Random Act of Kindness

It's time to take some action. Hopefully your relationship is strong and if not, it's time to put that aside for a bit and help someone else. If you look around, I am sure you can find someone not far from you that needs help. The older woman down the street that can't mow her yard very well, the family where both parents are unemployed, or maybe it's just your grandmother that can’t get out to the store very easy. I am sure when you start thinking about it there are several people around you that could use a boost up. Sometimes helping someone else is the best way to help ourselves.

My wife has told me several times about how lucky we are compared to some of the other couples she runs into. I agree with her. Sure there are a lot of things we would like to have, but we don't need them. Go out and do something for someone else with no expectations of a return. I think they call them random acts of kindness. Help someone load his/her groceries in to the car, stop and help someone with a flat tire, clean out your closet and donate all the clothes that you don't wear to charity. If you really think about it, we have an over abundance and it might even seem to others as if we are very rich when we see ourselves as unfortunate.

How can this help my relationship you might ask? Well if you’re asking that question, maybe you’re not ready to complete this activity. You should get a great sense of pride helping other people. That is the reward. Put that into a situation where both of you work together to help someone and you both get that feeling. Sharing that feeling with your partner is worth more money than you could ever make. I would love to hear about the two of you and how you helped someone out, so don't be shy. Share your stories with us.

Remember - sometimes the little things you do are the most appreciated thing you do!

2014, Ring In The New Year With Great Sex

Okay we all have New Years Resolutions that flop after the first week.  This one however will give you the buddy system, where you and your partner will both be working together to help each other out.  And help each other out you will.  Creating a sexy new plan for your passion and romance for the New Year.  By this time next year you will be amazed at how long your resolution lasted.  

You can get Sexy Challenge - New Years Resolution on iTunes, or for your Kindle or Nook.  

I Thought I Saw God During Sex!! It Freaked Me Out - Help!

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We often talk about transcendental sexual experiences.  But, what are they?  Dr. Jenny Wade has a wonderful book that helps share about a variety of different transcendent sexual experiences.  She researched a variety of different people - some in heterosexual relationships while others in same sex relationships, some were in committed relationships while others were not.  

Truly this book is a great read.  Will this book help you uncover your own transcendent sex?  That is not really likely, but then again it may help you understand that you have already experienced it.  Of course, we help couples learn methods to create the opportunities to experience transcendent sex, but if you don't know what it is in the first place…well….  

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. and Dr. Rob Alex, Ph.D. - Sexy Challenge Team 

Sexy Home/Marriage Repair

The Home Repair That Makes A Marriage Sexy

By Steven Schloss

Is the foundation of your marriage full of cracks?

Are you lacking the tools to fix what's broken?

If you are a "Do It Yourself" type of guy, don't the proper repairs result in increased value and appreciation?

Funny how these questions resonate as much with home repair as marriage!

You see, unhappy marriages are epidemic in our nation. Married men are miserable and frustrated with their wives and sex life. Divorce is at an all time high and second marriages have a divorce rate even higher than first timers. But it doesn't have to be this way. There are easy solutions to make your marriage as great as it can be.

Did you know that if you were to spend just a fraction of the attention that you focus on your projects and rechannel that attention to your wife, you would have a much better, and sexually fulfilling, marriage?

Truth is, you can make your wife happy by paying attention to her only 1% of your day and still have lots of time to work on your hobbies.

You see, after we get married, we forget to do the things we did for our wives when we dated. Remember how attentive you were to her? How you called her all the time, were thoughtful by remembering things she liked, and took her out to do fun things together? You even were happy to attack her "Honey Do" list!

But now, you are constantly looking for things to do that distract you from having to spend time with her. You have given up as things are not like they were in the good old days. You truly feel that you get more pleasure being alone and doing your projects.

But you know what? Your wife is starving, absolutely starving for your attention. She wants you to romance her and pay attention to her. But you have stopped! Yet you still expect just a little bit of attention right before bedtime to result in her wanting to jump your naked body!

Nope, you need to work at it, just like you need to invest time in your projects to see a great final product that provides satisfaction.

Start calling your wife endearing names like you used to. Take her out on a date and treat her like you did when you first met. Call her during the day and let her know that you miss her. Hold her hand when you walk down the street. Give her a back massage. And do all these things WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN!

