Being sexual without having sex.

I have heard it way to many times from couples. One partner is never in the mood as much as the other. With this problem we have to look a little deeper into our sexual being. You have to broaden your horizon on what constitutes sex. The partner that is desiring sex, shouldn't be left out in the cold just because the other partner doesn't have any desire on this day. The two of you need to work out some arrangements to meet both partners needs without either one of them feeling neglected or forced into anything. There are several forms of sex that one can perform on another without the actual sex happening between the two. Oral sex, hand jobs, and several other ways to get the person that desires the sex off is a great alternative. Masturbation is another get way to share without both of you having to participate fully. Let the partner who is urning for sex masturbate while the other partner watches and touches them. Make comments how how sexy it is and encourage them to talk also. The partner that is not in the mood might just change their mind as the event of masturbation is occurring. The in this point is to respect the other persons right to their feelings. Just because you are not in the mood doesn't mean that they have to not be in the mood also. With a little give and take you will soon find a happy place that makes both of you feel like your relationship is sexy and strong.

Time your foreplay!

Society today is so rushed. It seems like we rush from one thing to another. If you have kids then you add at least twice as much running into your schedule and usually more. Unfortunately we are also rushing in the bedroom. Our sex is hurried so that we can get to sleep and get up to start this cycle all over again.

Well it is time to break this cycle. I want the two of you to slow it down a little in your bedroom. Let's not rush the most passionate area in our relationship. This may sound a little silly but I want you to get one of those kitchen timers that dings when time is up. Now before you are ready for intimacy I want you to set it for at least 30 minutes. This is the amount of time I want you to spend on foreplay before intercourse takes place. No penetration can happen until the ding sounds on the timer. Spend time touching, kissing and licking each other up into a frenzy believe me this might seem a little strange at first but once the ding sounds and the actual intercourse starts you will be thanking me. The extra time spend stimulating each other will make your sex better then ever.

Now you might need to brush up a little on your foreplay. You don't want to spend 30 minutes just playing with nipples. Branch out and find the many erogenous zones on your partners body. Stroke different areas of the body and let your partner touch you in places you normal avoid. Experiment with the anus is has wonderful sensations for both men and women. Combine areas to create different sensations. Lick one area while you stimulate another area with your hands. I hope that this 30 minutes of foreplay will soon become a staple in your love making.

Men if you are tired of getting excuses then it is time for some training.

Men are you tired of hearing your partner say they are not in the mood or that they don't feel like it tonight? Well if you are hearing that way to often then you need to do something about it. Think about it if sexy didn't feel good to you and you didn't get satisfied would you enjoy doing it that often? Now put the shoe on the other foot, is you partner getting what they need from this experience? Everyone gets bored with their sex life from time to time, so to fire it back up you need to learn something new. Purchase a new toy or ask you partner what they would like to try that is different. You might be surprise at how anxious they will be if you give them what they want. Study up and learn new oral sex techniques or try out some different positions. You might not be able to use your new technique right away but when you get a chance, be ready to perform your new talent. Be patient and wait for the right time. Here is an especially good idea. Why not let yourself get off until you let your partner. Yes you heard me correctly put them first make it a point let them be the center of attention and you will most likely get a return. You sex life is a funny thing, we seem to lose track of the other persons feelings as we focus on our own. Remember this is for the both of you and once you convince your partner you are focusing on their pleasure they will start focusing on yours. Good luck and good sex to you.

Christmas Eve time for special presents.

All the focus during the Holidays is the big day of Christmas. Christmas eve is usually reserved for trips to Grandparents or parents houses for gift exchanges with your family. No one is expecting a blow out gift from Grandma who usually buys you something you wanted when you were twelve. However, this is one of the best times to get your lover a little something special. Wait until all of the festivities of the day are over and when the two of you are alone and about ready to settle down for your long winters nap, present him/her with a little special gift to go to sleep on. Now this can be a number of things but the things I find that work the best are jewelry, and sexual items. When you give on this night make sure it is one that you want a major reaction from like jumping up and down or just plane getting mauled by the receiver. You won't get the same reaction on Christmas morning when you partner opens that new sex toy in front of everyone. Nor will you get as many kisses from the nice necklace you purchased during the family feast. Plan out which gifts you would like to give in private then make a routine of giving these gifts on Christmas eve.

Make your kisses refreshing!

The thing people complain most about with kissing is bad breath. They say it is one of the biggest turn offs when kissing someone, even somebody they have been in a relationship with for a long time. Well it is an easy fix to correct this and with a little practice you won't have to worry about it ever again. There are several things on the market to help you in your quest for kissable breath. Items such as gum, breath mints, mouthwash, and the list goes on and on. Now all you have to do is pick which one of them you prefer and decide which one works the best. Don't forget to pick a flavor your partner enjoys also. Spearmint gum is one of my favorites, with cinnamon a close second. You have a great deal of flavors to choose from and for added effects I suggest picking a different one as many times as you can. Let your partner wonder what kind of kiss they will be getting today, it might just make them kiss you more often. While brushing your teeth is the best defense against bad breath, these other items will help when you can whip out your toothbrush and start cleaning. This can even be more exciting if your going for a little more passionate kissing. Flavors such as cinnamon, and wintergreen can give a little tingle if you happen to use your tongue as well. With all this said make sure to have these items on you all the time because at any given time your lips might be called to duty and you don't what nasty breath to slow things down.