Tension Build up

Tension is a great cause of relationship problems and the tension might not be from something you have done. Believe it or not the tension might be from work, children, or a number of other sources. However it allows you a great way to show compassion and care for you lover. When you notice this tension building up it is your time to act. Have you partner sit in front of you and massage their neck and shoulders. This area is a major holder of tension and can cause headaches as well as other problems. You might not be able to relieve all the tension but the effort and the concern you show for you partner will go a long way. Never miss a chance to enjoy touching your partner even if it is an attempt to make them feel better. This type of touch is not only great for them but it is beneficial for you also.

The sleep massage.

Want your partner to get the best night sleep possible? Then step up to the plate and give them the sleep massage. Basically what you are going to do is massage them to sleep. Start out by working the hard areas such as the shoulders and back. Work them hard and dig deep into those aches and pains. Once you partner starts to relax and their eyes close then start massaging with a little less pressure. Continue working the entire body. Feet, legs, arms will benefit from this churning of the muscles as you glide across them. When you start getting sighs of enjoyment from your partner reduce the pressure even more and going over all the parts you just did. Continue this pattern until you are just barely touching your partner. Let your finger tips glide across their body slowly but with very little touch. Soon they will be sleeping like a baby and you can take the satisfaction of giving them the gift of a good nights sleep.

The Nipple is the Clitoris of the breast.

Here is some timely tips for playing with breasts. Most everyone wants to dive in and attack the nipple. This can cause the recipient to pull away as the sensation might be to much. You have to treat the nipple like you do the clitoris and work your way up to it. Start by massaging around the larger part of the breast slowly. The underneath of the breast is a great place to start, because this area usually doesn't get much attention. Kiss all these areas and make it a point to leave the nipple out of the equation for a while. The nipple will begin to become erect as it gets closer to wanting your attention. Play with the other areas of the breast as a way of teasing the nipple. Anticipation is the key here make the recipient want you to play with their nipples by making them erect without touching them. Then when you finally get to the point of proceeding to the nipple you both will be ready and excited as the hard nipples touches your lips.

Olive Oil - the wonder oil.

We so often focus on the mind and body when we want to increase passion in our life. Sometimes we forget that what we put into our bodies also has a effect on the outcome. Olive Oil is one of the items that we can put into our body that will benefit our passion. Olive Oil helps our blood flow better which leads to better erections and genital stimulation in both male and female partners. Consuming Olive Oil also helps your overall health, which in turn helps your passion thrive. Think about it, if you feel better, you are going to want to do things you might not other wise. When picking an Olive Oil search for the virgin or extra virgin varieties as they have more of the items in them that are good for you. This might seem a little weird but you can also use Olive Oil as a lubricant. Many people swear by this practice and claim that the natural ingredients are much better then the ones that are made in the lab. You can also use the Olive Oil as a massage oil and it is great for your skin and hair. Just make sure to either cover your sheets or use ones that you don't care if they get stained. Now the next time you are in the store tell your partner you want to pick up something that will help improve your romance. Then watch their reactions as you head to the cooking oils section.

Take turns undressing each other.

There is an art to getting undressed for your partner, but it is even more fun and exciting to let your partner undress you. This can be the start of foreplay if you take turns undressing each other. Go back and forth let each other take off one piece of clothing then let your partner do the same to you. Go slow this is not a race, sometimes it is fun to rip his/hers clothes off but this time I want you to take your time. Enjoy each and every part of your lovers body that you expose. Try to give them cold chills with the removal of each item. The anticipation and excitement will build to a very high level as you get them closer and closer to being naked. Make it a game if you want, play strip poker with the other person getting to remove your clothes and throw them on the table. Use your hand to explore each and every inch of their skin with light and delicate touches. I am sure this suggestion will have you more then ready to proceed with intimacy after the clothes are gone. Make it last set a time limit like you can only remove a piece of clothing every two minutes and you have to continue to massage or touch the area the last piece of clothing was removed for the remainder of the time. You can also do this in front of a mirror for a little added effect. Last but not least enjoy getting each other naked it should be fun.

Time to practice your touching.

This is the time of year of extra clothing and not much skin showing. Which also means that you don't touch each other as much, at least on the skin as you do during the warmer months of the year. With this said you have to take full advantage of touching when you get a chance. Whenever you snuggle up together under a blanket make sure to find your partners skin and caress it (make sure you hands are warm, first) Make it a point to give each other massages and use lotion to chase away dry skin that is ever present during this time of year. Make sure to touch areas of their skin that is exposed even it is not a normal place you touch, places like the face or ankles give a deeper meaning to touch.