You can't expect years of neglect to correct things overnight. It took years for that roof to fall apart. And it may take weeks to fix it. Think of your marriage as a home repair project. Make a plan, get organized, invest in the proper tools, do a little bit every day, and be proud of what you have done.

You won't believe the love and intimacy you receive from your wife by applying a similar planning and project completion strategy to your marriage.

~ Steve

Steve Schloss is an author, public speaker and men's relationship acceleration coach who offers one-on-one coaching to help men rejuvenate the fun and love in their marriage virtually overnight. A graduate of The University of Wisconsin with an MBA degree, his professional career in publishing and marketing includes 30 years in corporate America with assignments at Meredith, Hearst and SourceMedia. Steve currently lives in Princeton, NJ, has two grown children and is in a wonderfully loving relationship.

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Invite the family over.

Want to make a splash with your partner then invite their family over. Plan a big get together with food and excitement. If you think his/her family would participate then get some games to play together. If games won't do it then you might think about planning the get together to watch the big football game or the latest movie out you can rent. Have lots of fingers foods to munch on and plenty of pop and tea. If you are going to serve alcohol then make sure you are ready to make sure the drinkers are not driving and to let anyone know when they have had to much. Alcohol can loosen up the party but it can also cause problems. I would suggest leaving the alcohol out until you find our more about the family. Set a time for the party to be over so that everyone knows when it is time to go. Don't leave it open or you might be having a crazy brother that won't leave. This family invite over will score you big points with your partner and help you to get to know his/her family better.

Make special scents around the house.

We all know how wonderful smell can be. They can take us back to our childhood or remind us of wonderful times that we have had. Scents can take us to specific times like Christmas or vacations past. Why not put the amazing power into your romance. Go to the store and find the aisle with the scented plug devices in it and start browsing. Look for scents that might remind your lover of past experiences. Like if you have been to Hawaii or just desire to go then pick up some coconut or pineapple scents. Want to make it feel a little more like Christmas time then maybe some pine scent or sugar cookie scent will take you there. Surprise you partner and put the device in when they won't be home for a while. Upon return watch their face as the pick up the scent. You might be able to take away a little of their daily stress by taking them away with these triggers.

Time to slip a note into a book.

Today your mission is to slip a note into a book your partner is reading. Get yourself a little post it note and carefully write a little sentiment on it. Something short and sweet like, "thinking about you", or "Wow, you are sexy when you are reading" Then find your lovers book and place it someplace ahead of where they are reading. Put it on a page that they won't get to right away and you might find yourself getting a kiss sometime later when you are not expecting it. This is one of those little things you can do to make everyday romantic.

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Unpredictable!!

If you haven't heard of the Sex Is Fun podcast you are missing the boat. The weekly show is a blast to listen to and the topic range from anything to everything about sex. The cast is pretty open and will try anything. That however is not my point here. They also promote games that their parent company produces. Now they have games that are a little risky for the average couple but if you want a game for that promotes a titillating evening for the two of you then their new game Unpredictable is for you. It is a card game that has suggestion on them that will make your love making experience the best it can be. The cards alone are enough to make you get excited with their use of wonderful friend cartoon images of sexual situations. The game is simple and doesn't require sitting up anything or any clean up but the fun awesome. You can pick up the game at Sex is Fun Website or by clicking on my Amazon sidebar and purchasing the game that will give us a little kick back to help keep our blog running.

Going the extra mile, might not get you a parade, but...

Has this ever happened to you. You are involved in a project or watching a show when you partner asks for your help or for you to do something for them. Your initial reaction is to say no I am busy but then it runs through your mind and you think about it the other way. Would they or would you want you to have them help you out if you needed it. That right there makes you get up to help them out. Do your realize what you have just done? You are now a wonderful person that puts your partner first. You should pat yourself on the back, heck maybe you should get an award or a parade in your honor. What usually happens, is that nothing usually happens you perform the task and return to the thing you were doing before. No parade, no trophy, nothing. Until your partner comes in and kisses you and says, "Thank You" now it is no parade but it still makes it all worth wild. If your partner appreciates you at all you will feel warm inside for doing them favors.

What would you do for your Love!

