might need to brush up a little on your foreplay. You don't want to spend 30 minutes just playing with nipples. Branch out and find the many erogenous zones on your partners body. Stroke different areas of the body and let your partner touch you in places you normal avoid. Experiment with the anus is has wonderful sensations for both men and women. Combine areas to create different sensations. Lick one area while you stimulate another area with your hands. I hope that this 30 minutes of foreplay will soon become a staple in your love making.

Anal stimulation good for both of you.

His and Hers

When we talk about playing with our butts everyone seems to shy away a little bit, but why? The nerve endings in the anus are some of the most sensitive ones in our body. If you have ever tried stimulating this area you have most likely found it to be very pleasurable and that goes for men and women. You don't even have to penetrate to get the sensation just touching around the anus can send your feelings to a new level. So many people have admitted that stimulating the area around the anus makes for more powerful orgasms that you should be curious to try it at the very least. Everyone is different and it won't be for everyone but the majority of people who have tried it find that they like it quite a bit. For men getting over the homophobic aspect seems to be the main concern. Homosexual refers to your taste in partners not in your taste in feelings! You are homosexual if you prefer partners of the same sex. Now get over it and let your partner play with your bum a little. Most women find that playing with their partner in this way is exciting. Many manufactures make products for anal simulations, which leads us to believe that their are several hundreds of thousands of you out there enjoying this activity. The wonderful thing about it is that no matter your sex we all have an anus, so this is the one area that in common ground for both men and women. Take it slow at first and see what you like always have lots of lube on hand to be safe and don't be afraid to use plenty. Men this is also a great way to enjoy a milking of your prostate and can be not only feeling good but good for your health as well. Some word of caution as you get ready to try some anal play never use anything that doesn't have a flared base on the end and know what your toy is made out of use only non-pourus items that you can boil to clean. Have fun.

Pump that Body.

Have you ever noticed how full your muscles feel after a good work out. After a serious bout of lifting my muscles are tight and firm. You can use this tactic to your advantage in your relationship. If you know you are going to have times when your partner is going to be touching you, then thinking ahead you can give them something to make them say wow. Get some dumbells and keep them handy and about a half hour before you snuggle down to watch a movie or do any kind of physical contact give yourself a quick work out for your arms. Do several reps at a light weight to get your muscles tired and full. For added effect flex a little whenever your partner touches you and you might just get touched more. This is an old practice that I learned reading about my favorite bands and how they would do some quick lifting before a photo shoot to make them look better, well it works so why not use it. Start pumping that body and get yourself rock hard for your partner.

Painting from nikki_morris' photostream on flickr

Can Reading together be Romantic?

Reading is usually an activity that you think about doing by yourself, but can you make it romantic? The answer is yes! Think about it, grab a warm blanket, snuggle down on the couch laying sitting close to each other and reading. Silence is only broken by your breath and page flips. Body heat keeping the two of you warm on a clod winter day. Maybe reading in bed is your passion but you can keep it romantic by touching each other while you read. Let your feet touch and caress the other persons as you read the pages in your book. Some couples like to read things together such as erotica works or even just stories about love. Another great way to make reading romantic is by getting your sunday paper and spreading it out while the two of you pick your favorite section and read it while laying all over each other. Hold hands while you read or take turns reading to each other is a great way to stay connected while you read. Books are great and there are so many out their, now with the electronic readers you can get and read almost anyplace you can imagine but isn't it much bette when you are with your partner?