Touch is an important part of our relationships. It keeps us close to our partner it gives us that feeling of confidence and empowerment in the fact that someone cares about us.

The Feet

We all know how romantic a foot rub can be and a massage on the feet can send people into an almost orgasmic state. This makes me wonder why we don't pay more attention to our partners feet during other times. We spend most of our waking hours standing on our feet and yet we don't give them the romance they need unless we are using it a means of foreplay. First things first, since we spend so much time on our feet make sure you partner or lover has great shoes. Nothing can make your feet hurt worse then cheap shoes that don't give you the cushion you need. After making sure their shoes are proper, get them off their feet as much as possible. If your partner spends all day on their feet at work don't expect them to spend the night walking around the mall. Find an activity where you can sit down and relax their feet. Rent a movie and prop up on the couch or catch the football game in the same manner. Purchase a nice scrub brush for the shower to brush both of your feet with. Nothing feels better then giving your feet the attention they deserve. By doing all these romantic things for your partners feet, then next time you get time to be more romantic you won't have to focus so much on their feet to start with.

Work!

When you and your partner perform a task together that benefits both of you should reward your partner in some way or other. Take them to dinner, massage their back, or simple put make them feel really good.

Stand behind each other Naked!

Laying in bed together we have a normal feeling about each other. We reach over and caress our partner, kiss them, and look in their eyes. Well today I want you to get behind them. No, not stand up for their cause. I want you both to get buck naked and take turns standing behind each other and feeling the others body. Push your chest into their back and run your hands around their chest. Reach down and feel the muscles in their legs. Touch their lips and face from this positions. Then finally reach down and feel their genitals. Doesn't' it feel a lot different from the normal facing each other way.

If you are comfortable with your images you might even do this in front of a mirror. So the person in front can see your hands exploring your body in a different way. Kiss the back of their neck while you perform this exploration and rub your face over their back. When you are the one in front you will find sensations feel a little different when you are not face to face. Trusting your partner to feel your body in this way might help you become closer and spark some feeling that might have been hidden for a while.

Ladies make sure to use your breasts and rub them against your partner in places that you would not have thought about when standing in front of them. Like on their butts or the back of their legs. Men use your penis and rub it around your partners butt or on the outside of their hips. Both of you can preform a reach around on the other. Ladies you can really get the feel of how a man masturbates in this position and vice versa. Men you can maybe get a better feel at stimulating your partner at the angel in which they do it.

Experience each others touch and you can't go wrong. If you are self conscious of your body image, simply turn off the lights and feel the touch.

The Art of Massage

Massages One great truth in a relationship is that everyone enjoys a good massage. Whether it is used as a pain reliever or foreplay, I don't believe I know a soul that doesn't enjoy a massage. There are many therapeutic reasons for a massage. I know that a good massage can relieve the daily pressures of the day. Relieving this stress is a great benefit in a relationship because if you eliminate that tension you are bound to have a better time together. A massage can, also, loosen up the muscles and relieve the aches and pains associated with exercise, arthritis, or the pain that comes with just getting older.

The relaxing of your muscles can be beneficial in your relationship in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you perform activities that you might not have been able to do if you had pain in a certain area. Activities such as going on walks, playing sports or bedroom activities are just a few things that could be aided by an occasional massage. Now a great asset of massage for the couple is the fact it can be considered foreplay. There are several books and methods of sensual massage, which are designed to lead from massage to intimacy with a smooth transition. The massage works for both partners in this manner. One partner gets to feel the benefits of the massage while the other gets to enjoy touching and caressing his/her partner. Add in the use of oils and devices and the massage becomes a ritual or passion. Scented oils, candles, and mood music can enhance the experience to the point of an erotic adventure. There are even specific types of massage for the genitals and other areas that could be arousal spots. These genital massages work very well and are definitely a sexual experience between the partners.

Now you might think that you just start rubbing your partner and everything will fall into place. Well, it doesn't work that way. I suggest you head on down to your local book store, search Amazon, or Google the Internet to find the specific technique that appeals to your partner and you. I think you will be surprised at the number of different techniques and forms of massage that are out there. Don't be timid. Try something different. The benefits will outweigh the fear in the end. Once you decide on the proper technique go about making the setting perfect and picking a time when you won't be interrupted by the kids or parents. Your massage session will be able to turn into a beautiful love making session.

Click on the title link will take you to a website listing all different types of massages techniques.