Most of us go out of our way to help our partners. I hear stories of people running out in the pouring rain to get ice cream for their pregnant partners. Or parents that will sit up with their sick children all night and not get a minute of sleep. These are the type of actions that show how much you care about that other person. When you evaluate your relationship however you have to look at if you think your partner would do the same for you. Will they stay up late to massage your back if you hurt it at work? Would they run across town to help you out in the middle of the night? Would they take care of the kids so you could get some rest? If you answer no to these questions then you really need to look at your relationship, does it work with one partner putting all the effort into the relationship? Is there room for selfishness in a relationship? Well if you are strong you can overcome many challenges. No one likes for their good deeds to go unnoticed but for many people out their it is like that. Now you have to compare apples to oranges here. On partner might not be able to go without sleep and perform their job the next day, however they can repay the other partner in other ways. You can't look for a specific return on your investment so don't give a relaxing massage and expect your partner to jump up and give you one right after they are done. Look carefully at your relationship and the things your partner might be doing that you are over looking, it is easy to do. Relationships are like a bicycle built for two. You both have to pedal to get where you need to be, and if one person is doing all the pedaling then they will grow tired faster then the one not pedaling.

When is the last time you really checked to see how much your partner does for you!

As in most relationships, we tend to expect the normal routine from our partner. If they do the laundry we expect that they will do it all the time, if they make dinner we are at the table with silverware in hand ready to eat. The only time we acknowledge our partner in this regard is when they don't help out in the normal way. Then our reaction is usually one of anger accompanied by yelling or unkind words. Are you one of those people that expect your partner to do things, how often do you thank them for the things they do to help out your relationship or family. I am sure that most of us can do a better job in the appreciation category. There are many ways to thank your mate for the things they do and they can be very simple. Things like do you wait on them to sit down before you start eating dinner, or saying, "Wow, the house looks great you must have spend hours cleaning it", or you can even just kiss them and say that is for the clean socks honey. Mix it up a little and go over the top from time to time to show them that you really do appreciate it. Do things like while eating a wonderful dinner they made slip them a note that says "This dinner is so good, I think I will make hot passionate love to you later tonight as a tip" or maybe after doing gardening or yard work you can get them in a shower and wash their hair for them. Showing appreciation is a lot form of art in relationships today and it is up to us to help bring it back to the forefront. Next time your partner takes care of the kids so you can nap, offer to give them a massage later in return, or if they have to miss work to take care of your sick child tell them to call up some friends and have a lunch date this weekend. Relationships are about helping each other out, not helping ourselves. Love is a powerful tool if used correctly, and appreciation in part of that power.

Be Romantic Stock up on Cold and Flu Supplies

The season is upon us that live in colder climates. Cold and Flu season can hit you and your partner hard at anytime. You can do your best to prevent it from sidelining the two of you but chances are at some point and time you will have to confront it. Nothing says that you care about someone more then when you are prepared for them being sick. The last thing you want to do is to have to run out to a busy store at this time of year and spend a half hour to an hour waiting in line, to get some cold and flu supplies. Go through your cabinets and look for outdated remedies, as well as stuff that is absent from your cabinet. Then make a store run to pick up your favorite remedies to restock your medicine cabinet. Then the first time your partner is under the weather, you can treat them quickly and snuggle with them instead of running all over town standing in busy stores. Doing this can also save you money to as it affords you the luxury of finding coupons or special deals on the products you use. When you run out at the last minute the last thing you are looking for is you coupons or any special deals, you just want to get what you need a get home. If you have any children in your house you should do the same thing for them, to be prepared. Sure we all want to think about candle lit dinners when we think of romance but romance starts with care and concern for someone special and comforting someone that is ill will make you look like a saint in their eyes.

Tongue Exercises, Now that is Romantic.

You tongue is one of the most used muscles in your body. Not only does it help us talk, sing, eat, and taste. The tongue is also one of the best sex toys in your arsenal. Yet how many of you do any type of tongue exercises. You can greatly improve the stamina of your tongue by doing simple exercises during the day. I personally do mine when I am in the bathroom. Just stretch your tongue out as far as it will go then pull in back several times. You can also try moving your tongue as fast as you can for several seconds. Make sure to stretch your tongue in all directions as this will improve your control over you tongue. For a better listing of techniques you can click on the title of this post. You tongue is so important to your everyday life and sometimes we forget that. Aside from the sexual aspect you can improve several areas of your life by getting in the habit of doing this exercises daily. I know several speakers and singers that swear that tongue exercises have help them in the pursuit of their craft. So if you want to excel at the Karaoke Bar you know where to start. Remember the tongue is a muscle and it is one you use more often they you think. Now do yourself and your partner a favor and start getting your tongue in shape.

Make a kiss a delicacy

Okay ladies want to give your partner a little surprise? Well I would suggest that you go out a pick up several different flavors of lip gloss or chap stick. You know the kinds that make your lips look wet and delicious. Then several times during the day you chance to a different flavor and make it a point to kiss your partner like their is no tomorrow. See if your partner can guess the flavor, if they are really good at guessing mix it up a little. Do two different flavors one on the top lip and one on the bottom see if they can guess the flavor now.

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Sometimes Thongs are oh so wrong!

Please ladies and gentlemen if you want to wear a thong to impress your lover takes these safety precautions. Number one make sure you have it on the right way. Nothing chaffs more then the back side of a thong. Number two make sure you get the right size, a thong to big doesn't do anything for you and one to small could cut off circulation. Last and most important make sure only your lover gets to see your thong. Some of us are trying to eat and don't want to image this!!!!!

Help Someone Out!

One thing that will show your partner what a great person you are is to help someone else out. Next time you see someone loading up their groceries lend a helping hand. Make sure to ask if it's okay first, you don't want to be a creepy person. Then help load up their groceries. You could also stop and help someone out with car problems or with a flat tire. It can be as simple as helping a child put their chain back on their bike or helping out a friend with a cook out. Just look for anything that would help someone out. Don't expect anything in return, the simple feeling you get should be enough. I use to drive around in my father's truck that had a snow plow on the front and help scoop out peoples drive ways. They always offered me money but I never accepted any the feeling was enough. Once your partner sees that you are truly doing this to simply help other out they will see you in a different light.

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Give your partner a little playfulness at an unusual time.

Do you have events that just drive you mad. Maybe a family reunion, or a fundraiser that just seem to be so tense. Well if you find yourself at one of these type of events I have a suggestion to ease the tension a little. Give your stressed out partner a little playfulness. You might be shrugging your shoulders at this moment. Now let me explain. Nothing relaxes the mood of a situation as something your partner is not suspecting. Now you have to be very tactful about this, find a quite place, and don't do this out where anyone else can see. Women as you walk by your partner grab his penis or ass, don't say a word and just keep moving past. Men the same for you grab her ass or swipe her breast, no words just the action. Then act like nothing happened. Reject any advances they might make with one word, Later.

Now what have you done? Well you have taken their mind off the stressful situation and made them think about what you have in mind later. Plus they know that you understand their frustrations and are turned on by their attempts of making the event great. Now when you get them home you have to follow through on your earlier dealings. Don't even let them say anything about it before you act. Tell them how sexy they looked during the event and how turned on you were by them in that situation. After you show your appreciation suggest some of your favorite charities or events they might want to get involved in. You just might have found someone to volunteer based on your playfulness.

Do Something special for Breast Cancer (Click here to go to the PINK RIBBON website)

Whenever you get a change do something special for Breast Cancer. Nothing shows you care about the female population more then helping, donating, or marching for breast cancer. Thank goodness now a days their are some many ways you can help out. Men your partner will think you are so sweet by doing this and if you don't feel special about yourself then you are crazy.

Now it is not to hard to find a event that supports breast cancer and you can click on the title of this post above to go to the "PINK RIBBON" web site. At the pink ribbon web site they will give you plenty of details on how you can help or events that you can support. I am sure almost all of us have known someone that breast cancer has effected so it shouldn't be a stretch to help out.

Gentlemen another thing you should do is learn to give your partner a breast exam. They are simple and can detect the early stages of breast cancer. Your partner might think it a little silly but reassure them that it needs to be done once a month. Either you or you partner should do it at least once a month. You can even use it as foreplay if your partner is accepting of this, that way it serves two purposes.

Now ladies don't think this is all about helping you. Testicular cancer is another voe that needs to be taken care off. So you can learn to test the man in your life. The two of you should even set up a ritual once a month to do this. If you care at all about your partner it shouldn't be any problem. Below I have posted some posters on checking for breast and testicular cancer make sure you understand what to do before continuing. If you have any questions please consult your doctor they have a lot more information and means to get you help if you need it.